Need Advice

[skunke]

I was wondering if anyone could post their thoughts on my issue that I am having., My sense of well being has become extreml low, i have been feeling depressed for the past 1 year, my mother was diagnosed with breast cancer last summer, this situation has changed her completly as the chemo has effected her personalty, it changed her into a monster, shes has become hostile,voilent,provocative,and manupilitive. In the past year my self well being has decreased, i have become depressed ,feel like mental capabilty has decreased (studdering when i speak) and disconected (slightly dreamy), My social life has also signifantly sufferd. I dont smoke weed that often once every couple months or so, it has really helped me when i felt extremly depressed.The solution to help myself i believe is too elimatate the stresses and negetive aspects in my life for myself.
Just wondering what your guys and gals thougths on my situaion would be!
Thanks:)

[skunke]

Oh ya im a college student by the way.

[skyecatcher]

My father went through chemo and radiation with his brain tumor. He was different person completely... from age four to ninety in seconds flat. With the mood swings, the depression, the anger, resentment, hostility, love,compassion.
Just knwo you aren't alone....
Do you live with her?

[weedmaster]

we all have bad times dureing our life,it must be very difficult for your mum and you, but try and be possitive, look at anything that is good in life and focus on them,this is just a chapter in your book of life,hopefully soon the page will turn and a new chapter will begin.good luck in colledge. all my best wishes to you and your family.

[skunke]

Hey sky... yes i live with her, after so many years the scientific community confrmed the side effects of chemo and brain damage, interesting article. Suprisingle the doctors didnt tell us of any this.
Brain Damage & Chemo (http://www.newscientist.com/channel/health/dn10224-chemotherapy-linked-to-lasting-brain-change.html)

[LuciferN]

The constant pain she is living is making her a monster... She still love you for sure !
Brain damage does not sound good... Hope she will be in the 18%
Try to suggest her to meditation, relax or do something like yoga. She need to canalize all this pain in something else, not anger and frustrations.

[8182KSKUSH]

I was wondering if anyone could post their thoughts on my issue that I am having., My sense of well being has become extreml low, i have been feeling depressed for the past 1 year, my mother was diagnosed with breast cancer last summer, this situation has changed her completly as the chemo has effected her personalty, it changed her into a monster, shes has become hostile,voilent,provocative,and manupilitive. In the past year my self well being has decreased, i have become depressed ,feel like mental capabilty has decreased (studdering when i speak) and disconected (slightly dreamy), My social life has also signifantly sufferd. I dont smoke weed that often once every couple months or so, it has really helped me when i felt extremly depressed.The solution to help myself i believe is too elimatate the stresses and negetive aspects in my life for myself.
Just wondering what your guys and gals thougths on my situaion would be!
Thanks:)

I am sorry, but you want our thoughts. Here are mine, I don't mean to offend you, and I didn't read any of the other replies, just giving you my initial thoughts right from the gut.

What I think is that you are ridiculous. :wtf:
Your mother whom raised you and provides for had cancer and chemo, and you are posting here asking us what we think about you using MMJ for "being sad or whatever". WTF? How about suggesting your mom try some MMJ?
I don't care, and you should not care what anyone thinks of you using "cannabis", for any reason. But if you are just posting here to get some kind of justification to use it for whatever reason, (that's not just you, but lots of people, please don't take this as an attack, I just think that if cannabis provides you some benefit or relief in any way, you don't need to post on a forum and ask other people if they think it sounds ok to use "MMJ". Really who cares? If you get relief or any positive benefit GOOD, you probably already know this and don't need anyone else's approval!)

But seriousely your mom may have some positive benefit from using cannabis. It just kind of makes me say WTF out loud because you described your moms situation, and then had the gall to say,


In the past year my self well being has decreased, i have become depressed ,feel like mental capabilty has decreased (studdering when i speak) and disconected (slightly dreamy), My social life has also signifantly sufferd. I dont smoke weed that often once every couple months or so, it has really helped me when i felt extremly depressed.The solution to help myself i believe is too elimatate the stresses and negetive aspects in my life for myself.
Just wondering what your guys and gals thougths on my situaion would be!
Thanks:)

Yeah sorry you are having such a rough year, I guess. Could be worse I guess, you know? How's your mom feeling? That's all I am going to say. I don't want to fight with you or anything, just wanted to "let you know what I think". Honestly.:wtf:
I am not trying to be mean or anything, if you are mad at my post,
1. You asked us what we think, there it is.
2. Just tell yourself I am a jerk and ignore it, becasue the point wasn't to piss you off, just to point out that you seem kind of self centered in this post.
Honestly this was just my gut reaction to reading your post.:)

[thcbongman]

Hey sky... yes i live with her, after so many years the scientific community confrmed the side effects of chemo and brain damage, interesting article. Suprisingle the doctors didnt tell us of any this.
Brain Damage & Chemo (http://www.newscientist.com/channel/health/dn10224-chemotherapy-linked-to-lasting-brain-change.html)

There's no doubt in my mind that chemo does have some affect on mental capability, but it's not drastic nor is it detrimental. Chemo has some nasty ass side effects, but it does kill the cancer. Nothing more effective has been found otherwise. I see your issue from 2 different sides of what I experienced with cancer: being the patient then taking care of my father before he passed away last week. God bless his soul.

You are frustrated. The time you took to take care of your mom, it a lot of mental anguish. Anyone whos in your situation would be depressed and not feeling like yourself. It's painful to watch your own mom deteriorate before their eyes and feel totally helpless. You built up a lot of anger inside you and it's shown from the negative energy you feel inside.

