Ganjasaurusrex
12-09-2005, 06:19 AM
Reading body language is very important in many situations. Body language makes up more in communication most times than the spoken word. Learning to read body language is also important in dating because it lets the man know his womans interest level at various stages in dating and what he may be doing wrong or right.
Here is an example of general body language.
Your the C.E.O of a company and your sitting at the board table with 15 executives of the company talking to the board. One man has his arms crossed, one man has his hands on top of his head with his fingers interlaced and one man has his hands on the table and all his fingers are tip to tip forming a cage. What are these men saying non-verbally?
The man with his arms crossed has two meanings. He is either protecting himself, ( feeling attacked), or he is rejecting what is being said.
The man with his hands on top of his head and fingers interlaced means he feels he is the one who is dominate of all the males in the room, this also means ironically, insecurity. I have never seen a woman do this.
The man with his hands on the table and his fingers touching tip to tip forming a cage is a man who feels he is in control of the situation.
Men get themselves into trouble sometimes by not recoginizing body language in women when it comes to dating.
I dont know how many times on television that I have seen a guy proposing to a woman and he gets down on one knee. I wish I could yank this guy out of the television and have a talk with him! So what is wrong with this body language?
Well this posture is something I remember seeing in a cartoon when I was young and I think even on the cover of romance novels at the grocery store!
A feminist will have you believe that this is the correct posture for a man to propose to a woman. I say it sets the wrong tone from the start. Yet neither the man or the woman could consciously tell you why this makes both of them uncomfortable.
When a man is on one knee it is the posture of begging. She looks down on him, he looks up at her and asks for acceptance. I have always looked at the expression on the womans face when a man does this. She always looks uncomfortable when he gets on one knee. All of the talk shows and relationship doctors will have men brainwashed in thinking this is romantic behavior. It isnt and Ill be the first to say so. It sets the wrong tone to marriage.
Now lets look at the same couple except a different circumstance.
He has cultivated this relationship by being:
CONFIDENT, IN CONTROL OF HIMSELF, AND A CHALLENGE.
After some time dating, by him being a challenge and holding back has raised her interest level through the roof! She asks HIM to marry HER!, he later proposes standing face to face.
So why is this better? I have a rule in my rule book about dating, and that says THE WOMAN CHOOSES THE MAN not the other way around. When she chooses and is challenged and has her respect by telling her "no", politely once in a while when he really means it and can show he can stand up to her by not taking her disrespect, she feels his love is worthy of her respect.
CONFIDENT MEN DONT BEG AND A MAN WHO IS A CHALLENGE CAN NEVER BEG. Never beg...............unless she has a gun to your head!
Would Cary Grant get down on one knee? Women chased him because he was a challenge, he was confident, he practiced control and used the art of banter. No matter how old you are you can learn alot from this guy by watching his movies and emulating his style.
Women who have an interest level in you of at least 51 percent will give you body language buying signals to approach her.
She primps her hair and straigtens her clothes.
Her arms and legs are not crossed.
She looks at you and when you make eye contact she looks away briefly and then looks again. This happens about three times.
She stands next to you.
She stands next to with a girlfriend and talks to her girlfriend about "This cute guy" she met the other day.
She walks by you and drops something to see if youll pick it up.
She walks by you and lightly brushes up against you.
You see society has rules that say a woman cant approach. But they do the initial choosing as seen here by flirting. All of these are what is called "buying signals" A smart man knows to ask her name and not to offer his unless asked. Why? Two reasons, He appears to be a challenge because he didnt offer his. He would then observe her body language interest level. If she asks his name, Ill give her an interest level of 55 percent. You are now clear to ask for the home phone number. (Please see post: The right way to ask a woman out).
This protects you guys because a woman has the hardest time to teling a man "no". She instinctevly knows that a man's ego has a hard time hearing "no" so she will resort to womanese to tell him. Womanese is not lying. But it can be confusing to a guy since he didnt hear the word "no".Since he didnt hear "no" he assumes "yes". So many times a guy will continue to go back for another round when she will clearly reject him again. Remember if her interest level falls below 49 percent you need to cut your losses and move on, learning to read body language spares you that early.
Here you test her by challenge and observation, her feelings toward you. In other words it makes her reveal her true feelings about you so you would never ask, which you should never do any way, (shows no confidence), act as if you could care less.
I say a woman with a high interest level will make it easy for you to meet with them. Women with high interest levels dont have "headaches" and are usually in "the mood". Women with high interest levels never break dates or leave you to talk to yourself on her answering machine and your woman wont cheat on you if she has a high interest level. So pay attention to that guys you just cant win her over and say work is done.
