loneliness-good or bad

[friendowl]

i am trying to figure out the best way to remain happy
is it better to be alone and live the way you choose.
or
is it better to have a partner to share the moments with.

its tricky cuz when your with someone you feel more lonlely than when your alone.

ive been in a relationship going on five years and i dont really enjoy myself as mucjh as i do when im alone.

do any of you feel trapped between feelings like me or what

[eddievanzant]

People sometimes think they only have two choices. You could have an open marriage... that might be cool.

[Az.]

maybe take a weekend away or somthing?
you know....

Getting away from people you see all the time is a good thing....for you and for them.

Everyone needs some alone time :)

[paperlunatic]

hehe, swingers!

[friendowl]

eddie thats gotta be the stupidest shit i hears all day.
would you want the mother or father of your kids to come home
and kiss you or your kids after fucking and sucking someone else.
just kiss and say goodbye but that open marriage shit is for
people who just dont want to be alone.better to have a piece than none.
fuck that not me i want the whole pie

[eddievanzant]

Hahahaha I didn't know you had kids. Listen to Blink 182: Stay Together For The Kids; or you could listen to Propaghandi: Stick that fucking flag up your ass you fucking son of a bitch!... I guess that's irrelevant.

[activedenial]

The last girlfriend I had made me feel like I had a second mom, always wanting to know where I was and who I hung out with. I am done right now with long relationships. Straight fuck'n from here on out with no strings:thumbsup:

[Shelbay]

i am trying to figure out the best way to remain happy
is it better to be alone and live the way you choose.
or
is it better to have a partner to share the moments with.

its tricky cuz when your with someone you feel more lonlely than when your alone.

ive been in a relationship going on five years and i dont really enjoy myself as mucjh as i do when im alone.

do any of you feel trapped between feelings like me or what
I used to be like that..what worked for me ( a blessing really) when I met the man I am married 2 now..it worked because of the fact that he is gone alot with his work but I still have him..make sense? We don't actually spend much time together (phone every day and night) but after being apart like 2 weeks when he does come home? The best! And it works because of the TRUST. Hope this made sense because I am totally "sober"...but you sounded sincere in your question. Being in a relationship and being lonely is not a good thing is it?:confused:

[friendowl]

yeah i stay for my lil ones
i love the mom too as much as i can
being in a relationship is like being smothered.
sometimes i like it sometimes i dont.
i wont cheat cuz that only fucks me up in the long run.
so hard being a good man in a bad relationship

[activedenial]

Cheating is ok in my book, as long as you don't tell. I always think that they cheat anyways, so why don't I? As long as you keep the girls that you fuck seperate from the circle of friends that your girl has it's all good.:pimp:

[JunkYard]

I prefer playing around, man. Relationships suck as far as I'm concerned. I hate being tied down, feeling like a have to answer to someone, ya know? Six years in a bad marriage got to me. ;)

Single life rules, at least until I get old and gray.

(Whoot, whoot!)

[friendowl]

the thing is that you can never hide from yourself because everywhere you go there you are.

i used to be highly active when it came to freaking the ladies.
i would especially like to fuck the ones who were married or had boyfriends.
some of these ladies were down right dirty.
like they would hide me outside till the husband left for work at 3 in the morning and then come in too fuck on her bed.
or girls straight introducing me as their friend owl and then when the boyz trust me and left us alone wed fuck right under his nose.
girls are very sneaky and when they have a guy who luvs em they get very manipulative.they want cake and ice cream and they want to eat it to.

[Fengzi]

I prefer to have a partner to share the moments with but it has to be the right partner.

I got married when I was way too young and spent 4 years in a marraige that never should have been in the first place. We spent so little time together that I might as well have been alone. Fortunately we were smart enough not too have any kids.

I have been with my current wife for 10 years now and wouldn't want it any other way. Not to be sappy but it really was one of those love at first sight things and we knew we'd be together for the rest of our lives within a few weeks of first meeting each other. Sometimes it just works.

That being said, I do still like spending time alone every now and then. Either with my friends or just being myself. Sometimes you need to be apart in order to really appreciate each other when you're back together.

[Shelbay]

the thing is that you can never hide from yourself because everywhere you go there you are.

i used to be highly active when it came to freaking the ladies.
i would especially like to fuck the ones who were married or had boyfriends.
some of these ladies were down right dirty.
like they would hide me outside till the husband left for work at 3 in the morning and then come in too fuck on her bed.
or girls straight introducing me as their friend owl and then when the boyz trust me and left us alone wed fuck right under his nose.
girls are very sneaky and when they have a guy who luvs em they get very manipulative.they want cake and ice cream and they want to eat it to.
That's not true about all women friendowl...don't know what kind of women you were with but IMO cheating and betraying trust is not good from either partner..just my opinion. I never was in relationships much though..actually I was married young....divorced of course...then later in life remarried..maybe I need to get out more but I always enjoyed being with just 1 man...I would never betray my husbands trust..NEVER. Not judging anyone I just don't think it's a good thing to betray someone you say you love...but I WAS raised old school and thats just me.

