IrieAllie
08-05-2005, 08:42 PM
Get ready....this is going to be long....
Okay--so I've told some of you before about mr. irie...sometimes he'll smoke, it'll be great, and he's done...just doesn't smoke for weeks, months, years, whatever. And when HE'S done, he expects ME to be done. Well, I don't ever hide the fact that I smoke. In fact, I ONLY smoke when he's here (if the kids are here). I never smoke in front of my kids--or while I am home alone with them.
So anyhow, last night, I smoked, all was well. Get up this morning, and I am emptying my dishwasher. I usually keep my trusty tiny rubbermaid container of weed up high in the cabinet. So, I could see it up there, but needed to move it, to put something away. EMPTY. I mean this had a 1/4 in there, just put in yesterday. Now, I KNOW my husband took it, for whatever reason. And if he put it down the garbage disposal, I will personally ring his neck. So here's the thing...
What do I do? I feel like I am 15 again, and my mom found and took my smokes. But I am 35. Responsible. Thanks to weed, I no longer have headaches, my stress level has dropped tremondously, and I actually SLEEP through the night (usually, I only sleep in 30-45 minute intervals). Most importantly, my mysterious night sweats have vanished. We are talking waking up, my clothing and hair SOAKED. I have had tests done out the wazoo...checking for lupus, thyroid disorder, you name it....nothing found. Started smoking weed again, and I feel wonderful. Seriously. I mean, I ABSOLUTELY ENJOY the feeling of being high, don't get me wrong....but it HELPS me mentally, physically and emotionally, too.
Now, explain to me why it would be okay to sit out on our deck, and throw shots back in front of the kids, but I can't smoke a bowl or two somewhere away from them? I completely understand the general lack of knowledge by many people regarding the benefits of MJ. But for my HUSBAND of NINE YEARS to be all sneaky, and do something with my weed??? I don't get that. If you have an issue, TALK TO ME. Don't like me smoking? Tell me WHY. WHY would it be just fine and dandy for me to get shitfaced, barf all over the place, and feel like crap? Because it's LEGAL? Never mind the fact that you DO destroy brain cells when you drink. You CAN damage your liver. Drunk people can get nasty, mean and downright RUDE. I mean, even him....if he's drinking, he can go from happy-go-lucky to pissed off in a new york minute--usually over something stupid. But when he's stoned, he's silly, fun, and laid-back. Gee, that's a toss up, eh?
Don't get me wrong here, I like to throw back a few when I am watching a football game or something. But I mean, my father in law was an alcoholic....that was, before he died suddenly, the day after he turned 47. So wouldn't you think that alcohol use/abuse would have the effect on him that my smoking weed does????
I am rambling, I know....but I am really unsure of how to approach this. I mean, I am easy to talk to...but I will defend my smoking...period. Why is it that my smoking is such a terrible thing to him? I am a much happer and relaxed wife and mother, and feel SO much better....yes, I know you will all say "Just ask him." And I will....but it's hard for me not to be pissed when I have always been open with him...yet he feels it's appropriate to address the situation as if I was his teenage child, instead of his wife. So that's what makes my blood boil...the fact that he thinks he has the RIGHT to decide what I will or will not do.
I will not smoke weed because he SAYS so, I will smoke weed because it IS so.
I feel better now...thanks all. But let me know what you think :confused:
Okay--so I've told some of you before about mr. irie...sometimes he'll smoke, it'll be great, and he's done...just doesn't smoke for weeks, months, years, whatever. And when HE'S done, he expects ME to be done. Well, I don't ever hide the fact that I smoke. In fact, I ONLY smoke when he's here (if the kids are here). I never smoke in front of my kids--or while I am home alone with them.
So anyhow, last night, I smoked, all was well. Get up this morning, and I am emptying my dishwasher. I usually keep my trusty tiny rubbermaid container of weed up high in the cabinet. So, I could see it up there, but needed to move it, to put something away. EMPTY. I mean this had a 1/4 in there, just put in yesterday. Now, I KNOW my husband took it, for whatever reason. And if he put it down the garbage disposal, I will personally ring his neck. So here's the thing...
What do I do? I feel like I am 15 again, and my mom found and took my smokes. But I am 35. Responsible. Thanks to weed, I no longer have headaches, my stress level has dropped tremondously, and I actually SLEEP through the night (usually, I only sleep in 30-45 minute intervals). Most importantly, my mysterious night sweats have vanished. We are talking waking up, my clothing and hair SOAKED. I have had tests done out the wazoo...checking for lupus, thyroid disorder, you name it....nothing found. Started smoking weed again, and I feel wonderful. Seriously. I mean, I ABSOLUTELY ENJOY the feeling of being high, don't get me wrong....but it HELPS me mentally, physically and emotionally, too.
Now, explain to me why it would be okay to sit out on our deck, and throw shots back in front of the kids, but I can't smoke a bowl or two somewhere away from them? I completely understand the general lack of knowledge by many people regarding the benefits of MJ. But for my HUSBAND of NINE YEARS to be all sneaky, and do something with my weed??? I don't get that. If you have an issue, TALK TO ME. Don't like me smoking? Tell me WHY. WHY would it be just fine and dandy for me to get shitfaced, barf all over the place, and feel like crap? Because it's LEGAL? Never mind the fact that you DO destroy brain cells when you drink. You CAN damage your liver. Drunk people can get nasty, mean and downright RUDE. I mean, even him....if he's drinking, he can go from happy-go-lucky to pissed off in a new york minute--usually over something stupid. But when he's stoned, he's silly, fun, and laid-back. Gee, that's a toss up, eh?
Don't get me wrong here, I like to throw back a few when I am watching a football game or something. But I mean, my father in law was an alcoholic....that was, before he died suddenly, the day after he turned 47. So wouldn't you think that alcohol use/abuse would have the effect on him that my smoking weed does????
I am rambling, I know....but I am really unsure of how to approach this. I mean, I am easy to talk to...but I will defend my smoking...period. Why is it that my smoking is such a terrible thing to him? I am a much happer and relaxed wife and mother, and feel SO much better....yes, I know you will all say "Just ask him." And I will....but it's hard for me not to be pissed when I have always been open with him...yet he feels it's appropriate to address the situation as if I was his teenage child, instead of his wife. So that's what makes my blood boil...the fact that he thinks he has the RIGHT to decide what I will or will not do.
I will not smoke weed because he SAYS so, I will smoke weed because it IS so.
I feel better now...thanks all. But let me know what you think :confused: