Wow, I think I may be being cheated on...

[rebgirl420]

Yeah...by the new guy Robby.

It hurts to breath and I feel like I'm going to throw up. Somethings awry here guys....

Somethings awry I can just feel it.




Oh god, oh god........

[psychocat]

I know this may not be of much comfort but , if someone cheats on you then you're better off without them.
Relationships are as much about trust as they are about anything else, when a person cheats it destroys trust, once that happens it's best to cut your losses and move on. In my mind if someone cheats it shows a complete disregard for the feelings of thier partner and if they don't care about your feelings then why should you give a damn about thiers ?

I know it's a cliche but "you deserve better" , that is of course assuming your fears are proven justified.

I hope for your sake that you are wrong.

[rebgirl420]

Yeah I found out after I moved in with him that he may have cheated on his ex with me and I had no clue. If I did I would have never hung out with him. I figure if he did it with her he'd do it with me. So after he came clean about that shit has been really weird and tense. That trust is gone you know so now I'm taking everything that he does that is semi-shady as he is cheating.

He has plenty of friends who are girls which is okay I suppose but he's really weird about it and secretive. Then today I found the history on the computer and he has been looking at personal ads and when I confronted him about it he said it was "just for laughs".

[rebgirl420]

And now he erased the histories and put passwords up...

Yeah somethings awry...

[psychocat]

well,,, if I'm honest I would have to say that he's not doing a great deal to put your mind at rest.
There are keyloggers available that enable you to find out what anyone is doing on a computer, they're often sold as a means for parents to spy on thier kids. :D
My only real advice would be (assuming guilt) ,kick him out on his arse.
I live by the rule of never accepting less than I believe I'm worth.
Sounds like it's time for you to do some serious weighing up , don't sell yourself short, only you can make the decisions that shape your future.
Good luck :thumbsup:

[DOUGAL25]

Relationships are as much about trust as they are about anything else, when a person cheats it destroys trust, once that happens it's best to cut your losses and move on.

True that, found it out the hard way
:stoned:

[Islandborn]

Happens to the best of us. Move on and forget it, clearly they werent a true friend. Don't think you will have much trouble moving on.

[rebgirl420]

I demanded that we sit down and discuss this nonsense.

He told me that he would never cheat and that if he decided things weren't working out he'd sit down and talk to me about it before he did anything.

But hey, isn't that what everyone gets told?

I dunno, I told him we need to build our trust back up if we want things to be where they were before. He agreed and I suppose we'll both work on it. I love him to death but I refuse to put up with this shit for much longer.

If stuff doesn't improve in a month I'm tucking and rolling.

[NextLineIsMine]

And you just met the guy a few weeks ago. Not to sound negative but I can smell the death of your relationship from the other side of the world

[rebgirl420]

I've known him for almost 2 months.




Yeah I know. It's a shame too. I'm not giving up yet though. This is how John and I started and we were together for 5 years and the only reason we broke up was because of my doing.

[Italiano715]

I also think it should be about compromise just as much as the trust being there. That way when things do go wrong, you will be able to sit down and figure out what needs to be done to fix it.

I find it shady that you (not you, but in general) would need to hide things from your significant other. That's supposed to be your lifeline and your rock. She's supposed to be the one you talk to when you have a shitty day to cheer up.

IDK, but I hope you work everything out with him. It would be a shame to let go of something you felt could be the one. Talking to him directly was a good thing to do! I commend your bravery! LOL Most girls I know seem to talk about problems with their friends rather than TO the problem itself (the guy).

[JohnnyZ]

You should never have to check the history of your significant other's computer. That right there tells you that you don't trust them at all, so you shouldn't be with them.

[8182KSKUSH]

Damn...
I don't know what to say, but you are fucking hot.
Not just physically, but yeah that too, but your perspective and personality, you deserve a bonafied badass stud, just leave him and move on, you can afford to be picky as fuck, and you should be. I don't know any woman anywhere, and have never met a woman that is down like you are, that is also intelligent, and has the um...I dunno, political pov that you do. You are a real catch, and obviously that fuck has no idea or does not appreciate it. Makes me wish I wasn't married, and 1000s of miles away, or a creepy internet forum member telling you this lol. But yeah, drop him like a hot roach lady.

