Can't figure this girl out

[chucktownbeez1]

So there's this girl in my spanish class that I've been hanging out with occasionaly. I asked her to go to coffee after class one day and we did, and we did that a few more times. She called me up one night when she was out with her friends from home to hang out. So we hung out that night and flirted a ton but I didn't pull the trigger. Hung out once or twice after that at my place just for awhile (but early at night which is weak).

This week we hang out two nights ago, her idea, at my place to study spanish and watch a movie. I buy both of us beer, she comes over and talks to roommate while I'm like between them for awhile, and then does her spanish hw on my comp with my book while we're supposed to be watching the movie. She didn't really flirt with him but she still talked to him alot. Now at the same time I got all this negativity going on she still says stuff that makes me think shes into me. We hung alone while my roommmates were at dinner, but I never saw an oppurtunity to make a move. I text her later that night asking to hang out again, she says yes just say when, next day I ask to hang tommorow, saying I'll try to find a party and I'll let her know.

So now here we are TODAY, I text her around 7 saying I haven't heard of any parties, (Just bars, but she doesn't have a fake so that wouldn't work) she texts me back at 11:00 asking if found anything, I tell her no and that I'm at my friends watching The life Aquatic and she hasn't texted me back in an hour.

It really sucks guys, because I really like this girl, she's a knockout combo that I just can't give up on too easy. Ladies out there (Or men, if you know what you're talking about or have a hiliarious generic web forum comment to add) what's going on with this girl. I'm fighting a lost cause? Or is there still something I could do?

TL; DR: This girl is giving me the run around, and I want to punch her in the ovaries.

[Canadian_Cron]

So now here we are TODAY, I text her around 7 saying I haven't heard of any parties, (Just bars, but she doesn't have a fake so that wouldn't work) she texts me back at 11:00 asking if found anything, I tell her no and that I'm at my friends watching The life Aquatic and she hasn't texted me back in an hour.

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thats when u shudda asked her if she wanted to hange out with you 2nite... dude shes into you, shes just waiting for you 2 make your move... dont wait 2 long or shes gonna lose interest. ask her to hang out with u in a place where u know that ull b comfortable to make a move on her, but at the same time dont make it really obvious.

[Dave Byrd]

Canadian's right. You're the one who's been hesitating. Until now, she's been saying yes to your invitations to hang out/study. Yet you keep letting the moments get away from you. Keep that up and the moments will soon slip right through your fingers. The only person you ought to be mad at right now is yourself.

[1puff2puff3puff]

I agree Canadian, make your move and soon before you move in the friends zone and she looses intrest in you, and starts liking your friends. Trust me we are like that, she like you and she showed you now she is waiting for you to act on it, if your not ........


Good Luck Hun...

[chucktownbeez1]

Alright so tommorow after spanish in the a.m. should I ask her to grab some coffee and then try and make plans again. I've been out of the game for awhile guys, I could really use a game plan here.

[thcbongman]

You know any romantic spots where you could swoon her with a kiss? :thumbsup:

[geonagual]

Coffee is done! Do something else...have you 2 kissed yet?

If you need ideas on things to do..just ask

[FlyGuyOU]

put the fucking move on, get a move on

[chucktownbeez1]

Nah we haven't kissed yet, and shes leaving to go out of town tommorow so I won't see her all weekend, that's why I dont understand why she wouldn't have texted me back until 11, which is really late for both of us.

So where can I take her at 11:00 a.m. that would be better than coffee or breakfast (done that too)?

[thcbongman]

You gotta have a favorite toking spot that's aesthetically pleasing. Doesn't matter the place, but your mindset. Just be yourself, and let things flow naturally. Show her what you want!

[chucktownbeez1]

*Update*

Walked back with her after class this morning, her phone is messed up which explains last night (her text were like 5 hours delayed, she sent me one at 4 am asking to watch a movie, when really she wanted to at like 11) So now shes leaving for clemson for the weekend at 1, I asked her if she wanted get lunch if she had time before she left, so now if she can I guess she'll call. Whether we eat lunch or not, should I call her this weekend at clemson just to talk? Or just wait until she gets back. Cannabis.com get me through this, I'm new here some good advice would be greatly appreciated. All the advice so far has been extremely helpful and actually has completely changed my outlook on the situation. I really do think now that you all were right, I'm pretty sure shes interested.

[The Dude Of Life]

i'm in the same kind of situation, ive been chillin with this girl for about a week now even in my room with beers and still not made a move on her... she even went as far as to take me lingerie shopping with her yesterday... good sign or what i dont know, im just so hesitant to make the move you know its hard shit.

[DaZeDShAdOw]

chuck when shes at clemson call her a couple times but (do not be clingy and call her all the time) call her and just ask her how her day went and if shes doing good......also when she comes back maybe take her to the movies or out to dinner or go for a walk or whatever and then make the move and kiss her believe me from the sounds of it shes def. into you and she wants you to make a move

[chucktownbeez1]

Dazed, def good call I did that actually I called her at like 11 Saturday night and set up plans for monday night before we both leave school for thanksgiving. She seemed excited that I called and def wants to hang out. I'm gonna take her to dinner then a movie, I'll let you guys know what's up, things are looking well right now.

[DaZeDShAdOw]

good deal glad to hear it bro! keep us posted.

[geonagual]

Glad everything is going good...this is the funnest stage in relationships...

[Spoken Word]

You gotta have a favorite toking spot that's aesthetically pleasing.:thumbsup:


*Update*

Walked back with her after class this morning, her phone is messed up which explains last night (her text were like 5 hours delayed, she sent me one at 4 am asking to watch a movie, when really she wanted to at like 11) So now shes leaving for clemson for the weekend at 1, I asked her if she wanted get lunch if she had time before she left, so now if she can I guess she'll call. Whether we eat lunch or not, should I call her this weekend at clemson just to talk? Or just wait until she gets back. Cannabis.com get me through this, I'm new here some good advice would be greatly appreciated. All the advice so far has been extremely helpful and actually has completely changed my outlook on the situation. I really do think now that you all were right, I'm pretty sure shes interested.
Lucky you, that sounds great man.

If you're really interested in her, I guess you have to find a *respectful* way of letting her know. When and where is up to you. Like most have said, during the "date", try and find a way to kiss her. This will let her know you mean buisness. That way, she can't say that she thought you guys were -just- friends. I don't mean to try and take it all the way, just a kiss(or more:)) should let her know AND should give her something to think about. And of course, that's what you want, to have her think about you like you are thinking about her.

Respect her space but make your interest and attraction obvious.

Also, I wouldn't be so foward with the invitations. You never know when she might be in a bad mood and if you haven't gotten to a certain stage in the relationship, you might ANNOY her. And I think females hate that, when guys start annoying them.

When you guys DO set up a "date"...
try to let her know that you are looking for something with her.
like maybe ask her questions about her (not TO "deep") to try and get to know her better, but don't get too close. I'm sure you don't want her to consider you "that best-friend". A kiss SHOULD do the trick.

If you think she really is interested, well, that's half the battle.

GOOD LUCK!