Why girls dont have a lot of orgasms?

[Musician]

I heard a lot of girls saying they almost never had an orgasm or only few.

and that question came to my head: why?

my ex told me she never had an orgasm before meeting me and i think i only made her come 1 or 2 times. and it happened very often that i was fuckin her for more than 30-45mn.

so whats the secret to make you girls come?

thx!

[BabyFacedAbortion]

Lots of clit and gspot action, to be honest. I mean a lot of guys I've been with before my current boyfriend (who is like my fucking sex god) have NEVER gotten me off before because they didn't pay enough attention to my clit...circular motion is usually quickest (vs. up and down or side to side or what ever the fuck some guys come up with) and they would just ram their fingers in and out of me. It's not that easy..."come hither" motion is most popular and will usually atleast tickle the gspot, which is better then nothing! Girls are difficult because we can't just go in and out and in and out yanno? lol

I hope that made sense lol I'm a bit tipsy.

[friendowl]

foreplay is the key.[stay away from girls who have been molested ]
way too many issues regarding sex

[SensiRide]

Because some girl's clits aren't near enough their kitty! The further away it is from there, the harder it is to orgasm. I can't cum through penetration, it just doesn't happen, I think it's like that for a lot of girls.

[Harvesthetic]

Because some girl's clits aren't near enough their kitty! The further away it is from there, the harder it is to orgasm. I can't cum through penetration, it just doesn't happen, I think it's like that for a lot of girls.
Aww shit that must suck (no pun intended :rolleyes: ) I just wanted to ask if it wasn't possible for all girls to have multiple orgasms. Guess not. Is it really the majority that can't come easily by penetration? Thought i read somewhere it was a minority. Every girl i've been with did have more then one at some point. (i'm not naïve, nor boasting :s)
There is a position in the Sutra that allows the clit to have as much fun as the kitty though not sure what.. Look it up mybe.

[SensiRide]

Aww shit that must suck (no pun intended :rolleyes: ) I just wanted to ask if it wasn't possible for all girls to have multiple orgasms. Guess not. Is it really the majority that can't come easily by penetration? Thought i read somewhere it was a minority. Every girl i've been with did have more then one at some point. (i'm not naïve, nor boasting :s)
There is a position in the Sutra that allows the clit to have as much fun as the kitty though not sure what.. Look it up mybe.

Nah it doesn't really bother me to be honest. It would be nice to cum when having sex, but that's what fingers and toys are for :)
No, its def a majority of woman, I've read that many a time, I think its 60% or something, most girls probably fake it because they feel bad about it and don't want to hurt their partners feelings but whats the point in that.
If you tell a guy you cant cum through penetration he will probably try 10 times harder with you and that's not a bad thing :)

[Harvesthetic]

Nah it doesn't really bother me to be honest. It would be nice to cum when having sex, but that's what fingers and toys are for :)
No, its def a majority of woman, I've read that many a time, I think its 60% or something, most girls probably fake it because they feel bad about it and don't want to hurt their partners feelings but whats the point in that.
If you tell a guy you cant cum through penetration he will probably try 10 times harder with you and that's not a bad thing :)
Haha yea but maybe then you've got one of them Duracell bunnys on top of you :) So it is a majority then, guess us dudes 'll have to kick it up a knotch. :thumbsup:

[Harvesthetic]

I heard a lot of girls saying they almost never had an orgasm or only few.

and that question came to my head: why?

my ex told me she never had an orgasm before meeting me and i think i only made her come 1 or 2 times. and it happened very often that i was fuckin her for more than 30-45mn.

so whats the secret to make you girls come?

thx!
Here it is :)

[beachguy in thongs]

It's all in the head. She's gotta wanna cum.

[Ganjasaurusrex]

I think if a guy knows how to stimulate a woman Emotionally, Phycologically and Instictevly he can increase sexual tension. Well what happens when she is tense?

Sexual tension is so important. It something that needs to happen again and again for her. It affects everything from frequency of sex to quality of sex.

[endo..jay]

i have never had a problem making a girl cum in bed..they say practice makes perfect and well i have had alot of practice

[Lakota]

Lots of clit and gspot action, to be honest.

