Do expired infractions stay there forever

[cannabis campbell]

Mine just says expired but it wont go away?

[geonagual]

wait until they embroider it on your shirt...that is the next step for all you rule breakers. LOL

[cannabis campbell]

meow

[birdgirl73]

From what I've seen, they do stay there on people's records where we can see them. But they're noted as expired. That wasn't an infraction on yours, Cannabis. It didn't carry any points. That was really just a yellow caution light. Certainly nothing for you to worry about, hun.

If it had had point value, Geo is exactly right. Your future cann.com shirt would have had to have some extra stitching to make it clear you're a troublemaker.

^^That's a joke up there, in case anyone's taking it seriously! We don't have cann.com shirts until the owner decides to make them or allow someone else to do so. And if and when we do, they won't reflect infraction histories. P4B and FBR have proposed that be done with neck tattoos.

[cannabis campbell]

Lol, thanks Em, If we have this cannabis.com meet up, we should all have cannabis.com T shirts for that with our member names on sundance should come to would be cool to meet the owner.

[slipknotpsycho]

i've had one since jan 30th.... lol...

i wish it'd go... it's a reminder of a time i lost control and i don't liek it... i mean it's not like i need the reminder.... i've hardly had any infraction worthy posts in nearly 3 years.... it's like a reminder of one fucked up point in my life.... it bugs me..

[cannabis campbell]

Yeah same here isnt there any way you can just like make it go away :( lol.

[slipknotpsycho]

not that i know of but if you find a way let me know lol.. i hate seeing it -.-

[cannabis campbell]

Maybe your forum mum would be kind enough haha :p

[slipknotpsycho]

dont think mods can even do that..... or i'd of already begged already lol.....

[birdgirl73]

Yeah, we can't delete them. We can reverse active infractions for justifiable reasons, but even then they still stay visible. At least as far as I can tell.

Well, for your sakes, I think you shouldn't let them bother you. They are not things we ever look at or consider once they're expired. We truly do take a clean-slate approach with people who don't have ongoing, chronic problems here. Consider yourself absolved because, trust me, we have bigger fish to fry than worrying about expired warnings or infractions.

[slipknotpsycho]

yeah but that's not why it bothers me..... it just reminds me of being someone i've worked so hard not to be.... i slipped up and flipped out, and i really hate having that reminder... i dunno if you could understand or not, but i's like a downer in it's self.... it reminds me i can and do lose control, which makes it harder to maintain that control....

[cannabis campbell]

Lol yeah I know what you mean Slip, oh well guess we'll just have to ignore it, It doesnt really make a difference at the end of the day.

[birdgirl73]

i dunno if you could understand or not, but i's like a downer in it's self.... it reminds me i can and do lose control, which makes it harder to maintain that control....
I can understand it and why it would bother you. But I also know you well enough to know you have a tendency sometimes to look at the world through fecal-colored glasses. So instead of being able to dismiss it as old history or a learning experience, you choose to let it define you or affect your equanimity now. It doesn't have to do that. That's a conscious choice you're making in your own perception, if you can understand that. The worst thing about this whole situation is that if it were anyone else other than yourself, you wouldn't hold that against them. At least I don't think you would in most cases.

[slipknotpsycho]

I can understand it and why it would bother you. But I also know you well enough to know you have a tendency sometimes to look at the world through fecal-colored glasses. So instead of being able to dismiss it as old history or a learning experience, you choose to let it define you or affect your equanimity now. It doesn't have to do that. That's a conscious choice you're making in your own perception, if you can understand that. The worst thing about this whole situation is that if it were anyone else other than yourself, you wouldn't hold that against them. At least I don't think you would in most cases.

no i wouldn't and i admit everything you just said.... i've always been far harder on my self with criticism.... i was about to say i can't control that, but i also know you know that's not how a mind works... i guess the words are 'i'm not strong enough to convince myself of that' i dunno i've always been that way =/

for the most part, i don't even pay any mind to it.... i only really think of it when someone brings it up :)

[birdgirl73]

i guess the words are 'i'm not strong enough to convince myself of that' i dunno i've always been that way =/
I hear you on that. That's the pattern that was set for you before you were consciously aware of it, I expect. From a mom or others who were too hard on you. Now, of course, you've incorporated that into your own behavior toward yourself. But here's the good news. You've got a toddler at home. You can work hard not to repeat that cycle with him, perhaps. Praise him. Encourage and support him emotionally far more than you criticize him. The older I get, the more I realize that there's really no such thing as too much encouragement for a child. They thrive in an environment like that.

Well, enough mama-therapy for tonight. I need to sign off and go figure out why it's suddenly gotten so quiet downstairs. I think the Byrd man is probably sound asleep in front of his football game.

[slipknotpsycho]

well... encouragment won't really come in for a few years, atlesat to where he can understand what i'm doing... i never plan to be hard on him, firm but not hard... i also don't plan to go flipping out on him for no reason like both of my birth parents have done to me... it really is damaging.... even if only once....