Now you have to remember your mom is sick. She's not going to be at her best. She's suffering from pain, whether it be from side effects or sadness. Having cancer is no fun, it's a traumatizing experience. Did your mom have her breasts removed? You have to remember that your mom's image and self-worth are affected and what she needs is affection. It's the toughest thing to do, especially feeling the anguish you are. You got to be the strong one for your mom because she's going through a lot of issues. Just remember two things: love and hope. It'll keep you strong, the best thing you can do is to show her how much you love her. Life is short, it really is.

[MIDNIGHTspecial]

In my experience, when things reach their lowest point, and shit seems the worst, I always know that something good is around the corner, and like clockwork, it always is. It seems like life never lets me reach rock bottom cause once I get too close, something happens to turn it all around for me. Stay strong, something good may present itself in unexpected ways (that sounds like a fortune cookie saying but I just thought of it).

[cygnustaxt]

man, that sucks, I'm sure you're having a real hard time right now.

Here's a suggestion, do you have any hobbies? You know, like exercising, music, video games, etc...

You should find some sort of hobby that you enjoy and whenever you start getting stressed or feeling really down, go and do that hobby. For me, i have a lot of different hobbies but the main one is music. I play a lot of different instruments but whenever I'm feeling down, I'll grab my guitar and for those moments when I'm playing I tend to forget about everything else around me and just focus in on the music. Music is a great thing, you can express all of your emotions without saying a single word, just let the music speak for you.

Sorry again to hear about the troubles you're having in life, but things will get better eventually. You're just in a rough spot right now, everyone goes through times like this just know that you'll be able to get through it and everything will be better for you soon.

[wishpotwaslegal]

i totaly understand my mom had breast cancer her tumer was 6 inches around with an aggeresion of 9 they removed the brest and her lympnodes she went through radition chemo. we were all very sad for her and she was still our back bone she had the most amazing attiude toward her cancer.she was very positive. she did not use any pain meds just weed and she says if it wernt for weed she dosent kno what she would have done.just keep her smileing and thinking positive and dont let her get all stond and sleepy on pain meds caus thats were shell just lie ther and be depressed and thats not the way to beat cancer.you must keep her moving and happy and keep positive.the ons that lie there all stond up on pain meds felling sorry for themselves and constinly wanting pitty are the ons that dont beat cancer.YOU MUST BE POSITIVE NO MATTER WHAT! weed will helpm with nasia and help her eat and keep her happy. best of luck

[wishpotwaslegal]

i for got to mention she has been in remission for 4 almost 5 years when she went for her last ex ray the doc said it totaly just disaperd he dumbfounded but glad it was gone.in the begining she was told that her chances of living was 50% chance and she did it KEEP POSITVE!!! and good luck

[Coelho]

I dont smoke weed that often once every couple months or so, it has really helped me when i felt extremly depressed.

So, my advice to improve your well being is: do smoke more often, as much as you can. It helps you and you do know it. So, why not?

And it would be VERY good if you were able to convince your mom to do the same. Cancer is a bitch, chemo is another bitch, and together they can fuck anyones life. Cannabis is an invaluable herb for treating the problems caused by this two bitches. It can literally turn ones life from hell to heaven if one were suffering this health problems. I would advise you to look at our medical section, there is a LOT of useful information there.
Also, try to talk with Birdgirl73. If my stoner memory doesnt fail me, she has a sister that also had problems with cancer and chemo, and cannabis worked wonders in her case. Surely she would give you a lot of good advice.
Anyway, good luck, and i hope the best for you and your mom. :thumbsup:

[Ganj]

I was wondering if anyone could post their thoughts on my issue that I am having., My sense of well being has become extreml low, i have been feeling depressed for the past 1 year, my mother was diagnosed with breast cancer last summer, this situation has changed her completly as the chemo has effected her personalty, it changed her into a monster, shes has become hostile,voilent,provocative,and manupilitive. In the past year my self well being has decreased, i have become depressed ,feel like mental capabilty has decreased (studdering when i speak) and disconected (slightly dreamy), My social life has also signifantly sufferd. I dont smoke weed that often once every couple months or so, it has really helped me when i felt extremly depressed.The solution to help myself i believe is too elimatate the stresses and negetive aspects in my life for myself.
Just wondering what your guys and gals thougths on my situaion would be!
Thanks:)

You seem like a nice kid. Consider the depression a side effect from the realization that you could lose your mom to cancer. Maybe you should seek help from other people who also suffer at the hands of this degenerative disease? The internet is not only good for visiting cannabis communities after all. ;) On the other hand, maybe you are being a little bit selfish. In my humble opinion whenever moms become monsters, often times what is good for your mom turns out to be good for yourself, which is to say do not complain about the situation. Sure your mom may be acting a little unruly but she is facing issues she is not familiar with. It might be only natural to act out. Besides haven't you ever seen her on her period? :jointsmile:

[skunke]

Thanks for the advice everyone, How would you guys think i should bring up the topic of her trying it, i have mentioned to her the thereputic effects of cannabis , she strongly believe in herbs and alternative medicne so you guys have any good tips?

Hey 8182KSKUSH
Im not looking for a justification for my smoking bud, Im selfish? everyone has some egocentrism in them but what whould you feel in my boots? Imagine waking up not to your alarm clock but to the sound of yelling? Walking down to the kitchen and knowing that you will be yelled at no matter what, even for things that she will know you will do in the future. Being told its, your fault shes sick, your poisonig me , killing me ect..... MULTIPLY THIS BY 365 days and how would you feel my friend?

[JohnnyZ]

Sorry to hear all this man, sounds like your going through hell. I didn't know chemo caused all sorts of mood swings and the like.

Tell your mom you love her, over and over again. Positivity dude.

Just remember, when you've hit rock bottom there ain't nowhere to go but up baby.