To be honest, I was shocked when you came back to the boards and mentioned that you and John (I think that was his name) were done, and then when you met the new guy, I thought, "geez, what a lucky fuck, hot blonde, down for the dank, strong independent mind, probably be very supportive of growing, has the whole world in front of her, I would have gave my left nut to meet someone like that lol!"

But since I am married, you will have to settle for a second best somewheres lady, but seriously, you are too strong and smart to even waste a second w/ someone like that. You should not even entertain the idea of dating anyone if they aren't top shelf you know? Even if it means you are solo for a while, so be it, you will never be "alone" you know, I am sure you have friends and family, and of course that sweet ass corn cob pipe lol!
I dunno if you are still going into the service or not, but if you aren't, then I say find some passion, like uh, I dunno, GROWING! And if you are still going in, then fine, that will take alot of your time, and you will be able to find your way in life, as well as potentially meet someone. You know, I think, JMHO, the person you should be with isn't exactly the type of person you "want", it's the person that you "need". And it's hard to figure out what kind of person you "need", most people look for the person they "want". If that makes any sense. Put it in gods hands lady, and put your energy into finding passions for your life, the person you "need" will come along, and become a partner in your life w/out you realizing it. The people that you consciously seek out, well....I dunno, like I said, JMHO from experience.
Good luck, I hope you realize what a catch you are, and I hope you drop this asshat, otherwise the person you need in your life you may miss because you are allowing yourself to be distracted by this clown. And I know the kind of person that you are, you would not allow yourself to wander away whilst involved w/ someone, hence, if you are involved w/ this clown, the guy you deserve you won't actually give a chance.
(Of course that would be me, but again, I am already married lol, but I am sure there is a good second best guy out there for ya! You know I would share all my grow w/ ya!" You need a good, smart as fuck, real deal conservative grower guy. I bet there is another one of those out there somewhere, maybe!:D
Hope all the best for you.:jointsmile:

[Italiano715]

Damn...
I don't know what to say, but you are fucking hot.
Not just physically, but yeah that too, but your perspective and personality, you deserve a bonafied badass stud, just leave him and move on, you can afford to be picky as fuck, and you should be. I don't know any woman anywhere, and have never met a woman that is down like you are, that is also intelligent, and has the um...I dunno, political pov that you do. You are a real catch, and obviously that fuck has no idea or does not appreciate it. Makes me wish I wasn't married, and 1000s of miles away, or a creepy internet forum member telling you this lol. But yeah, drop him like a hot roach lady.

To be honest, I was shocked when you came back to the boards and mentioned that you and John (I think that was his name) were done, and then when you met the new guy, I thought, "geez, what a lucky fuck, hot blonde, down for the dank, strong independent mind, probably be very supportive of growing, has the whole world in front of her, I would have gave my left nut to meet someone like that lol!"

But since I am married, you will have to settle for a second best somewheres lady, but seriously, you are too strong and smart to even waste a second w/ someone like that. You should not even entertain the idea of dating anyone if they aren't top shelf you know? Even if it means you are solo for a while, so be it, you will never be "alone" you know, I am sure you have friends and family, and of course that sweet ass corn cob pipe lol!
I dunno if you are still going into the service or not, but if you aren't, then I say find some passion, like uh, I dunno, GROWING! And if you are still going in, then fine, that will take alot of your time, and you will be able to find your way in life, as well as potentially meet someone. You know, I think, JMHO, the person you should be with isn't exactly the type of person you "want", it's the person that you "need". And it's hard to figure out what kind of person you "need", most people look for the person they "want". If that makes any sense. Put it in gods hands lady, and put your energy into finding passions for your life, the person you "need" will come along, and become a partner in your life w/out you realizing it. The people that you consciously seek out, well....I dunno, like I said, JMHO from experience.
Good luck, I hope you realize what a catch you are, and I hope you drop this asshat, otherwise the person you need in your life you may miss because you are allowing yourself to be distracted by this clown. And I know the kind of person that you are, you would not allow yourself to wander away whilst involved w/ someone, hence, if you are involved w/ this clown, the guy you deserve you won't actually give a chance.
(Of course that would be me, but again, I am already married lol, but I am sure there is a good second best guy out there for ya! You know I would share all my grow w/ ya!" You need a good, smart as fuck, real deal conservative grower guy. I bet there is another one of those out there somewhere, maybe!:D
Hope all the best for you.:jointsmile:



Sounds like somebodddddy has got a crush! :D

[8182KSKUSH]

^^LOL

Well, that's pretty safe to admit since nothing would ever come of it, nothing to be ashamed of. IMO she's a hell of a catch, but for someone that isn't married and lives a few thousand miles closer. I will always "root" for ya rebgirl. And if my wife accidentally dies from a severe head injury tomorrow, then I'm gonna get on a bus lol! (JK) (Seriously, I just don't have the money to beat a murder case, and you know the first person they look at is ALWAYS the husband lol!):D

[smello]

RUUNNNNN!!!!!RUUNNNNNN!!!!!!!!

[bombdiggity]

woah this got creepy LOL

[Islandborn]

This thread has taken a awkward turn......subject change needed quick.

[psychodelic]

Thank god I'm not the only one who thought this...

I'm sure Kush only meant to compliment....but man, a little creepy....

Kush, are you manic right now?

[rebgirl420]

Hahahahahaha

This thread really made me feel better haha. Kush you are so fantastic. If you weren't married and lived far away we could be partners in crime mwhahaha.

We went for a walk last night to to walk our dog and we talked and talked and talked and oh yeah, talked. So things were good last night after that and today has went well so far.

I layed it on the line for him and told him, "Hey, don't do so bad on my own Skippy" and I think it helped.

We will see I suppose. And hey, if not maybe I'll find a nice stoner guy who has his shit together.

[rebgirl420]

It's not creepy guys, he's just trying to cheer me up.

Now if he was in my shrubs with night vission goggles, then yeah maybe haha.

He's not in PFA territory.

[FakeBoobsRule]

This happens with a lot of Rebgirl's threads unfortunately and people go off track and hit on her and it forces us to have to close them which we don't like to do because she is a great member and it upsets her when we close her threads. To her credit, she's always understands the mods actions when it comes to this and doesn't blame us.

This thread really shouldn't even be open right now but I was being lax about it for a while (I don't think the other mods have seen it yet) and as usual it becomes a pain.

One more off topic post and that person will be the one who broke the camel's back and be the one who causes the closure of this thread so knock off everything including the comments about how it has gone off topic. I think we have a big enough sampling of how people feel about it going off topic and the more people talk about it going off topic the further off topic it goes.

Rebgirl I don't know if I agree with you about him trying to cheer you up or not or what his motivations are but it is ruining this thread because it's quite unoriginal.

[rebgirl420]

Thanks FBR

:)

[Mr. TBAGU 420]

Reb you're not the only girl who goes for these guys, you need a guy who will treat you with every ounce of respect you deserve, SERIOUSLY :thumbsup:

If you ever head out to CS we should for sure kick it :hippy:

[StickyfingahZ]

Sorry to hear your going through some tough times rebgirl
I remember when I First Joined This forum, I remember you and you were with a guy named johm,whatever happend to that? He sounded like a cool dude!
Anyways,its in the past, but I know being cheated on sux bad.Looks like your takingit well.Hope you can build your guys trust back up and this guy robby gets his act together,I dunno,all the Robbies I know are jerks. *sorry to all the good robbies I havent met yet* I only know 2 and there both jerks.
If he is being secretive about things, thats Red Flag.
I hope this guy knows what a good thing he has and doesnt mess it up.
Listen to your heart,deep down you know what to do.
Much Love Hope it all works out for you two.
StickyfingahZ

[8182KSKUSH]

Uh...:rolleyes:

Moving forward...
It sounds like you laid it out for him and that's good.
Sounds good, hang in there and good luck to ya! Hope nothing but the best for ya you deserve it.:jointsmile:
Thanks for the rep.:D:thumbsup:

[smithy123]

how can anyone cheat on such a pretty girl:icon220:
hes a IDOIT

[weedmaster]

sorry to hear your haveing a bit of shit with your new man reb, and was surprised you said you love him as you have only known him 2 months. it's obvious you don't trust him, which isn't good for any relationship, trust your instincts your a intelligent women with alot going for you, only settel for the best it's what you deserve, hope you manage to sort your problems out. i'm sending you all my best wishes

[rebgirl420]

Thanks weedmaster,

Things have been going good since we had that talk.

We are working things out.

I say love because I do love him, however to me there are different levels and kinds of love.