So, What's Gonna Happen To Me Now?

[Gothen]

Okay, here's the skimmy....

My friend had a joint rolled up and everything ready to go. Brenda (my ex-mother) was in the other room reading or whatever so I wanted to smoke some of it (she wanted to save most of it for her tonight when she goes with her boyfriend).

So, I take two hits and we're sitting in here talking (she didn't smoke, by the way) and she has to make a call. So, I go and get the phone from in the living room where my mom is not even thinking about the smell. I sit down and she yells, "WHAT'S BURNING!?" I, stupidly and jokingly, said "Incense!" "THAT'S NOT INCENSE! IT SMELLS LIKE POT!"

Well, she comes in and we have a yell at each other before she goes in there and decides to call the cops. WHAT FUN!!! I run in there, take the phone away from her, and grab her wrists and yell at her to calm down etc etc. My friend is trying to calm both of us down.

My mom "escapes" (she told the cops) and runs downstairs to call the cops as my friend leaves.

Well, the cops come and my mom shows them a whole bunch of stuff she got from my room about two weeks ago. A lighter, a cigarette, a bunch of empty weed baggies, and my homemade pipe. She tells the cops that one of the baggies was filled with weed but she flushed it down the toilet when she found it.

They ask if I have anything else in my room I want to show them before they search, and I tell them I have alcohol. They ask where, what kind etc etc. I have two and a half bottles of Bud Light. They ask me where I got the alcohol from and I ask if I have to answer. They tell me I can either tell them or the judge and I reply, "Okay, well...then...I'll tell the judge." (I don't want to rat on my friends) I couldn't BELIEVE those movies with the stereotypical good cop/bad cop/tell the judge bullshit was real.

Now, they also found my OTHER homemade pipe (one I had made just last night). Now, one problem is is that my mom put all the stuff she found in a Wal-Mart bag so I'm not exactly sure what she had in there, but I'm pretty sure there wasn't any more pot because the officer told the judge over the phone that I just had paraphanelia, but that my mom HAD found pot about two weeks ago. The judge asked about my grades (average failing math), whether I've ever done anything like this or ever been in trouble (never been in trouble with the law, only with my mom), etc etc. The guy told me that the judge said they can't send me to juvy because of paraphanelia but will send us a letter telling us when we have to appear in front of the judge.

The officers said I seemed like a really smart guy, but that I was taking the wrong path. One of the officers (who revealed to us he was dyslexic) said that he had had a friend whose wife got high and walked in front of a train and died, one friend who had brain damage for "smokin' dope", and two friends who died. As he told me all of this, I wondered to myself, "Does he actually believe the unbelieveably large amount of horseshit that is being shot from his mouth?" He can't possibly expect me to believe all that.

Another officer said that 100% of all marijuana users ALWAYS go on to harder drugs because they "don't feel it anymore." I told him, that only happens if you do it all the time and if you don't exercise. I told him how it's stored in the fat and that if you burn off the metabolites you can obtain the same feeling over and over. He simply continued with the "going on to harder drugs" speech as if I hadn't even spoken.

BTW, cops are fucking retarded. Hidden in my closet I had a crapload of vodka bottles, smirnoff bottles, Jim Beans. On my bookshelf I had a candle with a fuckload of stems and ashes, a shotglass hidden inside a HUGE pencil holder. Right behind my computer I have a gravity bong bowl that had a bowl full of weed ashes and some Clear Eyes and this little pointy thing COVERED in resin. My PlayStation 2 (hidden in its Expansion Bay) had a pack of cigarettes (one left) and another weed baggie. Under my TV is another resin-getter, and, OH YEAH, everywhere on my floor are SEEDS, SEEDS, SEEDS. Fuckin' weed seeds everywhere.

I now have to find a way to dispose of all that.


I have some questions, if you guys could answer them, I'd be very grateful....

- What can the judge do to me? What's the WORST that can possibly happen to me? Possession of alcoholic beverages and paraphanelia
- I DO.NOT want to tell the judge who I got the alcohol from. Do I really have to?

I'm 17, won't be 18 until December. The same officer who told me all marijuana users go on to use crank also told me that if I was a couple months older, I'd be in jail.

[Euphoric]

WTF

[moomoo]

since your under 18 prbably not too much, your mom sounds like a nut job tho-you said she wanted to smoke some of it too? so she gets high too?- and then turns you in? sounds like theyll want the both of you in therapy. i really dont think theyll do anything else but make you watch some stupid anti drug movies at worst community service-but that can be fun sometimes just go w/ the flow and it will pass

[Gothen]

AH, sorry. I meant that my FRIEND wanted to save some of it for tonight with her boyfriend, not my mom.

My mom doesn't smoke.

The police officer also called the Probation Officer as well. How long does probation last for a first offense? I know that during my probation I'll be getting drug tested, and I heard from other people they make me write a 500 word essay on why drugs are bad.

[moomoo]

oh shit, sorry i read it wrong. . well i guess your mom may have an effect on what happenes,because your under 18, so i would try to get along with her, i know its hard,been there done that(only she never called the cops on me) i think(and of course it depends on what country or state you live in,) but i think they may leave it up to your mom todecide what happens im sure theyll want therapy, maybe aa type of meetings. i really doubt if youll go to jail tho. i hope you live in a liberal area, and ill be thinking of you,wishing you good luck and the best, keep us posted.!

[Gothen]

I live in Indiana, in the area that's quickly becoming the #1 meth county in the entire country. Now, I'm not into hard drugs, nor have I ever tried them, so I'm lucky in that all they have me for is pot, or paraphenelia.
The officer told my mom it is up to her what happens to me slightly, but the majority of it resides in the Probation Officer and what they want to do to me.

Anyway, will keep you posted. ^_^

[NowhereMan]

hopefully probation

if your record is clean,and grades good,they will try to scare the fuck out of ya and your will get worried cuase its all new,
but basically,that aint no felony and aint a hell of lot they can do but cost ya money and so long as your POLITE and "seem" to go with the program
soon you can say fuck all that,
expect a upset mother,if on probation she will threaten you with it,ive seen that alot.
and lots of towing the line untill your off,possibly drug testing depending on if ya parents want to pay for it(and maybe even if they dont)


tell the judge you got the booze out of somebodies cooler and they didnt even notice,
good luck
peace

[midnite toker UK]

Jeez wot a fucked up country you live in.... and if my mother called the cops on me i would be gone for good...what kind of mother is that ?

[Gothen]

My grades are average, I'd say. They already tried to scare the fuck outta me by telling me a whole bunch of crap about me causing a felony simply by "witholding information." I was like, "Hm, okay." and then they tried to give me the whole, "I hope you don't end up in juvy. You don't wanna end up their, either." bullshit speech, followed by the, "If you were a couple months older, you'd be in jail tonight." My mom wanted them to take me to juvy that night, but I'm a minor and since it was my first offense AND I didn't have any weed on me, they couldn't.

