Gandalf_The_Grey
07-23-2008, 04:33 PM
This is something that has irked me for a long time, and I'm wondering what your opinions are on the matter. It's this double-standard that seems to prevail in society's attitude toward women when it comes to sex. That being; this so casually-used term "slut" that men (and some women) tend to apply to women who have a lot of sex with a lot of partners. In fact, people seem to be so overzealous with the term at times, that they'll be quick to throw this offensive word in the face of a woman who barely go outside the bounds of single-partner relations.
Human beings, male and female, are naturally driven by a powerful sex drive of greatly-varrying degrees for everybody. Some of us will have a lot of sex with one partner because we enjoy the emotional security and intimacy of intellectual as well as physical bonding. Some relieve sexual urges by picking up one-night-stands in bars for a quick fix. Some will just masturbate a lot. Like any animal, we are driven to mate and driven to relieve sexual urges.
And yet, just look at how people see a man or a woman who each do the same thing. If a man picks up a girl in a bar, has sex with her, he's just being... well, a man! If a guy has sex with a lot of women, well he's just a real ladies-man. So suave and cool, so charming and skilled. :cool: No no, he's not a slut, he's the highly-skilled master of seduction for whom great admiration is due.
Conversely, a woman has sex with a guy she just meets and she's "giving it away easily", which means she's a "slut", of course. She has sex with multiple partners without need for emotional attachement, and the slutty title is pretty much guaranteed.
I have a strong suspicion that outdated beliefs about female sexuality from hundreds of years back still persist; this rediculous notion that only men should be considered healthy for having a powerful sex-drive, whereas women are only there for the guys to enjoy. It's grossly offensive, I know, but I think subconsciously a lot of the more shallow people in the world still believe this. It's all akin back to the days when there was actually debate on whether or not women really enjoyed sex; neh, that it is not their place to enjoy sex, only to seek the emotional, physical, and financial security of a man; further, the fulfillment of the maternal instinct to bear children. An outdated chauvinistic belief-system that the pleasures of the world are designed for men, and a woman's role is merely to ensure his gratification.
Or could the cause be entirely different? What do you think?
Human beings, male and female, are naturally driven by a powerful sex drive of greatly-varrying degrees for everybody. Some of us will have a lot of sex with one partner because we enjoy the emotional security and intimacy of intellectual as well as physical bonding. Some relieve sexual urges by picking up one-night-stands in bars for a quick fix. Some will just masturbate a lot. Like any animal, we are driven to mate and driven to relieve sexual urges.
And yet, just look at how people see a man or a woman who each do the same thing. If a man picks up a girl in a bar, has sex with her, he's just being... well, a man! If a guy has sex with a lot of women, well he's just a real ladies-man. So suave and cool, so charming and skilled. :cool: No no, he's not a slut, he's the highly-skilled master of seduction for whom great admiration is due.
Conversely, a woman has sex with a guy she just meets and she's "giving it away easily", which means she's a "slut", of course. She has sex with multiple partners without need for emotional attachement, and the slutty title is pretty much guaranteed.
I have a strong suspicion that outdated beliefs about female sexuality from hundreds of years back still persist; this rediculous notion that only men should be considered healthy for having a powerful sex-drive, whereas women are only there for the guys to enjoy. It's grossly offensive, I know, but I think subconsciously a lot of the more shallow people in the world still believe this. It's all akin back to the days when there was actually debate on whether or not women really enjoyed sex; neh, that it is not their place to enjoy sex, only to seek the emotional, physical, and financial security of a man; further, the fulfillment of the maternal instinct to bear children. An outdated chauvinistic belief-system that the pleasures of the world are designed for men, and a woman's role is merely to ensure his gratification.
Or could the cause be entirely different? What do you think?