Is this bad?

[STDzRus]

I got the most psychotic girl in my life pregnant.

She cuts on herself, she always talks about suicide, she's weird and distant from the world and will agree with anything you have to say.

That bothers me and that is why I broke up with her. I'll still be there for my kid.

Now..is it wrong that the major thing I find wrong with her is that she is FUCKING THE UGLIEST THING I HAVE EVER SEEN IN MY LIFE.

I hope my kid comes out with my genes. At least I have a little good looking in my system.

Oh dear higher power save me from this one.

[SensiRide]

Why did you sleep with her in the 1st place if she is so ugly and psychotic lol
Didnt you check she was on the pill or use condoms?

Anyway, in what way is she psychotic? Does she plan to let you see the baby when its born?
ps congratulations :thumbsup:
And if you have dark features and she is fair, chances are high it will look more like you, apparantly most babies look like their daddy

[esrabalamir]

wait a min ,telephone

[STDzRus]

Why did you sleep with her in the 1st place if she is so ugly and psychotic lol
Didnt you check she was on the pill or use condoms?

Anyway, in what way is she psychotic? Does she plan to let you see the baby when its born?
ps congratulations :thumbsup:
And if you have dark features and she is fair, chances are high it will look more like you, apparantly most babies look like their daddy

I am afraid to die a virgin.

She plans on letting me see the baby.

But she said "I love you" two seconds after she met me and she is very very very clingy. She cries alot and complains about very little things even though her life, even from the bad things she has told me, is fairly good. She sleeps with a lot of guys (had to get tested for STD's thank god I don't live up to my screenname). She cuts her wrist (even still) and the only reason she likes to party (and I mean EXTREMEM PARTY not the chill laid back) is because to piss her parents off. She likes to attract the police ON PURPOSE and she likes to get ARRESTED ON PURPOSE.

And thank you!

She has red hair I have dark brown.

She has bad skin complexion I have a smooth nice skin complexion.

Her eyes..I don't knowwhat colour they are..but mine are brown.

I'm tall she's short.

I have VERY VERY GOOD ORAL HYGEINE AND TEETH and her TEETH and oral hygeine are horrible. <--Another reason I broke up with her.

[STDzRus]

Oh yeah..I met her online. And anybody you meet through myspace is psycho haha.

But now that I know a bunch of people here in Illinois I hardly ever go online except for to talk to you guys.

My recommendation, don't be friends with anybody you meet online. They are all online for a reason.

*takes a deep look into my soul*

HAHA man I'm too sober right now.

[SensiRide]

Die a virgin? lol
And if she has red hair, then its gonna look like her, genes for red hair are even stronger than genes for dark hair.
Anyway, you shouldnt be concerned what the baby looks like, I know its a cliche-but as long as its healthy-thats what counts.

Can i ask what age you are and what age she is? She seems quite immature.....which is worrying if she is going to bring up your child the majority of the time.

Then again, maybe having this child will make her grow up and stop being so selfish.
Are you sure she is pregnant and not just attention seeking?

[Garden Knowm]

TRY accepting her... accept what has happened, do not fight reality...

BE being warm and present.. and she will change

Have negative thoughts about "your" baby's mom will come back and bite you in the ass

[STDzRus]

Um..I'm friends with her. She is very immature and even AFTER she found out she was pregnant she didn't grow much, she's still very immature.

She is 15 (she told me she was 17 I didn't find out until we were at the doctors office and she had to fill out the form and then she says, "Oh..I thought I told you that."

I am 17, graduated from school, working a full time job, helping around the house.

She is supposed to be looking for a job but apparently nobody will hire her. She is supposed to be going to school but apparently "it's too rough" for her.

Yes as long as my baby is healthy is all that matters, not like I'll love them any less.

I just feel bad about having a baby with an ugly woman, I mean I'm not shallow, I just don't really want to deal with her, and it's not a negative thought. MAYBE if she grew up something else could become but she's just plain nasty. She would have to change a lot about her. Start brushing her teeth, shaving her body, seeking mental help. etc etc.

I KNOW I am not ready for a baby and I told her we should think about adoption, she REFUSES, saying that she wants the baby for herself (even though she HAS no way to raise the kid on her own but I can understand that from a "I don't want to lose something that is my own blood" kind of theory.)

But still, adoption is the best. Giving the baby up for adoption will give that kid a better life than her or I could.

And HOPEFULLY I PRAY AND PRAY to whatever higher power there is that she is not raised by her or her mother (who is equally weird, outdated, dissociative qualities, and psychotic). I plan on taking her to court for custody if things don't change within the first two or three years. I even plan on moving the kid into my house, maybe she could move in, but there will be no relationship.

/blabbing

[SensiRide]

15! How on earth can you bring up and provide for a baby at 15- she is a kid herself.
I am nearly 21 and I wouldnt dream of putting myself in that position yet.
From what you have said so far, it sounds like she is having this baby to feel better about herself, and for someone to 'love her' unconditionally. Maybe you could offer to go to counselling with her and see if you can get to the root of her insecurities?

Need to go to work now, but Ill post more from there....

[dark0ne]

i know where your coming from, you guys are young to be having kids. unfortunatly i only see this turning up on montel years down the line. adoption sounds like the only option if she's not down with abortion, but this will be a BIG wake up call for her, when she's 5 1/2 months down the line and your no ware to be found be ready my freind for the late night calls that go "I hate myself and i need pickels". they are coming, not now but soon.

to you a big,
good luck

[STDzRus]

i know where your coming from, you guys are young to be having kids. unfortunatly i only see this turning up on montel years down the line. adoption sounds like the only option if she's not down with abortion, but this will be a BIG wake up call for her, when she's 5 1/2 months down the line and your no ware to be found be ready my freind for the late night calls that go "I hate myself and i need pickels". they are coming, not now but soon.

to you a big,
good luck

She's 4 months next tuesday.

I told her about abortion when we found out, which was 3 1/2 months ago and she said..hmm..then now..it's too late and she uses that as an excuse.

She wants me to be with her, I blocked her phone number. I only associate with her through online as of right now. Still deciding on what I want to do.

DNA test is a 100 percent option I'm taking.

[SensiRide]

Yeah as I was saying

I think you need to have a real long chat with this girl, after all she is going to be a mother and at the very least she needs to know you will be there for her.
Take her out, make her feel good about herself, even though you obviously donâ??t want to be with her anymore, try giving her a little attention so that she doesnâ??t feel like she is going through this on her own, if she feels supported and has someone she can talk to â?? maybe she wont be so hard on herself and stop self harming and start to think about looking after this child.
I take it she has to drop out of school/college now so maybe you could offer to look after the kid part time when its born to give her time to get a decent education and therefore be able to provide her child with what it needs and deserves.

You both need to pull together despite your differences for the sake of your kid

[STDzRus]

You both need to pull together despite your differences for the sake of your kid


Now I don't think staying together for the kids despite our differences is the best option.

I would rather have my kid(s) raised in an environment that is happy and there is less conflict. With her there is just conflict (when we are in a relationship). I still associate with her online and go to doctor visits with her, but that is where is stops. Sorry, but thanks for the advice, it's just..we've talked many times, we've broken up and gotten back together many times. This isn't meant to be and I am not going to post something that needs to be said for the sake if my kid ever reads this haha.

I currently have a g/f who has a kid (she's 22) and right now things are good. I see HER kid often and don't really raise him but I still play with him and a little active in his life. I don't feel the relationship was ever right.

Me and her (my ex) were together for 2 months. I met her the first day and started going out with her, didn't really know who she was. Found out who she was and didn't like it, didn't like it all. Tried to make things work, they just don't work.

No matter what, I'm here for the baby. Not her.

But I'm not going to say that because if I am paying for anything it's for my kid, not her, I won't pay child support to her because I know her habits and she'll blow it on "eyeliner and booze"

[SensiRide]

No, you misinterpreted, I said pull together not stay together
Anyway, good luck, Iâ??m sure you will be fine :thumbsup:

[STDzRus]

Oooh okay..pull together. Now that I can do!

Hehe thanks Sensi!

[dirtyhippy420]

It looks like you let your dick get you in quite a dilemma....

[STDzRus]

My head just doesn't know how think.

No pun intended.

[Swizzy89304]

STDzRus, i kinda know what you're going through. I used to date a girl like that (called Rachel, unfortunately we just liked the look of eachother and starting going out the moment we met. I didnt even know her, lol the week after I met her she was in the nuthouse... again). This girl sounds EXTREMELY unstable, especially as she is carrying a kid at the mo. I don't come onto these boards often - stopped smoking cannabis a few days ago as im on new meds (yes im a nutter aswell lol) but i might buy some later on - anyways going off topic here. I used to cut each day, take ODs etc and even did something that very very nearly put me in a coffin. Cos of that incident, I wont be allowed to own a rifle when im older, and I love shooting (if you still dont know what it is I did, work it out when sober! lol). Anyways, if you need any advice just email me at [email protected] cos Im sure you really dont want this girl topping herself or taking an OD while shes got the kid. I know it may seem selfish, but even if you cant do it after birth, at least keep her happy while shes pregnant so she doesnt do anything to harm the kid (even accidental). Just think of the kid, when the time comes do ya best to make sure it doesnt turn out like her (personality wise, sometimes you just cant help mental disorders as they can be hereditary). Hope everything goes ok dude, send us some pics of the kid when it pops out yer?
=P

[STDzRus]

Hell yeah pictures are a must!