My mom is willing to pay up the ass for any kind of drug testing. She's going to the extreme. I get no lunch money anymore (transferring it to a school account so I can still eat, no CASH though), she's already said I'm not getting any new clothes or shoes until they rip at the seams because they don't fit me anymore, I'm not allowed to see any of my friends or talk to them, she's taking away the TV and maybe the internet, I've been getting into reading a lot more so she's even talking about taking my books away. She's, also, never buying me anything ever again. Fun stuff, eh?

As to what you said about getting the alcohol out of someone's cooler, I don't get that.....explain more clearly. ^_^

To Midnite, I'm already out of here....sorta. I've already told Brenda she's no longer my mother, and she's told me I'm no longer her son. When I'm able to get out on my own, I'm going to. I'm going job hunting this week, and I'm thinking about asking some friends who already live on their own if I can get with them if I help pay rent.

I'm never talking to her again once I leave.

[moomoo]

like nowherman said they will try to scare you-so the best thing i think to do is just yes them to death-but yo u dont have to tell them anything. nowhereman meant i think about the booze-IF THEY ASK-just tell them you got it from a cooler somewhere-if they ask-make something up-and after this all passes - it will!!- and you have you r hs diploma, get the hell outa there!!in the meantime go w/the flow and DONT VOLUNTEER any info be polite say sir and maam-they like that- just play the game. i was listening to local news and i heard that in mass. 17 is legal age for adult if its an adult crime. a little confusing-maybe if Nullify reads this he could explain it better,point is if thats true then you are very lucky to be in Indiana right now GOOD LUCK!!

[Gothen]

Now I'm scared shitless, thanks, moomoo. ^_^

I guess I should take solace in the fact that the officer said I had to be a couple months older in order for it to apply to me being an adult. I won't be 18 until November 30th, which is 8 and a half months away.

I'm already going to do exactly that, though. Yes, sir. Yes, ma'am. Very curteous, polite etc etc. I'm just still not sure what I'm gonna say about the alcohol, though. I mean, I'm sorta wondering if I could say it was at a party in the middle of nowhere (we have lots of woods and places where people don't live or go for miles) and I got it from a cooler there. If they ask whose party it was, I could say I don't know whose it was.

I'm just still wondering if they ask for names of the people that were at the party. Sorry for taking everyone's time on this, I'm just afraid, I guess, of what I'm to tell them. My mom is going psycho. Apparently, she thinks I'm going to just give out names of all the people I've smoked with, and if I don't, she's gonna try and bring up names of random people I know. She's such a stupid bitch. I literally can't stand her.

She's trying to make it hell for me, but....I'm not really worried, though, now that I think about it. I'm expecting probation, an essay or community service, and random drug tests.

I'm pretty sure they won't try me for 18. If they could, they would have had me in jail that night, the officer told me. So, I'm sure they'll count me as a minor etc etc. Right now, however, I'm trying to hit this from every angle. Explore everything that could happen and try to prepare myself for it, in some way.

Once again, I'm sorry for taking everyone's time on this and posting constantly.

A small update would be that this morning I felt like crap so I told my mom I wasn't going to school. She bitched and moaned and finally let it be, but while i was asleep she called the truancy officer. I woke up at 12:30, got a shower and got dressed and stuff and just as I'm getting my socks on, this old guy walks through my door. He was nice to me, and shot the shit with me about the weather and stuff like that, but he ended up escorting me to school at 1:30, with an hour and a half left in school.

[KronicKing]

wow...that is most fucked up,and you do not have to say who you got the beers from,but just so things go a little more smooth just go with the party and say you didn't know anyone there you just saw it and decided to crash it.tell your ex-mum i said she was the bitchyest bitch ever to bitch?after court i'd go live with freinds.

[Encatuse]

You're 17. Get emancipated and live on your own legally. It's really quite easy and requires no parental permission, at least in our farming county in Illinois.

Anyway, about the beer. Say you found a 6 pack in the woods and you took it. And then say you drank half and took the rest home for later.

And I'm serious when I say this: For as long as you live with your mom, don't do anything she won't like. She essentially owns you. This means dispose of everything you aren't supposed to have, goto school, follow her shitty communist rules, etcetera. It's the only way you'll get out of there without more trouble. She sounds like a total bitch who's out to get you for your every wrong move.

[ride n get high]

man that shits fucked up!! do u have a car ? llive in that idk man thats just fuvcked up.

[Gothen]

ANOTHER LONG UPDATE IN STORE!

Okay, well, this story is somewhat funny. For years I've been trying to tell everyone that Brenda is nuts, but to no avail. Now, everyone is starting to realize what I have known since I was 12.

Okay, well, yesterday my friend called to see if I had got this paper done so I could help him before it was due 7th hour. He called, my mom picked up, and he hung up (he heard about Saturday). My mom called him back and he picked up and she went BALLISTIC on him, so he called called her a fucking bitch and hung up. She left SEVENTEEN MESSAGES on his home answering machine saying shit about him being able to hide the messages from his parents and what not. HE WAS AT SCHOOL AND SHE CALLED HIS HOME! The next funny thing was, his mom already knows he smokes pot, but my mom said that he has been selling me drugs (which he never has) and that he was the biggest drug dealer in three states. Those were her exact words. How she came to THAT conclusion, no one will know.

BUT, it does not stop there, ladies and gentlemen, no it does not. She called the Drug Task Force in the next county, the Sheriff's Department of our town, the Dean of Boys for our school, and his mom, and my friend's dad (the one who was with me when she went and called the cops on me Saturday).

The parent of the friend who called yesterday said she is nuts, and that she feels sorry that I have to live in a home with a mother as crazy as her. The Dean of Boys, who has almost always been on her side, said she is going nuts (read: she's losing her mind) saying she's going overboard and all this other stuff. It was awesome.

Yesterday or last night, she called another one of my friends (after the incident with the Dean of Boys) and tries to yell all this crap out about another one of my friends, and the mother said, "You're crazy, don't call back here again." (that was a summary, ^_^) IT'S WONDERFUL! Everyone is starting to realize what a nutjob this woman is. I love it.

Anyway, since I'm 17, I don't want to do anything to make the court pissed at me and think about sending me to juvy or jail or whatever. So, I'm thinking about telling them I was near the local hang out place and I paid some random dude to get me a six pack. I'll admit the alcohol was mine (I originally told the cops I was holding it for someone) and then throw myself at the leniency of the court. Whaddya guys think??

EDIT: Yeah. I have a 1980 Gold Edition Cadillac Eldorado in PRISTINE condition.........but Brenda won't let me have my license.

EDIT2: Do bottles come in six packs....? I don't drink, in case you haven't noticed. ^_^

[Kid Dynamite]

dude...its not illegal to have alochol on you is it? Its in your house after all.



if i was yoiu i would beat down on your mum. No, im joking, but seriously, i feel for you, a mother should be someone who looks after you and shoit, not a freaky ass crazy bizzle psycho fizzle.