[friendowl]

i think its just the city i live.
when i traveled out of here
like to wisconsin or virginia
or anywhere but herte i found the girls to be sweet and caring and fun.
i know its just this place so ill wait for my oppurtunity.
i am a bad boy so i gravitated towards the bad ladies
but know i want someone with class and is sweet at heart.

[Fengzi]

Sometimes a change of scenery is exactly what's needed. I always dated the same kind of woman, all unsuccessfully. Then I just happened to meet this sweet young college professor while I was living in China. We just clicked and the rest is history.

[friendowl]

chinesse girls are hot
their skin is so soft and smooth
except real chinesse got no bootie or titties.
i guess they make a lot of money so they can just buy an ass and chest
it all seems to balance out cool

[Wesley Pipes]

i am trying to figure out the best way to remain happy
is it better to be alone and live the way you choose.
or
is it better to have a partner to share the moments with.

its tricky cuz when your with someone you feel more lonlely than when your alone.

ive been in a relationship going on five years and i dont really enjoy myself as mucjh as i do when im alone.

do any of you feel trapped between feelings like me or what
cant answer that myself dude, cuz i aint been in a lot of real serious long term relationships, but when i find out i'll let ya know :thumbsup:

Peace :rasta:

[friendowl]

oh wesley you havnt truly lived till you get your heartbroke
i would hate to be around when it happens.
your gonna turn from a tough cookie to a bannana peel in the dirt

[bedake]

My friends have an open relationship and have a kid together, its bizzare in my eyes, I just cant see that man. If I was ever in that kind of relationship i'd be jealous as crap, and im not normally a jealous type person but knowing your girl or whatever is sleeping with some dude or multiple dudes would just really get to me, I dont ever want to sleep with other girls when im in a relationship...


But friendowl, I'm currently single and loving it not even trying to 'hook up' with girls either, and i kinda know what you meant. I broke up with my last girlfriend while I was still in love with her, I just really didnt feel like being in a relationship anymore I felt a little constricted and obligated to do things. I really enjoyed doing things with her and all but its just not the same as being single i guess. Mabye im just not ready for that serious of a relationship (we were practically living together) mabye you arnt either?

[VoidLivesOn]

I'm to young to care about that stuff right now.

[Garden Knowm]

LOVE
practice stillness, acceptance, and non reaction... if you practice these...

YOU will become LOVE!!!!!!!!


LOVE

[Wesley Pipes]

oh wesley you havnt truly lived till you get your heartbroke
i would hate to be around when it happens.
your gonna turn from a tough cookie to a bannana peel in the dirt
nah dude i've been broken hearted before, but that was more of a "girl i love but can't have" kinda way, so i tend to tread carefully nowadays when it comes to that side of life, but it doesnt mean i dont want that someone to share my life with, it would be a nice change :)

Peace :thumbsup: :D :stoned:

[fil lif]

if you're bored with each other, don't break up - talk to each other (properly, seriously) and see whether or not this is what you both want...

[3rdEyeVision]

I do too much "illegal" stuff to have a girlfriend, everytime I think I like someone they find out more about me and dont want the reputation of a b/f like me I guess

[D.Boone]

i am trying to figure out the best way to remain happy
is it better to be alone and live the way you choose.
or
is it better to have a partner to share the moments with.

its tricky cuz when your with someone you feel more lonlely than when your alone.

ive been in a relationship going on five years and i dont really enjoy myself as mucjh as i do when im alone.

do any of you feel trapped between feelings like me or what

i kno exactly how u bro feel i been with my girl for about 4 years now and i love her to death but sometimes she drives me mad, we fight all the time and have broken up and gotten back together a million times, not intetionally its just the way she is. and at the same time im in love with this other girl and i kno she feels the same way bout me but because shes friends with my girlfriend she wont get close to me. it sux im in love with one but i cant have her and i love the other but im not happy with her. so dont worry bro u aint the only one out there feelin like this.

[D.Boone]

sometimes id rather just be alone or with some of my homies.

[Irv]

mutual respect, trust, love, and all that is working for us:thumbsup: , takes one big element of stress out of our lives which throws enough shit at us as it is:eek: ....wasn't always this way, my first marriage and subsequent single years didn't have that element :confused: now i feel lucky to have my love to take care of these old bones :dance: