GF wants to break up cuz i smoke.

[blazed620]

My fucking girlfriend..who I've been dating only for a month or so..says she's been thinking, and that she wants to break up until I quit smoking pot. I told her if she was really serious then I would stop now...and never smoke again....she won't fucking believe me, and she keeps saying she wants proof. But passing a drug test cud take months. And i don't wanna not be with her till i pass a drug test. Geeez....seems like shes just using this as an excuse to break up with me..i hope not..i really like her, and she seems like she likes me a lot too

[higher4hockey]

do you plan on marrying this girl? if not , then fuck her. tell her to get real and move on to the next cutie that actually smokes weed.

[happiestmferoutthere]

I don't know. After only a month she's already giving you ultimatums? I'd be careful. I smell trouble in paradise.

[Deepsuthern]

yea man theres plenty of hot chicks out theyre that smoke weed... I had an ex-girlfriend that put me in the same situation that you're in... it suckd cause she was really hot and her dad worked for an awesome radio station

[OLDE ENGLISH '800]

seems like shes just using this as an excuse to break up with me..

there you go, tell her if she cant stand you smokin to fuckin leave, there's to many girls out there for you to be stressin over one.

[Kenn]

my gf used to say the same shit..I wld just av a bong anyway and say take me as i am ....that was 16 years ago and she is still with me.Everyone has a flaw,that is if smokin weed is a flaw..lol

[cannabis campbell]

Sounds pretty fucked up if you ask me, do you think you both have a special connection how about try saying as a way to prove it "ill be with you every single day" lol.

[Yah dumb nug!]

Fuck that man.....break up with her....if she doesn't like you smoking weed then too bad..... you can find someone else:thumbsup:

[Chaotixxx]

Dont give in. Guys with weak spines get cheated on. Tell her its your decision, and she can take a hike if she doesnt like it. If she leaves she didnt like you anyways, she was just trying to mold you into her ideal man.

[Struck420]

this same thing happened to a friend of mine and he stopped smoking weed and hell he stopped hanging out with everyone except his girlfriend shes not even that hot, like me and my friend invited him to hang out and he said alright yeah ill be able to chill just gimme a call in a few hours ok we wait a few hours and then we call him he makes up some excuse about how he cant come over and we can hear his girlfriend in the background.
sorry im rambling but im just saying you let her push you around she will think your her bitch and make you do shit you dont want to
ditch her if shes serious about it and find someone that likes you for you dont ever change:thumbsup:

[Cyceiro]

Fuck her.
If you 2 have only been together for a little over a month and she is already giving you a choice between her and something you have been doing since before you met her, then it really sounds to me like she is just trying to think of some reason to break up with you.
Or to only break up with you for a month or so until you can pass a drug test while she dates some other guy or something.
OR she's just a total control freak.
The second one sounds really bad I know, but I do know some girls like that and these days they're more common than girls who actually are upset with the fact that you smoke.

Sit back and take a ong hard look at your relationship.
He she ever flirted with any guys? Called them hot?
Do you do things for her and she just blows them of like they're nothing?
If yes to any of these, then (excuse the harshness) she's probably just a trifling ass hoe.

I've asked my boyfriend to stop smoking cigs, but that was MONTHS after we started dating, and it wasnt an ultimatum, just asking for him to think about what it wil do for his health in the future.

She probably sees that you really like to smoke (and lets be honest, most of us LOVE it), and is using it against you to be single again.


Sorry if any of this was harsh, Im just giving my opinion.
Hope it helps.

B

[psteve]

Dump the controlling bitch.

[The Dude Of Life]

Fleshlight ftw

[Nailhead]

Dump the controlling bitch.

hell yea, not to be an ass but seriously, wtf is wrong with you that after just a month you are already pussy whipped? Be a man and stand up for what you want in life, don't let some bitch tell you what to do, do what you want to and if she has a problem with it, it's the wrong girl!

[trynagethigh]

man if she doesnt accept you for you then you dont need her. If you were smokin crack or shootin dope that would be different, but smokin bud? nah, lose her quickly and find someone who wants you just as you are. Good luck

[EbelEyes]

Why can't she just let you be you?

Maybe think about that.

[geonagual]

Damn...if that girl was here, she would be doing the Fred Flinstone (you know where he shrinks down cause she is so embarrassed.) but brother, she is just looking for an excuse..but either way, she is going to be a pain in the ass in the long run...you aint got no time to be worrying about her...plus, think about this...you break up with her before she breaks up with you...puts you in a whole new light of power..take it easy

[slipknotpsycho]

i'll never understand people who will quit for a GF.... i mean yeah, fine you quit this and do what she wants.... what's she gonna wanna change next? if she can't accept you for who you are, then there's no point in even trying... there will always be something else... and as h4h pointed out, unelss you're planning on marrying her it's DEFINATELY not worth it....