[moomoo]

im really sorry i just meant that in massachusetts they can do certain things at age 17 i know you sure dont need any more pressure rght now. well mom seems to be going off the deep end . quite a circus you have going there. i liked the party in the woods story the best. and NO bottles DONT come in 6 pks!and your NOT going to jail! sounds like maybe the judge will see your mom for what she is and then you can get emancipated you actually can do it anyway because your 17 but prbably better to wait till this blows over. peace and good luck

[Gothen]

It was in my home, in my room, hidden in one of the drawers I no longer use. I just considered it illegal because I'm underage.

[Gothen]

Okay, well, I just got the thing in the mail and read it before Brenda.

Reckless Possession of Paraphernelia, a Class A Misdemeanor, and Battery, a Class B Misdemeanor (it's either Class A or B for Battery).

Does that mean they won't ask me about the alcohol??? That's the only thing I'm really afraid of.

So, now, apparently, I beat Brenda on Saturday. Very nice. My informal court interview is 3/23/05 at 3 pm.

It's really nice to have lots of friends. I got in a car today at the end of school to get a ride home, and the person who was giving me a ride had to give 2 other people a ride, besides myself. Well, the girl who sat next to me asked if I had to see her uncle in court, I replied with the name of the judge and she says, "Yep, that's him." She's going to see if she can talk to him, try to help me out. She said she can't guarantee anything, but that she'll try.

So, while the old stereotype says that friends who do drugs are bad friends, I guess I proved it wrong this time. They're actually very loyal.

Another thing is, my mom typed this thing up and taped it to our front door. I took it down, took it to school, made copies and handed them out to people. I've talked to teachers, the Dean of Boys, the Principal, and almost the entire student body. The teachers I've talked to seem to be "sympathetic" simply because they think she's going overboard, and that it can't be healthy for me to be around her, or something or other. One teacher in particular knows I'm not a bad person so she thinks my mom is going extreme. The students find it HILARIOUS how crazy she is. Yesterday, some of the students in my school (read: the Christian ones) thought it was my fault because I smoked marijuana and I'M the one who made that choice. ETC ETC Well, today, even THEY had to question my mother's sanity. Here's why....

IF YOUR NAME IS NOT
_______ AND YOU ARE UNDER
THE AGE OF 18 YEARS OLD,
THEN LEAVE IMMEDIATELY!
THE POLICE AND NEIGHBORS
ARE WATCHING MY HOME.
_____ IS GROUNDED, NOT
ALLOWED TO HAVE ANYONE
OVER OR TO LEAVE THE
APARTMENT WHATSOEVER. IF
YOU ARE CAUGHT IN MY HOME
WHEN I AM NOT HERE, I WILL
PRESS CHARGES FOR
BREAKING AND ENTERING.
THIS MEANS ANYONE AND
EVERYONE UNDER THE AGE OF
18, NOT A FAMILY MEMBER,
NAME IS NOT ON MY LEASE,
AND WHO SUPPLIES MY KID
WITH DRUGS! I WILL PRESS
CHARGES!

We all got a big kick out of that.
I made copies and passed them out to a LOT of people, put a copy on my locker, etc etc. They all think she's insane. I looked up the breaking and entering laws on Law Dictionary (http://dictionary.law.com/), and if I let them in, it's not breaking and entering. I thought that was the case, but just to make sure I looked it up. I guess she doesn't think I'm smart enough to do all of this.
She also doesn't have the cops watching the house anymore. Though, it's just a guess. She said she isn't going to leave me home alone, and that leads me to believe she is afraid because no one but the old bitch down stairs is watching. ^_~

Today she found this old smirnoff bottle that had a crapload of stems and seeds in there. It was so old it was actually growing mold in there, and she also found a cigarette. So, I'm not sure what she's going to do with the bottle.

Last bit is, I talked to a friend today and they're going to talk to this guy who is of age, and she's going to ask if I can tell the judge he came over and had them and he got a call on his cell and had to leave real quick, forgetting the Bud Lights. I didn't know what to do with them, so I put them in my drawer, because I didn't want my mom to find them.

I hope he's okay with it.....

[Encatuse]

Yeah, it is illegal for you to possess. There wouldn't be anything they could do if your mom said it was hers... but from the sounds of your mom, I'm not seeing that happening anytime soon.

[moomoo]

sounds like its only for the paraphanialia(geeze what a word) what is the battery about? if its just for para whatever than the booze isnt involved? can you thro the booze out?your mom has really flipped out and people are noticing-the the niece of the judge sounds to me like angel intervention ! the gods send you help when you need it!)! wow!! that came in time . hopefully you 2 could become good friends over this too and who knows maybe hes a real nice guy(the judge) sounds like you have some angel help there and thing s will end up well and in your favor!!peace and good luck!!the old moldy bottle could have been from anything. do you know where she found the bottle-i mean like someone could have thrown it from a car or something??you could just deny that it s yours?

[Gothen]

The bottle was in my room in one of those folders that are made out of fabric and zip up. Sorta like CD holders that zip right, then down, then left, just a larger version of that. It'd been there so long I'd literally forgot it was even there.

Brenda will probably turn it in and say anything she can to get me into more trouble.

As to the battery, it's because I held her wrists and repeatedly told her to calm down, calm down, calm down.

Does paraphernalia pertain to alcohol as well? They didn't have minor consumption on there, because I wasn't drunk. They just had Reckless Possession of Paraphernalia, and I'm not sure if it means for the pipes, the alcohol, or both.

[moomoo]

i think it would be weed related but is there anyway you could find out w/o raising suspicion? just to be on the safe side. ive never heard of alcohol in relation to paraphanalia i would think that you would have the right to know the specifics of the charges?. anyone else out there know anything like that?

[moomoo]

if the bottle is that old and fucked up maybe its your word against hers. like she found it in the woods and is planting it on you. that could work, since shes been acting so crazy and people are noticing maybe you should do a real clean inventory and see if theirs anything else lying around as well.

[Edgar]

The fact that anyones parents would call the cops on there own children for smoking pot, makes my blood boil... This is all do to the absolute bald-faced lies the gov. spreads about pot, when they know damn well its harmless. (or atleast more harmless than ANTHING in your medicine cabinet.) The only real trouble smoking pot causes, is legal trouble!

Your mom shouldn't be alowed to have kids, based on what I'm hearing... FUCKING PHYCHO! I mean really, it sounds like the only reason she has kids is because she's a control freak! Or mabey she's a control freak because she had kids... I dont really know how it works, but she certainly isn't doing this for your own good. It sounds like she just wants you locked up...

I'm not a violent person but... People like that, i wish would just disappear...

[Not Enough Herb]

kill ur mom man shes a bitch



later

[Gothen]

It's funny you should say that, Edgar, about being locked up. I'm going to be locked up, but in a different way.

She's cancelling internet and shutting off the phone.THE PHONE FOR GODSAKES! The only time I use the phone is when I'm calling someone to see what they're doing or when they're coming to pick me up, etc etc. I'm on the phone a total of, about, 10 minutes a day. She uses it more than I do!!
I'm not sure when, but I'm pretty sure it's going to be sometime in the near future. Meaning, I'll no longer be able to visit these boards anymore. That's what pisses me off the most.

