Girlfriend hates pot :(

[matthiasj]

I've been smoking pretty regularly for a couple years now, and I've been dating this girl for a while. I recently told her i quit and only smoke occasionally now, she's really against it, and thinks it changes me and would ruin our relationship. When i used to smoke and we were dating i wouldn't talk to her because I'd be smoking with my buddies, i cant convince her that its ok, doesn't change me, and wouldn't effect our relationship. What should i do?

[GreenLadyOfDankDowns]

All you can do is tell her how you feel and see what happens. If she is still adamant about her disapproval, and you aren't willing to quit for her it may mean the end of your relationship. I hope things work out for you both.

[Canadian_Cron]

id just tell her that it doesnt change you... and has she done it before...? if not id ask her how does she know it changes you?

if it comes down to it... its only pot right? if you really like her fuck pot! u just gotta decide whats more important.

actually ive had a similar experience.. when ive been with a girl that was really against pot. from the begining i was upfront about it. i told her that i smoke it ocassionally (every 2nd week or so and that i used to do it regularly) which is true... she didnt like it much but but she liked me enough that she could deal with it... however if i smoked up regularly i dont think she ever wudda put up with it.

[WeedyBoyWonder]

if it comes down to it... its only pot right? if you really like her fuck pot! u just gotta decide whats more important.
I'm the opersite, I say fuck her! There are plenty more chicks who are at least a little open minded.

[naturelovinpuffer]

MY SOLUTION TO YOUR PROBLEM~
Get her to try it, then if she gets into it, slowly let her in to your buddies, and she how she acts and what they think of her. CUZ guys they are always right when it comes to girls like that. If they like her, then its like you can get to have the best of both worlds, knowing you will take her back to your place and make love then say bye and then do what you please. SEE you get to make her happy because you are spending time together, and you can still smoke pot with your buddies.

THEN END

[thcbongman]

I don't think it was a good idea lying in the first place.

You gotta be honest about yourself, and if she really likes you she'll accept you for who you are.

[luvbud]

Definitely better to be honest about your habits. I was with someone who didn't smoke and it was a big issue.

I agree with thcbongman.:)

Personally I have to be with someone that at least tokes up now and then. Just my 2 cents..:cool:

[Squiggle]

I've been smoking pretty regularly for a couple years now, and I've been dating this girl for a while. I recently told her i quit and only smoke occasionally now, she's really against it, and thinks it changes me and would ruin our relationship. When i used to smoke and we were dating i wouldn't talk to her because I'd be smoking with my buddies, i cant convince her that its ok, doesn't change me, and wouldn't effect our relationship. What should i do?

1.First Mistake-You recently told her you quit....Never Lie to make yourself look better to someone you care about?

2.Second mistake- You Are dating someone who HATES POT... PErsonally someone who smokes and a non-smoker is just asking for problems

So in my opinion its already shot...

But anyways try and tell her as nicely as you can "Dont knock it till you try it" ya know?

If that doesnt work get really pissed and get her angry then have makeup sex when you lie to her and tell her you will quit for her.

Or just dont follow any of the shitty advice I just posted.

[Reefer Rogue]

Make it last as long as possible because it aint gonna last forever. Don't change yourself for ANYONE but YOU. Don't be pussy whipped. If you wanna smoke cannabis, then do it.

[matthiasj]

well i like her and i love pot. she's cool and would be cool with me smoking possibly if she thought it wouldn't make me not want to be with her (she thinks it makes me want to ignore her and not talk to her) no she has never smoked and says she'd rather pop pills than smoke a joint, she things its harmful to your health, and i know its illegal but you gotta be careful. i'm not really willing to quit, i dont see a problem with it, my goal is to get her to be cool with it.

[Markass]

well if you're smoking with your buddies instead of being with her I think that's a justifiable reason to not want you to do it...I've been through that so much...

you're going to have to quit smoking pot or break things off and get a girlfriend that smokes marijuana...which makes the most sense in the first place...if you smoke pot you're likely going to have a lot more in common with a woman who smokes...

