gf problems.. laame

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First off, I love my girlfriend, she's amazing.
But she doesn't communicate ANYTHING it's so frustrating.

It seems now she's becoming distant, she doesn't get close to me anymore she doesn't seem as happy as she used to.

Today I called her and asked if she wanted to hang out, she said sure, she said she would call me when she got home, she didn't, but she caught me online. We were talking about an online class we're taking and then she stops talking disappears.

I COULD call her back but this is pointless, it's not a way to find out if she actually WANTS to hang out with me, it seems like she would if she wants to or not, and when we do she's super quiet and distant (as of late)

It can't be PMS (shouldn't be)

But ANYWAY TO MY POINT:

Should I:

A Call her.
B Not call her.
C Smoke a joint
D B + C :D

I figure if she really actually wants to see me she would call, text, COMMUNICATE TO ME or something.

[GreenLadyOfDankDowns]

I vote D. ;)

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I vote D. ;)

Good answer :D
Too bad she doesn't smoke, it would probably help a lot. Someone around here said tokers + non-tokers dont mix, maybe true, maybe not. But everyone is a toker, they just dont know it yet.

Anyway i got a Quarter O of WW. can't let it go to waste :jointsmile:

[cutecalikitty]

Definitely D .. mellow out and relax
:joint1::bigsmoke:

[fallenangel14]

Yes I would have to agree with my pier's D :bigsmoke:

[Mississippi Steve]

She's probably looking to find another stallion to saddle....if she's not ridin' him yet, you can be pretty sure she's got one cut from the herd. Cut your losses, and find another one

[cutecalikitty]

She's probably looking to find another stallion to saddle....if she's not ridin' him yet, you can be pretty sure she's got one cut from the herd. Cut your losses, and find another one

Awwwwww how can you be so pessimistic?

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haha steve, you may be on to something

I went with option D, and i'm very glad i did :rasta:

She still talks to her ex bf a lot, I think I get a little jealous. He just joined the military for 4 years but they were going out for maybe 2 years and apart for 10 months, they still hung out a lot though.

[psychocat]

If you are younger than thirty (and I'm guessing you are) forget her and get out there and charm as many ladies as you can.
You're only young once and if you don't live it to the full you will end up fat middle aged and full of regret. :D :cool:

"Live it and love living it" has been a motto of mine for years.

[Mrs. Greenjeans]

She's probably looking to find another stallion to saddle....if she's not ridin' him yet, you can be pretty sure she's got one cut from the herd. Cut your losses, and find another one
It's painfully obvious you don't have a gf.

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It's painfully obvious you don't have a gf.

lol i was thinking the same thing :P

[crudemood]

this seems to happen in alot of relationships. people start to change and get distant its either because they're no longer interested OR that you get sick of someone's personality because its getting too predictable. and you know how predictable can get boring sometimes.

ts happened to me plenty with just friends though.. i think they're all cool and the beginning and i love talking with you know chilling with them but then as goes on i find that i dont want to hang out with them anymore mostly because they're not all i put up to be. i start to see undesirable flaws which i wish i never found in them. but you know. that doesnt mean i hate them and what them out of my life i just don't love them at the same degree that i did in the beginning, which to me is what i see MIGHT be happening to you and your gf. but thats just me. whether its true in your case or not. you have to find out .

[Unknown American]

You have got to talk to her in person and say basically what you said in the first post.

That you love her, she's amazing. But she doesn't communicate ANYTHING with you.

It seems now she's becoming distant, she doesn't get close to you anymore she doesn't seem as happy as she used to.

Talk to her in person. If you love her you need to know what is up.

I have been where you are before and I did not communicate with her and I ended up loosing the relationship.

Learn where you stand. That is the best thing to do.

[Canadian_Cron]

if she wanted 2 hang out she would have... so i vote d.

[Reefer Rogue]

Maybe she doesn't like your smoking and will only tell you when you break up like my ex g/f...

[hreskofreight4]

i think you should eat her and the problem will be gone.

[Mississippi Steve]

It's painfully obvious you don't have a gf.

I wouldn't bet on that because you would be wrong.

Both myself and my GF of 8 years are both over 50, both of us have been married twice.

Many times we have talked about what would have happened if we had found each other many years earlier. We decided that had we met earlier, it wouldn't have worked because the time wasn't right.

Everything happens when its supposed to. OTOH, life is what happens while you were making other plans.

Don't be in a big hurry to get tied down(married), live some first. I figure that a good age to get married is around 30. That give you a chance to do what you want to do, and get on track with a career.
If you want to travel, do it *before* you get married, because the chances of doing it afterwards are slim....especially when kids come along...then all bets are off.

Back to the OP's post... As I said earlier... she probably has somebody else on the hook, or she's playing games. Either way, its time to cut your losses and look for something else.

[Comatose]

Tokers and nontokers do mix. My woman and I lead by example.

[Mrs. Greenjeans]

I don't toke, and my hubby does. But I grow, and support what I believe should be his right to toke.
Mississippi Steve, I don't advocate cutting anyone loose based on supposition. He should communicate with her first.

[geonagual]

Keep toking:jointsmile:

[YotaBoy]

You can milk this stage if you want but it's getting late. You might have been able to salvage something had you caught on earlier.

[thcbongman]

Just chill and wait for her to call you!

Don't make any attempt to communicate with her until she does. Maybe some distant is good.

But be prepared for the worst, but don't worry about the worst. Over-thinking what is he/she doing kills more relationships than anything else when you actually start to believe it.

Next time you talk to her, express yourself and don't let it hang any longer. If she doesn't want to give you time to talk about it, well, it's time to find someone who will.

[Skrappie]

I don't toke, and my hubby does. But I grow, and support what I believe should be his right to toke.
Mississippi Steve, I don't advocate cutting anyone loose based on supposition. He should communicate with her first.


I agree, you should communicate with her first.

just don't be surprised when she tells you nothing is wrong and its a lie.

I used to play the field....a lot...a lot a lot. and one thing i used to do with a girl to soften the final "i'm done with you blow" is ice them up a little, and hope they got tired of me.

its a sad and cowardice tatic....but people who are "playing the field" tend to use it.

Figure out whats going on, hope for the best (its not you) prepare for the worst (its not you. its someone else :( )

[beachguy in thongs]

What's wrong with A and C?

"C" first, of course.

[potsmokingnome]

I don't toke, and my hubby does. But I grow, and support what I believe should be his right to toke.
Mississippi Steve, I don't advocate cutting anyone loose based on supposition. He should communicate with her first.

What you don't even smoke weed?