what's wrong with me?

[officerleeroy]

So lately I've been seeing my friends with their girlfriends and it has just been making me think too much about why I can't get one...I didn't have a girlfriend at all during high school and for a long time before that...whenever I do meet a girl I turn out to be nothing more than a friend:( another thing that has been bothering me is that I'm the only guy out of every one of my friends that is still a virgin...

I'm not sure if I'm looking for advice or just reasons but if anyone wants to give it a shot I'd appreciate it...

[Synbios]

Can't really offer you any advice I don't think...but if it's any consolation, I'm 19 and I'm the same.

[friendowl]

you must not be applying yourself.
if you wanna be with a girl then step your game up.
get a nice ride some nice clothes some good cologne
some money and hit the club.
if worst comes to worst and its almost 2 in tha morning
then there is always the fat chicks

[Powder Puff]

Sorry to be the one to say this, but maybe you're aims are to high??

Maybe you're not forward enough.. If you're not, then you should be! So what if you get embarrased?? I embarrase myself ALL the time.. lol.. You can't do anything other than laugh about it..:)

Good luck..:) You'll get something sooner or later..!:)



The night I lost my virginity was a night when I threw a party.. lol.. I was standing on the couch, everybody was singing, my mom came upstairs, I noticed her.. I was dancing with a girl on the couch, and when my mom was there, I just started making out with her.. lol.. You should have seen the grin on my mom's face... lol!

After that, we went to another party, and me and this girl went into antother room.. Did it for a while without interuptions, but people just came storming in all the time.. lol! The same girl came THREE times.. lol

Point is.. You'll get down to it sooner than you think.. It wasn't even in my thought's to get laid that night.. lol:)

[friendowl]

shit puff you bad
first time i fucked i nutted as soon as i seen the puss

[420purplehaze420]

Steven Seagal recommends you to be confident. Be yourself (or act like Steven Seagal), and everything should ben ok. But the best idea is, again, to claim you know Steven Seagal personnally. Steven Seagal can arrange you a meeting with any hot porstar too, but Steven Seagal is too busy to take care about all your pityful lives.

Pray god (A.K.A. Steven Seagal), and hope.
listen steven we already have Mcauley Caulkin on these boards we dont need another fake celebrity

just be confident and talk to girls a lot and if you think they want you act on it dont spend your life wandering what could ahve been

[fatweedsack]

just get ripped. work out everyday n shit n get jacked. then the ladies will start to see you in a different way. hopefully naked

[fatweedsack]

also just try stepping up and being a man and realize that the girls are expecting you to make the move...
If you think some hottie is into you dont just wonder about it, act on it.
if you get turned down then o well. dont let it bother you.



damnit man why dont u ask ur friends to help u out. they obviously penetratin bitches all the time

[officerleeroy]

I think I have a lack of confidence because I'm very shy when it comes to talking to girls. My friends aren't really any help, whenever I ask them they just say "i dunno". I know I'm not nearly as shy as I used to be which is in a way progress, but I still have trouble saying the right things.

[Mr Greenthumb]

Man, i totally used to be like you, only a little more extream. For a while all i could think about was "Chicks don't dig me, whats wrong with me? What else can i try? Maybe i'm not going for the right type of girl." Whatever. Anyway, it lead me into a deep deppression for about a year.

And then i discovered weed . . .

And like the Great Cornwall Jackson tells me, weed fixs EVERYTHING. He's right too.

Well anyway, i was having a lot more fun. I was hangin out with a lot of knew people and i was doing more with my friends. Soon, i stopped trying to get a girlfriend (partly because i have tried everything, i changed look, personality more then once, probably more then 5 times) and i stopped trying to figure out why i couldn't. Hell, i had never once heard about anyone like me in that way. And then, the deppression went away because i wasn't thinking about as much.
Over time i made myself belive that i would never ever be with anyone, to totally devote myself to the magic that is the high. I never gave dating and shit a second thought. I just didn't care anymore and guess what? Girls started liking me!!! Of course i've still never been with anyone, but now that is MY choice.

Dude, just stop caring. I remembered theorising on why some guys just can't seem to get girls and i noticed that the guys who did have girls never really seemed to care all that much. I theorised that if i stopped caring, they'd start caring and it looks like for me i was right.

Man, don't dwell on these kinds of things. You'll end up seriously fuck up your mind.

[slipknotpsycho]

So lately I've been seeing my friends with their girlfriends and it has just been making me think too much about why I can't get one...I didn't have a girlfriend at all during high school and for a long time before that...whenever I do meet a girl I turn out to be nothing more than a friend:( another thing that has been bothering me is that I'm the only guy out of every one of my friends that is still a virgin...

I'm not sure if I'm looking for advice or just reasons but if anyone wants to give it a shot I'd appreciate it...
do you come off as gay to the girlys? perhaps they assume you're gay and dont' want to antagonize you.