[matthiasj]

but i really like her...i'm in a bad spot

[Frickr]

maybe ask her if she would eat some brownies with you. if shes worried about smoking because its hard on your lungs and shit, just make some brownies and let her try one. then if she likes the feeling slowly start introducing her to smoking herself. but never lie to a girl, i got into big trouble doing that with a girl. told her i quit then got arrested for it.. but now after talking to her about it, being open when i do do it, she wants to do it with me now. just be patient and if shes worth it, be open wth her. the sooner you tell her the better.

[OLDE ENGLISH '800]

she'd rather pop pills than smoke a joint, she things its harmful to your health,

i hate people with that mentality that smoking cigarettes till you have lung cancer, drinking alcohol till your kidneys fail,poppin pills till you o/d is all safe but you take one hit of weed and all of a sudden your worried about your health :wtf:

[matthiasj]

i hate people with that mentality that smoking cigarettes till you have lung cancer, drinking alcohol till your kidneys fail,poppin pills till you o/d is all safe but you take one hit of weed and all of a sudden your worried about your health :wtf:

well we're really really close, and we both really like each other. We're totally honest with each other, everything is great, we have a good relationship. When i was smoking with my buddies and not paying her much attention she didn't like it, but she liked me enough to stay with me.

What happened was i was running low on cash from smoking so much LOL so i decided to cut back on consumption. Ironically my 2 smoking buddies got arrested just a few days later, and if i wasnt with her when it happened, i would've been with them.

So i decided i would quit and get my shit together, well i quit for a few weeks, and i was miserable, i didnt have her to hang out with during the week, and i didnt have pot to smoke so i had nothing to look forward to. So i told her i quit because it wasnt worth getting in trouble, i wanted to save money, and i wanted to better our relationship. Everything went according to plan, and i've got my shit on track, but i still want to smoke here and there.

We made a deal that if i was staying clean that she wouldn't drink and party while at college, which she hasent. I havent kept my end of the deal up, but she doesnt know that. I really want to be with this girl, and i just wish she would be a little more open, she just takes everything she hears bad about cannabis and thinks its fact, even though i've showed here documents that said it wasnt bad and stuff. mainly she doesnt want our relationship hurting because of pot, but i'm beginning to think there is no way to convince her that it wont if we dont let it.

[ukmonkey]

give it time, make a point of doing it infront of her as opposed to away from her so she can see for herself that its just one of many ways u can relax and she can be included in that. IE break down her prejudices and show her your not a smackhead.

[ScaryMissMary]

i hate people with that mentality that smoking cigarettes till you have lung cancer, drinking alcohol till your kidneys fail,poppin pills till you o/d is all safe but you take one hit of weed and all of a sudden your worried about your health :wtf:

Ugh that mentality is running rampid in my area. I had a guy acquiantance who was drunk one night and told me that I wasn't "girlfriend material" in his opinion all because of the fact that I smoke weed. This asshole is out every weekend drinking his liver to death and has the nerve to say I have a problem.

[TheSmokingMonkey]

Well...when I am in a jam, and I think others are to blame, I remember this piece of biblical advice.

Remove the log from your own eye before removing the splinter from your neighbor's eye.

This amounts to: concentrate on your own actions. What should you change? How can you make your actions speak louder than your words? Is she more important to you than weed? Or not? Sometimes we fool ourselves into thinking we value one thing when really, our actions belie our intentions.

[BUZz UK]

This is a tricky one. My girl don't like me smoking, and yes, she says it changes me too. The thing is, it's true. I'm a lazy, uncommunicative bastard. So my advise: Don't smoke around her, try and keep it to nights when you don't see her.

Keep em separate if she dosen't already toke, and she won't try it.

[smartin.2006]

I was faced with the same problem three and half years ago, and I just came out and told her "Hey I smoke weed and I know you don't approve of it but if you really like me you wont give me any hell cuz this is who I am and this is what I like to do." She cried for about a day and got over it and now we are happily married and she is just as big of a pot head as I am. Now my wife would like to tell her side of the story so I am handing the keyboard over for a few minutes.
First off, he was drunk and high, and we were instant messaging each other on yahoo. I asked him what he had been doing all day and his reply was, " drinking and smoking." I totally flipped out on his ass and he told me that if I didn't like it then to break up with him. Needless to say I didn't and instead I tried it myself and have been smoking with him every since.

[matthiasj]

I was faced with the same problem three and half years ago, and I just came out and told her "Hey I smoke weed and I know you don't approve of it but if you really like me you wont give me any hell cuz this is who I am and this is what I like to do." She cried for about a day and got over it and now we are happily married and she is just as big of a pot head as I am. Now my wife would like to tell her side of the story so I am handing the keyboard over for a few minutes.
First off, he was drunk and high, and we were instant messaging each other on yahoo. I asked him what he had been doing all day and his reply was, " drinking and smoking." I totally flipped out on his ass and he told me that if I didn't like it then to break up with him. Needless to say I didn't and instead I tried it myself and have been smoking with him every since.


that would be so awesome

[meatw4d]

I'm in a similar spot man. My girl and I are kinda on a don't ask/don't tell basis when it comes to pot. As long as I don't do it around her, everything is fine. If I had to, I'd give it up though. She means the world to me.

[smartin.2006]

Yeah it is pretty awesome, the downside is that I have to buy twice as much weed now.

[O. G. ganja smoker]

smartin 2006 ur wifes a G but grow ur own then u can get high as much as u want for CHEAP

[robbyg]

Let me tell you a predicament I put my significant in, for 3 years I was anti-pothead but occasionally(once or twice a year) would enjoy a social joint with old friends of mine from highschool, recently I am very pro-pot and I think I have scared her quite a bit. I do not fit the profile of a pothead but the legal issue of it concerns her and due to her large amount of love for me she is worried for me

what can you say to that


not much, but every day I make progress and eventually I will break her in. She surprised me by saying when we have our own house I can have a boys den out back and do what I please, that seems fair

compromise compromise compromise! If she loves you enough, she will come around. Good luck.


puff puff pass keep that torch burnin!

robby

[babystarbud]

Simmilar story here, I'm not a steriotypical pot head and dont actually get stoned that often, but it has caused problems sometimes.

But she has always known I smoke, and I think its important not to hide it. I mean I dont normaly smoke in front of her at home, Ill go upstairs on the computer and have a smoke, and if we are round a friends house ill smoke a little bit if theres weed going around.

we have had minor arguments about it, but I just say look... its part of who I am, its not fair for you to put me down just beacuse you have an irrational problem with it, and its not as if its causing a problem in our relationship or in the way I go about my life...and if it did, then i would take steps....i dont smoke on a daily basis anyway, smetime not for weeks.

If it ever come down to it, she knows I would let her leave rather than be dictated to. I would never stop her from doing stuff that she wanted to do, and I expect the same respect, even if she dosent understand it.

The interesting thing, is that it goes beyond the "drug" issue, its about maintaining integrity, I have actually said, on a few occasions, that I will always smoke and thats the way it is. deal with it or go away.

(well I maybe said it a bit more diplomatic than that, but she gets the picture)


So my advice would be to stand up for yourself man, hiding what you do is only gonna come back to bite you in the ass...
but if you are smoking to the point where its affecting your ability to function properly (like your spending to much money on it)then thats a problem you need to deal with, like stop for a few months, get your shit together and dont make the same mistake again, take it easy in future

[Everyday Struggle]

Make it last as long as possible because it aint gonna last forever. Don't change yourself for ANYONE but YOU. Don't be pussy whipped. If you wanna smoke cannabis, then do it.

I definitely agree with this one.
Don't try to control one another.
That person is supposed to be your partner,
not your parent.

[TheSmokingMonkey]

Okay I just have to add: if weed turns you into a big fat idiot, then maybe it's time to re-evaluate.

I am a little sick of people admitting that weed makes them turn into emotional retards around their significant others and I think that this probably indicates a need for introspection and personal growth, rather than a battle over a controversial herb.

It's only polite to ask permission from others before smoking. If they say they would prefer if you didn't, then respect it.

If you need to block two hours of alone time off to hang out with Mary Jane, then do so, but don't burden others with your inexcusable behavior if they don't want to be affected by it.

Sorry. I will step off my soapbox now. But some things in life need to take precedence over smoking.

[matthiasj]

Simmilar story here, I'm not a steriotypical pot head and dont actually get stoned that often, but it has caused problems sometimes.

But she has always known I smoke, and I think its important not to hide it. I mean I dont normaly smoke in front of her at home, Ill go upstairs on the computer and have a smoke, and if we are round a friends house ill smoke a little bit if theres weed going around.

we have had minor arguments about it, but I just say look... its part of who I am, its not fair for you to put me down just beacuse you have an irrational problem with it, and its not as if its causing a problem in our relationship or in the way I go about my life...and if it did, then i would take steps....i dont smoke on a daily basis anyway, smetime not for weeks.

If it ever come down to it, she knows I would let her leave rather than be dictated to. I would never stop her from doing stuff that she wanted to do, and I expect the same respect, even if she dosent understand it.

The interesting thing, is that it goes beyond the "drug" issue, its about maintaining integrity, I have actually said, on a few occasions, that I will always smoke and thats the way it is. deal with it or go away.

(well I maybe said it a bit more diplomatic than that, but she gets the picture)


So my advice would be to stand up for yourself man, hiding what you do is only gonna come back to bite you in the ass...
but if you are smoking to the point where its affecting your ability to function properly (like your spending to much money on it)then thats a problem you need to deal with, like stop for a few months, get your shit together and dont make the same mistake again, take it easy in future

very good advice, thanks man



Okay I just have to add: if weed turns you into a big fat idiot, then maybe it's time to re-evaluate.

I am a little sick of people admitting that weed makes them turn into emotional retards around their significant others and I think that this probably indicates a need for introspection and personal growth, rather than a battle over a controversial herb.

It's only polite to ask permission from others before smoking. If they say they would prefer if you didn't, then respect it.

If you need to block two hours of alone time off to hang out with Mary Jane, then do so, but don't burden others with your inexcusable behavior if they don't want to be affected by it.

Sorry. I will step off my soapbox now. But some things in life need to take precedence over smoking.

i agree it doesnt make me like that, the only reason i acted weird around here when i was smoking is because she hated it and it made me uncomfortable. I wish we could come to an agreement, i'm still trying to figure out what to do.

[macro]

get a girl who smokes.
you'll get over this one, i know you really really like her, but you will really really love your new stoner girlfriend.

[matthiasj]

get a girl who smokes.
you'll get over this one, i know you really really like her, but you will really really love your new stoner girlfriend.

only problem is that there are no stoner girls in the area i live in, and if i end up moving away after college it'll be closer to my girlfriend and i wont be doing much looking for someone then

[birdgirl73]

I wish we could come to an agreement, I'm still trying to figure out what to do.
Just as an FYI, sometimes couples can negotiate compromises, and sometimes you just have to agree to disagree and still work out a way to exist with each other and your differences.

Here's her stance: She worries about the illegality of pot and the fact that when you're high you may act a little different. Those are legitimate worries. People do act and feel different when they're high. Actually, that's a big part of why they enjoy getting high. And the illegality? People very definitely get busted for grass. That's a valid concern. She also worries about its effects on your health and possibly hers, too. If she's not a smoker and doesn't like the stuff, she shouldn't have to get second-hand weed smoke if she doesn't want to.

Here's your stance: You fully intend to smoke anyway and hang with your buddies and do so. Sounds like you also fully intend to spend your spare money on weed. You're also willing to be dishonest with her about the facts and frequency of your smoking. So it's obviously very important to you. You also mentioned that you want to persuade her to come around on the topic, but all you can do is provide the information to persuade. She's the one who'll have to come around. And she may not. You can't change someone else. You can only influence her. She's the one who'll have to do the changing.

Lost of people have a whole lot of negative perceptions about weed. Some of those have valid foundations. Many don't. Education--a slow and gradual campaign of information and facts regarding cannabis--can make a difference. If I were your girl, though, nothing in the world would ever make me feel better about its illegality. No one who loves someone else wants to see him doing something that could risk him getting busted. If I ever found out about it, I also wouldn't feel very good about the fact that you lied to me.

She may not come around on this topic. If that's the case, you'll have to agree to disagree and find a way for you to smoke separately from her. Hope that won't be the case and that you two can reach a compromise that you're both comfortable with. Good luck! Keep us updated, OK?

[JAKERM8]

just do what any real man would...lie your way out of it.

[birdgirl73]

just do what any real man would...lie your way out of it.
^^ That sounds more like what a little boy would do! A real man--at least a good one--will tell the truth, even if it causes him problems.

[shyboots]

Try explaining to her what it feels like when you get stoned so you are sharing the experience with her as much as possible, then she wont feel so shut out. I speak as a non smoker married to a smoker so can totally sympathise with your gf. My husband doesnt often get stoned with his friends tho but when he did I hated it and we split up over it, eventually got back together and married when he started putting me first!

[BudGrower]

I've been married for 25 years to a woman who never smoked pot and thinks it is bad for my mind and heart (she is a nurse), but she can never tell if I smoked some since I keep my teeth clean and use mouthwash to keep my breath fresh. I have no problem with her, just so she never sees me smoking it, she never sees my water pipe, and she can never tell I just smoked some. Since she can't, we get along just fine. Sometimes she complains about my stash in the freezer, but it is not a problem.

[LaidZeppelin]

My girfriend doesnt care that I smoke at all even though she doesnt. she also doesnt care that I grow and she has even turned off my lights for me a couple times when my timers broke...sorry, you should dump her she sounds like a prude. Also your still in high school once you go to college this girl will probably be out of the picture even if you do stay in town.

[shyboots]

Budgrower....Surely your wife can tell you have smoked by your eyes?? I can ALWAYS tell cos my husbands eye swell and redden slightly and sometimes his speech is very slightly slurred, plus the smell of the hash is in his hair and clothes. :-)

[BudGrower]

Shyboots, that is what you would think but I guess I don't smoke enough to make my eyes red or get slurred speech. She has a strong sense of smell, but I swear she cannot tell I just smoked some. About once a month she can tell, but I smoke every day and she cannot tell, trust me. Just keep a clean mouth and use mouthwash, keep the smoke going out the window, and it is hard to tell someone just smoked.

Hell, I've been smoking it for 35 years and I can still skateboard down a hill carving S turns all the way to the bottom AFTER smoking heavy duty. I just went skateboarding last Friday right after smoking some heavy-hitting stuff.

[DurbanStone]

Personally I would say "you are a controlling bitch, I choose the weed over you".

[Gundari]

I was in the exact same situation with my last ex. (fiance of 5 years)

The best thing I can tell you is if she is unwilling to come around for you, she isn't worth it. When becoming romantically involved with someone they should accept / love you for YOU. You shouldn't try to make drastic changes to yourself to please someone (sure losing a few pounds is ok, or something like that). But trying to cut out something in your life that is a major part of who you are will only make you unhappy, and relationships are supposed to make us happy, aren't they?

[shyboots]

Personally I would say "you are a controlling bitch, I choose the weed over you".

Obviously written by someone who has never loved deeply or unselfishly.!! When we love someone we all have to compromise somewhat,,,,its called "working at it" Bud grower, I came on this forum cos I do love my husband very much, I know what it feels like to have a few drinks or heavy duty painkillers as I have a chronic illness...but find it a bit hard to understand the need to smoke hash every day...so want to learn why people do it and what effect it has on people...my hubby says it relaxes him and "turns down the volume on stress senses" Is it like that for you? Can you do your skateboarding safely because you are not feeling "unreal" like when you drink?? I appreciate your reply to me and think you are being very fair with your girl...but maybe it would help her to come on here too and learn/understand as Im trying to do??

[Unknown American]

Most people do not like pot. Get used to it. We pot smokers are a small percentage of the total population.

I hate girls that drink excessively and I will not tolerate it.

You will either have to compromise (not likely) or find yourself a hottie that smokes weed or does not care.

We all have our values. If you do not like hers you can vote by walking away. If she truly hates you smoking weed that is not going to change.

[Staurm]

What should i do?

Dump her.

[shyboots]

Sounds to me like all you "potheads" put pot first in your life, above even relationships (real people) very much like alchaholics if you ask me!!!!!!!

[babystarbud]

Sounds to me like all you "potheads" put pot first in your life, above even relationships (real people) very much like alchaholics if you ask me!!!!!!!


oh really.... :wtf:


Sounds like your a door mat if you ask me....

Smoking is a small part of my life, which also includes my friends and family, espesially my girl, my social (eating out and drinking alcahol) life, I also modify my car, build computers, my current job (which takes up more time than I would like) furthering my job through self study, and despite all that, I have two or three foreign hollidays a year......


you sound like your trying to say somthing...
are you an alcaholic, shyboots? its ok, we understand.

[matthiasj]

Cannabis is something you really have to try to understand. Everyone makes it out to be a horrible, life ruining drug, when in reality it is nothing like that. If anything caffeine, alcohol, and a lot of prescriptions should be illegal and now cannabis. I started putting my girlfriend first and things are better, i still blaze but usually its just a couple times a week, and i just keep it to myself, and she's happy so i'm happy.

[angry nomad]

Tell her to get stoned at least once with you. Also, if she is a pill-popper, make her a weed pill with coconut oil, and a gelatin capsule. Some cool person took a lot of time to give us the recipe here on the forums.

When my wife worked for the government, she would get annoyed when I would get high because she couldn't.

As far as feeling ignored, that has nothing to do with marijuana. You were hanging out with your friends, doing an activity that she was not involved in.

She would've felt ignored if you guys were let's say, play Halo 3, and she was just sitting there, or watching a Patriots game, and she isn't into football. Sometimes it's just like that if one person is not involved.

To get NPS's to understand weed, I compare it to other drugs, then I compare it to other medicines, then I compare it to other activities, then I compare it to other fuels, and building materials. People begin to see that not only is it the only drug I know of that it is impossible to overdose on, but that it's great medicine, a non-threatening, non-violent hobby (such as watching football), and has many industrial uses including replacing cutting down trees.

If I am repeating others, it's because I only read the original poster's posts.

[shyboots]

Actually I`m not addicted to anything...and the people I love come first in my life, Just saying if thats not the case with you, you have a problem, end of! Cannabis is an addictive drug. My husband smokes it but not in front of me and only a couple of times a day...because he loves me. I HAVE tried it, several times in fact but it made me feel kinda drunk in a not nice way. I appreciate it can feel different for different people but if you value your gf/wife then she should come first, not a drug.

Cannabis is something you really have to try to understand. Everyone makes it out to be a horrible, life ruining drug, when in reality it is nothing like that. If anything caffeine, alcohol, and a lot of prescriptions should be illegal and now cannabis. I started putting my girlfriend first and things are better, i still blaze but usually its just a couple times a week, and i just keep it to myself, and she's happy so i'm happy.
__________________

Now this is a man who has his priorities right!! Good on you!!

[angry nomad]

Sounds to me like all you "potheads" put pot first in your life, above even relationships (real people) very much like alchaholics if you ask me!!!!!!!

Nah. It's part of my life, just like video games, comic books, and hiphop. My wife is big into chemistry, books, and punk. Yet, we play video games, share books, and listen to hiphop and punk. Sometimes I ask her questions about chemistry. She smokes with me every once in awhile, but not that much.

Marijuana is great for chronic pain. Why don't you ask your husband to get you some good 100% indica bud. You can bake it into food if you don't want to smoke it. Also, you cannot overdose from it. Try and kill yourself by overdosing on weed. It's literally impossible. Yet, people die every year from perscription and even over-the-counter painkillers.

Just give it a chance and get high together a few times. You may not become a big stoner, but you'll realize it's no big deal.

[Staurm]

Sounds to me like all you "potheads" put pot first in your life, above even relationships (real people) very much like alchaholics if you ask me!!!!!!!

It's hardly a healthy relationship with mutual respect both ways if your partner is complaining about your lifestyle. I ain't changing my ways for nobody.

"Your wrong if you think the joy of life comes from human relationships" - John McCandles (Into The Wild)

[shyboots]

Thanks angry nomad....you make a lot of sense. I guess with me and maybe others too who dont smoke...dont like the idea of it being on a par with being addicted to alcahol....like they cant have a good time or even function without it. The idea for us non smokers having sex with partners who have to be high first is a bit insulting/hurtful..surely we are enough, cos unlike video games, books etc it IS mind altering and thats the reason I wont take it as a pain killer unless maybe if it was made legal (dont like the idea of breaking the law either) I think what upsets non smoker partners, maybe that once they are high nothing matters much anymore...including us. I`m really glad to be able to talk to the likes of you and Mathias and have a "real" discussion about this. thanks.

[Narf!]

"She hates me whem I'm stoned, and I hate her when I'm not."

[Gundari]

I think you think all who smoke pot are addicts shyboots. Some of us are, most of us aren't. Some people use it as a crutch to deal with day to day life, others use it as a spiritual guide, others use it to have a good time with friends, others use it to help them feel better (pain, nausea, ect ect). As far as I'm concerned no one has the right to tell anyone else what to do or how to live their lives. Sure you may be dedicated to the thought that its evil, as most are, and you seem to have some basis in your beliefs coming from your husband. But I have to ask you how you can form an informed / intelligent opinion on something you've never tried? No your observations of 1 persons reaction to the drug does not count as being informed. We are our own people.

Some laws should be broken in my opinion. When a law encroaches on the rights of an individual to live their life in the way that they see fit (assuming that said life style does not inflict undue pain or suffering on those around said person) then that law is total garbage.

[BudGrower]

Angry Nomad: "Also, you cannot overdose from it. Try and kill yourself by overdosing on weed. It's literally impossible."

I disagree. I have overdosed on weed a number of times. When I smoke too much of too potent weed, I get a terrible dizziness (like the room is spinning), nausia, and continuous vomiting for up to 24hours. That is one HELL of a bad ordeal when I cannot even drink a little fluid without throwing it up. That is my body noticing too much of something in me, so it thinks it can get rid of the excess by vomiting. So I am very careful to not overdose.

[BudGrower]

Shyboots, the fact your hubby smokes hash a couple of times a day (every day?) and that he smokes enough to make his eyes red and slurred speech sounds excessive to me. Sorry.

Anything can become addictive to someone (coffee, TV, music, sex, etc), but that is just a negative word to use to describe someone's likes and habits. I've been smoking pot in moderation for 35 years. I smoke only once a day, just a couple of tokes (now) of my superpotent SuperSkunk, and I skip a day or two each week. My wife is not thrilled about it, but it is not an issue since I give her as much attention as she wants. Pot helps to relieve the boredom of going shopping with her.

Does your husband spend much to support his twice daily hash habbit?

[shyboots]

He used to smoke a lot more and has smoked since he was 18, he smokes about a quarter of an ounce a week, maybe a bit less as its hard to get lately. He usually has one single skinner (small roll up) in the morning then one or two at night while watching tv and misses the odd day depending whats on. He adores me and is a wonderful attentive husband, and to be honest he doesnt slur often but it always did make his eyes red. You see we were together 16yrs ago but he used way too much of it then and drank too much too, we had a son but eventually split up only getting back together earlier this year..... he rarely drinks now and doesnt do any of the hard drugs he took recreationally when we were younger so I`m happy enough. Do you find some people get red eyes much easier than others??

[BudGrower]

Shyboots, sounds like it is not a problem. He smokes a lot more than I do. One quarter oz/week = 13 oz/year. Over the past 5 years I have been averaging 5 oz/year, but that is now cut in half since I havested my SuperSkunk! I could get sickly overdosed on over 2 TOKES!

Everybody is different about the red eyes. Good to hear he adores you and is wonderfully attentive. Good he rarely drinks, I never drink and I never even tried hard drugs, just some acid during the 1970s.

[shyboots]

He just smokes regular stuff....I have heard of that superskunk...mega strong isnt it?? So wouldnt need nearly as much, hubby is a worrier and a bit of a perfectionist so he says he smokes a couple of times a day to "turn down the volume on the stress buttons" lol Plus dont you build a kind of tolerance to it? Nice talking to you anway. :-)

[MadSativa]

Damn I couldnt read the whole thread but why dont girls write threads like

My Boyfriend hates bud................... ?????

[BudGrower]

Yes I believe one builds a tollerance to it. I've noticed the heavier effects when I don't smoke anything for a whole day.