I'm going to be locked up, alright, but in a much different way.

Everyone at my school is having a field day, I'm getting 200 suggestions a day on how to kill her or circumvent her entire plan or whatever. I told my teacher about her wanting to kick me out (happened this morning) and she said that if it does happen, call her and she'll find me a place to live. A tear came to my eye, upon hearing that. She's so nice to me. Anyway, I'll c-ya guys later. I have until at least tomorrow because the internet place is closed until morning.

[SPLIFF ENJOYER]

wow man... ur mom is a bitch.. seems like she gets a kick outta making your life miserable.. i could see a mother doing that to someone whos really young , but your almost 18, pot isnt that bad, and if its a real problem with her she could talk to you about it instead of calling the cops... thats one think ill never do when i have kids.. is call the cops on them.. unless something "really" serious goes down, ex. like my kid shooting at me or sumthin lol..

[InhaleItALL]

wow. Speechless...

[Bunkyhope]

damnit dude..this is one of those fucked up stories u see on 60minutes... i reckon u should get a friend to write into or ring the news crew...tell em ur story, give em all the crazy ass notes etc.. i reckon u could get a mad band of angry mobbers to throttle ur mum... but hell, what would i know? im jsut spinning ideas...

[NowhereMan]

well see they want to bust some adult for the booze getting in your hands
(they want to bust anyone)
and i know ya dont want to get anyone in trouble
so if you "say you took it" out somebody's cooler " without them knowing"
they cant get in no trouble for GIVING booze to a juvy .

hang in there bro
life gets better trust me one day you will look back and luagh at this,i know hard to believe but its true
i wish you luck

toke on when ya can
peace

[moomoo]

try to move out if you can,you will be much happier. in the meantime you can go to any library for computers. i did for 3 years before i got my own. just remember to erase the history toolbar thing when your done im so glad to hear that you have so much support, this whole thing, when its over, you could look back and say "wow that was a blessing in diguise!!"

[Gothen]

Well, BunkyHope, that was actually funny to me. I just imagined this all playing out on 60 Minutes or something and laughing.

Anywhere, to NowhereMan, I've decided I'm going to tell them that I DID get the booze from a cooler. I'm going to say that I had a friend drop me off at this place called The Newstand, and from there I walked around the town until I saw this house that had some cars in the driveway and people on the porch. I didn't have any intention to go to the party, but they were yelling something at me, so I came up to see what they were saying. There were people there with alcohol so I decided to join in. From there, I saw a cooler with some Buds in it, so I took a couple. I was there a total of, about, 10 minutes, and since I was so stoned (I'll use the word HIGH) I don't remember what the house was. All I know is that I didn't know anybody there.

Like a friend of mine said, they probably won't believe the story, but they have no proof, so they can't do anything else but to "believe" me.

I've been asking around and unless you can prove that you

A) Either have an income and/or another place to live
B) Your current guardian is unfit to raise you anymore

you can't move out. The Hardees here is hiring and a good friend of mine works there, so I'm going to see if he can hook me up with at least an interview. If I get an interview, its said, it's a guarantee you have the job.

A REALLY good friend of mine said I can live at her place for a month, because she's moving in a month, she's 22.

I'm also very surprised with how much support I've received. Everyone and their mother is trying to help me. Even the teachers at school, the teachers who frown on doing drugs, have been sympathetic and have offered to talk to me, to talk to my mother, to help me get through this etc etc. I have friends who have offered to talk to the judge, who have offered me a place to crash for a bit, advice on what to TELL the judge, the best ways to deal with the crazy, psychotic bitch of a "mother."

Like I said before, I think my "story" is one that disproves the old stereotype that when you do pot, you only get bad friends. I smoked pot 2-3 times a day, I became a DRUGGIE, at least when it came to weed (didn't do any other drugs). Still, I have all these people that are willing to help me. Some of them smoke, most of them don't. I guess it just goes to show that as long as you're a "good person," in the fact that you aren't a dickhead to everyone, you'll become friends with a lot of good people in life.

170 hours ago is when my mom called the cops on me. Thinking back on the last 170 hours, and I'm amazed at how much help I've been offered, and how much help I've received.


I know you guys don't need a life story, but before I started smoking weed, I was suicidal, I was a bitter dickhead to almost everyone, most people hated me, and I was too self-conscious to even try to get a girlfriend. Since I started smoking, I have now become friends with almost every single person in my school, including teachers, the Dean of Boys, the Dean of Girls LOVES me, the Principal, and the secretaries. I have girls calling me, asking me out t etc. I have a better relationship with friends I've had for years because I no longer bog them down with unnecessary talks on why "people hate me so much." I LOVE life, and even now I think that every day alive is a wonderful day....at least....96% of the time, ^_~.

In a way, I think marijuana was a medicine that cleared up almost all my ailments. It's also reaffirmed my belief in God. Something so wonderful and magnificent as weed should NOT be illegal, but, rather, controlled.

Marijuana is truly a gift from God.

[moomoo]

i was pretty misreable before i smoked pot too and ive been smokin since the 60s its my" happy medicine"i never liked booze hated the hangovers and never liked the high and yes almost every pot head ive ever met has been "good people"

[Not Enough Herb]

^ omg man me too

i use to cut myself up pretty bad then i met mary jane and she showed me life was so much more

later

[Bunkyhope]

same scenario here...hated life, hated people, saw no point in existence. then i met the yarn. that fixed me. now i hav friends, and ppl love me. the world is much better now. goodluck man, get ur stupid "mother" to ring me, i'll sort her, me and the 60 mintues crew... word

[moomoo]

GOOD LUCK tomorrow Gothen will be thinking of you and saying a prayer!!

[Gothen]

Phew. Yeah, thanks for reminding me. ^_^

I wasn't nervous about it until about....30 minutes ago. I don't even know why. I go in there, judge talks to me, I make up a few lies on the spot, I get piss tested, and I go home.

The only thing I'm really nervous about is the alcohol thing still. I'm going to use that excuse, and if they don't believe me, fuck'em. I doubt they will, but never let them pressure me into making deals, right? ^_^

Truth be told, I'm afraid of what they'll find in my piss. I took 30 MGs of DXM last night to help me relax, and I hope to GOD it doesn't come up as PCP. They said that over 40 is when you usually get false positives for DXM being PCP, but still.
I also hope that the weed I've been smoking hasn't been laced with anything. I highly doubt it, but, you never know, I suppose. I trust the people I've been getting it off of, but if it has anything else in my piss but cannabinoids, I'm going to be cutting peoples heads off. ^_^

Anyway, thanks for the prayers!

