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ilovebecky
04-06-2006, 02:35 AM
I made a promise to Becky(girlfriend of about 1 year) that I would stop smoking and doing all drugs for a while. I had no problem giving up other drugs and as for weed, I needed a break anyways. So giving up weed was real easy but I'm deffinatly ready to start smoking again. It's only been about a month or so but it's enough time for me. She still doesnt want me to smoke and I'm even scared to bring it up with her cuz she gets pissed cuz she hates the shit I do. It's drivin' me nuts not being able to smoke and I was just wondering what you guys think I should do? She already thinks I smoke behind her back anyways so maybe I should? She doesnt understand that its more than just getting high. Its very relaxing and I usually only feel comfortable when I'm high. She wouldnt understand that but what should I say to her? Anyone have a similar situation?
-Thanks
geonagual
04-06-2006, 02:41 AM
Tell her the reasons you smoke weed
and that you love her
if she dosent accept it
that is her deal
not yours
but it is better to be honest
than to sneak around
Good Luck
ilovebecky
04-06-2006, 02:46 AM
I would feel terrible if I went behind her back but I really want to and I doubt she'll be up to it if I talk to her.
higher4hockey
04-06-2006, 03:13 AM
if you only feel comfortable when you're high, something ain't right. you should feel comfortable around her. in my opinion mate, she aint the right girl for you, the right girl (if she doesn't smoke) should make you forget allll about smoking.
C4nn4Bliss
04-06-2006, 03:15 AM
demand more play
mom2calebnjoshie
04-06-2006, 03:22 AM
I have to agree....if she loves you then she'll accept the things you do. Your not imposing what you do on her, yoru just asking to be able to continue with something you like that was a part of your life before her. I would explain to her why you do it, explain how you'd like her to be in your life and that you would't want to choose it over her, but on the other hand she shouldn't make you either. You stopped for a while, that was her request, you obliged...so now, she has to give a little too. Relationships are give and take 50/50 and so far it doesn't really sound like she is giving/taking your feelings into conisderation. If she doesn't understand where you are coming from then maybe you should explain to her that she doesn't understand you or that she isn't willing to understand you. I can totall understand your saying you only feel comfy when high--my husband is the same way and I compeletely understand and support him. Hope it all works out...nooen should be made to change unless they choose too.
ilovebecky
04-06-2006, 03:32 AM
She does make me forget about weed but I cant be with her all the time. Thanks mom for your response. I still dont think she will let me and I would rather be with her than smoke but I just wish I could do both.
Jeff Spicoli
04-06-2006, 03:36 AM
point out her faults, just for the hell of it. tell her her breath smells like codfish and she needs to brush her teeth more or you are going to dump her
ilovebecky
04-06-2006, 03:43 AM
well that doesnt help.
Jeff Spicoli
04-06-2006, 03:48 AM
well shit, go be pussy wipped all you want.
imagoober
04-06-2006, 04:00 AM
if you want to smoke then SMOKE! you only live once! then talk to her about it tell he why you do it and how it makes you feel, explain that smoking isnt bad! then if she goes nuts or still has a problem, think about what she means to you, i would leave her, if she cant be with you as you are then she doesnt need to be with you!:D
memoriesofhash
04-06-2006, 04:23 AM
It seems like the majority of the people here and telling you to continue smoking despite your girlfriend's objections. I'm going to go against the crowd and suggest that you don't pick it back up again. You've been with your girlfriend for a year and for a 17 year old that's a long time to be in a commited relationship so I'm assuming that you guys love each other.
I may take some fire for this but I think that a relationship is more important that pot (ultimatly, which one will make you happier?). Obviously you're not going to get married to her because you're still young but I don't think that you should stop seeing her.
I, personally think that if you are this into weed to choose it over love then you've got bigger fish to fry than whether or not you should stay in this relationship. People say that marajuana addiction is non existent but I disagree, and I think it's proof enough that you would choose it over this woman you, presumably, love.
However there could be other aspects to this and you don't infact love her. In that case break up with her and live however you want becase at 17 you have better things to than waste your time in a relationship that doesn't make you happy...it's not worth your time.
EDIT:
Yes, I am 17 too don't think of me as a hypocrite because I went through a similar situation...only pot wasn't what we were fighting over and after some thinking I realized that she wasn't what I was looking for so I ended it and was much happier afterwards.