Here is an example of general body language.
Your the C.E.O of a company and your sitting at the board table with 15 executives of the company talking to the board. One man has his arms crossed, one man has his hands on top of his head with his fingers interlaced and one man has his hands on the table and all his fingers are tip to tip forming a cage. What are these men saying non-verbally?
The man with his arms crossed has two meanings. He is either protecting himself, ( feeling attacked), or he is rejecting what is being said.
The man with his hands on top of his head and fingers interlaced means he feels he is the one who is dominate of all the males in the room, this also means ironically, insecurity. I have never seen a woman do this.
The man with his hands on the table and his fingers touching tip to tip forming a cage is a man who feels he is in control of the situation.
Men get themselves into trouble sometimes by not recoginizing body language in women when it comes to dating.
I dont know how many times on television that I have seen a guy proposing to a woman and he gets down on one knee. I wish I could yank this guy out of the television and have a talk with him! So what is wrong with this body language?
Well this posture is something I remember seeing in a cartoon when I was young and I think even on the cover of romance novels at the grocery store!
A feminist will have you believe that this is the correct posture for a man to propose to a woman. I say it sets the wrong tone from the start. Yet neither the man or the woman could consciously tell you why this makes both of them uncomfortable.
When a man is on one knee it is the posture of begging. She looks down on him, he looks up at her and asks for acceptance. I have always looked at the expression on the womans face when a man does this. She always looks uncomfortable when he gets on one knee. All of the talk shows and relationship doctors will have men brainwashed in thinking this is romantic behavior. It isnt and Ill be the first to say so. It sets the wrong tone to marriage.
Now lets look at the same couple except a different circumstance.
He has cultivated this relationship by being:
CONFIDENT, IN CONTROL OF HIMSELF, AND A CHALLENGE.
After some time dating, by him being a challenge and holding back has raised her interest level through the roof! She asks HIM to marry HER!, he later proposes standing face to face.
So why is this better? I have a rule in my rule book about dating, and that says THE WOMAN CHOOSES THE MAN not the other way around. When she chooses and is challenged and has her respect by telling her "no", politely once in a while when he really means it and can show he can stand up to her by not taking her disrespect, she feels his love is worthy of her respect.
CONFIDENT MEN DONT BEG AND A MAN WHO IS A CHALLENGE CAN NEVER BEG. Never beg...............unless she has a gun to your head!
Would Cary Grant get down on one knee? Women chased him because he was a challenge, he was confident, he practiced control and used the art of banter. No matter how old you are you can learn alot from this guy by watching his movies and emulating his style.
Women who have an interest level in you of at least 51 percent will give you body language buying signals to approach her.
She primps her hair and straigtens her clothes.
Her arms and legs are not crossed.
She looks at you and when you make eye contact she looks away briefly and then looks again. This happens about three times.
She stands next to you.
She stands next to with a girlfriend and talks to her girlfriend about "This cute guy" she met the other day.
She walks by you and drops something to see if youll pick it up.
She walks by you and lightly brushes up against you.
You see society has rules that say a woman cant approach. But they do the initial choosing as seen here by flirting. All of these are what is called "buying signals" A smart man knows to ask her name and not to offer his unless asked. Why? Two reasons, He appears to be a challenge because he didnt offer his. He would then observe her body language interest level. If she asks his name, Ill give her an interest level of 55 percent. You are now clear to ask for the home phone number. (Please see post: The right way to ask a woman out).
This protects you guys because a woman has the hardest time to teling a man "no". She instinctevly knows that a man's ego has a hard time hearing "no" so she will resort to womanese to tell him. Womanese is not lying. But it can be confusing to a guy since he didnt hear the word "no".Since he didnt hear "no" he assumes "yes". So many times a guy will continue to go back for another round when she will clearly reject him again. Remember if her interest level falls below 49 percent you need to cut your losses and move on, learning to read body language spares you that early.
Here you test her by challenge and observation, her feelings toward you. In other words it makes her reveal her true feelings about you so you would never ask, which you should never do any way, (shows no confidence), act as if you could care less.
I say a woman with a high interest level will make it easy for you to meet with them. Women with high interest levels dont have "headaches" and are usually in "the mood". Women with high interest levels never break dates or leave you to talk to yourself on her answering machine and your woman wont cheat on you if she has a high interest level. So pay attention to that guys you just cant win her over and say work is done.