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slipknotpsycho
04-15-2006, 01:31 AM
ever sit back and notice how fast time has slipped by you? i mean it seems to me just yesterday i was 13 and smoking my first joint, or just yesterday i was 5 and on my first fishing trip.. this has been bugging me lately... when i was younger all i could think about was getting older, now that i'm older, all i can think about is...well getting older.. .i've never been able to picture myself old, i don't think i'll live much longer (i'm not suicidal), i just can't see myself old... where has all the years gone? anyone experiencing this weird phenomenon where it seems liek your life is on fast forward, and every day is going by 5-6x as fast as it did when you were 15???

Trichocereus Panza
04-15-2006, 01:39 AM
yeah people say it keeps happening at a more rapid pace, like when you're a kid the summer seems to last for years whereas when you get older time passes more and more rapidly so like by the time you hit twenties whole years go by in the blink of an eye. when you get past 60 whole decades go by that quick.

i'm 20 how old are you?

slipknotpsycho
04-15-2006, 01:51 AM
i'm about to be 21, but i've had these thoughts, and noticed the pace at which my life is passing by, since i was well before 18...

Trichocereus Panza
04-15-2006, 02:32 AM
everyone dies man, this life is soooooooooo short.

you really are going to die your own personal death, and i'm gonna die mine, and it's a pretty short ride even if you make it to a pretty old age.

i definitely like to try to remind myself of that as often as i can so i can choose to be happy with every second that i get here on this planet. if every moment of your life is a choice, of whether or not to be happy with the moment you are experiencing in the present, the true moment of your being alive, why wouldn't you choose happiness?

You know, it's a sad nature of thoughts but it's worth it for the enjoyment of your quality of life right now.

CrAzYpOtHeAd
04-15-2006, 02:34 AM
i'm about to be 21, but i've had these thoughts, and noticed the pace at which my life is passing by, since i was well before 18...

21, wtf? ur not old, how can anyone even consider that as old? its ONLY been 2 years ago from when u were a teen, u'v been an adult for 2 years. Not old atall.

benagain
04-15-2006, 02:34 AM
Dude, I can't even beleive how much time has flew. It was just 99 yesterday (when I graduated). It seems like over night I've grown up. What will really get you is getting up with a friend you haven't seen in a while and they have a kid that's walking and talking and going to pre-school. Makes me feel older than shit. I'm sure time isn't gonna slow down any more and it depresses me to think of getting older. Knowing that eventually the people I love are gonna start dying off one by one is torture. I'm not affraid of dying myself, but the thoughts of loosing everyone I love just kills me sometimes. But oh well that's life. I just have to try and live a good one.

slipknotpsycho
04-15-2006, 02:37 AM
21, wtf? ur not old, how can anyone even consider that as old? its ONLY been 2 years ago from when u were a teen, u'v been an adult for 2 years. Not old atall.
i never said it was old, i said older.. meaning... i realize most of the people on this site are between 13-18.... and i wanted to ask the people who've atleast been around for awhile...

potsmokingnome
04-15-2006, 02:44 AM
ever sit back and notice how fast time has slipped by you? i mean it seems to me just yesterday i was 13 and smoking my first joint, or just yesterday i was 5 and on my first fishing trip.. this has been bugging me lately... when i was younger all i could think about was getting older, now that i'm older, all i can think about is...well getting older.. .i've never been able to picture myself old, i don't think i'll live much longer (i'm not suicidal), i just can't see myself old... where has all the years gone? anyone experiencing this weird phenomenon where it seems liek your life is on fast forward, and every day is going by 5-6x as fast as it did when you were 15???
Its true life does slip past you at a faster rate as you get older. I'll be 29 in June and it seems like I shouldn't even be this old yet. I look back and notice the chance I had and I never took, or risks I wished I would have taken. I guess you truly have to live life for the moment. You never truly know what will come to be, I could die right here right now as i type, I could die in 10 years, or even a few decades. I'll die when I die plain and simple. I try my best to live life for the moment, but I don't allways suceed.

Bong30
04-15-2006, 02:47 AM
i'm about to be 21, but i've had these thoughts, and noticed the pace at which my life is passing by, since i was well before 18...

Slip i have Tshirts that old...............lol

But you are right...........wait till you have kids


Live every day as if it was your last, im not talking about parting.....

Im talking about HONOR.

slipknotpsycho
04-15-2006, 02:48 AM
i do have kids.... well a kid...

Bong30
04-15-2006, 02:49 AM
i do have kids.... well a kid...

then that is why you made this thread, you know what im talking about;)

benagain
04-15-2006, 02:51 AM
i do have kids.... well a kid...

Lucky you :( My and my wife were dying to have kids till we moved down to FL. Now I'm waiting for shit to settle back in before we start trying, but I'd love to have a kid. I think I'd make a good dad and I know my wife would be an excellent mom. I just have to wait and hope i'm lucky enough to have one.

slipknotpsycho
04-15-2006, 02:55 AM
bong - yes having a kid made me realize how fast my days are passing me by, when i say it seemed like yesterday i smoked my first joint, maybe it seemed like a year ago, when i say it seemed like just yesterday i had my first fishing trip, maybe it seemed like 2 years ago, but when i say it seems like just yesterday my nearly 1 1/2 year old son was born, i mean it seems like just YESTERDAY.... and now that i have a kid, all the days and all the weeks just seem to kind of 'merge' i have to check the calanders, just to know hwat day i'm on now... i don't even really know anymore.. everything has just kind of merged.... three days into one, one day into three....

ben, i really hope you know hwat you're up for, those first few months (which i practicly was the only one seeing to his needs during those months) are hell, and i mean literally hell.... no sleep, built up frustrations, both normal life and sexual between you and your wife/gf.... it's just hell..... i've wanted to have kids since i was really young (8-9?) but i was never prepared, and nothing anyone can tell you will ever truely prepare you for parenting...

Bong30
04-15-2006, 02:56 AM
Lucky you :( My and my wife were dying to have kids till we moved down to FL. Now I'm waiting for shit to settle back in before we start trying, but I'd love to have a kid. I think I'd make a good dad and I know my wife would be an excellent mom. I just have to wait and hope i'm lucky enough to have one.

You will... where there is a will, there is a way


First part of being a great dad you got dailed............you are there with your wife. Sound like a big hart too

Trichocereus Panza
04-15-2006, 03:00 AM
I look back and notice the chance I had and I never took, or risks I wished I would have taken.
...
I try my best to live life for the moment, but I don't allways suceed.
Yes you do. The thing you have to realize about that, is it's impossible not to be living in the moment, or living "for" the moment even. You're always just living out the reality of your life, and it's not something that you can really do "wrong." The philosopher William James said, "What is mistake but a kind of take?"

Of course, what you say about looking back and having regrets, that just describes everyone's life. Everyone is in the same psychological boat you know? We all have the same problems, with wishing we had done certain things differently, it's probably the most common feeling human beings have, besides anxiety about the present and future. But even when you're not feeling it, you can't get outside of the reality of the moment that you're living. You can't escape living the moment, so all you have to do is forgive yourself for all of the past and for all of your foolishness at thinking you weren't living in the moment, because you were.

R.D. Laing said "the self I have been searching for is the me that does the searching," or something like that. So... when I look back and think about what I missed out on, when I think about my "unlived life," I realize that my unlived life is really just the life I have been living all along--it's me sitting here right now thinking about the things I did wrong in the past. So each moment is a choice, to just drop any thoughts and any worries, just because you can anytime you want to.

Bong30
04-15-2006, 03:01 AM
slip remeber the first like 3 weeks with the baby home, sleep deporvation. I was like crying and laughing in the same Minute. it was a trip.

benagain
04-15-2006, 03:04 AM
Yea, I know the first what two, three months, I'm expecting maybe an hour total sleep. Just knowing that all that hard work is gonna produce a happy healthy intelligent person just makes me smile. I've got a friend who had a kid early in life (I'm basically the godfather behind his parents). I was there when he was born. There for his 1st birthday and christmas. I've got to watch him grow from a little infant and now he's walking around calling me uncle ben. It's killing me. Everytime I leave thier house to go home I get a little sad. Both to be leaving him and knowing that I don't have anyone like that waiting for me. Someone who lights up just seeing you come home. Knowing that you're the only person that can make him happy at times, and getting to teach him all the things my dad tought me. I know if I'm lucky it'll happen. When we do start trying again, I'm going to the Dr first to get checked out then my wife (guys problems are a lot easier to fix than a girls). If we're both lucky we'll be able to get it done.

Bong30
04-15-2006, 03:09 AM
good luck Ben.......

CrAzYpOtHeAd
04-15-2006, 03:11 AM
I can't wait til im an old man because hopefully by then i'll see why theres any point of us being here. I mean, all we do is destroy the planet and kill animals and kill each other. Dos'nt seem very promising. Does it? ;)

benagain
04-15-2006, 03:12 AM
yea thanks. I know I'm gonna need it. Now that I work from home it's even harder to not have one now. Free day care is rare to find. I can be home all day and work the night shift and still be around the house if needed.

