In need of help.

[Joel]

Hey everyone, I am having problems trying to find a girl.

The last time I dated was maybe a year ago and ever since I have had trouble picking up girls. Do you guys/girls have any suggestions on how to sweet talk a girl, make her happy to see you all the time?

[Toothpick]

one word alcohal. lol besides that I find when your trying to hook up with a girl outside of some wild party you gotta find a girl thats right for you. So just kinda speak your mind if you go saying what she wants to hear and you end up with the chick then eventually when you both start speaking your mind things can get rough. So when your girl surfing :) speak to her as if you were speaking to a close friend. Chances are if your far from your average joe then your gonna get turned down alot but eventually you will find some1 like you. Offcourse dont let getting rejected get you down cause even if your in a small city chances are next time you guys see each other you wont reconize each other. Unless you like went allout freakshow and she pulled out the peperspray then I would reccomend you change your lifestyle a bit before dating. If your going to just get some skin then alcohal is your best bet fast and effective and you barely have to do a thang

[dopesmoker]

don't try to be anything other then yourself. It may take awhile but you will find someone right for you.

[Paige]

well i would say just... be as sweet as possible and dont lie to her no matter what...and .. be yourself

[Ganjasaurusrex]

WARNING:

When anyone ever says, "JUST BE YOURSELF" THAT IS THE WORST THING YOU CAN DO.

and dont be "AS SWEET AS POSSIBLE".

BOTH OF THESE SHOW SUBMISSIVE/"NICE" BEHAVIOR AND WILL TURN HER OFF.

HOnesty is the right thing to do. Openess is the wrong thing to do. Spilling your emotional guts is a turnoff. Handle your own emotional business yourself and keep it that way. Share your positive self only. You be the one who is emotionally supportive. You are the anchor in the relationship.

Review last 8 threads for tips:

Asking a woman out the right way.(covers womanese, testing,Confidence/Challenge/Self-control.

Honesty and openess.
Blockers and helpers.
women and testing.
Sex: this will open your eyes.
Trust
etc.


YOU need to understand the basics before looking.

[Smoking Ganja]

^ are you some sort of sex therapist/phycologist or something otherwise how do we know that these tips of yours of legit, or just your personal opinion

[Ganjasaurusrex]

All tips are "legit".

For example, Your male strengths of:

Confidence
Challenge
Self-Control

Are the three things that she will test you on the most in the beginning of a relationship.
She is looking for these things. It is not my opinion, it is the way things are. period.
read more about these in "asking a woman out the right way".

Ill talk about these more in the future.

[endo..jay]

go to a bar, cuz bars are amazing for meeting women...it can be the loudest bar there is and i can still hear a woman wisper 'im so drunk' its like a homing beakon...but remember in a bar women are with their friends you thats the challange...u dont have to win over the girl you have to win over her friends...why do you think women go to the bathroom in packs....to talk about men....and if you win over her friends then there is nothing bad they can say about you..other wise get 20bucks and go find yourself a trick of course you cant really bring her over for thanksgiving dinner cuz the family might ask questions on why your girlfriend has go-go boots on and speaks with a whiskey voice