[moomoo]

thers this stuff you can buy for the tests ISLAND PALM i think its called you can get it at gfc (chain vitamin store hopefully they have them out where you live-i think there national) or maybe even thru this website if you get it at gfc hey give you double your money back if you fail(keep the receipt) ive been told that no one fails if they go by the directions. i knew this guy who was on probation and they would ;) sporadicly test him he always had a bottle on hand and it worked every time

[Gothen]

**NOTE, THIS IS PRETTY MUCH TAKEN VERBATIM FROM LOOSEENDS THREAD IN THE LOUNGE**


So today we went to see the probation officer, I'm being charged with battery for holding her wrists for 30 seconds, and reckless possession of paraphrenalia. They're also going to bring up in court this alcohol I had (2 closed bottles of Bud Light, one open and half gone).

At the least, I'm being put on probation for 6 months (the woman said there's a good chance of me being on probation until I'm 18, 8 months away). I'm going to get randomly drug screened, curfew, I have to get at least a C in all my classes (which is easy for everything but math). Oh, and I'm literally grounded until I'm 18. Brenda won't let me leave unless its for school, she's shut off the phone, cancelling the internet, cancelled cable, took away my gaming systems, and thinking about taking away the DVD player.OH, ha, she also took away all but the books I have in my backpack. When she cancels net, I'll at least have my music, but if she's serious, she's going to take that away, as well. My CD player is broken, so I'll have nothing. I'll have my room with my clothes and posters.

Now, I understand the parents out there going, "Its your mother's house, you have to respect her rules." But, would you said parents go as far as my parent? I have next to nothing now, and soon I WILL have nothing. Nothing to do, no one to talk to, nothing to take my mind away from this.

This is the first time I've seriously contemplated suicide since I started smoking, almost a year ago. Since I started smoking, I've loved life and I've even said on these boards that everyday alive is a good day.

But, with as little interaction with people I'm going to have for the next 8 months, I seriously don't want to live anymore. Just writing this makes me want to cry. To turn off the lights to sit in my dark room with no sounds and cry until I sleep.

I wish to GOD I could buy that stuff but

A) I don't think we have that store here anywhere
B) I have no money anymore, at all.

I don't have any more money coming my way because I used to get 15 bucks lunch money every week, but she doesn't even give me that now. I take my lunch or I don't eat. I have good friends who are willing to spot me a jay every once in a great while, but I feel terrible asking, "Hey....I don't have any money, but I was wondering if I could bum some weed off you." Most everyone would be willing to give me a joint, but I'm not gonna be THAT person. The person that just bums weed off people.

[Bunkyhope]

sit tight man... when that 8 months is over, think how great the world will seem...better thana nything weed (or crack for that matter) could give you! ( i dont do crack...thats bad...im trying to be funny..so just drop it...argh!)...good luck laddy

[moomoo]

can you talk to a guidence counseler or someone to that eefect? shes justASKING for trouble if she takes away everything! maybe you could go into a foster home until you are 18 or stay w/ a friend.?If you go to counseling-which i would think they would probably make you do- you could tell that to the couselor and they could pull you out of there or make her lighten the fuck up. this will all pass and you have good friends. adversity makes us stonger(believe it or not) please try to think about the people who really like you and you can always go to library or use friends computer. she has to lighten up at some point. how old is she anyway? maybe shes having extreme hormone problems. but really if you speak to a counselor, it might help. good luck we are here for a reason=to learn and to grow- i think you will really grow from this experience!could you get a copy of high times? you can order it thru them have you checked this website to see it they have it? someone could lend you the$ if you smoke and they find out it could make matters worsr(sorry but i had to throw that in.) just protect yourself is all im trying to sayand hang in there youre very young and have your whole life ahaed of you and a million experiences to experiecne!

[Gothen]

I have to really thank all of you though. I used to be on forums all the time because, as I said, I had no life, ^_^. Well, the point is, this forum is probably THE greatest I've ever been on. I've never felt a stronger sense of community than on these boards.
It's...It's as if people ACTUALLY care. It's fantastic.

Anyway, the only thing keeping me going is the fact that in 8 months, as Bunkyhope said, the world is going to seem more beautiful than I'd ever imagined it could be.

Brenda is refusing to let me go to a friend's house to live, and I've received advice that maybe it would be better to just spend 3:30 to 8 at the library. Get all my homework done there, then use the computers there to get on these forums. Then when it closes at 8 (small town, everything is usually closed by 6), I can walk home (I only live about 2 miles away, and it only takes me about 30 minutes to get from there to here and vica versa), and then go straight to my room and read.

I'd have more interaction with people because my friends have already said they'll hang out with me at the library. And the best part is, I have two friends that work there and when I'm not there, I'll "still be there." Know what I mean? ^_^ I just have to make sure that for the first couple weeks, I'm ACTUALLY there in case Brenda decides to say, "Let me talk to him." After that, she'll learn to trust me and the fact that I'm actually at the library. That means, I won't have to be there.

It'll work out fantastically. I've also been asking around and plenty of my friends are willing to loan me a couple bucks every months so I can steadily buy those Urine-Pimp solutions, or other solutions that allow me to pass when I'm not clean.

As to the counselor, I'm thinking about doing just that. The probation officer woman person.........said that family counseling is something we can look into when the time comes. I'm vieing for the counselor and me to talk, and not with Brenda. That will do just what you say, I talk to the counselor, tell them what's going on at home and after my session is done, Brenda gets her turn.
With my expressed permission, the counselor will then relay to Brenda that she should seriously learn to lighten up and give me some things back, including, but not limited it, my BOOKS!

I guess last night was just a really depressing time for me after what the probation officer said. I don't really care anymore, though. I've already accepted that I'll be punished, and now all I have to do is get through the next 8 months. It'll be 100% possible, I think, because I'll have you guys, and all my friends will still be "hangin' on" with me.

I'm not going to let Brenda defeat me. I will never give her the satisfaction of knowing she's defeated me. This isn't just about pride, though. I'm not sure what to call it, but it goes much more than that.

I want to thank every single one of you guys for all the help you've given me over the past 2 or so weeks. They're going to be sending out another letter to us telling when I have to appear in court, probably within the next couple weeks, so now I just have to wait to get that over with!

[Edgar]

Hang in there.

[Gothen]

Ha. Well, the depression came back ten fold tonight. I went into the living room tonight and here's what happened....

"You're not a parent for doing this to me. You're certainly not a guardian, either, because all you're doing is making it worse. Everyone was saying how happy I seemed all of a sudden. How cheerful I had become. It was become of pot or weed or whatever you wanna call it, but so what. You saw it too, don't fucking lie. You saw how fucking happy I was. To go from hating everyone and myself and wanting to kill myself, to, to loving almost everyone and everything. I even loved summer, and the green grass and the breeze. I loved it all, I loved the world, and I loved life. All my bad feelings and thoughts went away."
"Do you wish I was dead?"
"I wish you were dead."
"That's a terrible thing to say."
"So is calling the fucking cops on me. You're no fucking parent."
"What do you want me to do?"
"You can't do fucking shit now because you already called the fucking cops on me. I pray for your death every night, now. Because living in a foster home would be better than living with you in a house of misery and depression. You're nothing to me now. Nothing."

and I hung up on her.