This is gonna be a cannabis.com baby! haha


For some reason that sounds like I am going to shoot him up with THC but I'm not.

ANd thanks swizzy.

[MullManiac]

Die a virgin? lol
And if she has red hair, then its gonna look like her, genes for red hair are even stronger than genes for dark hair.

There is a less then 25% chance that the baby will have red hair :p, it's a recesive trait and dark hair is domanant.

[lateralus]

Oh mannnn. When you mentioned her on AIM, I didn't think it was that bad.

Sensi, I also misinterpreted pull together for 'stay together', and I agree that if someone is so repulsed with their ex at such an early point in the relationship, there's no way in hell the relationship is going to work unless some drastic changes and compromises are made. Being with her is more than likely going to mean unhappiness on STD's part, and it will inevitably show through on the relationship, and thus the child's upbringing.

I'm no psychiatrist, but I've listened to enough Love Line to assert that this girl is in need of some professional help (given). If you decide to keep the baby, I believe it's incredibly necessary for her to seek out said help to work out some of her issues before she even contemplates being able to take care of another human being. According to Freud, most issues stem from childhood experiences, and this child's experiences aren't going to be worth mentioning if the kid's mother remains in her current emotionally unstable mental state for much longer. Seeing as how, even if she does choose to get help, it takes time (more than five months!) to get over these sorts of hurdles, I think you are on the right track considering other options.

Abortion and adoption. I'm for both. If she really cares about the kid, she will take a look at herself and realize she's in no position to be raising a kid. And a fifteen year old to top it off. Everyone says the decision is up to the mother, but I think it should be up to BOTH parents. Afterall there are two lives in question. Mother and father. It's your life too, and I for one wouldn't want to be paying child support just to see my kid being raised by someone who can't even take care of herself.

My two cents, sorry if I didn't add anything to the discussion.

[Melton420]

hold on ... shes phycotic and you made whoopie with her, .... why????

[king kong bong]

jerry,jerry,jerry!!!!...sorry i just had to

[STDzRus]

Oh mannnn. When you mentioned her on AIM, I didn't think it was that bad.

Sensi, I also misinterpreted pull together for 'stay together', and I agree that if someone is so repulsed with their ex at such an early point in the relationship, there's no way in hell the relationship is going to work unless some drastic changes and compromises are made. Being with her is more than likely going to mean unhappiness on STD's part, and it will inevitably show through on the relationship, and thus the child's upbringing.

I'm no psychiatrist, but I've listened to enough Love Line to assert that this girl is in need of some professional help (given). If you decide to keep the baby, I believe it's incredibly necessary for her to seek out said help to work out some of her issues before she even contemplates being able to take care of another human being. According to Freud, most issues stem from childhood experiences, and this child's experiences aren't going to be worth mentioning if the kid's mother remains in her current emotionally unstable mental state for much longer. Seeing as how, even if she does choose to get help, it takes time (more than five months!) to get over these sorts of hurdles, I think you are on the right track considering other options.

Abortion and adoption. I'm for both. If she really cares about the kid, she will take a look at herself and realize she's in no position to be raising a kid. And a fifteen year old to top it off. Everyone says the decision is up to the mother, but I think it should be up to BOTH parents. Afterall there are two lives in question. Mother and father. It's your life too, and I for one wouldn't want to be paying child support just to see my kid being raised by someone who can't even take care of herself.

My two cents, sorry if I didn't add anything to the discussion.


WHOA.

Dude...you scare me haha.

I listen to Love Line, dude your too much like me. Who sent you heeeeeeere!?

[SensiRide]

hold on ... shes phycotic and you made whoopie with her, .... why????

Made whoopie? :confused:

[STDzRus]

Made whoopie he's talking about I spanked her red and pulled her hair and said "get over here".

No..just kidding.

Don't know why I said that. hmm> WTF

I came back and got up and forgot.

[Caruso329]

Wow dude.. you fucked up.

Haha, just kidding (not really), but anyways, I'd see my kid and be a good father and when you get old enough to where you think you could support her I would fight for custody. Or either be there enough for the child that he/she would rather live with you and once they reach an old enough age and state in court they want to live with their dad. Good luck man. And I'm talking to a girl who already has a 15 month old at 20, but she's really sweet and so is her son.. but I told her that if anything between us happens (we're just talking not dating) I can't afford to take care of a kid thats not my own and she understands that, so that's cool.