Need help with friend problems.

[DarkFire]

Recently, my friends have begun to be very worried about me. I smoke pot and occationally other stuff, but nothing big. Some threaten to tell my parents and some threaten our friendship. They think of me in ways i wish they wouldnt, i try to explain how the drug is harmless and all but it does no good. Quitting is not an option, but wtf can i do? I feel bad, and i think that its just a waste cuz they are worried about nothing. they also think that im stupid for taking drugs which i also dont like. please help, thx.

[Cattabis]

thats easy, get new friends

and it also probably depends how old your friends are, if their gona rat you out, then i think the problem is them, cause who the fuck rats their buddies out for weed?

or, quit the other shit and just keep toking. they are probably worried about you because you've grown distant from them, see weed isnt exactly the most social drug..

[kiwi]

:cool: Well I think that your lucky to have friends that care that much for you. I think it shows how much that like you and want you in their lives, trust me I have to keep some of my m8z in cheak and they know that I take the direct approach.... :mad:

[Button Basher]

Do you smoke around them? If not then just tell them your cutting right down and throw in some "I value your friendship" fuzziness to seal the deal. Then just make sure they don't know your still toking.

[DarkFire]

i guess u could say im a jerk cuz i do smoke in front of them and wut not, but i did it only to make them more used to it. my friends mom found out that i smoke weed, and im scared bout that too, so i cant drop that friend or else.

Problem is i like these friends, and i have few stoner friends cuz i started toking only 1.5 years ago..

[juggalo420]

try and make your friends start smoking, then theyll realize its not bad.

[DarkFire]

^^^ closest thing to impossible i can think of.

[Mr. Mary Jane]

WTF....ur freinds sound like mr bro.....they think its bad because they grew up listening to there parents just like we all did... lets face it when u guys were like 12 you all thought that u would never smoke.

budddy ur friends are retarted they asume that its bad but give them proof that there wrong get shit of the internet...and laugh in there face cuz its people like that, that rune all the fun

[mr chinnery]

Yeah man you are stupid for smoking drugs! Don't you know that!? Do it anyway! Until your face comes loose! And there are mink in your tree. Spanner yourself with a vicious harangue, then, fleetingly, chant of lost potatoes 'neath a moonshine towelette.

[DarkFire]

they say shit like ur throwing ur life away and dont care how much i try to convince them. one of my stupider friends says that when im 30 and do a drug test for a job, ill fail it and my life will b over.....

[LilRedDevil]

:cool: Well I think that your lucky to have friends that care that much for you. I think it shows how much that like you and want you in their lives, trust me I have to keep some of my m8z in cheak and they know that I take the direct approach.... :mad:


I agree! I mean you have got to know that doing drugs is not the best choice. To me it sounds like your friends love and respect you, thats great!

So my advice is live with it or stop smoking, unless of course you want to get rid of what sounds like a great bunch of friends. The guy I'm dating now does not do any drugs :eek: and has only tried pot a few times, he does not push but tells me he would like me to stop, because he cares!

If your going to keep doing drugs........STICK WITH WEED ;)

[juggalo420]

^^^ closest thing to impossible i can think of.
bake some special brownies and feed it to them w/ out them knowing whats in it, alittle fucked up but your friends sound prickish they deserve it.

[DarkFire]

ive thought of doing shit like that all the time.... once i was in a packed theater wit all my antiweed friends, and i secretly took in a hit and blew it at all their faces with out them knowing... ya they got 2nd hand thc.

[MiNdYoU]

Yeah man you are stupid for smoking drugs! Don't you know that!? Do it anyway! Until your face comes loose! And there are mink in your tree. Spanner yourself with a vicious harangue, then, fleetingly, chant of lost potatoes 'neath a moonshine towelette.

YES!!!!!!!!!!!

[phillykid420]

Agree with lilred and kiwi. Is it just the weed or other stuff that has them concerned? I had a girlfriend who didn't smoke, she kinda minded and she wished I would quit but she didn't say too much to me about it cause my grades were a lot better than hers. (she wanted me to quit weed, I wanted her to stop falling asleep in the library lol) So if you wanna stop them from worrying just do better than them at school and then it'll contradict their whole smoking weed makes you dumb thing.

I like spite as a motivator. If someone tells me I'm dumb for smoking, I'll still smoke but work twice as hard as them and put it on them on every test just to prove a point.

Before you burn bridges, friends with the courage to talk to you like they do are very rare in life, friends who would be willing to make you hate them because they're looking out for your best interest are even more rare you should cherish them.