Right, guys spend LOTS of time here. Learn this, study this, become an expert at this part of a girl. It's the key.

My girl is so sensitive, after paying attention to this area.....I can just blow on it and BINGO, You girls are so lucky......multible orgasm's, what a concept.

I have always wondered, how do you girls EVER get anything done in life with your very own tits to play with? Shit I'd be touchin them ALL the time if I hadem....LOL

[hls420]

lol.....I have no problem getting multiple orgasms.....but not with intercourse....rarely does my man make me cum' with that..I usually resort to my fingers or a toy....but it doesn't bother me......great when I do cum thru' intercourse, but it's rare......my man gets upset, but I don't care......can always take care of myself, if I feel the urge....lol

[BizzleLuvin]

THATS A TOUGH QUESTION TO ANSWER. MOSTLY CAUSE
A. THE G-SPOT IS DIFFICULT TO REACH
B. THE DUDES CUMS TOO QUICKLY, WE TAKE TIME
C. ITS A COMBO OF G-SPOT, CLITORAL, EMOTIONAL AND PHYSICAL STIMULATION
D. WOMEN ARE EMOTIONAL/SENSORYSEX PERTNERS AND MEN ARE VISUAL/PHYSICAL PARTNERS
E.THE CLITORIS DOESNT ALWAYS GET STIMULATED DURING PENETRATION
F.WE GOTTA BE IN THE MOOD

SOME WOMEN WILL NEVER HAVE ORGASMS, IT DEPENDS MOSTLY ON THE WOMAN. BUT PLEASE KNOW THAT JUST BECAUSE WE DONT ORGASM, DOESNT MEAN WE ARENT ENJOYING IT.. THO, I AM THE TYPE OF PERSON THAT IS CAPABLE OF BIG, MULTIPLE ORGASMS., I GUESS I AM LUCKY.

[Musician]

no need to put caps on

but thx everyone for the answers

but finding the clit isnt the easiest thing damn!

[beachguy in thongs]

I think she was just orgasming, Musician.

[BabyFacedAbortion]

Clits are pretty damn easy to find lol. I mean, while there is a clitoral hood covering it after being slightly stimulated it'll pop out. Silly little clit.

Google "clit" and I'm sure you'll get something :P

Or spread your women's legs and tell her you want to play doctor.

That's kind of kinky/hot anyway.

[endo..jay]

you just have to remember that all clits arent the same size and not all women are real sensitive in that area...good way to check this is have ur girl put her vibrator on her upper lip the ilttle indent thing under ur nose and if it feels good then her clit is 99% super sensitive so lick away

[BabyFacedAbortion]

I wanna vibrator.

[bonsaiguy]

Nah it doesn't really bother me to be honest. It would be nice to cum when having sex, but that's what fingers and toys are for :)
No, its def a majority of woman, I've read that many a time, I think its 60% or something, most girls probably fake it because they feel bad about it and don't want to hurt their partners feelings but whats the point in that.
If you tell a guy you cant cum through penetration he will probably try 10 times harder with you and that's not a bad thing :)
You're right Sensi, most women cannot orgasm through vaginal stimulation alone and need to have clitoral stimulation as well. According to Dr Drew, most women don't even experience orgasm until their mid or late 20's. That could be related to the fact that most guys don't care until they are in their mid or late 20's or don't have a clue as to how to go about it. They just hump, dump and run. And most women are not multi orgasmic although it's a bit confusing there because the female orgasm is so much different (biologically speaking) than the male orgasm. It really is a combination of physical, emotional and psychological stimulation. And for gods sake don't be afraid to tell men what you do and do not like.
You girls are so complicated.

[mfactor420]

i have never had a problem making a girl cum in bed..they say practice makes perfect and well i have had alot of practice

Lots of good comments here, but this is the best. I can say the same. :D

Guys, take your time and get to know your girl. Remember the stove analogy? Girls are electric stoves (takes a while to glow red hot) and men are propane stoves (instant on). Guys, tell your girl not to make you orgasm until after she has had hers ( 3 or 4). Trust me, by the time you have given your girl 3 or 4 earth shattering orgasms, the one she finally gives you is gonna be awesome.

