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[Tereyn]

HI I am Tereyn. I am 14 years old right now.I have been admitted to a near-by behavioral health and rehabilitation center (2 be short rehab.) i am in there for alchohol, and drugs abuse. My dad is also in it with me. He has been there a lot longer then me. I realize I am young at the tender age of 14 but sometimes it's hard to break the habits. If you are a stoner ya know what I am going through. You are almost always craving. Every minute of every day! I am in a all adult crowd. It is really uncomfortable at times for me because I am the youngest to be enrolled. Everyone looks at me with sorrow and regret for me like I am a bad kid. Sometimes I am ashamed of it. I used to smoke Marijuana joints in the bathrooms at school and have been addicted to cigarettes and alchohol ever since I was maybe about 11.Both my parents were on crank,speed, pot. Just about anything you name it. So I am very familiar with drugs in my family.They say if you want to change you need to change your surroundings, friends, and habits. My friends will always stay the same.I am ashamed of what I did. But now I need your opinion. I am seeing this guy and we both dig each other but he is a metalhead and I am a punk. I have no problem with metalheads yet he is a stoner. I am no angel; however I mean I used to be one too. I am afraid if I go out with him he will make me back into my old habits and I know that I need to change my friends but I am falling for him and care a lot about him. I have tried to tell him but I am not passive enough. I wrote him a long note about how I think he should quit smoking period and not drop out of school. This guy has failed 6th grade like 3 times so that makes him 14 in 6th grade and he is failing again. He is not as dumb as he seems. I really like him but he wants to smoke out with me a couple of joints of marijuana and as much as i want to i am scared my dad will find out and tell my rehab conseler. I haven't gotten the piss test yet so what shall i do??? thanks

[Lulu]

Honey my heart is breaking for you :( You need to give yourself a little breather. You sound like you've been through a really awful time. You need people to love and who'll love you back and support you through this. You're not going to get that from him. He's obviously hurting just like you.

Hang up your worries for a little while, you're 14years of age. Try new stuff, get involved in sport, or martial arts. Get yourself fit, work out - you won't regret it. But give yourself some options. Think big! Where do you wanna be in 6years time, believe me, time flies......... You can be whatever you want, you just have to want it badly enough. Give yourself a dream, you'll find the way - you don't sound like a dumb kid :)

You had a rocky start is all. No problem ;) just a few waves, Best of luck babe I'll be thinking bout ye :)

[LeLe420]

i agree with lulu 100%. I think that you have seen and been through alot more than most 14 year olds. this is a realy important time for you. you need to look at yourself right now and figure out what you want in life. Love is a wonderful thing but it can also cause a lot of pain. so before you get in a whole lot deeper, maybe you should sit down with him and ask him if he thinks that he can quit doing drugs to be with you. tell him that you are trying to make postive changes in your life and you can't be with someone who isn't going to be supportive. if he says that he can't then tell him that youare sorry you do care about him but your first priority is to yourself and your future. you can't make people change. believe me i know, i tried and ended up getting into drugs a whole deeper than just pot and alcohol. I think that you are smart enough to have gotten this far in thinking yourself but because of your feelings for this guy have decided that someone elses advice may lead to youand him being together, like i said before been there done that. you know in your heart what is best for you just listen.

How similar are your backgrounds? I am just wondering because he may represent to you the familar, what you had before rehab. I am sure that all this must have been scary for you. going to rehab must have been hard since all the things that you and your family has known aren't there, could this guy be a gate to the world that you may not miss but that you are surely accostomed to?
just some food for thought. no one but you can make these choices. I hope that you will find peace in what ever you decide to do. and if not then you learned a very valuable lesson. i wish you the best.
LeLe420

[Lit Up]

This is dumb, tell that asshole that if he doesnt want to change for you, he can fuck off. You sound like your very easily influenced by others, if your not supposed to be smoking, don't. Its plain and simple, i dont really have sympathy for people who get all hung up on shit. Just dont do it, tell him that youve changed and that he needs to respect that, if he cant even do that he's not worth your time, leave his ass in 6th grade and get on with it. Clean your act up, cause i know how it is, if you get in some shit now, everyone you know will think your a just troublemaker and will always see you like that, thats what happened to me and i said fuck em, i went to college and i play football at college. Its funny how their feelings change when you end up being successful, i still say fuck em though. i know who my real friends are. Peace





CjL

[Tereyn]

Thanks you guys, I mean I think you have opened my eyes a whole lot. I needed food for thought actually. Even though the last reply came out kinda straight-foward I award your aggressiveness. I am way too passive. I am a easily influenced drug addict. I will admit it. I am not afraid. Our backgrounds are sort of similar his dad died because of a bad drug deal. My dad I don't live with because he has been caught too many times with marijuana and speed and probably some other drugs I have never heard of him doing. My mom well let's not get into that she doesn't tell me anything she lives seperately out in Oregon. I do need to have a talk with him. If he can't change for me then fuck him he is out of my books and i go on. You guys are right. I can't thank you enough again.