[rebgirl420]

Dump her ass! People should love you for who you are. Don't change for anyone. Besides you've only been dating for a month or so. There are sooo many other girls out there who either smoke or are tolerant of it.

[Nailhead]

I don't understand how anybody can get so hung up on a girl they've only been with for a month. Why do so many guys stop doing things they like because some girl told them to stop? Shouldn't it be obvious at that point she's not someone you should be with? I mean, yea I know great sex will make it seem like not a big deal, but come on, have some self respect and don't be so whipped!

[Reefer Rogue]

If she can't accept you for who you are and what the values of cannabis equate too, then I emplore you to take initiative and say that If you don't like it then dump me. When someone attempts to censor something, they are assuming their opinion is infallible (undoubtable) This is not justified, therefore move on if you must, find strength and insight from the wisdom weed and although you may be sad now, you shall heal. The cycle that is life happens somewhat like this: Good....Bad........Good.....Bad, you see, there are good and bad, some things are worse then others, say your girlfriend breaking up with you or someone being raped etc. Do not fear being a single, free, individual.

[WeedyBoyWonder]

She's seeing how far she can change and control you.
If you quit for her, things will only get worse and she will desire you to do this, that, and just about everything for her. That's my 2 cents, tell her to fuck right off and that she shouldn't have got with you in the first place knowing full well you smoke cannabis if she didn't like it.
Although I did read a success story about a guy giving up pot for his lady, so it could work out for you...

[Storm Crow]

It is my observation that mixed relationships (toking and non-toking) are usually shakey and prone to fail. Sorry, but although she is hot, I don't think this relationship is going to make it. - Granny:hippy:

[el_fantistico]

It's only been a month. you got her, you'll get others. Let her go. First she's telling you not to smoke, then it'll be who you can hang out with and it'll end with her telling you sex once a month is normal. Don't do it man... find yourself an herb friendly gal!!

El Fantistico :smokin:

[420MissHighTimes420]

if she wont even belive u it does sound like an accuse. no one is perfect i bet there are things about her u dont like. tell her to accept you or move on

[psteve]

tell her to accept you or move on
Nah. Turn the tables. Tell her "No more sex until you bring me some weed!"
And it's got to be good weed too. No schwagg or b'ster.
That'll teach her.

[beachguy in thongs]

My fucking girlfriend..who I've been dating only for a month or so..says she's been thinking, and that she wants to break up until I quit smoking pot. I told her if she was really serious then I would stop now...and never smoke again....she won't fucking believe me, and she keeps saying she wants proof. But passing a drug test cud take months. And i don't wanna not be with her till i pass a drug test. Geeez....seems like shes just using this as an excuse to break up with me..i hope not..i really like her, and she seems like she likes me a lot too

She sounds like a nice Missouri-girl.

What did she do before she dated you?

I'd try to mix it into her world.

[not_the_kitty]

My girlfriend said the same thing but I wasnt too big of a smoker back then and I quit but then after I told her about all the crazy good times I had when smoking she wanted to try it and now 4 years later we are in love more than ever and smoking more than ever too.....hope everything works out between you and your girl. :jointsmile:

[trainwreck530]

tell her to buy u visine or fuckin kick rocks and get down with some oregon blueberry.


whats up ore cal brother?


DONNY:stoned:

[PlantBoxer]

There is always 2 sides to every story. Some of the guys I know in my world, that after they blaze, their worthless!! They get all lazy, dont want do anything except play games. IF, I was a girl, and was around that everyday, well phuck, I'd want a change also.

Talk honestly and up front to her to find out her exact reason to dump the relationship. Maybe it's not the weed, but the side effects.
If she will not elobrate, then maybe, it's time find other ladies in your comfort zone.

I'd talk or walk.

[blazed620]

she just says that she doesn't want to be around it..and she doesn't want me taking the chance of getting in trouble..and i can understand that...She says that she's not going nowhere..but I can't get back with her till i pass a drug test.....IDK..shit is fucked up./

[O. G. ganja smoker]

its an excuse dude she met someone just leave her

[DemoCommando]

Hey, sub for that test or something. Then say, see! I don't smoke!

And keep on tokin'!