So...now I guess I'm sitting here crying. I feel ashamed for crying, but not ashamed enough to care and stop it. I'm sorry for crying on your guys' shoulders on the time. I am. I don't have anyone else to talk to anymore.

I haven't seen another human being besides my mom and the probation officer in over a week. I've been locked in my house, unable to go outside.....well.....anyway......bye guys.

[Edgar]

"I went into the living room tonight and here's what happened.... "

"and I hung up on her."

... I'm confused, where you talking to her in the living room, or on the phone?

Anyway, dont worry, your like 17 right? Soon you will be old enough to leave, but untill then, try to hang in there, because when you finally do get the freedom you desire, it'll be so much sweeter than if you'd already had it. Also, I know it seems dark now, but all things pass in time, so try not to get too hung up on it.

[Gothen]

Yeah, I'd be confused too. I had to go in there to get the phone, haaaa, didn't make that clear, sorry.
I was home alone tonight for most of the night, at least. The old bitch downstairs came up at 6, 8, 9, and 10 she checked on me.

That conversation transpired at about 9:40. When the old woman came up at 10, I guess she thought I was asleep (in my room, lights off, under covers listening to Bob Marley as I cry) and she didn't come back.

My mom went ballistic on me after that though, about...10:10 she calls and I didn't pick up. So she leaves the message,

"Pick up the phone RIGHT NOW, or I'm calling the cops and having them come over there!"
I pick up, "What?!"
"Your brother is coming so unlock the fucking door!"
"Whatever." and I hung up on her again

My brother calls and he's like, "What's goin' on? Mom said you're gonna do somethin' stupid like hurt yourself."

I explain the situation out to him and everything, he's sympathetic, actually. He's somewhat against smoking pot, but he was also one of the people that realized how happy I'd become. So, he asks if there is any way I can get any reefer (his word) tonight because he knows that if I don't get some, I'm probably gonna end up killing myself or something. He is like, well, just try and call some people, if not, go into mom's room and take a Zoloft.

Little did he know that at about.....6:30 I took 8 of them (50 MG). And they worked until about 9 when I was back to be real tired and sluggish.
Then I'm sittin' here listening to Lonesome Town and I get depressed like no fucking other, worse than I ever have been in my life. As I said, I was crying and I started thinking about what Brenda had actually done to me. All that, that's when she called and I said all that to her.

I'm glad I said it though, because at about midnight she called back and was real calm and quiet and asked if I had taken any of the Zoloft, I said "Yeah, about 3." I doubt she counts them, but if she asks why 8 are missing, I'll say I've been taking one a day since Sunday, and they've been merely "getting me through." Not very happy, but not wanting to kill myself. Took 3 tonight so I could actually be happy and smile again.

I don't know.....maybe she might actually lighten up, talk to the prob officer for me.

I can dream......

[Edgar]

uhh, i really dont think its a good idea to take eight zoloft. That shit only works (if it works at all) if you take normal doses for like at least a week. Its not a recreational drug by any means, and taking 8 at a time isn't gonna make it one.

[KronicKing]

i wish i was there with you to help you get though all this i know its tough but 8 months and you can ride by her house with your ass sticking out of the car window with brenda on both cheeks in red magic marker ;) pot is a magical thing but i find myself getting depressed on it lately,it has given my happyness if onl for a short time.i love all my new freinds but even with the help of reefer i find that im sliping back into the person i used to be...the one i truely hate.to make matters worse the girl i've liked since 7th grade is going out with my best freind and even weed cant erase the pain.but the moral of the story is dont use a drug as a crutch to get though life day to day,i did and im becomeing more miserable than i ever was before.i love my ganja but i HAVE to give it up for a while atleast untill i am free of the smoke clouding my mind and it because i was dependant on it maybe it will be a good thing for you to take a break.and do not feel ashamed for crying ive cried myself to sleep many a time too.i would go absolutly bonker if my dad took my books away i feel bad for you not being able to turn those slowly yellowing pages.if you need someone to talk to,leagal advise,or just a freind drop me a line [email protected]

[Gothen]

It's been over a week since I've smoked. When I smoked, I would take breaks every couple of months to just get my head straight, get some matters solved, lower my tolerance, etc etc. When it was willingly done, I loved taking breaks. I loved being completely sober and looking around and still seeing that the world is an awesome place. Then I loved getting together with all of my friends after a two or three week break, and then all of us sharing a blunt and some bowls. Awesome stuff.

But, this break is different. It's one that I don't feel is necessary, and it's certainly not willingly done. So, the break is a different one. It's filled with all this depression and sadness because I know that not only can I not smoke for the next 8 or so months, but I'm also not allowed to see any of my friends outside of school. I think...if I could still hang out with my friends, the smoking part wouldn't be so bad. At least then I could be around other people and have fun just by them being there. I went from being anti-social to being almost fully gregarious.

So, it's not that I'm dependent, it's just the thoughts and memories I have of all the "good times" of hanging out with my friends and tokin' a bowl or a couple joints, etc etc, ya know? Really hard to get passed the fact that I also can't go to prom now with the girl I have liked for a long time. I finally asked her to prom, and she said yeah. Now, I'm not allowed to go.

If I could just keep my personal life, I wouldn't mind not smoking as much as I mind it now.

Edit: Also, I'm never doing Zoloft ever again. Even if a doctor were to try and put me on it, I wouldn't take it. It's really fucking with my body. My legs and muscles are jittery and they can hardly be used. My teeth keep chattering nonstop when they're not clamped tight, my pupils are huge as crap and I can't focus on one object without my eyes going nutso facto and the world "jumping" in my vision. I can't sit still for shit, and I'm completely and totally indifferent. "I need to take a shower. But I dont' want to take a shower. Well, I want to, I just don't WANT to." "I need to eat something, I'm starved. But...I don't want to eat. Everything seems gross. Well, I want to eat, I just don't want to it." ETC ETC Not to mention the fact that I have severe insomnia and body temp changes. I've been up since 2 pm yesterday and I feel as if I woke up 2 hours ago. My head is also starting to kill me.....

It blows. I'm hoping this shit stops within the next couple days. I don't think I'm ever going to do another pill "recreationally" for the rest of my life.

[Gothen]

Something.....Something strange just happened. Brenda had been wanting to talk to me, and I kept telling her no. Well, last night I talked to her on the phone for a second (that conversation).
This morning she wanted to talk, and I said no, I don't want to. Finally, I gave in, I talked to her.

I told her that weed is just a natural balancer for me. Instead of taking pills or synthetic man made stuff to try to solve my problems, I'd rather smoke weed that's from the earth, and from God. When I smoke, or when I know I CAN smoke, don't even have to be stoned, I realize that the world is worth so much to me. That life's too short to be sad and depressed and angry all the time. She said I have to learn to feel that without weed. I said I know, but that's not going to happen NOW. Maybe in the future, but not now. I told her I'm still going to smoke, and that as long as I'm home or in A home, not out driving or trying to be stupid, I should have the right to.
I also told her that I think it's ridiculous they're pressing Battery charges against me, and she actually agreed. She's going to call the prob officer on Monday to talk about that, then she wants to hear what the judge has to say about the possession charges. She might even try to get me off (she knows the judge too, =/ ) with a more lenient punishment.