My girl enjoys both clitoral and vaginal orgasms. I love to see her enjoying both and no toys involved. :thumbsup:

[Not Enough Herb]

yea all women are different. my girlfriend likes to be rubbed but says she is sensitive there, and also says she can only get off on me penetrating her with my fingers.

Multiple orgasims would be fuckin sweet. I cum once and im rdy to hit the old dusty trail and call it a day.

later

[Funken Monken]

Get down there and work through the alphabet with your tongue. Work in capitals, then if you notice your lady friend trembling when you cross a 'T' you have a vague idea where you should be concentrating!!

Find out which letters work best (A is good, and M) then alliterate!

[endo..jay]

i find "writing" in script works the best lot more loops and curves drives them crazy...mmmmm i must eat pussy now!!!!

BABY WHERE ARE YOU??? i need to lick!

[buchan20]

if i was a girl i will never leev my bed room all i nead is my finger and my mini cus u lot dong stop the orgey so u dnt have to stop u dnt no how lucky u are :confused:

[Funken Monken]

if i was a girl i will never leev my bed room all i nead is my finger and my mini cus u lot dong stop the orgey so u dnt have to stop u dnt no how lucky u are :confused:


I'd add 'dictionairy' into that list, you know, so the fun was at least ledgible.

[Inspiration]

Understand and ask your lady what she likes - communicate, don't just assume what worked for an ex (who might have been faking anyways) will work for everyone else you ever meet or sleep with ....

Make sex fun - its not just an act (although sometimes it is, and there can be massively intensive quick-f*cks), blokes have a tendancy to get paranoid about their performance - and pissed off if they don't acheive what is in their minds .... your mind should be used to understand your partner not focus on yer ego...

Bring other stuff to the game - there is always a place for toys, lotions and potions ... but again, don't just bring yer girl home and launch on her with a 14" vibrator (or even a clit-bullet) until you have a level of trust, or are too pissed to care - orgasm requires relaxation....

Anticipation - build some up. I started sending my missus naughty texts this morning, and I KNOW I am having fun tonight - and so does she - the anticipation can be as much part of foreplay as physical contact.....

OH - and remember a womans orgasm can go on for a looooooong time - don't stop at the first sign of chest blushing and vaginal clamping.... change the stimulation ... elongate the experience .... maybe you will find the key to multiple orgasms ....

[Essence]

I sure do they are extremely strong & multiple,,,like ((Inspiration)) said they can go lonnnggg time depends on the female :thumbsup:

[beachguy in thongs]

I, usually, say, "You can go wherever you want, just don't stick your tongue in my urethra."

[420purplehaze420]

but finding the clit isnt the easiest thing damn!
lol try and guess who the virgin is

it may not be the EASIEST thing to do but its certainly not hard if your interested google has some neat diagrams but i find first hand experience is best

[poorprincess]

this is what I think, if a girl has had sex enough so that she cant remember how many times (more than 40 times) and she has never, or she has only cum a few times then it could be a number of things:

1.she hasent yet discovered what really gets her off.
2.she's never really let go of her inhibitions during intercourse.
3.she has a physical problem and should see a doctor.

90% of the time I'd say it's likely to be one of the first two.

[PureEvil760]

I wanna vibrator.
i want u

[PureEvil760]

Lots of clit and gspot action, to be honest. I mean a lot of guys I've been with before my current boyfriend (who is like my fucking sex god) have NEVER gotten me off before because they didn't pay enough attention to my clit...circular motion is usually quickest (vs. up and down or side to side or what ever the fuck some guys come up with) and they would just ram their fingers in and out of me. It's not that easy..."come hither" motion is most popular and will usually atleast tickle the gspot, which is better then nothing! Girls are difficult because we can't just go in and out and in and out yanno? lol

I hope that made sense lol I'm a bit tipsy.

ill fight him..if you wish 6 - 1

[Boo360]

A while back I asked a female friend of mine why alot of girls always complained about never having multiple or even single orgasms for that matter. I found it strange because every girl I had been with I had been able to last longer than her and give her atleast 2 orgasms a night without any problems. I think the main problem with people is they don't pay enough attention to the girl and how she reacts to certain things. I made it kind of a game to find out what the girl likes and if I did something and she responded with a moan or something I would just do it again and then after I found out enough about what she liked just put it all together for a night of fun.