1234abcd
04-15-2006, 03:16 AM
whatever, they will invent time machines and stuff and clones so you can live forever. that kryptonite is good!

benagain
04-15-2006, 03:18 AM
whatever, they will invent time machines and stuff and clones so you can live forever. that kryptonite is good!

They had sure as hell give me my flying car first. They told me when I was a kid that I'd have a flying car and a robot in the year 2000 :(
I got screwed :p

bentleygtgirl
04-15-2006, 03:45 AM
i am going to die hella young, my life line is short on my hand

KingPhilie
04-15-2006, 03:48 AM
when you get out of school, and more things depend on you/ you have more responsiblity, you have found thigns to fill your time with, and everyone knows doing shit makes time fly, the older you get, the more you have to do, thus maken it seem like, i was 14 rippen my first blunt in my buddys, basment yesterday ;), and then this morning i was 17 gettin arrested, or 19 fucken around on cannabis.com ;), who knows.

.PEACE.

Nightstar
04-15-2006, 04:00 AM
I remember how I couldent wate till I turned 21 in my mid teens, Now Im 25 and it's like whoa where did all those years go? ohh I know ;) pass that my way when your done with it!!!!

benagain
04-15-2006, 04:03 AM
I remember how I couldent wate till I turned 21 in my mid teens, Now Im 25 and it's like whoa where did all those years go? ohh I know ;) pass that my way when your done with it!!!!

LMAO. I'm done with it now :stoned: I feel the same way. It was all about turning 21 and getting drunk, but one I did it was like WTF. I was driking beer just like I did every other weeked. I felt ripped off. Maybe the gov't need to give everyone a 6pack and a free handgun purchase permit :D

JunkYard
04-15-2006, 04:10 AM
One thing about having kids...they make you realize that life is actually 'worth' living. It's not always easy to be a parent, but it's well worth the ride, imo. Time seems to move even faster after, it was only yesterday that I held my boy for the first time, and today, he's playing every sport available to him, teaching me things about myself, and even checking out internet porn./shrug (We worked that out, btw)

Life flies by, man. If you so much as blink, you can miss it. It all goes way too fast!

I turned 35 in Dec, but I'm only as old as I feel at heart. My looks are mature, but my heart is young.

I plan on keeping it that way, ;)

Mingles
04-15-2006, 04:36 AM
As I was reading through all this, I began to reflect on my own life. I guess thats another thing that comes with age. Some of you older (for this board) people on here may have had these same thoughts just as you kids will too someday.

From about 25 til 30, I had issues with many birthdays. 25, wow quarter century old. 27, no longer in my "mid twenties". 29, almost thirty, kinda nervous about no longer being in my twenties. 30, big 3-0, had a bit of a hard time turning 30.

But past that, (now 32) I haven't really minded my birthdays. I have a beautiful 15 month old boy now. You really don't know the true meaning of "unconditional love" until you've been a dad. Not just a father. Any guy with a dick can be a father to a baby. But to be a dad, there's just no words.

Ben, best of luck. I hope it happens for you soon. You really sound like you have the makings of a great dad.

Fengzi
04-17-2006, 05:50 PM
You young whipper-snappers ;) Wait until your in your thirties. Time does go by faster and faster as you grow older. The big thing that I've noticed is the lack of something to anchor the concept of time. Probabbly not the best way to put it but its hard to explain. When your younger you're often still in school and have a lot to look forward to: next semester, summer vacation, winter break, finals coming up, graduation, etc. When you're older all of that is gone. There is no more summer vacation to look forward to or final exams to dread. Nothing really to anchor the passage of time. The seasons come and go, time goes on, one day its April, the next it's October, then April again, etc. etc.

The other big thing is that, especially about the time you hit 30, you realize that your future has arrived. There's no more "some day I'll get a good job". "some day I'll have a family", "someday I'll do this" "someday I'll do that". "Some day" has arrived, you've made your bed and are now lying in it, like it or not. Me personally? I like my bed, but still....

pabloescobar209
04-17-2006, 08:42 PM
Yeah i remeber being back in school and days would seem like years... now weeks seem like days... im 20

Torog
04-18-2006, 01:50 PM
ever sit back and notice how fast time has slipped by you? i mean it seems to me just yesterday i was 13 and smoking my first joint, or just yesterday i was 5 and on my first fishing trip.. this has been bugging me lately... when i was younger all i could think about was getting older, now that i'm older, all i can think about is...well getting older.. .i've never been able to picture myself old, i don't think i'll live much longer (i'm not suicidal), i just can't see myself old... where has all the years gone? anyone experiencing this weird phenomenon where it seems liek your life is on fast forward, and every day is going by 5-6x as fast as it did when you were 15???