[officerleeroy]

do you come off as gay to the girlys? perhaps they assume you're gay and dont' want to antagonize you.
haha I'm pretty sure I don't come off as gay...Mr. Greenthumb I know what you're trying to say man...for a long time I was trying to stop caring about getting a girl but every now and then it just keeps coming back. I'm gonna try and not let it get to me and just have fun with my friends while I still can.:stoned:

[Ganjasaurusrex]

Officerleeroy,

The three things women are looking for are,

Confidence
Self-Control
Being a challenge

These are your 3 C's, memorize them and tatoo them on your bicep and flex your muscle. You must have these things for women to be attracted to you and stay attracted to you.

There is one more important thing you need to build on which is a culmination of all of the above and that is:

Your sexual value.

This requires you to build seduction and to eliminate anti-seduction traits.

It is alot like investing money. You would need to find ways to make your money grow while at the same time eliminating things that waste your money. Seduction is the same way.

Women need to be emotionally challenged and this requires that you dont share your feelings early on. Dont "wear your heart on your sleave",this is also what I call "spilling your guts".

Always use phrases like, "I MIGHT be interested", "I think there MIGHT be something there but Im not sure".

This keeps the challenge going because you didnt confirm it and she never knows where she stands with you.

Never confirm it with your feelings or "I love you's" This will turn her off.

She has to feel that she is working for you and that is your VALUE. Your value is also your lack of availabilty and your percieved demand.

When you are NOT a challenge women refer to this as "nice" or "friends", either way it is anti-seductive and this turns them off and bottom line equates to no sex.

Sharing your feelings early on takes the challenge out of the game. Once you do this there is pretty much nothing you can do to take it back because you have all ready been labeled subconsciously. Game over.

She, in most cases wont be able to tell you why she doesnt feel anything for you. It becomes a lack of interest without explanation on her part.

It is imperative that you develope your confidence and your ability to be a challenge. Being a challenge must occur from the first time you meet on into marriage. It has to continue. When it comes to confidence, ACT IT, FAKE IT, OR GROW IT THATS AN ORDER!

Play the game as all women do. Just dont play her game. Out game her. The minute you start giving in to her game is when she starts to loose interest. Dont always do as she wants, be unpredictable etc.

Becoming confident is not that hard.

First. You need to red flag any internal script in your head that in anyway says that you are not good enough.

You cannot in anyway feel sorry for yourself for not having a girl like the others. This thought pattern is already hindering you before you even start.

YOu must red flag any negative script in your head FIRST. That is your first step in building your confidence. So red flag it, bag it, tag it and throw it in the trash.

This thought pattern will also affect your sexual value in a negative way.

Women are intuitive and can pick up on this.

So, from now on when ever you get around women start running internal script in your mind,

"women are drawn to me"
"Do you want to make a connection with me"
"I am confident"

And you know what? it is the same dynamic in reverse. Try this when not talking to women and at the same time you are talking to women.

Just dont use internal script that has any motive of sex. Because they pick up on this as well and it has a negative effect.

The sub component of confidence is SELF-ESTEEM. Self-esteem means saying the "no" word once in a while or letting her know NON-VERBALLY where the line in the sand is drawn.

It is IMPORTANT that you do this as EARLY as possible in a new relationship.

So when a women throws you a self-esteem/confidence test at you. PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN. If she walks on you once, she'll do it again.

Realize that women test your male-strength qualities of Confidence, self-control and challenge. (see thread history "women and testing")

She is trying to find out what is there and how strong your male strength traits are. So when she pushes on your self-esteem you must form a brick wall in your mind and not a bowl of oatmeal.

So show her that YOU RESPECT YOURSELF.

NO RESPECT FOR YOURSELF=NO LOVE. That is the way it is. If she can walk on you, she wont respect you, therefore you will be labled a "friend", which as "nice", equates to no sex.

Let me share a secret with you.

Beautiful women need to hear the word "no" more than anything. Think about it. Arent most guys just kissing the asses of these women willing to do anything for them.

From the time she turned 18 no guy would tell her "no". They pump her gas, they buy her drinks all night, they do this, they do that etc.

She needs to hear the word "no". That is what she is looking for as well as a guy that can out game her, i.e plays the game, just not HER game. Combine this with your percieved sexual value and she will want you.

This means she Has to know that if pushed hard enough you WILL walk. And MEAN IT.

(See my thread history "Toughguys,niceguys and gentlemen"). This is something you need to read to balance respect in yourself.




Confidence tips:

Keep yourself well groomed, Use three different body washes, axe, oldspice sport etc. to make yourself smell different and unpridictable. Have a woman help you choose one. When she says that one smells nice, dont choose that one. When she says that one smells interesting, choose that one.

Keep yourself dressed well. (wear slacks, shirt, dress shoes and tie out in public for no reason and test reactions of women).

In public keep your chin up. Keep your shoulders back and walk slightly fast.


Remember the women do the choosing. So when you PROJECT confidence in your MIND, how you DRESS and CARRY YOURSELF this will attract women.

