Relationship advice.

[justinsane]

hey - i should start out by saying that girl problem category would do well for this site

anyway. heres my deal:
Ive been dating this girl for 1 year and 4 months, shes 16 and im 18 - ive graduated and shes still in high school, we love each other and see each other every day. well, one time we got into a pretty big fight.

we have since then been on a break for this reason, - she feels like she hasnt experienced high school aka the best time of her life and wants some time to do so. im not handeling it all that well, so what should i do?

she says she wants to be with me, but wants to experience high school..

most people say give her her space, some say that i should go out there and find someone new, - but for anyone whos ever been in a serious relationship, knows its not that easy.... any advice?

[P.E.N.G.U.I.N.]

I'd say have an open sexual relationship until she graduates.

[A Foo Says]

I'd say have an open sexual relationship until she graduates.


I wouldn't be able to do that.

Bro my advice would be to find a new woman. She just wants to have fun and mess around as much as possible it sounds. Not good. I know its hard but it's the best advice I can think of. =(

[P.E.N.G.U.I.N.]

Let her have her fun in high school. Just as long as she comes back to you, it doesn't matter. Plus, with her choosing you over all she had in high school, it shows how much she really loves you. It's a gamble, but that's my advice.

[Jim Morrison]

unless she wants to mess around with other guys give her space shell be fine otherwise find a new girl

[ScarlettCrush]

just dating is ok, this leaves you open to just date as well. It may be a test to meet other people, but if she likes someone else better, or you do, that's how it works. Mabe you both go out and see other people, then realize how good you got it together. Just give it a chance, don't dump a chick just because she is honest about not wanting to be serious right now. At least she is honest with you instead of running around behind your back. This means she respects you and has a good head on her shoulders. Don't listen to these fools, those are good qualities.

[Garden Knowm]

Justin..

get ready, cause this shit hurts... you can come out of this 2 ways... BITTER or with LOVE.. it up to you man.. but the shit hurts...

good luck, I feel for you

i love you

[Towelie4202005]

I say give her the space she seems to want and go date some people. It's never a bad thing to experience something new. Hopefully she comes back to you. If not, yeah it hurts like a mother fucker, I have been there, but life goes on man. I hope it works out in your favor and good luck.

[NightProwler]

wait for her man. she'll come back. hopefully

[KeanBean]

wait for her man. she'll come back. hopefully

lol

[B.Basher]

She wants to "experience high school"? What does that mean? I'm pretty sure that can ONLY mean fucking around with other guys, in which case i'd leave that shit well alone. If she feels she needs to do that, she's clearly not prepared to be faithful to you and you'll come out worse in the end.

That's my two pence based on my own personal values, do that you feel is best.

[ScarlettCrush]

fucking around with other guys, does not mean fucking other guys. jesus what is wrong with ya'll?
can't a girl experiment with different flavors and not be called a fucking ho?
You all men talk about wanting two chicks at once and all this nice shit, yet a girl who wants to "date" other guys is not worth hanging out with.
ya'll need enlightenment.

you see my picture? I'm fine, I'm funny, I'm smart, I smoke, and I'm hot in the sack. I dated other people, right up until my beau said he would not like me too. After some thought, I decided he was worth it. Ya'll none would have dated me because I was seeing other people. But from my view, if you can't stand the competition, that means you can't stand up to competition.

[Garden Knowm]

why would your man impose his will on you... why would he ask you not to do something you like to do?

am I out of bounds?

i love you

[ScarlettCrush]

it isn't his will, lol it is the next step in a relationship to move from dating to serious. I don't know why so many men expect women to be celebate and dateless until they come along to put light in a woman's life.
Dating is for getting to know people so you can tell if you want to be serious with them or not. One date is not an instant relationship.
I am not going to let my world revolve around one man just because he asked me out a couple of times. If he wants to get serious, and see's a future with me in it, then it's option for me to choose.

[Garden Knowm]

next step, in a relationship?

what's the step after that?

[ScarlettCrush]

What defines a relationship is the two people in it.
but for most folks it is, dating, exclusive, serious, engaged, married.
don't you know this already?