She is going to allow me to smoke but she doesn't want to know about it. I can leave my stuff out, I don't have to hide it, but she doesn't want me to say, "Hey, I smoked last night." Likewise, she isn't going to answer any questions. I also said I think I owed it to her to try harder in school, so I'm going to. She said that would be great.

So, after this long, "arduous" journey, I think I may have finally found my destination. Before in our family, we had always screamed at each other, always unable to talk. We finally talk to each other, the first time in 17 years, and it almost all works out OKAY.

I just wanted to thank you guys so much. But, I would've given up on life two weeks ago had it not been for you guys. I actually didn't think this topic would be successful at all.

Anyway, thank you guys so much. I'll keep you updated when we hear from the judge etc etc.

[Grotesko]

Gothen, hope you come out without too much trouble... i just don't get it.. will america ever get it? Canabis users are no criminals... but hey, you all know that.

Good luck and greetings.

[NowhereMan]

glad things working out for ya
just hang in there and try
do ya best and ya parents will see your effort
and as a parent i know i do not expect superhuman kids,we just wait for the next event hoping its not to bad,knowing we are clueless to your lifestyle away from home ect,
they will know if your trying or acting like it so really really try
and thank her bro
a "thanks mom for trying to meet me halfway" will go a long way
peace

[moomoo]

i totally agree w nowhereman, Gothen, sounds like shes coming around, time for peace i had a feeling she would. im sure she feels awful. try to be nice and itll all work out.

[Totalpain]

wow dude........ ohh give me a sec i just read the whole thread and i need to think a bit.oh im so speechless at the moment i cant find words... this is probably the saddest and most incredible story i have ever heard in my whole life... i wish i could have read this before so i could have helped you out in those most depserate times...

your mom is almost exacly like mine. my mom is at times so pitch black hearted and so damn evil you just wish you could drive a stake through every inch her body. I'm 1000000% positive that man if my mom would mind me taking a smoke here and there, id be exacly in the same situation as you, shes so overprotective and so controlative, and i understood your story with heart-shaterring progress...( lukely ive talked to her about this, mind you it took me 5 months to convince her that im responsible, Im not joking) Just to take the bus now opens me so much more freedom

dude, that really fucking sucks man, i wish i could be there with you, helpin you out. the impact that that musta had that day that u smoked with your friend on her mind must have been so intense, so great, so enourmously overpowering to her little brain that she just fucking snapped man. it's really sad that it happens to some people that they snap and just rage and rage and rage for days, weeks, and months at a time because they just cant control it.

what your mom did really sucks man, callin the cops on you, god, and being charged too... the horror. As for not seeing your friends, thats gotta fucking suck even more man, i just cant believe it i was so speechless when i read it all.

man, sometimes im so fucken depressed too... (i could just imagine being in your flesh for a fraction of a second, and wonder what the fuck am i going to do in life at that point) I'm often so depressed of school, grades and stuff, friends aswell... but i have to tell you, without knowing anything at all, weed actually changed my life without me knowing it. I didn't realise it at first UNTIL now, weed has given me a lot of things, and all so far good.

i just realised, if it wasn't for weed, i woudn't have made new friends. I can't believe it, seriously, now that i think about it, i've made so many friends with weed.

i was so rejected in elementary school, just getting into high school was a change in my life. If you were to hear some of my stories when i was a little kid, i was being harrassed every day of my life, every day, class, minute, and second in school just was a total pain in my heart. i cant believe that im still living, i was so rejected for my peer group back then i coudnt believe it. As hard as i tried making friends with people, things seemed just to not add up. At times i was alone in a corner of school crying... crying... alone, some kids managed to find some little friendliness in their hearts to talk to me, and soon became people i often talked to, just to get out of my own misery. It feels so much better when you have something to say, and u just say it to your friends, and it really shares the load, because they can understand your suffering ( much like talking to people on this site)

Moments in distress like these really call for help. I'm glad you hung on to life as you did, i know it must have been incredibly hard, and the thought of suicide must have throbbled in your mind for much time. You took things well dude, and i think the people on this forum are very helpfull, and we really care dude, even if you are some guy i might never meet, i would try to help anyone that would be in these kinds of situations, anywhere, anytime.

You should see sometimes what my mom does guys, she would rage days to days, take away my screen and keybord, take my mouse away for days at a time because she would just be pissed. Sometimes, i really wish i could hit her with the back of a shotgun and shut her up, too bad in canada. She once took my tv, my comp, and most of my things away for a week, shes really mentally unbalanced...

You should always keep your stuff hidden dude, living with your parents that don't know that u are taking weed isnt a good thing, since you dont know if they are against it or not, ( xcept if you have talked about drugs with them before and they have given their opinion to you) Having flasks, seeds, stems, and weed, bongs, pipes everywhere around your room was pretty careless i might add, as for the booze, you should have kept all of it well hidden. ( lol sucker cops, it was nice that those pigs didn't search your room for further evidence, or you would have been even more boned) I keep all my stash and small things in a little bag that i have stored in my drawer. I only have my bong out on my table, because i bought it with my mom, and she know i dont smoke much, but of course i lie, if id be telling her im smoking sometimes, she would act up and explode. Fortunately for me, i had been taking psychologist therapies with her and my father( my parents are divorced, my father lives in another house) because of family problems. So she is cooled down, and she is very annoying ( She's coming every 30 minutes im my room just to check if im doing my homework fortunately i have my homework on my table saying that im doing it and that im talking to my friends on msn or something.)

Gothen, just hang in there buddy, try to get a job man your 17 you should be able to get some income, save as much as money as you can, safe for taking a few tokes here and there with your friends to relax. I would suggest you to go to your friends house after school and stay with some friends that dont mind. she can't possibly do things any worse that they are, so just do whaveter you want at this time with the time being, you can leave your house at any time you want, she cant stop you? oh and by the way, wheres your dad in this story???????????????????????????

Hang on man, 8 months of fun times in school with your friends flashes by, 8 months of torture is very long. just save your money as best as you can, hide your stash, and if ever you need help man, just ask away, dont feel ashamed to talk of your problems here man, we are here for you, anytime. especially get a job and save as much as money as you can so you can have some good handy money from if you want to move out when your probation is done, be carefull dude, dont get caught again, you dont want more crap.

Cheers man, try to enjoy life how it comes and goes

Total

[moomoo]

what a great letter ! cheers to you TP!!

[keven]

Hey i read from bigining to end and i feel sad for you and what you bin throw but i will half to agree with totalpain get a job save you money if your mom gose psycho on you agen for somthing you culde jest move out with the money you saved up. :cool:

[kaela]

i thought my situation was bad. damn. i wanna know what happens.

