girlfriend?

[Reminissions]

well ive been going through alot of shit lately you can tell if you read my post about the parents. Well i think if i had someone that understood me like a girlfriend that would be nice you know? ok enough beating around the bush,
there is this girl in my gym class that is incredably hot, and well i think she likes me im not shure tho but i have overheard her talking about me a few times, i dont know what to do, i would like to ask her out but i dont know if i have the balls (as silly as that sounds). i dont know with all the shit going on with my parents i dont know if i would even be able to see her, i would just like your oppinions on this, im just really confused at the moment with all this shit going on in my life, i think i would just like to find someone that i could confide in.

[somebody someone]

do u talk to her often?

[imagoober]

you could try to be friends with her! you dont have to start by asking her out, then after some times gone buy and youve gotten to know her maybe you life won be so crazy and the shit going on with you parents will have blown over! i say start my talking to her! Good Luck

[stonerboy40k]

Yeah just to have a shoulder to cry on some one to talk to some one to give advice
mabe even some one to get high with

[Not Enough Herb]

smoke pot

later

[FrenchInhale]

Talk to her first... you might not even like her personality... looks aren't everything... as cliche as it sounds...

[Hektik]

Yeah start out as friends, get drunk together stoned party do what ever together. then you will know if you want to ask her out or not

[jones2much]

the above posts are worth paying attention to. peace, and good luck. :D :D

[Encatuse]

Yeah. Make her sad like in That 70's Show. Automatic free ride to vagina-land.

[Buck268]

Its all a game man... You can't walk up to a chick and ask her out no more, gotta be freindly with her first, make her comfortable around you. Otherwise they just think your some loser, or worse some creepy bastard... Maybe its just me though. I dunno, I suck at the game too :p

[Amber The Stoner]

I agree with everyone else. Make sure to find out if she smokes pot b/c female potheads rock and it's always a plus to be able to have that in common or it might not work out since lots of people who dn't smoke pot get confused and mad at us...lol sorry I'm just real stoned. But anyway make sure to keep us informed on what goes on. Good luck!

[Bwueh]

Women love attention and talking but they don't want someone drooling at them. So what you gotta do is keep the stick down long enough to hear what she's saying. Listen to her and respond with your brain and heart not your cock bro. All you gotta do is play it cool and be yourself. Just remember she is more to her then that fat ass and what your cocks telling you. Trust me man life's a game and your success depends on your abillity to play the game. Trust me dude this work's I have been dating a bikini model for 9 months and going strong.

[kronick]

first thing you should do...find out if she has a boyfriend...just to be sure

[Encatuse]

And after finding out if she has a boyfriend, have her cheat on him with you like every fucking chick out there anyway. -shrugs- Girlfriends aren't even fucking worth it man. Just get a chick friend who'll toke up with you and hang out and stuff. Girlfriends that you get attached to make for too much fucking drama.

[kronick]

well put

[Looker]

GET A HOOKER

[sawleaf]

No matter how cool or hot she is, there are always better, hotter, smarter, and cooler women out there. Don't sweat her that much. Just ask her if she want to hangout and smoke up sometime. If she doesn't, fuck it, she's a loser for passing up a free toke session! :D

[kronick]

not a loser....its their life...that dosent make them losers.

[ride n get high]

u have ure opinion and he has his lol. and i have mine witch is the same as sawleafs

[kronick]

thats a very glim interpretation

[sawleaf]

Kronick, you need to get a sense of humor, and chill a little. You know that's what those little faces are for, expressing humor. Don't take things so seriously. You opinion isn't right, neither is mine, so don't act like you are so high and mighty. You are not above anyone else here.

[kronick]

my opinion was that if you think someone is a loser cause they dont smoke weed...thats kinda dumb...because that is not a very good reason to call someone a loser. thats like me calling you a loser cause you live in washinton...or you have the word "leaf" in your name. a good reason to call someone a loser would be if they just did or said retarded stuff all the time (eg. hitting on every girl in a bar till they are all pissed off) THATS a good reason.

i dont think im high and mighty...i consider all humans to be equal...even if my opinion on them is a "loser". to me, loser is more of an attatude than it is a status. but that does not mean that i am better than them cause they dont kno how to pick up women.