Dave

On a serious note: leave her for someone better. Honestly, physical attraction only goes so far man, if she's a bitch, she will usually be a bitch the rest of her life.
Listen to Cannabis.com members, because we know. We have life experiences.

[LuckyG]

There is always 2 sides to every story. Some of the guys I know in my world, that after they blaze, their worthless!! They get all lazy, dont want do anything except play games. IF, I was a girl, and was around that everyday, well phuck, I'd want a change also.

Talk honestly and up front to her to find out her exact reason to dump the relationship. Maybe it's not the weed, but the side effects.
If she will not elobrate, then maybe, it's time find other ladies in your comfort zone.

I'd talk or walk.

Quoted for truth. I prefer to get stoned by myself rather than with most of my friends, it's not fun just sitting around watching Simpsons.

Nobody here can really tell you what to do, because nobody here knows the full story between you two. It's all you, man - make a decision and stick with it, for better or for worse.

[ReUp]

The thought of taking a piss test for a girlfriend really tickles me.

[silkyblue]

I'd tell this chick to " make like a leaf and tree"

Whats next ? pickin your attire?

how you talk, sit, laugh, read, cook, clean?

theres plenty more fish in the sea
<>< <>< <>< <>< <><
get you one that does smoke, unless you trully are willing to quit forever? but think, When ya find a smokin gf, she'll smoke your stash! There are two sides to every scenario, ~~

is there a singles page here?

Not that, I need one, Im happily married ~~

My neighbor smoked hooka unknowingly to his wife, he went behind the shed:jointsmile:
Id get tickled seeing Kenny tokin behind the shed, from my kitchen window,

:jointsmile::jointsmile:

[blazed620]

i shoulda known what the responses would be....coming from a cannabis website..lol..dump the girl...stik with the weed!! lol..haha

[psteve]

Um...
It's not about the weed vs. the girl.
It's about you being true to yourself...:jointsmile:
Or not.:(

[beachguy in thongs]

Stick with weed, change the girl.

Or, totally lose the battle, and, agree with her. You are ruining your life because of pot.

[geonagual]

next thing you know, she will be dressing you, telling how you talk..are you ever thought abould being a submissive..maybe that is who you really are..

[r0k]

Nah. Turn the tables. Tell her "No more sex until you bring me some weed!"
And it's got to be good weed too. No schwagg or b'ster.
That'll teach her.

LOL :S2:

+rep for you, sir.

As for you, thread starter, you've only been with her for one month. And yes, you're asking on a cannabis forum, however, I'm sure most people would agree that you should break up with her. Nobody can tell you what to do; you run your own life. We're merely giving you advice like you asked :jointsmile:

Case in point, if she doesn't like you as you are, she's not worth it. Follow your heart, and your brain :thumbsup:


Edit: Wait wait, she's hot?
/just kidding.

[Nailhead]

i shoulda known what the responses would be....coming from a cannabis website..lol..dump the girl...stik with the weed!! lol..haha

the weed part doesn't matter, it's that she is trying to get you to stop doing something you like to do, that is called being pussy whipped. If you don't mind being pussy whipped then by all means, stop smoking pot, pass a drug test for her, and while your at it why not also learn to sit down while you piss? Are you a man or what? Stand up for what you want in life, you've only known her for a month, will it really be the end of the world if you dump her? Come on!

[blackbarbie]

she can get the hell on. she sounds controlling as hell. asking you to take a drug test as proof?? OMG i can understand her not approving of u smoking and not wanting u to do it around her, but that's crazy. idk if your christian or not, but the Lord says do not be unequally yoked.

[Unknown American]

Holly hell, dude! Will she give you back your nuts long enough for you to take the drug test?

She must be hot.

This has nothing to do with weed. But hey, it is your life. You can always come back to smoking when you figure out what a control freak she is.

Good luck with that.

[DAY-DREAMER-MAN]

i'd be like fuck that shit:S3:

[The Dude Of Life]

I don't understand how anybody can get so hung up on a girl they've only been with for a month. Why do so many guys stop doing things they like because some girl told them to stop? Shouldn't it be obvious at that point she's not someone you should be with? I mean, yea I know great sex will make it seem like not a big deal, but come on, have some self respect and don't be so whipped!

just say you quit, hit it, and say good bye and smoke a fatty.

[Pinner]

Girls like to mold their men into what they think they want and when you do change they realize that your still not what they wanted and they dump you for someone else they can mold and change into what they think they want and when they change them they realize that they still aint what they really wanted so they dump them for someone else they can mold into what they want and when they change blah blah blah.

