why is she mad?

[grasshopper420]

today the weirdest shit happend me and my girlfreind were walking around down town when this guy comes out of an alley and starts trying to do somthing to her the reason i say somthing is because im not sure if he was trying to rob her or rape her or w/e anyway i pull him off her and by now im really pissed off(im pretty protective of her) so i take him by the arm and turn him around i jab him twice and sidekick him in the stomach and shes crying by now but i havent noticed cuz im starting to get "tunnel vision" any way the guy manages to get up which is beyond me cause that wouldve immobalized most ppl (im a pretty big guy) and takes a swing i block and tear the tendons in his arm (i found this out because the police later asked me how his arm got so fucked up) now hes on the ground kinda shaking holding his arm and im still ready to fuck him up worse wen Karene grabs me and tells me not to.......anyway long story short after the police were gone and we got home she got real mad at me for "hurting him so bad" im dumbfounded and still am but she wont talk to me right now and i dont understand why maybe the girls out ther could give me some much needed advice?? pleez?

[STDzRus]

She's on the rag.

I don't know man, women get like that.

[grasshopper420]

yes i know and shes not on the rag i just want to know why she would be mad at me wen i was quite literally protecting her by the way the police came by and got staements from us both and we must appear in court the 14 we arent in trouble they just want our testimonys

[NightProwler]

thats fucked up man, she didnt even thank you?

[radioned]

most ladies dont like violence end of

[partyguy420]

maybe she got beat up alot, maybe she grew up in a screew up house were dad beat moms ass evry nite u know shit like that. maybe her ex bf got the shit beat out of himself alot

[Mexicanhomeboy]

you gotta keep it under control man, I mean you can beat him up, but make sure not so much as he cant run away as you yell at him, and not have him seizuring on the floor. u probably have the kind who covers her eyes during a fight scene at the movies, and seeing it in real life freaks her out. i know that as a guy u think fights r cool, but girls have more feelings than guys and actually feel the pain that guy felt maybe she thinks its her fault that that guy ended up like that

[mikeo14]

maybe that was actually the other man she was cheating on you with and now she is going to bust in the bathroom while ur taking a shit and hand your a pregnacy test and say "its not yours...its...its phil's baby" and ur gunna findout that phil is the guy u beat up in the ally when he was actually just a meat store worker onhis way to pick up a new shipment and not phil at all but instead a guy named ron who was expecting his paycheck on friday so he could finally buy that widescreen tv he's always wanted.

[187]

maybe that was actually the other man she was cheating on you with and now she is going to bust in the bathroom while ur taking a shit and hand your a pregnacy test and say "its not yours...its...its phil's baby" and ur gunna findout that phil is the guy u beat up in the ally when he was actually just a meat store worker onhis way to pick up a new shipment and not phil at all but instead a guy named ron who was expecting his paycheck on friday so he could finally buy that widescreen tv he's always wanted.
hahhahahahha

[slipknotpsycho]

i'd say she didn't like seeing that side of you if the guy really was up to no good....

[kiwi]

:stoned: All I can say to you m8 is talk to her and find out why she feels this way, give her time she will talk to you. BTW I am moving this into the main lounge forum for you, so maybe you will get more advice. :thumbsup:

[flamingskullballs]

see...women wants you to immobolize them, and run...but you want to beat the living shit out of em...

[Ganjasaurusrex]