:) :P

[sawleaf]

Well I guess those stupid little faces don't work too well at giving the message of emotion. Kronick, you do know that people are not always serious when they post right? :rolleyes:

[kronick]

well given that this is a pot msg board...id have to assume that some of the people on this board are ignorant like that.

*puts some snuff under lip* oh ya

[chronic blazer]

I agree with Encatuse, its not even worth having a girlfriend these days. im not saying all girls cheat on their boyfriends or anything, but there is so much stress involved too and if something bad happened, it could leave you feeling depressed for weeks or depending on how you look at things, even months. last summer i thought i found the perfect girl, she had a great personality and me and her had so much in common, but as i got to know her more, the more i worried about her. i wont mention her name here, but she was very suicidal and i soon foundout she had a major depression disorder, and she dumped me saying she wasnt ready for a relationship, only to get together with another guy in the next two weeks. cant say i didnt see it coming though. i say dont worry about having a girlfriend till later dude, just be friends with her, and who knows, maybe you two will become high buddies :p

[kronick]

did her name start with an "a"?

[Dick Justice]

Live like you're in a dream! No consequences, no repercussions, nothing to gain or lose!

I did this today:

Me: "MacKenzie!"
Her: "Hey!"
Me: "Your shoes look like moon boots."
Her: "What?"

Then I grabbed her boob.

All in good fun, of course. I fucking love living like a weirdo.

[kronick]

i wish i had the bawls to do something like that

[Kid Dynamite]

im a loser because i hit girls? I resent that implication.

[kronick]

who said that?

[teknodppr]

ok. you cant believe anything girls tell you. i have been talkin to this girl for like he past 5 months. she told me she doesnt have a bf. although she does and didnt admit it. she was pretty much just being a tease this whole time. she was damn hot too. i was like in love with her for a while until i found out she was lying to me. then i was kinda hurt, but then again she wasnt even my gf. i work with her so i still see her but things are different between us because i pretty much called her out on all of her manipulation and she was totally silent for the rest of the time i was working with her yesterday. its fucked up. girls will manipulate you! what you have to do is show them you won't put up with their shit and let them know. example would be this: this is what i said to this girl - "do you even wanna hangout? cause if you dont, just tell me.........its better than trying to play it off like ur always busy". she didnt know what the fuck to do. she paused like i had short circuted her thinking. see she probably hasnt really had hardly anyone call her out on her shit. she is just thinking "im so cute" and i can get away with whatever. girls get attracted to guys who are in control. calling her out is just saying that your games are not going to work with me and im above that shit. its different and girls like it. even small hints will work cause girls take hints very well. its just the way their brain is wired compared to us guys. most guys would just be like fuck her and not say anything. but anyway that's just an example. if your different in a good way, then girls will notice and be attracted to what is different. good luck man.

[kronick]

im different in a good way...and i dont see any ladys jumping all over me...im always the "nice cute guy whos a really good friend :D" well i say fuck that shit! im soo annoyed by that and so god damn tired of it too!....anyone have any suggestions?

[teknodppr]

im different in a good way...and i dont see any ladys jumping all over me...im always the "nice cute guy whos a really good friend :D" well i say fuck that shit! im soo annoyed by that and so god damn tired of it too!....anyone have any suggestions?

i used to be that same way. you gotta change the way you talk to girls. think of talking to them as a game. try to get them to laugh. when you do, its like somethin sorta clicks on in their head and gives them a good feeling. see if you are always nice to girls, they will see you as kind of a wussy. you gotta make fun of them and tease them. if you find something they are insecure about, make fun of it. it will make you look more "challenging" in their eyes. try and not smile all the time. it creates drama which girls like. but yeah, a lot of girls dont like guys that are nice because the chances are that guys have been nice to them their whole life and do things for them. so if you do that, your just another guy to her. so id say that being funny is the most powerful trait you can have when it comes to attracting girls. if she asks you a question, give her a stupid answer sarcasticlly. dont let her know too much about you. like when you talk dont talk much about your life. it gives a sorta mysterious feeling to it that makes girls curious. ok well im done rambling on about stuff. i recommend reading the book double your dating. its damn imformative about this subject. it makes you feel like you can talk to any girl because you are on top of things now. hope some of this helped.