[gs8778]

So your punk. Tell him your'e hardcore straight edge. As a metal head he should be able to accept that

[gs8778]

http://www.straight-edge.com/definition.html

[sev7enCrows]

Tereyn Said : "This guy has failed 6th grade like 3 times so that makes him 14 in 6th grade and he is failing again"

This guy sounds like he's dumb and dumber , leave his ass in 6th grade , if this
brain-less, dick-less , hope-less tool is 14 and in 6th grade hes got a lot more problems than jsut tokin up

this mother fucker seriously needs 2 call up Hooked On Phonix

heres the # 1 - 800 - A B C D E F G

if you dont' get help at charter, please , please get help somewhere else

[Tereyn]

LOL... umm yeah. I used to be straight edge til' all my stupid ass stoner racist friends got me into being a stoner punk. damn friends. they always invite company. Your right maybe this isn't all right for me, i dunno. I was just happy to date again. I am a very foolish girl, obviously...

[weedfean]

i did not want to read all that shit you put on there do you smoke and what kind of music do you like

[sev7enCrows]

i'm with weedfean 100%

[sev7enCrows]

id rather be a awesome ass stoner punk than a non weed smokin straight edge fuck head

[weedfean]

id rather be a awesome ass stoner punk than a non weed smokin straight edge fuck head
hell yeah

[Tereyn]

I like any kind of rock but my fav. bands are Korn, Slipknot, Mudvayne, iron maiden, ac dc, misfits, the cure, the smiths, sublime, bob marley, dead kennedys, social distortion, shit like that. I don't know about being a stoner again. I really want to. My friend made up a stupid song:
They say that being sober is hard to do.
Now I know I know it is true,
don't say that this is the end,
instead of sobriety I wish I were smoking joints again!
Yeah I am going to smoke again. I can't help it. I am too weak. I need it. *sigh* I smoked marijuana, chronic, stress normal stuff really.

[gs8778]

dude, she's only 14 though and has been doing it sine age 11. Thats not a good thing

[weedfean]

I like any kind of rock but my fav. bands are Korn, Slipknot, Mudvayne, iron maiden, ac dc, misfits, the cure, the smiths, sublime, bob marley, dead kennedys, social distortion, shit like that. I don't know about being a stoner again. I really want to. My friend made up a stupid song:
They say that being sober is hard to do.
Now I know I know it is true,
don't say that this is the end,
instead of sobriety I wish I were smoking joints again!
Yeah I am going to smoke again. I can't help it. I am too weak. I need it. *sigh* I smoked marijuana, chronic, stress normal stuff really.
you like all the music i like

[weedfean]

your a chick

[Tereyn]

yeah of course i am a chick! lol ur a guy?

[weedfean]

yeah im a guy, im on probation for six months i have four months left i can't smoke until i get off it fucking sucks

[weedfean]

you got a e-mail adress

[Tereyn]

yeah.. [email protected] u?

[weedfean]

yeah, [email protected]

[weedfean]

e-mail me

[Tereyn]

ok i already did. :)

[weedfean]

again, again!!

[sev7enCrows]

weedfean presistent arent we ? haha , my kind of guy , get that pootie tang lol HAHAHAH

"life be fast and life be slow , so lets smoke sum joints and fuck sum ho's

[Tereyn]

LOL I had that damn Sublime song stuck in my head all day since I read your sig. lol I know I am only be young once so why can't i smoke all i want now? But then again why make the worse of it? I dunno. It's hard to get off this shit lol. I would get new friend but then If I did that then I wouldn't have any. All of my friends are stoners and all the good ones well we don't hang around much because then they keep on and on about the bible. There is nothing wrong with the bible just I can't go by everything no matter how hard I try so it is frustrating sometimes.

[maelly]

look babe-
youve been through and seen a lot of shit that you shouldnt have for the age you are. you need to set higher standards for yourself and say "im too good for this guy", i mean, hes failed 6th grade 3 times and going for a 4th???? do you really think this is the guy you should be getting involved with when your trying to turn your life around? i can tell you its not at all, you deserve MUCH better. you deserve a guy that is going to support your choices and decisions, not someone conflicts with them. this kid is dumb if he failed 6th grade 3 times, im sorry but its just not that hard to pass 6th grade. he obviously doesnt respect you if he knows your story and still asks you to smoke with him. its not worth it, just stay sober for now and later in your life when your out of trouble you can start smoking when you dont have to worry about getting drug tested or in trouble.
you are not a bad kid at all, but you really need to stop using drugs and alchohol so you can make a good future for yourself. you do not want to go through your life addicted to drugs and alchohol and getting arrested for it all the time. you realize that you have a problem, and this is the best time to fix it, trust me, you dont want to be dealing with this the rest of your life, you can still turn things completely around. i know that if you just stay strong you can do it, and when you do you will have a much happier, stress-free and high life.
good luck sweetie.

[Tereyn]

I don't know. I am so torn between. I have been sober for about 43 days LOL. why break it now? but then again I have like a angel and a devil on my shoulder. I hate this so much. Thanks for your advice. we are going on a date tommorrow. I guess only I can decide what to do now.