One girl I was with stayed with me for a week one time (I was 15 at the time) and we fucked every night and one night she actually made me stop because she was so exhausted from it that night which really made me feel good about myself but then we just stayed up till like 8a.m. and waited for my dad to leave for work before doing it all over again.

Just my insight into the whole thing.

[HiddenBeauty]

There are many reasons so if any guys start feeling that maybe it is them then they should read this

http://www.healthyplace.com/Communities/Sex/enjoying_sex/orgasm_difficulty.asp

[theprettiestprincess]

I wanna vibrator.
I wanna vibrator too:( preferably a pink 1 with the little bunny clit stimulator;) anywho, I don't think its physically possible to make a girl cum from just ramming. There HAS to be clit stimulation involved. I can rarely cum off of just straight sex. But when I do I can mostly cum from "riding" because I'm in control and I can grind how I wanna;) and when we

[MaryJaneintheCloset]

I have one almost every day. :)

[beachguy in thongs]

ill fight him..if you wish 6 - 1
I think their relationship is through.

These replies are so sweet! :thumbsup:

[MaryJaneintheCloset]

Oh, and I wanted to add, it's all about the clitoral pattern. ;)

[Bong30]

Guys, guys, guys,... hi girls,
I am a little older, maybe a little more experienced, It depends, some times a quickie is good, my wife even asks for them every now and then, BUT
If you have the time, the trick is, to make her cum first. If you get hard, and start humping away you are wasting it. If you start slow by seducing her maybe a little teasing, but you make her cum first. Then you start penetration. You will learn what multiple orgasm is, and so will she (be careful with this one, you will never get rid of her after this so make sure you love herâ?¦ lol). If youâ??re lucky ill teach you how to do a HAT TRICK.

Some one said that she has to WANT TO CUM. I think that is true. We were driving back from Las Vegas, it was dark and my wife and I were listening to the FAINT, and the vibrations from the car, and we were talking about sin city. She was HOT. (She is anyway), but she grabbed her vibrator from her suit case, and she came in less than 1 minute. It was all the talking, music, vibration from the road��in one word the atmosphere.

My 2cents

[RandomFX]

Foreplay
That's all you need.
Attention to detail, she has to want to come first. We all have walls and sexual hang-ups, you have to surmount these first(pardon the expression) Just listening to her(and not sticking your cock in at the first chance) helps.
Tease
Sometimes a light touch is all that's needed, trace fire with your fingertips and tongue. Stay away from the obvious lady-bits. Go for the neck, ears, spine, backs of knee, crook of elbow-wherever. Look for reaction, listen to her breathing. Make her want too.........
Make her laugh(usually needed to get there in the first place)
Work as many bits as possible-finger in,thumb on and nipple in mouth(hint-keep your ear to her heartbeat-play a tune..)
I'll skip the finer points of clitoral and vaginal stimulation-feel your own way.
Bring her to the point of orgasm-and stop.
Repeat as often as you dare.
The more times you do this, the harder she will come- but beware: Too much faffing about and you will miss her. Hell hath no fury like a woman brought to point of orgasm and not allowed to cum.
...........Now you can start thinking about intercourse

[HiddenBeauty]

Orgasms are soooooooooo overrated :) :smokin: :stoned:

[Bong30]

Orgasms are soooooooooo overrated :) :smokin: :stoned:
you must be a great lay..............

[CrAzYpOtHeAd]

Google "clit" and I'm sure you'll get something :P

This is what i came up with: http://www.gagsenstock.com/images/clitmouse.jpg

haha...