Hey dude here's my advice. You did the right thing. Take a stand and hold it. If you would of cut and run or let this guy get the better of you then what would she have thought of you? Thats right "no balls", "weak", "cant defend me" etc.
So you see its catch 22 with women not only on this issue but alot of other issues as well. Now theres a girl on here that says talk to her about her feelings. Shit.
This is the differerence between men and women. Your not a woman. This is logical reaction with a man any guy would agree even the cops if they were in your shoes protecting their own girl. They probably didnt care that you disabled the guy and were probably more interested in your technique. What were you supposed to do talk to the attacker about his feelings before he gut knifed you or your girl? Please.
As for the moves. Perfect.
Master Lee taught me many years ago in a specific style of martial arts specializing in nerve and joint strikes. (Lian-shi). Master Lee said you dont know the extent of the intentions of your attacker, always listen to your intuition, when he initiates you immobilize as quickly as possible summonning the rage of a lion, but only as a last resort. AS YOU DID, other wise you could face a knife or other weapon because guys don't stop in a fight until one IS immobilized is that logical.
This is something you cant logically reason to women about and a girl crying is DISTRACTING and putting you and her in MORE danger by breaking your concentration. Women don't understand this focus men have and need to maintain in danger.
You need to act and act quickly and effectively. You did it perfect by hyperextending the elbow joint, the knee joints work good as well. If a guys got a knife its fair game as far as I am concerned and I will not hold back in what I know and I will bust his ear drums with a cup strike at the first chance I get after the limbs are taken out.
The attacker should learn his lesson in conduct in society as a result. A damaged tendon for a year is good reminder of where NOT to put your hands. Your girl doesnt apprieciate the fact that this guy could have raped and killed your girl if it wasn't you there at that time with her or maybe the next girl behind you coming up the sidewalk by herself a few minutes later. She didnt stop to think about that did she? You did society a favor as I see it that man had rape on his mind and more than likely murder as well, it happens all the time. Trust me I know firsthand.
A very good girl-friend I went to Elementary school, Junior high and High school with was murdered in L.A by a street guy. She went to L.A. from Seattle to start an acting carreer only one month out of Highschool. Only (ONE DAY) there walking down the wrong street and she was raped and murdered because she wouldnt let the street guy have her walkman. So he made it into a power issue and beat the crap out her very bad and raped her and left her for dead in a back alley. I wont get into how violent he left her body as its makes me sick. That still pisses me off today because she was the most sweetest, most innocent person you could know and grow up with through your childhood with and did not deserve that. She didnt get to experiece the things in life that the rest of us have. Like having a family and all those things. That was in 1984 and that scumbag shitmaggot is still sitting in San Quentin today as a result so tell that to your girl. She should be greatful that you were at her side. "You didnt have to hurt him so bad". Shit. Bravo dude.
There was an immediate need for self defense and to act on a split second. That guy could have pulled a knife in an instant and jabbed her or you and you could have been another statistic in tommorows newspaper just like my friend.
So dont let it get to you. I think women have a hard time coping with violence even neccesarry violence. She'll more than likely come around in time and realize what COULD have happened given a number of scenarios to imagine on her own and then become more apprieciative as to what you did as time goes on. Stay as much on the quiet side as possible. She'll realize in time and if she does'nt find a new girl.

[robert42]

maybe he's her pimp?

Them Belly Full (But We Hungry)

[STDzRus]

Maybe she just doesn't like violence. Take her to a NRA meeting and see what she says.

[grasshopper420]

alright i gotta clear some shit up.... any one whos decided to make a crack at my situation can email me for my address and ill settle it with you right then and there sorry to sound mean but this aint the fuckin time ...... also weve been together for over 2 years and wold both very much like to get married soon third shes not the squeamish type i foud out wat was wrong and she wasnt afraid OF me she was afraid FOR me not that i could get hurt but that i could get into major trouble and she might of lost me for a very long time so to those that tried to help much oblige to those that are here to make fun of the situation you will rue the day that we should ever meet and to Kiwi thank you for moving my thread girl ;)

[grasshopper420]

to ganja sauras hit me up at [email protected] well talk martial arts for a while **wink**

[lateralus]

Perhaps she just doesn't want to see you in trouble with the law.

[Satan666]

Shes cheating on you

[WalkaWalka]

first how old are you guys

[RUNINL8]

...she was afraid FOR me not that i could get hurt but that i could get into major trouble and she might of lost me for a very long time...

Exactly what I was going to say. :) I've been thru similar situations with hubby and in other relationships in my past and while the bottom line with me was "Oh hell he/we could have been killed/arrested/etc." other factors that have come into play have been:


Over reaction from hubby/boyfriends that caused unnecessary scenes, racked up unnecessary fines, got folks arrested for no good reason other than someone being a hot head.


Hubby/boyfriend's tunnel vision saw/judged events as something they weren't and then he went into auto pilot mode and all hell breaks loose.

Also if you are living together and funds are tight then one of woman's biggest stress agents is "Oh shit, how do we or how would we have kept the lights on and bail you out of jail/pay the fines/pay for a lawyer/etc."

Just let her know your sorry and you hope to never go through that again but she needs to realize your just a man and prone to a few mistakes here and there. ;)

Stay safe,

NK - aka runinL8

[grasshopper420]

thanks runinl8 i did it already were now just as tight as b4 if not more and she did end up "thanking" me and pay special attention to those " "

[ScarlettCrush]

she probably just needs time to sort through her feelings about what happened dude. Nothing personal she just has a lot going on in her head right after the fact. Good to see you worked it out, good to communicate. :cool:

[WeedWorm]

well, yah know what...maybe its jus that time of the month my friend ;)

[ScarlettCrush]

pms is an acceptable defense for murder in the uk, lets not treat it so lightly ok?

[WalkaWalka]

eep

[Melton420]

lol yes i agree scarlett i agree whole heartedly... ive expierenced first hand, i learned it from my wife, dont mess with you guys lol

[OlympianBud]

Next time someone jumps her and you're together just sit back and watch and when it's all over and the perpetrator gone if she dares askin why you didn't intervene simply say..."Oh,I'm sorry baby...I didn't wanna hurt the poor guy!"

It's really dumb to excuse girls being stupid like that just cuz they're girls...I mean we all are human beings,right? When you're in trouble and someone helps you out of it you thank'em, you dun give them the shit she gave you...

Not that's what I think