[Day Dreamin Faze]

Ive had freinds like this my whole life...Some of my freinds smoke...some are straight edge and some smoke and are straight with e verything else...Just tell them your the same person and tehy shouldnt think differently of your freindship because of a drug you do...I dont think its anyones right to tell your parents the things you are doing on your own time...But it prob just shows how much tehy care for you..To each his own.

[Darkneon420]

Hmmm, you need to get your friends attention and tell them that Marijuana is harmless. Say that it wont ruin your life, and that before you did that you'd stop smoking.

All my friends are cool with it. So is my boyfriend. Hes tried getting high like 4 times but never got high just buzzed so he stoped. Sucks cuz if he got high i know he'd love it so much.

[DjSkizzle]

see weed isnt exactly the most social drug..

Shiittttttttt, lol weed has dun me a great deal of soicalism, i've meet so many people like that, i just meet a couple people the other day, i'm always meeting new people smoking, its tight :D

[Mr. Mary Jane]

bake some special brownies and feed it to them w/ out them knowing whats in it, alittle fucked up but your friends sound prickish they deserve it.


.,...not only that once they see how amaing there time was theylle be begging for more



and that when super man comes in... see super man use to be a frweind of spidermans until they fought over spidermans now girlfreind MARY JANE....see acrding to the advortisory company of N.A.S.A. the donkeys are black only when the female and male systems reproduce each other.....hard to believe isnt it....i know, ill give it some time to sink in

[ermitonto]

Do some research, get the facts, print them out and have all your replies to your friends' uninformed comments ready. Then sit down with them and ask them to have a civilized discussion regarding the effects of the drug. If you've done your homework, you should be able to easily contradict anything they tell you about it severely damaging your health or otherwise affecting your life negatively. Get them to understand that the only bad things about smoking pot are because it's illegal. Tell your friend who thinks your life will be over at 30 when you fail a drug test that (a) drug tests are extremely easy to cheat on or sober up for, and (b) not getting one job isn't going to ruin your life since there are always other jobs out there and some of them are for people who respect others' rights to do what they please in their free time.

Tell them it doesn't really destroy brain cells, that it doesn't give anyone cancer, that pot smokers who don't do other drugs have the same mental capabilities as non-smokers. And have the research to back it up.

http://www.drugtext.org/sub/marmyt1.html
http://www.drugpolicy.org/marijuana/factsmyths/

[Nullific]

I know many people like this...many try to say things like that knew a person who did drugs and they completely ruined their lives and all that bullshit, remind them that person isn't you. No drug is inherently evil.
Then tell them to go screw, if they were to tell your parents or anything it would be much more devastating to you than the drugs could be. The whole "Drugs don't let friends do drugs" bullshit really pisses me off, it is like some twisted reverse peer-pressure. Remind them it is your life and how you choose to live is not their problem especially since you arn't hurting yourself, get decent grades, a job, stay out of drug debts and you can show them the use has no negative impact on your life.
Analogies may help, for instance if they smoke cigarettes or drink show them how much more dangerous alcohol and tobacco are and how nicotine is one of the deadliest naturally occuring chemicals known to man. I also like to use caffeine, which is an addictive drug available to anybody that definately alters conscience (a stimulant) and has such risks as stomach ulcers, diarrhea, anxiety ect. to show how stupid the whole drug war really is. Also compare to sports, which are used for reacreation and have risk of injury involved and things like videogames.
Find out as much as you can about bullshit like this.
www.jackherer.com/chapters.html - The reason marijuana is illegal in the first place; corporate gain.
Drug War Crimes by Jeffrey Miron

If they have never tried the drug, they have no right to judge it or its users.
Give me virtually any piece of anti-drug propaganda and i'll give it a kick in the ass.
For example: http://boards.cannabis.com/showthread.php?t=12945&highlight=DEA

[4252]

I think Phillykid has the right idea; people are usually influenced by actions, not words. If your friends really are that important to you, what've you got to lose by showing them you've got your act together and the smoking is just a recreational passtime? I mean play down the illusion that it's harmful to you; keep your grades up if you're in school, take better care of yourself, be the kind of person your friends enjoy being around, and so on. It's the stereotypes that make them think the way they do, probably a lot more than personal experience. See if you can figure out what the negative aspects are that they percieve in you as a recreational user, and try to break out of the patterns they think are harmful. As long as you're honest about it, I mean. If you're trying to decieve them, they'll probably know it, even if you think you're convincing enough to pull it off.
You may even find out that working on yourself to become a better or more agreeable person is worth the trouble, stranger things have happened.
Hope some of this made sense.
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[DarkFire]

once i find each of them on aim im gonna paste that marijuana myths thing, thx guys.