Howdy slip,

Dang...I can still remember how my mother and grandma cried,on the day that President Kennedy died. It seems like yesterday,when my friend and I,toked our first doobie together,in the back of my garage,when I was barely 13 and about to start my freshman year in highschool..in 1973. It still seems like yesterday-when I held my daughter in my arms,for the very first time..and she's just turned 26 in March.

The days do fly by..and the weeks,months and years..but each and every day-is a blessing and I try to make each one count:) You should look forward to the amazing journey that awaits you..there's still much to come..both the good and the bad..just always believe in yer self and never give up-no matter how dark or tough,life is..the rewards,make it all worthwhile..and our mistakes,as well as our succeses,make us who we are and forge our souls to incredible toughness.

Have a good one ! :stoned:

LIP
04-18-2006, 02:04 PM
I've noticed my life is passing by fast, but i just accpeted it, nothing i can do is there loL?

Psycho4Bud
04-18-2006, 02:09 PM
Howdy slip,

Dang...I can still remember how my mother and grandma cried,on the day that President Kennedy died. It seems like yesterday,when my friend and I,toked our first doobie together,in the back of my garage,when I was barely 13 and about to start my freshman year in highschool..in 1973. It still seems like yesterday-when I held my daughter in my arms,for the very first time..and she's just turned 26 in March.

The days do fly by..and the weeks,months and years..but each and every day-is a blessing and I try to make each one count:) You should look forward to the amazing journey that awaits you..there's still much to come..both the good and the bad..just always believe in yer self and never give up-no matter how dark or tough,life is..the rewards,make it all worthwhile..and our mistakes,as well as our succeses,make us who we are and forge our souls to incredible toughness.

Have a good one ! :stoned:

Howdy Torog!

I couldn't have said it better myself. Good times, bad times....lessons learned. So you have a 26 year old daughter. LOL...my son just turned 25 in Febuary.

Have a good one bro!:thumbsup:

slipknotpsycho
04-18-2006, 05:28 PM
Howdy slip,

Dang...I can still remember how my mother and grandma cried,on the day that President Kennedy died. It seems like yesterday,when my friend and I,toked our first doobie together,in the back of my garage,when I was barely 13 and about to start my freshman year in highschool..in 1973. It still seems like yesterday-when I held my daughter in my arms,for the very first time..and she's just turned 26 in March.

The days do fly by..and the weeks,months and years..but each and every day-is a blessing and I try to make each one count:) You should look forward to the amazing journey that awaits you..there's still much to come..both the good and the bad..just always believe in yer self and never give up-no matter how dark or tough,life is..the rewards,make it all worthwhile..and our mistakes,as well as our succeses,make us who we are and forge our souls to incredible toughness.

Have a good one ! :stoned:
i think this is the first post, in which it doesn't involve me and you in a drawn out 'debate' lol.... :thumbsup:

i don't get sad/depressed that my days seem to be slipping me by, nor do i fear death. it's just kind of mind blowing to me, and i was curious if anyone else was experiencing it, or if it was just me... the world seems so much diffrent now, then when it did when i was a kid... then i look at my son, and wonder what life will be like for him, how much the world will of changed again already, and wonder if it changed for better or for worse.

Psycho4Bud
04-18-2006, 06:53 PM
i think this is the first post, in which it doesn't involve me and you in a drawn out 'debate' lol.... :thumbsup:

i don't get sad/depressed that my days seem to be slipping me by, nor do i fear death. it's just kind of mind blowing to me, and i was curious if anyone else was experiencing it, or if it was just me... the world seems so much diffrent now, then when it did when i was a kid... then i look at my son, and wonder what life will be like for him, how much the world will of changed again already, and wonder if it changed for better or for worse.

Get use to it....it's called growing up. As the years pass they seem to go quicker and quicker. Wait till your little one has one of his own...grandpa! I turned grandpa at the age of 36 and if he follows in his father and grandpas foot steps I'll be great grandpa at the age of 54. Thats only 10 years away! See what I mean.

LOL...just wait till your boy tells you your old fashioned...LOL

Have a good one and enjoy the moment!:thumbsup:

Up In Smoke 420
04-18-2006, 08:46 PM
I may only be 15 but I to notice it. I think it started 8th grade year towards the end I started smoking and was like man where did the year go? This year is going by so fast to. Seems like just yesterday I was smoking with my best friend. Now it's been almost a year since he's moved.