My son discovered internet porn!

[JunkYard]

He asked if he could log on to WWE (wrestling) while I was half asleep this morning, and I said sure. Three hours later, he's still in the room, with door closed. I didn't realise this until I woke up, and went to check on him. (I woke up at 10:00 am)

I opened the door, and he's sitting at the computer with hand on mouse staring at my background. He's like nervous as hell, and I asked what he was looking at...he says "I was just looking at your screensaver...you should make copies, and sell them"! He went on, and on, and on, and on about this!It was all I could do not to laugh at his answer.

Obviously, I knew he was looking at something on-line that he shouldn't, but I didn't press. I though I'd wait till he goes back to his mothers, and then check history.

Sure enough, he was looking for boobs, teens, girls, divas naked, and so on. He found several sites, too...As a proper father would do, I checked all of them out properly. Only one was like hardcore, but damn, I sure as hell wasn't ready to give the sex talk at 9 years of age!

Anyway, I don't want to be a dick, but he's only nine. I have no clue how to approach this issue with him.

I know it's completely natural, but like I said, he's 9 years old!

I'll be monitoring him when he gets on the pc in the future.

Any suggestions? I'm at a loss with this one. I knew it would happen "someday", but I'll be damned if it didn't happen today!

[BabySnookums]

LMAO!!! i feel for ya dood....i'm just glad my son's only like 1 1/2 :D

[Stfu its Matthew]

laugh at him and just act likes its ight and give him the sex talk

[partyguy420]

LMAO!!! i feel for ya dood....i'm just glad my son's only like 1 1/2 :D


yea, you only have like 7.5 years, but by the time hes 9, with the way the world is going, he will have a 6 year old knoked up and cheating on the 6 year old with a 4 year old

[rastabill89]

whats your screensaver?

[suhl]

id ask him if he understand what sex is, what it mean, etc, and tell him not to get addicted to porn in the nicest way possible. i wouldnt tell his mother. keep in mind im not a parent but i can honestly say that beyond horrible physical or sexual abuse my mother catching me looking at porn or masturbating is probably the worst thing that could ever happen to me, i dont think id ever be the same around her again.

[BabySnookums]

lol...partyguy you watch alotta Maury and Jerry Springer dontcha?

[beachguy in thongs]

Don't worry, JunkYard.

LOL

Only one site was hardcore.

[JunkYard]

i have lots of explaining to do, beachguy....don't make fun.

[Reefer Rogue]

Get him a hooker?

[suhl]

you probably dont have any explaining to do. if he was at a hardcore porno site at nine years old he probably already understands sex. the job you have to do is make sure he doesnt turn into some kind of a pervert.

[friendowl]

my son is nine to junk.
i told him about birds/bee's
he could care less.
your son sound's cool [boobs]
what a smart boy.
it aint rocket science.just tell em the truth.

[friendowl]

my son is nine to junk.
i told him about birds/bee's
he could care less.
your son sound's cool [boobs]
what a smart boy.
it aint rocket science.just tell em the truth.

[orangeman]

Rofl, damn these kids are starting early. Yeah I'm still a kid, I was always interested in girls alot while I had the internet (every since '95) but didnt even think to do a search on the shit till I turned 12...as for solutions I suggest you order a web-site filter. Also I'm not sure but they claim that they are gonna start making it so most x-rated sites has the ending url of ".xxx" instead of .com and stuff. This might help you block them out (if thats your intention). Heres a site that can help http://www.sonicwall.com/products/cfs.html. I dont think it's that extreme though, a nice talk might help but dont think even after you talk to him he'll be convinced. He's still gonna go look, as a father you should know lol.

