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d00d557
09-13-2007, 10:44 PM
Okay so there's this girl I've been going out with for like a month and a half and she's pretty cool. Its just now she gets all bitchy sometimes with me about shit most recently last night how I said this party i'm going to this weekend is probably going to have girls there. For some reason she gets mad with me hanging out with other girls or even talking to other girls. So she got really pissed at me and said i'm done talking to you tonight and I haven't talked to her since last night. It's weird because I don't know my feelings exactly for her like if I did break it off if i'd be sad or relieved. I just have problems with identifying my exact feelings. Any advice?

TallulahGreen
09-13-2007, 10:57 PM
Okay so there's this girl I've been going out with for like a month and a half and she's pretty cool. Its just now she gets all bitchy sometimes with me about shit most recently last night how I said this party i'm going to this weekend is probably going to have girls there. For some reason she gets mad with me hanging out with other girls or even talking to other girls. So she got really pissed at me and said i'm done talking to you tonight and I haven't talked to her since last night. It's weird because I don't know my feelings exactly for her like if I did break it off if i'd be sad or relieved. I just have problems with identifying my exact feelings. Any advice?

Relationships are not all cake. Jealousy happens. Especially when a relationship is starting to get more serious and actually turning into more than just dating casually. I would maybe invite her to the party with me so that she can see that you have no bad intentions with these other girls and that if you are going to make the relationship work there needs to be a certain amount of trust.

Unless the girl is just completly psycho and doesn't want you spending anytime with anyone but her..in which case you should get out fast...

Girls can be totally psycho....relationships are all about working together and working through things..and it's not all cake..it can be a lot of work and be really hard. Sometimes there is bad days...sometimes there is good days..but it's all apart of the fun.

If this girl is worth it I am sure you will figure it out...just go with it...see what happens. You guys haven't been together for too long so I am sure it will be easy to figure out.

Best of luck to you.

d00d557
09-13-2007, 11:24 PM
Its possible, i was talking to my friend a second ago and he has the exact same problem. he just said lets both break up with our gf's now i'm contemplating it. Maybe i'm just not ready for another relationship to me it seems a little too much chaining down. Even right now I still haven't talked to her she's online but hasnt said shit to me. I'm not really feeling any strong feelings or liking toward her and I have no idea why its like a limbo thing. For some reason though i'm reluctant to br eak up with her. She said she trusts me but for some reason still doesn't like me talking to other girls or hanging out with them. It might just be in the better interest to break up like I said im still contemplating it. Sorry for the spelling ellors

TallulahGreen
09-13-2007, 11:45 PM
Its possible, i was talking to my friend a second ago and he has the exact same problem. he just said lets both break up with our gf's now i'm contemplating it. Maybe i'm just not ready for another relationship to me it seems a little too much chaining down. Even right now I still haven't talked to her she's online but hasnt said shit to me. I'm not really feeling any strong feelings or liking toward her and I have no idea why its like a limbo thing. For some reason though i'm reluctant to br eak up with her. She said she trusts me but for some reason still doesn't like me talking to other girls or hanging out with them. It might just be in the better interest to break up like I said im still contemplating it. Sorry for the spelling ellors

Well...how old are you? Have you been in a serious relationship before? It took me a long time to be totally cool with my boyfriend going to do stuff that I knew other girls were going to be at. That doesn't mean I didn't let him do it, I just was never really pleasant about it. Now I trust him you know and it's great because it is reciprocated and I can go to parties and such without him and it's just fine. Jealousy sometimes can be a really hard thing with a lot of people, and it sucks but sometimes you just gotta deal with it.

Sounds like you might not be ready to include someone else in your life, because let me tell you, serious relationships..it gets to a point where your lives are together...and there's not much you can do to really change that up unto a point..not that thats a bad thing if thats what you want.

Keep in mind that it most likely won't get any easier in the sense of having your own time and stuff and not having anyone to answer to. You have to keep in mind that having a girlfriend means a lot...you won't have the same time to yourself...and won't be able to do what you want when you want..

Although relationships are all different depending on ones maturity.

friendowl
09-13-2007, 11:56 PM
FAMOUS QUOTE FROM TOMMY BUNS FROM THE MOVIE "BELLY"

"GIRLS WILL FUCK YOUR WHOLE SHIT UP ....DOG"

higher4hockey
09-14-2007, 12:01 AM
my friend advice is what you ask for when you already know the answer, but wish you didnt.

birdgirl73
09-14-2007, 12:03 AM
Are y'all married, engaged or dating exclusively? Cuz if you're not, she hasn't got any business getting her panties in a twist over your acquaintance with other girls. I think that's a bad sign, frankly, unless y'all have some exclusive deal going after only a month and a half. Jealousy schmealousy. Six weeks does not a commitment make.

MadSativa
09-14-2007, 01:28 AM
you need to figure out what she is cause if shes not your significant other or wife or girl or whatever then mabey she shouldnt be getting mad.