[Kid Dynamite]

"nice cute guy whos a really good friend :D"

tell me about it.

[kronick]

teknodppr...thanks for the help. no ones explained it to me that way b4. it seems like the way you explained it would work...hopefuly...maybe its just me tho...oh well, ill try it today :D

[ghostman420]

damn teknodppr!!! you got pretty goo game!! ill give you that homie!! :D

[ghostman420]

but tek... and for reminissions and kronic too...it matters what kind of girl you are hittin on and tryin to get. see...if you are with an easy...out going girl...you can joke around and play around and shit. its cool. they love that. but...if you are with a more serious girl, or shy girl, its totally different. still joke around and have fun... but not too much...cuz shy girls like a sweet guy. soo...in conclusion...easy, loud, out going girls like a funny guy that jokes around and has fun and so on. and a shy girl likes a guy that makes them feel comfortable. really...just be smooth. dont worry bout it...just basically say to yourself, "im cool and i know it". lol. it will give you confidence. never be nervous around a girl. well...thats all i can think of now...peace out homies and good luck with the ladies!! :D :D :D

[teknodppr]

But then again its not always like that. Theres this one girl i know that is pretty damn hot with a nice body. She is shy and isn't too out going. But i started flirting with her, and she is a big damn tease now. But yeah i know what you are saying. Its like that a lot of times.


If ive learned anything about girls in the past few years, its that you have to be patient with them. Dont talk directly. Like if you went up to a girl you like and told her she was pretty, it wouldnt mean as much as if you would have said something like "You know you like me". its pretty much impossible for us to understand why girls like these things so much more than we do. just the way their brain is designed. A good thing to remember is whenever you are hanging out with a certain girl you like and are hinting to her you like her. When you are done hanging out, try and make her think "Does he like me, or not?" Just send her mixed signals. Try and learn some body language also. There are books on it. They did a test where girls could determine what was going on in a situation just by looking at their body language. They could get about 60% right most of the time. Girls are very intune to body language. So hold your shoulders back and stand up tall. They will notice. Just have confidence with them. If you go up to a hot girl and talk to her without being nervous (just drink some beers first), then she will automatically tune in to that and automatically feel something different about you because the chances are that there are lots of guys always talking to her, but most of them are shy and nervous. so when you arent nervous, then you become different.

[ghostman420]

exactly!!! well put homie!!! dont be shy!!! be smooth..be cool..and listen to me and tek!!! lol!!! :D

[MiNdYoU]

yea, there was this girl w/ a nice boob once, uno

[kronick]

lol...one boob!


anywho....the hard part to all that is "not being nervious"...easier said than done! im just a big ol'pussy when girls i like start talking to me. im too shy to talk to them, so if i ever talk to them....they start talking to me first. ya ya i kno i have to change that...but i cant, the whole "not like being rejected" is wired into my head pretty damn good. like apple in pie.....mmmm....pie

[robert42]

yea dnt be shy theres nothin a shotgun can't fix :D muahahahahaha

[maryjanemama]

1. Talk to her. Try to put your nervousness aside and start with, "Hi, I'm...." Tell her you noticed her and wanted to introduce yourself. She won't think you're weird, she'll find it very weird if you just stare at her and don't say anything. Never have a friend talk to her for you, that makes her automatically think your spineless.

2. Go with what you know. Be yourself, do not try to act the way you think she wants you to.

3. Show confidence, but don't be cocky. If you are funny, go with it, comedy will get you everywhere. If you normally aren't a naturally comedic person, now is NOT the time to try to become one. Say something else instead, compliment her, that's always nice.