[Garden Knowm]

but for most folks it is, dating, exclusive, serious, engaged, married.

how come?

[Garden Knowm]

where does..

"shit i got her pregnant" fit in?

[justinsane]

hahah, well i have an update.... shes getting pissed and jealous (maybe) that im hanging out with alot of girls, i took down all my pictures of her and she saw, so she followed suit and did the same.... what do you make of this?

[YabaYabaDoobie]

Wow, you played the jealousy card. Not really the best choice but it's your own.

Mistakes teach us.

[P.E.N.G.U.I.N.]

You're treading thin ice. I'd be careful, one wrong move could seriously fuck up your relationship with her. Have a straight up conversation with her about it. Say something like "Hey. You know, as well as I, that I've been hanging around with a lot of girls lately. You once told me that you want to experience high school to its fullest, so I assumed you wanted to try different guys. I'm happy to let you, as long as you let me try different girls as well. I want you to know that I still love you, and that I don't want to ever leave you, but this is just to confirm that idea. If, once you graduate, neither of us have found anyone better, then it proves that we are meant to be together. If not, I guess it wasn't meant to be." Something like that.

[clayboy]

My advice would be don't get tied down to one person at such a young age. There are plenty, and I mean plenty of fish in the sea. At 18 you don't even know what love is, and you don't need to until you hit about 30. Enjoy life, stay single.

[ScarlettCrush]

You're treading thin ice. I'd be careful, one wrong move could seriously fuck up your relationship with her. Have a straight up conversation with her about it. Say something like "Hey. You know, as well as I, that I've been hanging around with a lot of girls lately. You once told me that you want to experience high school to its fullest, so I assumed you wanted to try different guys. I'm happy to let you, as long as you let me try different girls as well. I want you to know that I still love you, and that I don't want to ever leave you, but this is just to confirm that idea. If, once you graduate, neither of us have found anyone better, then it proves that we are meant to be together. If not, I guess it wasn't meant to be." Something like that.
:clap:
that is the perfect thing to say, straight up to the point but not harsh or petty.

[Garden Knowm]

taking down the pictures.. smooth.. I like it... I punish all who tread on my fragile ego...

next move,

put up picks of your new LOVER.. not to be a dick.. but 'cause you love her and are infatuated with her... "YOU didn't KNOW SEX could be so good"


and this talk back in forth about trying new people out... (don't listen to scarlett or penguin, they mean well, but.... nuff said) ... its for the dogs dude.. for the fucking dogs... If she is fucking other guys.. you do not want to know about it.. just be nice and loving and if you fuck her again.. where a condom for christ sake...

if its ment to be, she'll beg you to come (on her) back.. or you'll go down in a crying ball of flames... but you'll bounce back!!

i love you

[420purplehaze420]

man what is she talking about dating older guys and getting fucked up IS the experience girls get in high school,

is she in gr 10 or 11? because trust me girls change so much inbetween those 2 years as with gr 8 and 9, dont be her rebound, dont let her go off and have fun while you stay humble

is she really that big of a catch? i mean if i were you and i was fully capable of finding someone else which im sure you are i would be like ok go have fun in high school just dont expect me to be here for you when your tired of the repetiveness of highschool kids and the lame shit that seems to happen every day

in my opinion high school is just a learning process to show you what real life is like(but on a way smaller scale), the edjucation is just an excuse to be there, theres a lot of kids that say they hate school and wouldnt go if they could but without school a lot of us wouldnt have some crazy memories of good times, because school is where you meet most of the people you know and develop a personality based on what you perceive

[justinsane]

she is that big of a catch, not only is she beautiful . but heres what came along with her
(im not trying to brag)
her dad hooked me up with the real estate business, he buys houses, i fix them up, and we split the proceeds down the middle, thats just one of the many other things, like he pays for my insurance. her mom bought me a round trip plane ticket to seattle, alotta other stuff, but if its meant to be, - which she says it is, because shes getting lots of signs, ill just have my fun as well, but ill still be waiting.. in a sense.

[Garden Knowm]

keep her..

and post a pic..

please