[jakenthegentiles]

u shoudl tell him granted im only 17 noone ever talktto me till my old man was in jail and i was 13 aand allhe said is were a rubber hahahah when i was liek aroudnthat age and yonger i was beaten my meat but i thought sex was agenst the law so i decide to my self that day
i woudl brake teh law evey day and i can say i have tryed to stick tomy word it may not be evbey day but its alot

o ya and so what just show him shit liek beastieality and tellhim whats bad liek haven sex with a 2 year old and tell him alot of fettishes r not cool and its just ok to wach soft core til lhis 12 hhahaaand then u can go to bed knowen ur kids wachen max aftor dark thats soem real soft core shit but hell i didnt relize tehy were faking the hole thing tillliek last year andi got realy pisst

[robert42]

u shoudl tell him granted im only 17 noone ever talktto me till my old man was in jail and i was 13 aand allhe said is were a rubber hahahah when i was liek aroudnthat age and yonger i was beaten my meat but i thought sex was agenst the law so i decide to my self that day
i woudl brake teh law evey day and i can say i have tryed to stick tomy word it may not be evbey day but its alot

o ya and so what just show him shit liek beastieality and tellhim whats bad liek haven sex with a 2 year old and tell him alot of fettishes r not cool and its just ok to wach soft core til lhis 12 hhahaaand then u can go to bed knowen ur kids wachen max aftor dark thats soem real soft core shit but hell i didnt relize tehy were faking the hole thing tillliek last year andi got realy pisst

word men preatch to teh jezus of christ fo shure

[rastabill89]

dude my question was serious why didnt you answer it? :-(

what's your screensaver of?

[mrdevious]

Keep in mind, if there's only one hardcore site on there, he probably ended up there accidentially. I mean how many of us have been bored, stoned, and went porn surfing and accidentially landed on some bestiality site and the such? Sure you click out the second you're in, but now it's in the history.

btw, you probably have some good spyware and maybe some malware now, so get the free download from www.ewido.net , it's probably the best and most versatile of free anti-malware programs.

plus get Adaware SE if you haven't already. you can just type it into download.com

[robert42]

mrdevious is the man. my fav cann.com poster. so intelligent. u rule man.

KEEP POSTING MR DEVIOUS!

[Psycho4Bud]

I bought a Penthouse and a Playboy, put them on his lap and told him to go through it and I'd be back in a 1/2 hour. When I returned I informed him that what he just saw was an unrealistic image of what a woman is. I kept it real and honest and covered EVERYTHING sexually related. I also covered the feelings (emotional) portion, birth control, RAPE and what it does to a lady.
May be the right way, may have been wrong. But I wanted him to feel that if something come up, he would feel comfortable talking to me (I also told him he could call his uncle) about this instead of relying on the word of a buddy that "thinks" he knows it all.

Good luck with your venture, it is definately awkward but thats part of being daddy I guess!:thumbsup:

[DonnieDarko]

Nine is not an uncommon age to start being curious and attracted. My guess is that his "friends" told him about the sites, and of course, he was curious and wanted to be cool with his friends. I wouldn't make a big deal about it, let him think that he got away with something. As suggested, I would promptly put a filter on what he has access to (or he'll be visiting really nasty sites before long).

The best thing a father can teach his son at a young age, is how to engage in friendships with girls his age, and how to respect them as people. If you focus on that, you'll have a foundation to build on when he's really interested in sex.

[tokerBob]

hey at least he wasnt searching for cock, penis, and man holes

[420purplehaze420]

ha ha just wait till he finds out theres videos aswell

[BestTonicIsChronic]

Ya thats gonna be an awkward talk 4 the both of you LOL. Just block the porn sites and a few years from now have the talk.

[eddievanzant]

Tell him to go to 89.com That's the best site and it has no spyware.

[P.E.N.G.U.I.N.]

Don't block the sites. That's just dick. I've looked at porn since I was 8. It's not going to fuck anything up, don't worry.

Talk to him about respecting women, communicating with women, and how pornography is simply fiction and nothing more.

[JunkYard]

dude my question was serious why didnt you answer it? :-(

what's your screensaver of?

Just something a friend of mine made on photoshop. It's almost like a neon light, but a bit abstact...nothing big. Kinda cool, though...

[JunkYard]

I'm going to talk to him about this his next visit, and I'll cetainly 'not' be telling his mother, lol! He's showing interest in woman, and sex, and it is probably better to explain things sooner than later.