4. I think a great place to meet a girl would be a music store. Most ppl will always have something to say about their favorite music and that's a good way to get the conversation rolling. Plus, you can check and see what's she's into before you say anyting. If she's holding a Britney Spears (or anything else as equally cheesy) cd, keep walking, you'll be better off.

5. No chick wants to hear, "Nice ass." from a stranger, even strippers.

6. Most girls are no cooler than you. Talk to her. She's most likely just as full of doubt about herself as you are.

[maryjanemama]

From a female point of veiw, I'm concerned about all of the "Ignore her or send mixed signals" advice I'm seeing. This IS NOT a good idea. This is how game playing gets started. If you want a real relationship, act like an adult and start a conversation with the girl. Don't play unless you want to attract immature girls.

[kronick]

well either way....i still couldnt do it. im hopeless...but i dont care.

[caddyman]

My avice would be , have a nice big joint and dont even talk to her , bend her over and give her a good seeing to, im sure she would really appreciate that

[sawleaf]

From a female point of veiw, I'm concerned about all of the "Ignore her or send mixed signals" advice I'm seeing. This IS NOT a good idea. This is how game playing gets started. If you want a real relationship, act like an adult and start a conversation with the girl. Don't play unless you want to attract immature girls.


A lot of people are giving that advice because it works MJ. Hot women are used to getting a lot of attention from men, the guys that don't give them much attention intrigue them. They are left wondering why this guy doesn't sweat them, and they take that bait all the time! I know women are not all the same, but this technique does work like a charm most of the time as long as you are not a jerk. There are too many women out there for a guy to get all distressed over a single one. :)

[maryjanemama]

You're right, Saw, not everything works 100% of the time. I just think that a new guy to dating should start with the basics like talking instead of trying to be sly. I can see a newbie trying to play and end up looking like an idiot when a simple hi may have worked out better. :)


Personally, I think caddyman's advice is THE BEST EVER! Lol :D

[sawleaf]

You're right, Saw, not everything works 100% of the time. I just think that a new guy to dating should start with the basics like talking instead of trying to be sly. I can see a newbie trying to play and end up looking like an idiot when a simple hi may have worked out better. :)


Personally, I think caddyman's advice is THE BEST EVER! Lol :D

Yeah true. Play it straight until you see what works and what doesn't. Then turn on the game. :)

[teknodppr]

Hey i was wondering how old you guys are. I mean there are a lot of age differences on this board and certain advice we give might not be good for all ages. I talk about teasing girls and playing games because most younger girls are about it. Im 20 so a lot of girls i talk to ive noticed like to play games. So I say do it back. kronick how old are you? i have been shy pretty much my whole life. i was scared to talk to girls and i never knew why. i even had this really pretty cheerleader my senior year that liked me. i could tell by the small hints she sent me but everytime i had the opportunity to talk to her, i was too shy to do it. i started getting less shy when i was about 18. now im still kinda shy, but i can talk to hot girls and not be too nervous at all. one thing you should know is that everyone can get a little nervous when it comes to talking to girls whether or not they admit it. just think about how insignificant your problem of talking to a girl is compared to worlds problems or other peoples' problems. your one in millions of people in the same situation. being shy is just something that people grow out of.

[kronick]

im almost 20(april 10th)....and im pretty sure that ill be like this my whole life(or at least a huge chunk)...i cant explain it...but i dont think i can change my shyness, untill i get to know her that is. but the whole process starts over with every girl i meet. which isnt a lot, maybe like 6(pushing it) a year at this point in my life. unless i dont think anything will happen, then im just me...the way i should be with all women but i say a lot of dumb shit...and i dont wanna scare them away...but if i dont talk they wont wanna talk to me....CIRCLE OF DEATH I TELL YA!

