budlover13
09-27-2010, 10:57 PM
So, I'm divorced for 6 years and have been remarried for 3. My son and I are VERY happy with my wife and I wish I could do more for her. So the question I have to pose is this:
This "friend" came over Saturday because his son and mine are best friends and I told him he could park at my house(We were having the local Raisin Day parade). Both of our children were in it and everything was good. My ex-wife came to the house to pick up our son for her visitation weekend and instantly started to hit in my "friend".
He, being married and a cop, has had his share of extramarital activity. It's not hard when you're a cop. He ended up spending the entire afternoon with my ex and was VERY friendly when they came back by the house.
When I picked up my son on Sunday, we talked about how his weekend went and whatnot, general convo. When I asked what time he got in bed Sat, he said it was late because his mom was texting my "friend" at 12:30am. His wife was out of town and I know he has cheated on her before. Hell, she was a married woman when they met!
Well, needless to say, I wasn't too happy with him. My wife(current) is perplexed because I'm upset. She thinks that becauser I got mad at my "friend" I still have feelings for my ex. I told my wife that my problem wasn't with my ex, but my "friend". I feel as though he totally disrespected me, my wife, my son, and his kids.
So how should I handle this? I don't want to take away my son's best friend, but his dad is a whole other story. Most women I've talked to said "You still have feelings.", the men I talked to said I should kick his ass. I feel the latter, but my medicine has helped me stay calm during the storm.
Opinions? All are welcome. I've talked to a lot of men about this, but I've only spoken to my wife, mom, and mother-in-law about it. They all say I shouldn't be mad.
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This "friend" came over Saturday because his son and mine are best friends and I told him he could park at my house(We were having the local Raisin Day parade). Both of our children were in it and everything was good. My ex-wife came to the house to pick up our son for her visitation weekend and instantly started to hit in my "friend".
He, being married and a cop, has had his share of extramarital activity. It's not hard when you're a cop. He ended up spending the entire afternoon with my ex and was VERY friendly when they came back by the house.
When I picked up my son on Sunday, we talked about how his weekend went and whatnot, general convo. When I asked what time he got in bed Sat, he said it was late because his mom was texting my "friend" at 12:30am. His wife was out of town and I know he has cheated on her before. Hell, she was a married woman when they met!
Well, needless to say, I wasn't too happy with him. My wife(current) is perplexed because I'm upset. She thinks that becauser I got mad at my "friend" I still have feelings for my ex. I told my wife that my problem wasn't with my ex, but my "friend". I feel as though he totally disrespected me, my wife, my son, and his kids.
So how should I handle this? I don't want to take away my son's best friend, but his dad is a whole other story. Most women I've talked to said "You still have feelings.", the men I talked to said I should kick his ass. I feel the latter, but my medicine has helped me stay calm during the storm.
Opinions? All are welcome. I've talked to a lot of men about this, but I've only spoken to my wife, mom, and mother-in-law about it. They all say I shouldn't be mad.
__________________
God is great, man is not;
man made whiskey, God made pot!