Cant stop thinking bout her?Need advice

[lawdre]

Ok, I'm trying to build a relationship with this girl I've met. I have honestly adored her since I first laid eyes on her. We have 2 classes together so in the last 3 or 4 weeks, we've been talking and flirting or whatever. So last week I asked her for her number and she gave it to me. So i called her the next day two times and got no answer so i said cool, i'll just wait till i see her on monday in class and well talk or whatever. Well when we were in class monday, she talked to her girlfriend the whole time and didn't say nothing to me, though she did look at me a few times. So class ended and I texted her just making small talk but she never responded. So I see her in my next class later that day and want to say something to her but its alot of people in the room. During class, i feel like i notice her girlfriend looking at me from time to time. That class ended and nothing was said so I spent the rest of my day feeling bad about it. Tonight, I called her twice and got no answer. On the last call, I left a message. I really like this girl cuz she is just so different to me.

Should I just come right out next time I see her and tell her how wonderful i think she is? Is she not answering her phone cuz shes not interested in me? Why did she give me her number? Am I pursuing her too hard? I really wanna build something special with her becuase i fell like shes amazing and I cant get her off of my mind. Does she even like me? All help is appreciated.

[DaBudhaStank]

Wow are you my twin? This bullshit just happened to me and it sucked, haha. I can't say I have any good advice for you, except this: beware what you ask for on here, because well...you probably wont get it, lol.

[geonagual]

I dont know

[Gundari]

Talk to her about it, she can't read your mind. That way if she's interested you'll get everything out in the open, if she isn't you can work on gettin her outta your head and move on.

[lawdre]

she was showing interest but she never picks up or responds when i text her. Do u think i should just put it all out there next time i see her?

[13Lack]

I think you should stop calling her and texting her so much. Your throwing yourself at her and women generally don't find that attractive from my experience. I say let it go for a bit and if she wants to talk to you she'll hit YOU up but don't seem desperate and go calling her four times a day.

And definitely don't put it all out there so soon....that scares alot of women away when your rush things. So like I said, take it easy and if you guys get to talk..then talk but if she's being shady and not picking up your calls or answering your texts let it go, because pursuing a girl like that usually ends up in pain.....maybe I'm just pessimistic....

[slumper89]

naw dude your totaly right... to keep it real, dont let any kind of girl make you feel bad... sounds to me like she has kind of a flirty attitude which (if you like her like "that") isnt all that good... do this:
1:do not call her anymore
2:no girl (unless in love) is worth getting all emo over
3:you are the man
4:"you either fuck her or "fuck her!""

[chucktownbeez1]

naw dude your totaly right... to keep it real, dont let any kind of girl make you feel bad... sounds to me like she has kind of a flirty attitude which (if you like her like "that") isnt all that good... do this:
1:do not call her anymore
2:no girl (unless in love) is worth getting all emo over
3:you are the man
4:"you either fuck her or "fuck her!""

:thumbsup:

Well put, I know how you feel bro, I was in that situation and I'm making forward progress now mainly from being patient and passive. When you go to class next pay attention and keep up with the class, demonstrating higher values (yes I am quoting mystic or whatever his name is) of you're not just interested in getting with her you have a life too. Really though man no girl is worth getting down over, hang out with your boys, enjoy yourself and let her do a little work, if shes really interested she'll let you know somehow just be on the look out.

edit: If theres one thing I've learned in my life from girls and first hand knowledge, is that they hate when guys are obsessed and annoying.

[StickyfingahZ]

Well,she wouldnt have given you her number if she didnt want you callin her.
Maybe she is still kinda unsure.I agree with everyone with dont over text her or calling her.She's obvisouly being unhurried to answer your calls or texts.....just try to think of her as a freind....cause thats all it is right now,even though youd want more.
Best of luck bro

[Reefer Rogue]

ask her to marry you

[ReUp]

What are you naming the kids? Wait she wont even talk to you outside of your classes. That should be clear enough. The truth sucks ball sack and I've most definitely been in your shoes.

[ChaosPotHeadNYC]

forget her man, forget having a girl friend, your in high school, you should be with as many different chicks as possible, not hung up on one bitchy broad

[lawdre]

im in college but i get what yall are saying. Ima just fall back. I would have really made her happy though but its all good. Thanks to all ya for da advice.

[StickyfingahZ]

You'll find your less stressed when you do lay back abit,instead of constantly letting her consume your life.I think every guy goes through something like this.

[asphyyxiate]

yeah..just back off play it cool for abit then try again later :) go easy

[Canadian_Cron]

you freaked her out.

[JD1stTimer]

Yeah, I do this all the time and I can't even stop knowing that it kills me.

[Chaotixxx]

Well,she wouldnt have given you her number if she didnt want you callin her.
Maybe she is still kinda unsure.I agree with everyone with dont over text her or calling her.She's obvisouly being unhurried to answer your calls or texts.....just try to think of her as a freind....cause thats all it is right now,even though youd want more.
Best of luck bro

I disagree. Most girls will avoid conflict and give their number instead of turning someone down. Even if they arent interested. Girls arent stupid... her phone has a caller ID, and she knows who it was. If she didnt call back she doesnt like you, lol.

[StickyfingahZ]

I disagree. Most girls will avoid conflict and give their number instead of turning someone down. Even if they arent interested. Girls arent stupid... her phone has a caller ID, and she knows who it was. If she didnt call back she doesnt like you, lol.

True dat chaotixxx,that is a good point.Maybe she is hoping you take the hint by her not answering or not returning her calls and texts.....but either way,its best to back up and just treat her as a freind,you know?You left the texts and messages.....she knows how you feel.:thumbsup:

[greenhorngrower]

Back off... like really.. back WAYYY off... to the point where you barely even acknowledge her in person.. then in some time.. give her a call and ask if she would like to go out sometime.. if she says no... fuck her.. she doesnt matter.. dont get all crazy over a girl who isnt even yours yet.. I made that mistake once, and it sucked hard..:thumbsup:

[lawdre]

fuck her, i wont say another word to her or even look at her. She dont exist to me anymore. I deleted her number out my phone so im finished.