[Killa.Kali]

hahaha cops are dumber than rocks dude :D i had a gram of bud and a FAT glass pipe in my pocket when i got searched...never found it hahaha i love that shit xD

the fact that your 17 is good ;) fuck up when your underage, cuz once you turn 18 usually as long as your lawful matters are delt with your record is sealed, thats what they did for me and i got charged with felony posession of methamphetamine with intent to distribute, AND intent to manufacture and its all sealed, only ppl who can read that is the military :p

I cant believe your mom did that, thats sickening :mad: my moms a fuckin lawyer and she didnt do nuthin but throw it away the first few times she found it, if you plan on moving out u should give her a big chunk of ur mind right before u leave haha "mom, i love you, but fuck you!!!" hahaha

[robert42]

youll probly go on deathrow have to escape a prison run to bolivia change ya name to pable gaurez

[bobthemagicdragon12]

wow that is quite the story, im sorry man i hope everything works out, but if ur still worried about fines and shit u can go to www.NORML.com and they will at least give u all the fines and stuff for ur state at least on weed, im not sure if they do alcohol or anything else but that might at least let u know how much ur gonna have to pay cuz it doesnt sound liek ur moms gonna help, on that whole battery thing tho i would try to work with the judges niece and get to her to convince him that u did no such thing cuz that might get u into more trouble, anyways i offer my condolences and i hope everything works out for ya

[bobthemagicdragon12]

oops i hadnt gotten all the way to the end of the thread and i wanted to help u out it sounds like its workin out for ya, glad to see it

[Da1lungwonder]

Wow, i just read this and am blown away in the resemblance of your family and mine..i wish i had been a member when this was going on so that we coulda talked there it, cuzz im sure we would have MANY similar cases that we coulda see different viewpoints on..
My problem is that now that i have been on my own for almost 10 years the problems i had in my family have came back to bite me in the ass when i need to be the "adult" im have trouble.
I reecently(last 2.5-3yrs) have found the miracle the cannabis plant holds deep within it, and notice that it helps me threw the days..
Good luck to you..

[Toker4LifeVT]

Gothen, I read your whole story that really sucks, glad to see things are working out. I went though hell as a child too, but it wasn't for drugs, i was alienated in school, kids picked fights i fought back got in trouble with the teachers, got restrained, kicked outa school put in state programs, juvy, 2 hospitals and finally im living on my own lol. A coworker's sister introduced me to weed when i was 19, now 23 this december. Weed is a gift from god, never let anyone take that away. Hopefully some day our government will pick their heads up outa the sand and fix the fuck ups they have made. Peace~

Toker4LifeVT

[FloatNSmoke]

Tell your mom to go buy a fucking dildo for christs sake.

[Dopa]

Gothen man my mom is the EXACT same way. She is a religous conservative bible thumping bitch that has never smelled marijuana in her life and has fallen for the government bullshit about it. She almost called the cops on me when she came home and the house smelled like smoke. She threatened to have me arrested. :( I know exactly what you is going through.

[IrieInSocal]

My dad gave my first glass bong to the cops, Now he helps me with my plants. Haha

[bobbygreenbear]

I've decided I'm going to tell them that I DID get the booze from a cooler. I'm going to say that I had a friend drop me off at this place called The Newstand, and from there I walked around the town until I saw this house that had some cars in the driveway and people on the porch. I didn't have any intention to go to the party, but they were yelling something at me, so I came up to see what they were saying. There were people there with alcohol so I decided to join in. From there, I saw a cooler with some Buds in it, so I took a couple. I was there a total of, about, 10 minutes, and since I was so stoned (I'll use the word HIGH) I don't remember what the house was. All I know is that I didn't know anybody there

this may have been mentioned, but IMHO you're going the wrong way here, and this sounds like a really lousy idea. you found a house and had a party and can't remember which one it is? c'mon.

i think you're getting scared, and i understand, but chill; stick with your "found the beer in the woods" or "found it" anywhere where someone wouldn't be to blame for you getting a handle on it. don't go bringing in some dude to say he left it at your house. it seems you're grasping for believable stories to tell them; and i think you'll find yourself digging yourself deeper more than anything. "found in the woods" is good enough.

don't go wrapping yourself or anyone else up into some convoluted story that could do more harm than good


btw: your mother charged you with ASSAULT????????? holy ........... that's unreal beyond belief. up to that point i was a bit mixed up, but man, that's just terrible, really terrible.

i'm so sorry. just a note to folks in this thread: just remember, he's 17, and this is his mother. she may be doing foolish, hurtful, and damaging things, but she's still his mom. OP, i'm really sorry this is happening to you, but if you can manage it, don't hate her. it won't help you. perhaps by your forgiveness of her you can show her your maturity. it may very well be the best thing for you to get out of that situation asap, and that doesn't seem like long. i tell ya man, this is hard stuff you're going through; things will get better for you, they will. i think you're handling this all pretty well. good luck, try to avoid the hate, it just drags you down.


think of it this way: you're getting a jumpstart on adulthood and maturity that folks who get babied forever never get. sooner or later we all are on our own and struggling, you'll have a leg up on most of the others :) peace bro

[bobbygreenbear]

they cant get in no trouble for GIVING booze to a juvy

this fellows legal phrasing is going to get him in trouble someday ;) uh, yeah, that would actually be pretty illegal there bud; i think you meant for a juvy "stealing" their booze without their knowing? ok, but for crying out loud don't say that, don't say you stole it.

cop: where'd the booze come from
you: found it in the woods
cop: where?
you: over thereabouts
................... :)

nobody gave it to you, nobody stole anything, no adult is to blame

i'm sure you're past this stage (not through with the thread), but just some general advice for anyone

folks, when in doubt, say NOTHING, and get a lawyer, and they come free in our wonderful country ;)

[Steip]

well man, that does indeed suck, and i am sorry to hear about all of that.

i totally understand all those depressing emotions you experianced, i was the exact same way.

My mom is not nearly as strict as your mom, thank god, so i never had it nearly as bad as you did.

I recently got arrested for paraphernalia, i got caught by my school security and i have to apear in court May 21st, as of now my mom doesnt want me to come home so i am at the very very begining of a similar situation that you were in, its going to be very difficult for me as well, but i just hope i can see the beauty in all of this and i will make it through.

im 16 with pretty poor grades and this is my first offense, think im going to have drug testing as well???

Anyway, good luck man dont give up, when this is all over and you are puffin again, aww man :thumbsup: :D

[drdanko]

heres what probably gona happen to you due to ur first offense...youre gona get a fine for the weed, atleast 40 hours community service, drug classes n youre probably gona get tested a few times a month, AA classes since they found alcohol, and maybe a years probation.....

[drdanko]

i hate it when you get caught smoking and parents and cops look at you as some kind of criminal. I mean its not like we created the plant, it grows out of the earth! just cause the US law says its a terrible deadly gateway drug doesnt mean it is....:thumbsup: :stoned: cops are such a buzzkill!!!

[lagirl4music]

hey that sucks, good luck to you though