Pete Rock
04-06-2006, 04:28 AM
well shit, go be pussy wipped all you want.
damn this dude is whipped, hence the username ilovebecky. Man up and tell her the real business, she'll just respect you even more
BigHomie
04-06-2006, 07:19 AM
I say smoke and don't tell her.
It's none of her business.
It's not hurting her or anyone.
Don't let her find out, until (or if) you are ready to tell her.
You are 17... you are not married, you are not living together. You aren't smoking in her house or around her. You made it sound as if she made you quit... fuck that... her trying to make you quit is WAY more wrong then you hiding it from her. Some people will only look down on people that smoke... that's their loss, it doesn't have to be yours. If you can't change their mind then just become a stealthier smoker.
HiddenBeauty
04-06-2006, 10:42 AM
She does make me forget about weed but I cant be with her all the time. Thanks mom for your response. I still dont think she will let me and I would rather be with her than smoke but I just wish I could do both.
No matter how many times you run it round in your head I think you know she wont change her mind about it.Do you really want to be in a relationship with someone you are not totally happy with?
How long do you think you can deny yourself the sweetness of maryjane :smokin: :stoned:
chisme
04-06-2006, 10:59 AM
I made a promise to Becky(girlfriend of about 1 year) that I would stop smoking and doing all drugs for a while. I had no problem giving up other drugs and as for weed, I needed a break anyways. So giving up weed was real easy but I'm deffinatly ready to start smoking again. It's only been about a month or so but it's enough time for me. She still doesnt want me to smoke and I'm even scared to bring it up with her cuz she gets pissed cuz she hates the shit I do. It's drivin' me nuts not being able to smoke and I was just wondering what you guys think I should do? She already thinks I smoke behind her back anyways so maybe I should? She doesnt understand that its more than just getting high. Its very relaxing and I usually only feel comfortable when I'm high. She wouldnt understand that but what should I say to her? Anyone have a similar situation?
-Thanks
lolt he woman ways.....say can u come off it for a month then act pissed when u mention it again...shes trying to force you to give it up and she willing to put a voi in the relationship so it cant mean that muhc to her heart.
tell her your choice not hers you did your side now give u some leigh-way , some slack god damnit u gave up for so long to prove the point now shes taking the piss , shes using your love of her against you
HiddenBeauty
04-06-2006, 11:03 AM
Maybe your g/f should join us and see how much fun we have talking shite and laughing our arses off :D :stoned:
She fell in love with you, the you that smoked weed. She cant force you to live your life how she wants. That would make her a control freak. You have to talk to her, and tell her the benefits of smoking weed and tell her all the facts. She needs to know what shes talking about before she tries to make you stop.
chisme
04-06-2006, 11:13 AM
She fell in love with you, the you that smoked weed. She cant force you to live your life how she wants. That would make her a control freak. You have to talk to her, and tell her the benefits of smoking weed and tell her all the facts. She needs to know what shes talking about before she tries to make you stop.
i agree shes trying to change YOU .
YOU was you when u met her so what is she saying? your not good enoutgh for her no more? fuck that she;s in the wrong
HiddenBeauty
04-06-2006, 11:17 AM
Well sometimes two people can compromise quite well,relationships are about give and take but if you can't give or you are all giving without receiving then the relationship probably wont work.
Reefer Rogue
04-06-2006, 05:31 PM
I would never quit ganj for a dame...
beachguy in thongs
04-06-2006, 05:45 PM
damn this dude is whipped, hence the username ilovebecky. Man up and tell her the real business, she'll just respect you even more
LOL :smokin: .
Is your name "Pete Rock" or are you just a fan?
Prozac fairy
04-06-2006, 05:45 PM
i wud never expect my boyfriend to give up sumin if he didnt want to thats wat love is about...accepting all quirks of a person...u have to be tolerable so tell u gf and make her toke on a joint to chill the fuck out.
lol....i tell u wat this reminds me of those As For help Columns in teen mags...."My boyfriend wants to have sex but im not ready blah blah"
marx2k
04-06-2006, 05:54 PM
When I had breakups, you guys shouldve been in the room with me when I did- "Dude, she's nothing! She don't love you! She's not right for you. You needed to dump her! She deserved it!"
lmoa! I hate teenagers who cant make up their own mind... THey go to them mags asking... "should i have sex?" blah blah blah... too stupid to make up their own mind.
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