Women will flirt with you to let you know they are interested. This is mostly non-verbal body language. So pay attention. Many messages women send are on different levels and are not direct including when it comes to sex.

Now the first thing to do when you get the flirting is to ask her name but not offer yours unless she asks. This is the very start of challenge.

Ask some friendly questions, and leave on a high note, by high note I mean a "high point" somewhere in the conversation.

You need to be the one that always leaves first, is off the phone first. If she is first, she increases her value and yours is lessened. So leave on a high note first and throw her a compliment before you walk away.

Just one will last for a long time, so dont over do it and you wont appear desperate. Too many compliments are anti-seductive.

Just say, "you look good in yellow by the way", then leave. Let it work while your gone. She will be thinking about you. So learn to compliment correctly will also help draw women to you. But compliments do not build sexual tension so keep that in mind.

Romance, affection, compliments etc only build slight, soft sexual tension. Every woman has a sexual nimpho in her that is dying to come out.

To know how to push the right buttons you must learn the art of building seduction and let it build until she is the one to initiate the sex and I mean to point of completing the process to where she is grabbing your crotch and kissing your neck.

It is up to you to build the tension through your percieved sexual value. Dont put your hands on her and intiate until it builds. Then let her complete the process. Women need this tension to build first. Dont undermine it.

Here are the basics,

Men get turned on by what they see.
Women get turned on by how you make them feel and your percieved value.

If you approach just any woman before you have got these signs of flirting, chances are that she will not be interested. So look for the body language first.



Ill make a thread about seductive/anti-seductive traits to help you out so look for it soon.


Take care

[IntrepidS]

I have all 3 of those yet girls don't seem to care. I don't understand. Please reply to my thread:(

[officerleeroy]

Wow. Every bit of that made sense. Did you just write all of that? I'll be sure to check out the other things you mentioned. After reading that I just want to go out and see what happens, kinda makes me feel like I have a new person waiting to see the world. Thanks a lot man.

[Ganjasaurusrex]

Wow. Every bit of that made sense. Did you just write all of that? I'll be sure to check out the other things you mentioned. After reading that I just want to go out and see what happens, kinda makes me feel like I have a new person waiting to see the world. Thanks a lot man.


Great!

Yes, I wrote it all off the top of my head as fast as I could type it.

Good luck.

[slipknotpsycho]

3 c's... umm about all i got is being a challenge (i'm sure we're not on the same lvl here.. i like be the smartest of the smart asses...) otherwise i don't have any of them... and i got (had) girls all the time -.- i don't know what to tell you did i was in the same boat as you awhile back, then i started playing this new card.. since i couldn't be some hardass, i had to play the other one, yes that one! the "i'm so shy and fragile" card... for some reason chicks love it, as long as it's at the right time... i mean honestly there are certain times when you gotta cut that shit quick before you lose the bite... but otherwise i seemed to reel in girls with my past pain (that part is real, i've suffered alot in my life, emotional and phsyical) and the fact that i'm not all loud-mouthed, start shit anytime any day of the week, hard ass mother fucker seemed to bring more girls then to people around me who were "hard-asses" tho.. i never actually had a girl before 15 (there was this one time in like 3rd grade and one in either 2nd or 4th, but neither were serious or anything.. kinda hard to explain.. then the stupid bitch got me in trouble by writing my name in red pencil underneath the pencil sharpener)

[PureEvil760]

i used to be like that until i was about 18..then i realized how girls are and what they like..now im a chick magnet.

[Weeden]

Yes, that advice will always work, because EVERY woman is exactly the same in every way.

[bedake]

So lately I've been seeing my friends with their girlfriends and it has just been making me think too much about why I can't get one...I didn't have a girlfriend at all during high school and for a long time before that...whenever I do meet a girl I turn out to be nothing more than a friend:( another thing that has been bothering me is that I'm the only guy out of every one of my friends that is still a virgin...

I'm not sure if I'm looking for advice or just reasons but if anyone wants to give it a shot I'd appreciate it...


dont worry about it man, through out high school i never had a girlfriend, i viewed relationships as a waste of time. All that drama and bullshit was something i never wanted, i didnt lose my virginity untill like the last month of senior year to a girl i was in love with. I coulda had a girlfriend but no thanks, highschool relationships dont mean anything i dont think, and then they are just pointless

I was never interested in trying to ge girls at parties either, i dont see the point, whoopee gettin laid is over rated, at a party id much rather be where the action is getting fucked up and dancing around naked then in some corner "pimpin da bitches"

[BARBiEx3]

Dress nice, look hot, smell good, and be confident & the girls will come running to be around you.

[altagid]

If you are shy talking to girls then join some activity or club where there are a lot of girls. This is much more low pressure since you are there for some other activity and there is something to talk about.

[notrightquite]

The only advice I've got ... is relax.

[sMOkeY bOB]

Great!

Yes, I wrote it all off the top of my head as fast as I could type it.

Good luck.


buddy i know ur tryin to help, but stop writin so much

[Nightstar]

mmmmm fish