[birdgirl73]

Trust me. Encouragement counts now, too. They understand the tone and the emotions involved, and it helps wire the neural pathways in his brain for positive disposition later. Toddlers definitely perceive encouragement and support. "Good boy" and other sorts of positive comments are an investment in his future emotional health clear back to tiny infancy. The other thing you can do with them at this age to build self-esteem is let them figure stuff out for themselves. With puzzles and toys and things they have to figure out, it's so easy for us to step in and show them how something fits together and complete it for them. But they're the ones who need to do that, and it gives them such a tremendous sense of accomplishment when they're allowed to do that. Already such encouragement or discouragement is imprinting on his little brain, I promise!

You know this. I know you do. You also know it's hard because when they're toddlers, they're into so many things are have to be monitored so closely so they don't hurt themselves.

OK, I'm outta here for a while. I think there's a bathtub that needs me to have a nice, long soak!

[slipknotpsycho]

probably a diffrent perception in wording :p i'm the one that taught him 'yay' and to clap his hands and such... that just seems to go without saying i was just more talking about the 'mature' encouragment.. you know getting into what they're intrested in, showing your intrest and such..

but anyways have a good bath! (nice to know it's not only the stoners who can help a thread go off topic tho lmao...)

makes me not feel so bad for leading so many there :p

[Nightcrewman]

Here's an idea, what if instead of points against for infractions BG sets up a little parlour out her back yard where we can just go and get a good spanking instead. LOL


NCM

[PharmaCan]

Here's an idea, what if instead of points against for infractions BG sets up a little parlour out her back yard where we can just go and get a good spanking instead. LOL


NCM

Me first - me first!!!!! :D

PC :smokin:

[stinkyattic]

lol I'll go for that too- I still have an old infraction for reading someone off back in da day. A couple whacks to make it disappear seems a fair price to pay.

[geonagual]

Can I be the one to dish it out. I have a paddle with holes drilled in the end..it will definitley make you rethink any further disobedience.

[stinkyattic]

All right Geo... does it also have fraternity letters carved into it? I'll take a paddling from a member of Kappa Kappa Spankme.

[birdgirl73]

Here's an idea, what if instead of points against for infractions BG sets up a little parlour out in her back yard where we can just go and get a good spanking instead. LOL


Me first - me first!!!!! :D


Can I be the one to dish it out? I have a paddle with holes drilled in the end..it will definitely make you rethink any further disobedience.


Geo, does it also have fraternity letters carved into it? I'll take a paddling from a member of Kappa Kappa Spankme.

Now this is just wrong.

[rebgirl420]

I made a thread about this a while back ago. The thing still haunts me. I dont care if it didnt carry any points. haha, it bums me out.

[Psycho4Bud]

The expired infractions also gives us a history of the user. When we see that a person has a history of lashing out after the infraction expired time and time again.....we have the option of bumping up the numbers based on that.

I can think of at least 3 people that have pulled that crap. After a while, like a couple of pages of infractions, it gets old.:bnd2:

Have a good one!:jointsmile:

[Old Stoner]

ROFLMAO..... SO wrong....

Spank me, crank me, they oughta take a rope and hang me.... hehehehehe.....

Shoot, I got a red flag three posts after i got here, guys. I HATE seeing it there, but I screwed up, and deserved it.

Maybe if I'm a good boy, just maybe, I won't get another one, LOL....

Oh, no, the spanking police just showed up! RUN ! RUN !......

[Psycho4Bud]

ROFLMAO..... SO wrong....

Spank me, crank me, they oughta take a rope and hang me.... hehehehehe.....

Shoot, I got a red flag three posts after i got here, guys. I HATE seeing it there, but I screwed up, and deserved it.

Maybe if I'm a good boy, just maybe, I won't get another one, LOL....

Oh, no, the spanking police just showed up! RUN ! RUN !......

Just like me, your to damn old to change your ways. LOL

Did ya get them cd's yet?

Have a good one!:jointsmile:

[bluntblaze]

Can I be the one to dish it out. I have a paddle with holes drilled in the end..it will definitley make you rethink any further disobedience.

okay.. but only if you hug me afterwards.

[geonagual]

okay.. but only if you hug me afterwards.

Of course I will give you a hug afterward...and some good rep:hippy:

[Old Stoner]

Yea, Psycho4Bud, I got the White Witch album. I did not realize it was realeased in '72, WOW! I had that on vinyl - had MOST STUFF on vinyl, LOL. Also got Uriah Heep "The Magician's Birthday" and "Look at Yourself" (I already had "Demons and Wizards.") They are all awesome - just as I remembered them from my younger days!

Saw Frampton Friday was a week ago - he was STILL amazing! His bass player who played on "Comes Alive" is STILL with him, LOL. His new CD (I have a hard time saying CD - I'm used to ALBUM, LOL), "Fingerprints", an all instrumental job released at the end of '06 is really good, and the CD he released in '03, "Now", is good as well. He ain't got the hair anymore, but the old boy can still play a mean guitar, and that talkbox he uses is STILL awesome. You know, he makes talkboxes and different stuff for guitarists. i didn't know that until the concert.

Do you FEEEEEL like we do! Oh, that's TRUE!

One of my old favs, Foghat, was in town and we saw 'em last year. But poor Lonesome Dave, the lead guitarist/singer, passed away a few years back, but all the other guys were still with the band.

Don't get me started on tunes, LOL. I LOVE my rock n' roll! And I also tend to be VERY long winded, LOL...


Peace!

Old Stoner - P.S. Can't WAIT to show you guys my avatar I have picked out, LOL...