[Mendocino]

it is always about girls ,their orgasm and what guys can do or not??? when a guy come ,and start taking pleasure 99% of grils give up and think it is ok hwile the guy fuck the gilr for 30-45 minutes as soon as he come ,100% of girls will think it is ok now,in fcat I think it is the begining but like in most case ,it is all a question about how your wife or girl friend feels???

hoenstly I think it is unfair ,and more women should concentrate on how to turn on a guy and pleasure him.

so come on guys you are great dogs and we want see you using your dick as a worker will use his hammer...a real slave fro these ladies that give what in exchange....hihihihih....not so much I guess...

so guys how many times did you get a huge orgams ???

[CrAzYpOtHeAd]

it is always about girls ,their orgasm and what guys can do or not??? when a guy come ,and start taking pleasure 99% of grils give up and think it is ok hwile the guy fuck the gilr for 30-45 minutes as soon as he come ,100% of girls will think it is ok now,in fcat I think it is the begining but like in most case ,it is all a question about how your wife or girl friend feels???

hoenstly I think it is unfair ,and more women should concentrate on how to turn on a guy and pleasure him.

so come on guys you are great dogs and we want see you using your dick as a worker will use his hammer...a real slave fro these ladies that give what in exchange....hihihihih....not so much I guess...

so guys how many times did you get a huge orgams ???

I kinda did'nt understand that. But its pretty simple for a man, he starts jizzin, then about 5 seconds later he stops, thats about it. A 5 second orgasm, lol.

[HiddenBeauty]

you must be a great lay..............

Lmao you better believe it ;) :D :smokin: :stoned:

[T bag]

no need to put caps on

but thx everyone for the answers

but finding the clit isnt the easiest thing damn!

are you retarted?

[T bag]

just get her naked, play with her titties with one hand, lick her clit in a circular or figure 8 motion and finger her while rubbin the frontal vaginal wall.

once she starts getting all bouncy or moaning where u know she aint fakcin, puton the condomn and finish the job.

[psychocat]

Lmao you better believe it ;) :D :smokin: :stoned:


Only if it's backed up with video evidence. :D ;) :cool:

[LIP]

lmao!

[thebaron]

chew on the nipples too, that always works for me.

[thebaron]

Chew on the nipples that always works for me.

[HiddenBeauty]

Chew on the nipples that always works for me.

Ouch :(

[poorprincess]

I kinda did'nt understand that. But its pretty simple for a man, he starts jizzin, then about 5 seconds later he stops, thats about it. A 5 second orgasm, lol.

a good girl will get her man close to coming several times and stop him each time and move on to another kind of stimulation. I find my bf experiences better/longer orgasms that way.

[Eshelmen]

any of you guys ever have make a girl squirt?? LOL my ex girlfriend would squirt when she orgasms .... it was such a turn on.. and i wasnt even done with the oral part yet haha

[FUMO HIERBA]

haha you guys

[redheadvixen]

i've never had an orgasm from a guy. the only orgasm that i have ever had has been from my toys. i really enjoy sex...is there something wrong with ME?

[HiddenBeauty]

i've never had an orgasm from a guy. the only orgasm that i have ever had has been from my toys. i really enjoy sex...is there something wrong with ME?


I am the same and I have to masturbate during sex or I just don't orgasm and that can make a guy feel like he is not good enough.When I went to see a psychosexologist she told me some bullshit about the penis being the right shape for the woman and that is the reason women find it so difficult,but that doesn't explain oral and I was too confused,surprised and stoned to carry on asking her so I just went home :(

I have heard that when you are growing up,if sex is not an open subject it can cause the child to have sexual hang ups like it shouldn't be done or it's dirty to have those thoughts.I don't think this is completely true because I have heard of many good catholic girls becoming strippers,porn stars etc lol

If you discover the answer then please share it with me ;) :D

[Nathaniel]

Can Wemon Even Pre Maturely Orgasmz?