As for the hardcore site, it showed actual sex acts. Nothing wierd like beastiality. (No money shots, either) Even so, I hate to go in detail about the images he saw on-line./shrug

I will put him on punishment, though. Not because of what he looked at, but because he lied to me when I asked. I don't want my boy to think it's ok to lie. He needs to know that he can come to me, and talk about anything w/o stirring up any anger...What kind of punishment do you think would be appropriate in this situation?

Oh, he's alot like me when I was his age. I tore the dirty magazines up at age 9, lol! Only, no one ever told me about the birds and bee's, so I was a bit confused about what I was actually seeing in the mags...All I know is I liked what I saw, lol!

More thought must go into what will actually be said, and how to go about bringing it up w/o embarassing him.

Step by step advice would be cool, haha!

[BabyFacedAbortion]

Don't talk to him about it yet, it'll just embarrass him. Either he'll come to you or wait a few weeks to talk to him about sex. He may only be nine but I know of a few 9 year olds with dirty ass minds and definitly have the whole "sex" thing down without any help from their parents.

Kids these days..-sigh-

[andruejaysin]

No internet when I was 9, I had to shoplift Playboy magazines.

[Hempamasta]

Tell him to go to 89.com That's the best site and it has no spyware.

I prefer www.darlina.com personally.

[MullManiac]

I will put him on punishment, though. Not because of what he looked at, but because he lied to me when I asked. I don't want my boy to think it's ok to lie. He needs to know that he can come to me, and talk about anything w/o stirring up any anger...What kind of punishment do you think would be appropriate in this situation?

Dude dont punish him! I think a 9 year old who would openly tell his dad he was looking at porno is pretty fucked up.

Most kids these days are just hearing about that kinda stuff at about that age and are just curious.

[robert42]

at least he wasnt at tubgirl.com

[JunkYard]

Dude dont punish him! I think a 9 year old who would openly tell his dad he was looking at porno is pretty fucked up.

Most kids these days are just hearing about that kinda stuff at about that age and are just curious.


I'm thinking about not letting him get on the pc for a bit. I don't know, maybe a couple weeks. Nothing major, man. I need to let him know that it is far better to be honest with me than to lie about things. Otherwise, he'll keep lying, and we'll never get to the point were he feels he can talk to me about 'anything'. I don't really want to, but it comes with being a parent, man. It's that simple.

I've decided not to make a big issue out of it, though. I'll give him the basics about sex, and girls, and maybe crack a joke, or two. He needs to know that it's ok to be curious about these things. Although, I'll also let him know that internet porn sites aren't the places a 9 year old should be hanging out, and that he'll 'not' be allowed to view such material on-line in the future. Yes, I'll be watching like a hawk, lol!

Maybe we can compromise, and I'll buy him a poster of Stacy Keebler in a bikini? :thumbsup:

That woman is HOT! (He thinks so, too)

[Kush Over]

JunkYard; you're a good father -- laying down the law early to establish a healthy relationship for later.

But throughout the entire time I was randomly checking in on this thread I couldn't help but say to myself; "At least he didn't catch him looking at homosexual pornography."

Don't think I'm the only one that brought this into the light -- almost positive I'm not. Don't mean anything by it, but things could have been worse.


A whole lot fucking worse..

[JunkYard]

lol, yes it could have been worse! Actually it's not that big a deal...I just hate having this conversation with him so young. If he could have only waited til he was 12-13. It would have been MUCH easier, lol!

Oh well, that's the way it goes sometimes...

[Bong30]

Junk,
Just be glad that he didnt find out about it (sex) at school being felt up during a movie.

I have a 5 year old daughter. The was (rubbed in her private spots) during a movie.

I had to sit down with a 5 year old and have a sex talk.

I could have died. We just told the truth.

Good luck... i have 4 year old boy that im sure is going down a simalar path to your boy.