First it will be smoking and then your hair, your clothes, your friends and sooner or later your not even yourself anymore. who cares how fine she is find someone with the same interest you'll be a hell of a lot happier. Beauty fades with time.

[iceiiw]

just dump her and get over it man that is all i can say you can not convince then otherwise once they make there mind up man

[psteve]

Girls like to mold their men into what they think they want and when you do change they realize that your still not what they wanted and they dump you for someone else they can mold and change into what they think they want and when they change them they realize that they still aint what they really wanted so they dump them for someone else they can mold into what they want and when they change blah blah blah.
I'm allergic to mold.

[romdog11]

leave her be a man be in charge. plus if shes cheating on you who wants to be kissing some chick whos sucking another cock. be safe dump her

[Markass]

do you plan on marrying this girl? if not , then fuck her. tell her to get real and move on to the next cutie that actually smokes weed.

I'm gonna have to agree with you there

[nap fuel]

Man, she's not worth it. Any chick that makes ultimatums after a month has got to be kidding. She's not a life partner my friend. You will NEVERbe happy with her. She should love you for who you are.

[hero3279]

Sorry to jump on the bandwagon but she sounds like a bitch. If you DO quit for her, it's a compromise straight away.

[blazed620]

well..we broke up..So i guess...u all were right..it just wasn't meant to be..lol..she was sexy as hell...but ehh..o well, least i didn't have to quit smokingg

[OLDE ENGLISH '800]

thats right come back to the dark side
http://youtube.com/watch?v=_WXD1dLAyas

[Canadian_Cron]

do you plan on marrying this girl? if not , then fuck her. tell her to get real and move on to the next cutie that actually smokes weed.

dude, like weed is fun and everything thing but its a substance... is it really more importnat than some1 you really like:wtf:? that sounds kind of stupid 2 me...

y dont you just tell her how long you have to wait 2 get a drug test and expalin to her how hard it is to actually quit and that its stupid that you should beak up when your actually trying to. just tell her that weed isnt nearly as important as her and that your gonna quit if thats how you feel, but she'll have to be patient if she doesnt trust you. and who knows what her reasons are for wanting you to quit??? did you even ask her? mabye its beacuse she knows its bad for your health or she doesnt like addictions? if shes anyone half ass normal shes should have a legitimate reason.

[sefi]

yea tell her to accept the weed or fuck off, or maybe you can talk to her an exactly find out why the weeds bothering her. i did that once with a past gf. the solution was to get my gf to smoke, she started to like it. weed problem solved and things got even better :)

[robo scat]

Make her smoke. It solves everything. :)

[Nailhead]

dude, like weed is fun and everything thing but its a substance... is it really more importnat than some1 you really like:wtf:? that sounds kind of stupid 2 me...

y dont you just tell her how long you have to wait 2 get a drug test and expalin to her how hard it is to actually quit and that its stupid that you should beak up when your actually trying to. just tell her that weed isnt nearly as important as her and that your gonna quit if thats how you feel, but she'll have to be patient if she doesnt trust you. and who knows what her reasons are for wanting you to quit??? did you even ask her? mabye its beacuse she knows its bad for your health or she doesnt like addictions? if shes anyone half ass normal shes should have a legitimate reason.

The guy has only known her for a month, he would have been a fool to submit to a drug test for this person he doesn't even know. Any girl is dumb that hooks up with a guy that smokes weed, then tries to change them. No girl is worth sacrificing your recreational habits, not to mention, your dignity.

[Friend Indeed]

I don't know. After only a month she's already giving you ultimatums? I'd be careful. I smell trouble in paradise.

Weed today, God only knows what's next.

[Friend Indeed]

well..we broke up..So i guess...u all were right..it just wasn't meant to be..lol..she was sexy as hell...but ehh..o well, least i didn't have to quit smokingg

Good decision.
I will smoke a bowl in your honor as soon as I get word about my piss test.

[TryptamineScape]

you know...I had this situation...I knew she wasn't dumb, and I knew she really liked me...so I kept telling her to deal with it to see how long she could really handle it...after 3 months, she was still with me, still complaining, that was when it finally was to the point where I wanted to break up with her...then one of my friend's was like, "man, she has been saying she's gonna dump you over pot for three months, she's not serious"...so I provided her with more than enough information about marijuana to explain away the myths that she was believing about it being just like cocaine and whatnot...after that...she tried it one time with me and my friend...and BAM! insta-pothead gf...best thing ever...until I broke up with her for something totally different last month.

[TryptamineScape]

...and I got high with her last night again anyway...haha...good times...