[psychocat]

I have heard that when you are growing up,if sex is not an open subject it can cause the child to have sexual hang ups like it shouldn't be done or it's dirty to have those thoughts.I don't think this is completely true because I have heard of many good catholic girls becoming strippers,porn stars etc lol

If you discover the answer then please share it with me ;) :D

The reason given for this is that the more represive the upbringing the more likely some people are to reject and rebel against all constraints placed upon them during their youth therefore they go wild.
Of course there is also the repression is carried on over into adulthood and this can cause hangups as you put it:D

Hope this helps

[HiddenBeauty]

Thanks Psychocat it sort of helped but I need to know how it's possible to turn it around so that there isn't any hang ups.

[PureEvil760]

well theres an easy way for guys to like not cum until the girl gets off at least 4 times..but its an experienced technique

[PureEvil760]

a good girl will get her man close to coming several times and stop him each time and move on to another kind of stimulation. I find my bf experiences better/longer orgasms that way.
a good guy will fuck the shit out of you for your pleasure, not his

[GrowinGreen23]

if the sex is good how can you not be in the mood...most of the time?

[partyguy420]

so far i have noticed that to give my girl MOs i have to stand up and have her over the bed, or doggy style.and with the over the bed, i tend to have better accsess to her clit so i will usaly rub it for her, and make her have more MOs faster and better.

[psychocat]

so far i have noticed that to give my girl MOs i have to stand up and have her over the bed, or doggy style.and with the over the bed, i tend to have better accsess to her clit so i will usaly rub it for her, and make her have more MOs faster and better.

You know for some reason I don't believe a word.

Can blowup dolls have MOs then ? cause I reckon thats the closest you will ever get.:D

[OmegaVermelho]

I heard a lot of girls saying they almost never had an orgasm or only few.

and that question came to my head: why?

my ex told me she never had an orgasm before meeting me and i think i only made her come 1 or 2 times. and it happened very often that i was fuckin her for more than 30-45mn.

so whats the secret to make you girls come?

thx!

Stop bangin rubber dolls dude:D .......i´ve read some posts (not all) and some of the women that posted are imo, in the wrong track, posts like "...that´s what fingers and dildos are for..", 1st off all know ur body and know urself (turnons turnoffs), 2nd dont rush it, some women get like 3 or 4 orgasms in a 20min ralation others take a load of time to get just one....the key is to be open minded, confortable and i think fit helps a lot too....the rest and most of it its all in your MIND...

[Ganjasaurusrex]

I heard a lot of girls saying they almost never had an orgasm or only few.

and that question came to my head: why?

my ex told me she never had an orgasm before meeting me and i think i only made her come 1 or 2 times. and it happened very often that i was fuckin her for more than 30-45mn.

so whats the secret to make you girls come?

thx!



The "three point method" works well.

This comes from the Chinese book of Tao lovemaking.

You sit on a surface like a sofa stretched out at a 45degree angle.

She sits on top of you, facing you.

There are three points:

The "gate" (clitoris)
The g spot
The epicenter

Everyone knows where the clitoris is. Most know where the g spot is. Not many know where the epicenter is.

The epicenter is adjacent to the cervix, so follow where the g-spot is then go all the way back until right next to the cervix but not cetered with it.
So the g-spot nerve runs back to the epicenter. While all the way in her, head rests at epicenter. Now

The idea is to let her have a wild ride and stimulate all three areas at the same time using a rocking back and fourth motion with hips as opposed to an in and out motion.

She controls all the movement in order to get it right.

Erection angle is most important and should be in the 1 o'clock position measured as if standing up. This way the ANGLE exerts PRESSURE on all THREE areas. If erection angle is 3 o'clock (straight out) or LESS then chinese book say do exersize to increase blood pressure.

Done by standing and tightening butt and lower back muscles intensily then holding and releasing, do again and again as hard as possible. Try doing this for one hour at a time. (This is not the same as pelvic floor excersizes). You will find with practice what I am talking about. Do this continuously while she rides or practice by yourself..

This can be done in any position just realize this is how to increase blood pressure and angle. Over a period of time you should be able to pop out another inch of length by doing this along with angle increase. Women are most turned on visually/subconsciously by the angle.

Proper size of member neccessary should measure from base of palm to tip of middle finger. This increases ability to stimulate all three points. If not it is a matter of percentage as to likelyhood of orgasm for this method.




Good luck :thumbsup: