ScarlettCrush
09-25-2005, 07:01 PM
That is the last time I post my occupation/website on public forum.
I've always hated how people treat me and talk to me afterwards, though everyone on forum had been so cool to me that it wouldn't matter to the few who didn't know.
Here are the biggest annoyances
1. they assume I am going to do it to them, and am eager to do so.
When I meet a website designer I don't think they are going to make me a website while I'm not looking and ambush me with their html.
Assuming that I would hijack an unwilling and unpaying person to my dungeon and do all kinds of unpleasant freaky shit for free, is seriously insulting. I'm a dominatrix, not a fucking criminal, and why would I want to do it for free with someone who doesn't like it when I get paid $200 an hour to session with those who do?
2. They assume my beau is my bitch. (Usually putting him in whatever situation they have imagine, wanted, seen in a porn or some really extreme pulp fiction shit)
If I see a website, I don't assume dude has made one "exactly" like that for his wife, or that he has made one just like I have always wanted, or seen on television for his wife. If she even has one it is very very good and exactly how she wants it. Same with my man.
4. Lame remarks and stupid jokes involving me or alluding to my occupation. Clever insinuations are good, obvious japes are not.
5. I am the same person I was yesterday. I am not a cold bitch, I am not mean, I dont wear leather all the time and there are not hoardes of men at my feet. I am not a steriotype.
6. It is really degrading when anyone assumes I have sex with my clients. If I said I was an escort, I can see where folk might think I did a little extra, but I didn't say escort, provider, hooker, lady of the evening, ho, or even Mistress because those all allude to something a lot more directly sexual. I offer more exotic fare, and no sex.
3. I own and run this business myself and have for years. I make a profit off my skills and equipment. I have invested lots of time and money to develop those skills and buy the equipment, plus my work clothes are hella expensive and mostly uncomfortable. I do my own advertising, website design, pictures, bookkeeping, and public relations. I have been in magazines, published articles and given classes regarding my occupation. I have had people fly across the country to consult with me, I have seen many people from other countries. I am internationally known and semi-famous, my reputation is sterling and I am extremely talented.
I never get asked about that, I never get props for that, no one ever has recognized what hard work I have done, and how hard it is.
I could do other things, but this is what I do well.
I've always hated how people treat me and talk to me afterwards, though everyone on forum had been so cool to me that it wouldn't matter to the few who didn't know.
Here are the biggest annoyances
1. they assume I am going to do it to them, and am eager to do so.
When I meet a website designer I don't think they are going to make me a website while I'm not looking and ambush me with their html.
Assuming that I would hijack an unwilling and unpaying person to my dungeon and do all kinds of unpleasant freaky shit for free, is seriously insulting. I'm a dominatrix, not a fucking criminal, and why would I want to do it for free with someone who doesn't like it when I get paid $200 an hour to session with those who do?
2. They assume my beau is my bitch. (Usually putting him in whatever situation they have imagine, wanted, seen in a porn or some really extreme pulp fiction shit)
If I see a website, I don't assume dude has made one "exactly" like that for his wife, or that he has made one just like I have always wanted, or seen on television for his wife. If she even has one it is very very good and exactly how she wants it. Same with my man.
4. Lame remarks and stupid jokes involving me or alluding to my occupation. Clever insinuations are good, obvious japes are not.
5. I am the same person I was yesterday. I am not a cold bitch, I am not mean, I dont wear leather all the time and there are not hoardes of men at my feet. I am not a steriotype.
6. It is really degrading when anyone assumes I have sex with my clients. If I said I was an escort, I can see where folk might think I did a little extra, but I didn't say escort, provider, hooker, lady of the evening, ho, or even Mistress because those all allude to something a lot more directly sexual. I offer more exotic fare, and no sex.
3. I own and run this business myself and have for years. I make a profit off my skills and equipment. I have invested lots of time and money to develop those skills and buy the equipment, plus my work clothes are hella expensive and mostly uncomfortable. I do my own advertising, website design, pictures, bookkeeping, and public relations. I have been in magazines, published articles and given classes regarding my occupation. I have had people fly across the country to consult with me, I have seen many people from other countries. I am internationally known and semi-famous, my reputation is sterling and I am extremely talented.
I never get asked about that, I never get props for that, no one ever has recognized what hard work I have done, and how hard it is.
I could do other things, but this is what I do well.