[hubblebubble]

give him the talk for sure, make him feel comfortable but block out the porn for him as it will corrupt his mind

[BabyFacedAbortion]

Just have the talk by 6th grade...PLEASE. I hear way too many stories about the 6th graders and all the dirty things they're doing. It's sad and disgusting and I'm pretty sure they have no idea about the risks they're taking. I can tell you a lovely story about 26 12+13 year olds, a rainbow party and syphillis, if you'd like :D.

[Easy Roller]

Tell him it's ok to look at porn ...But use reverse psychology to steer him away from the perverted shit!

Tell him that it's NORMAL for young boys to want to look at boobs pussies ...

But the internet is full of perverted shit that aint right for such a young kid...

If you don't use the right mind tricks you'll turn him into porn freek in later life..


All boys of that age are interested in older woman with big jugs [I was and seeing a porn mag was like finding a diamond ]

Kids that young don't know how to wank yet so it's really more of window shop!

But the internet is gonna fuck us all up later down the line!

[rastabill89]

I wonder what your son would do if he found this thread

[acrca]

mrdevious is the man. my fav cann.com poster. so intelligent. u rule man.

KEEP POSTING MR DEVIOUS!

Ya i agree ive been reading mr devious's posts and totaly agree


i first found out about porn when i was like 10 or 11

[smoke me smoke me]

what you should be worried about is all the bowls of your weed he smoked in your bowl when you sleeping. that would piss me off more than the porn

i say roll up a blunt buy him a girls gone wild and tell him there is not santa he will be a better man in the long run

[Chaos]

honestly just let him do it...its better to learn....im glad my dad really never talked to me about it....just think if u were in his situation what would u want to be done?

[Doomie]

heres wut u do if u catch him in the act go "thats my boy"

[zephyrinne]

I'm a girl and I've been looking at porn since the 7th grade. I think it's funny, gross, amusing, and all that other stuff. If my parents would have talked to me about it at that age, I would have freaked. But then again, I was old enough to know what everything was... although I never 'did' anything in those pics til I was almost outta high school. :D

[P.E.N.G.U.I.N.]

Nice, Zephyrinne :D

Well, Tell us how it goes once it goes down, okay?

[Pichacho]

I prefer www.darlina.com personally.

www.myfreepaysite.com is my choice, but lately ive been downloading videos on limewire, makes things quicker in the long run.

and i first saw porn when i was 11 i think. 10 or 11, cant really remember.

[P.E.N.G.U.I.N.]

I first saw it when I was 8, some good shit, too. I can still remember the first time I passed by the TV room while my dad had gotten up to do laundry and there it was on our big screen TV...

Beautiful, fucking beautiful...

[JunkYard]

Well, my son came over last night, and we almost had a talk, but it didn't pan out. I mentioned his internet activities, and told him if he had any questions to simply ask. We later watched a couple bra and panti matches afterword, and he is now VERY comfortable with the concept of talking about girls with me.

I told him I was going to buy him a poster of Stacy Keibler, and he says "HOT", haha!

I banned him from the internet for a while for lying to me, and he completely understands, so...All is well on the homefront!

:dance:

[MaryJaneScott]

Good to hear things worked out JunkYard... you sound like a good daddy!! :p

[JunkYard]

Good to hear things worked out JunkYard... you sound like a good daddy!! :p

Thank you miss Mary Jane Scott...

I try, lol!

[Adam01]

Ha ha, my dad tried giving me a porn mag when I was nine and left it on my bed for me to find, and my mom found it before I had a chance to hide it. My dad was in serious trouble!

[VoidLivesOn]

Fuck that shit, thats how old I was when I started looking at porn and full-filling happy hour.Sometimes I find it hard to believe I was so young but then I look back remembering I didn't care and I actually thought I was old enough at the time.

[PureEvil760]

you could eaither not talk to him about it and it will become an obsession or talk to him like it really is no big deal, basically make him not care about it because he does now. btw was the site he said he was going on in history?

[LIP]

Just be really understanding and tell him you did it... You probs did lol... boobs are great when your a kid... Just give him the talk and tell him to be careful on the net cos there naughty things