[teknodppr]

but i say a lot of dumb shit...and i dont wanna scare them away...but if i dont talk they wont wanna talk to me....CIRCLE OF DEATH I TELL YA!

there is a problem there. "i dont wanna scare them away". you know how a lot of guys get a lot of girls even if they aren't really good looking? well the majority of them will tell you that the only reason why they are so successful with girls is the fact that they can take a "no" and not get all upset about it. i know where you are coming from. even now if there is a girl i like and she doesnt like me, i get kinda depressed about it. i cant control it, but just think that there are tons of other girls out there that will make you just as happy as this certain girl would. you think im good with girls?.....i havent even had a real girlfriend, ive never had sex, and ive only kissed one girl. ive probably saw about 4 girls in my life, not ever becoming their bf, but the point is that they all have made me feel the same way. i liked them all the same even though some of those girls have been way more attractive than others. i was depressed for a long time because i thought that i couldnt get girls to like me. i even took prozac for a while (actually only 2 days), only to realize that i was making this way too big of a deal. trust me there is someone out there for you and me and everyone else. it doesnt matter how many girls you date before them because once you find her, those other girls wont even exist anymore. so try and not worry about it. damn im tryin to get ur self-esteem up hopefully its workin. also i wanted to comment on you saying that they wont wanna talk to you if you dont first. thats the way it is with all guys. except if you are just a really good looking guy, then girls will talk to you first, but most of us arent. im not. if you want a relationship, you have to give so much more than what you recieve. and with the shy thing, i work at office depot so im always talkin to people i dont know. this helped me open up. sometimes i see girls i used to be terrified of that i went to school with. when i see them now, i can usually talk to them without becoming nervous. they dont say it out loud, but i know they are thinkin......."wow he sure has changed since hs".

[teknodppr]

also i might add that ive fixed some problems ive had in the past. first of all, i now realize that i have been way too needy with girls. thats probably why out of the 4 girls i was seeing, i never got into a real relationship. i also was way too nice. i mean i didnt have game. i never made fun of them or teased them so i was probably kinda a wussy to them. mabe that could have been another block too.

[kronick]

i havent even had a real girlfriend, ive never had sex, and ive only kissed one girl. ive probably saw about 4 girls in my life, not ever becoming their bf, but the point is that they all have made me feel the same way.

that pretty much sumes me up right there....except ive only hade one gf....and im pretty sure she just wanted "some"(even tho she didnt get any cause im too god damn nervious) only touched a boob....and she put my hand on it....adn kissed her(all her again)...and only her....never had sex...uh...what else is there...oh, i dont get depressed over stuff like that except this one time(well i think i was). i liked a girl and she knew it...but still made out with one of my good friends(he didnt kno i liked her) right in front of me...couldnt eat for 3 days....is that depression? usually i just accept the fact they dont like me and move on.

anywho....you did make me feel better about it...thanks! ill try to use your advise...but ill i have to leave this small town i live in first....

:P

[teknodppr]

hell ya. I live in a small town that every girl I would like to go out with has a boyfriend already. The guys out number girls by a lot. That sucks about the girl you liked. I know that i would have been sick also. I had this girl I liked dancing all nasty with some guy in front of me and touching. That kinda hurt (damn i dont know why). But theres this hot mexican girl (im white and I have a thing for them) ive been talkin 2 for like 6 months and she said that she didnt have a boyfriend, lead me on; flirted with me a lot and would always say she was busy when i asked her to hang out. I eventually found out about her bf (that she didnt say she had) and her manipulation and called her on it. Ive decided not to talk to her now (i havent seen her since I called out her bs) and I see her about 3 times a week. Im goin from being friendly and flirty to not talking to her at all. Heres how it is: if she just liked being a tease, then she wont talk to me either, but if i did mean anything to her at all, then she'll talk to me and say somethin. Im tryin to just think that she will not talk to me so ill move on. But there is still a small part of me wanting her to say she wants to hangout and be cool. But i cant let myself be afraid of her not sayin anything. Damn life sucks and girls suck. Im starting a technical school in 2 weeks. Its like 8 hr days for pretty much 2 yrs with a few weeks of breaks. Anyway ill start, get only school on my mind and forget about girls. Then I can ge a good job and move out of this damn town and go to a town with a lot of hot girls. Im talking about Seattle. I live like around 2 hrs from there. I cant wait to get outta here and get some new friends.