Suggestions on how to let some one down easy.

[Hilder420]

Man, I've had a busy day! I got up about 6:00 am, made some home made breakfast tacos for me and my neighbor for her first day back to teaching. So, I'm at my PC downloading music on my pda, and I get a call from this guy I've been hangin out and smoking with for about a month now. so hes calling to "see what's up" so I'm like, you kno, got high, had breakfast, and now I'm fiddling around on my computer. So he says, "listen, I hope this doesn't affect our friendship, (were more smoking aquaintances) but I've been wanting to have sex with you. I tried calling you last night but you didn't call me back, and I've been thinking about it all night." Ok... so I'm a little shocked but not surprised. So,I pretty much said, I don't think I'm intrested, and he asks me why. I mumble something about how I've already got a fuck buddy, so he says, "well, I though you said, you were open to having more than one." ok, I did, but I wasn't talking about him, or just any one actually, and he knew that because I even talked to him about this specific person I named names and everything. I was referring to someone whom I've been IMing and emailing from this site actually (you kno who u are hahaha). You know how you bullshit around when ur relaxed and tokin. So, you know I'm trying to be nice about it, dont wanna make him feel like Shit and whatnot, so I said I would think about it. Which I wont, because I don't feel even the slightest towards him, I'm not even sure I want him as a friend. He's a bit of a loser, and a liar, and a dog. when I first met him, he was tellin me about how he had a date, and didn't call the girl to tell her he wasn't gonna show. That right there ruled him out for me. Plus, he says he's a web designer, but works at a gas station, and when I bring up something computer realated he says he doesn't wanna talk about it. hmm fishy... fishy.... I hate liars, I rather you tell me you ain't got no job, no money, no nothing and I'll respect you more than if you lie. So anyway, yesterday, he came by and brought me a couple of beers and a cherry pie. First off, if he'd pay attention, he'd know I don't do pie. I though he was lookin at me funny, but I figured he had something in his eye.. a symbolic pie perhaps? hahaha. Also he made an off hand comment about how he doesn't care wether the women he sleeps with gets any pleasure. man fuck that! I gots to get mine too.... so yeah he has absolutely no chance whatsoever. Oh, and then, he has these man boobs, and im not talking about a little droop, i usually dont mind a little extra meat on my men, but I'm talkin handfuls. Dunlop Disease. ok.. first of all.. ewww! second, I myself have big breasts, I dont need no competition. from a man no less.... so my dilemma is the following: he has a hook up, that im gonna try to get 4 O's off of for a fantabulous price. Obviously, I dont want to piss him off till after I get my weed, and his hook ups number. but I dont know how to let him down easy. suggestions? thing is this isnt the first time it happens with a potential hook up. Damn, i need to stop bein so sexy all the goddamn time. hahaha peace- hilder

[stinkyattic]

That's funny, seems like he'd tell you about the wanting to have sex bit in person.
First off, don't consider anything having to do with mixing the hookup with the sex- that's simply bad business.
And he sounds creepy. Honestly.
This isn't a dude you let off easy... this is a dude you shut the door on.
And then lock it.

[couch-potato]

Tell him straight up.

[GraziLovesMary]

That's funny, seems like he'd tell you about the wanting to have sex bit in person.
First off, don't consider anything having to do with mixing the hookup with the sex- that's simply bad business.
And he sounds creepy. Honestly.
This isn't a dude you let off easy... this is a dude you shut the door on.
And then lock it.

And it wouldnt hurt to have an assault weapon. Many states (maryland and Washington DC included) have lifted their assault weapons bans :D m-4s and AR-15s for all! XD

[IThinkIamFeelingit]

Shit, that aint gonna be easy..introduce him to one of your friends that you dont like to much...tell him she thinks he is hot..that should buy you some time..other than that...Flak vest?

[water]

no easy way to let him down so just tell him straight

[Hilder420]

Damn yall are makin me nervous. see the thing is that he doesnt seem that dangerous to me. but ya never kno. what im thinking of doin is calling him back and just bein like, well, i talked to the dick and he said that if i fucked someone else, he would dissapear, and i cant let him go. for anyone. which is a lie, if someone came along i really wanted, id do it in a heartbeat. He is a little creepy. i dont trust anyone who doesnt eat vegetables. I cant stop thinkin of that Damn cherry pie. LMAO i had to throw it out. it was giving me the heebie- jebbies. I have a buckshot im my closet. maybe its time baby came out to play. beides, i mean What a pussy right? over the phone? although when he was tellin me on the phone, i had to cover the mouth piece cuz i was like.. ewww...ewww....ewww over and over. i dont know what i would have done if hed done it in person. I'll let ya kno what happens. peace, still ROFLMAO - Hilder

[imitator]

Dont lie. Do not put yourself on the same level as this guy you are trying to get rid of.

Take the honorable route, and just tell him flat out, you arent interested. If he presses, then let him have it, but try to leave it at that if possible.

In situations like this, lying is the worst possible route to go. Its best just to be honest, and walk away from the situation knowing that you were honest and didnt have to lie abou tit.

[Hilder420]

I know i should tell the truth, but i want my weed!!!! and im not into pity fucks. maybe ill call and be like, whats ur guys number? uhu, uhu, yeah. ok . bye and never call him or talk to him again. that would be ideal. but ya kno it wont be that easy. like i said, this isnt the first time. i dont know why men cant have female friends withouth their penises gettin in the way. I'm not even that cute. I mean im not a dog, but still. hmm...

[imitator]

Just dont bring it up, until you get the weed.

If he brings it up, politely tell him something that isnt a lie, or just tell him that you will talk about that later, and you want to take care of the weed stuff right now.

[SirReal]

so my dilemma is the following: he has a hook up, that im gonna try to get 4 O's off of for a fantabulous price. Obviously, I dont want to piss him off till after I get my weed, and his hook ups number. but I dont know how to let him down easy. suggestions? thing is this isnt the first time it happens with a potential hook up. Damn, i need to stop bein so sexy all the goddamn time.

Thats fucking HORRIBLE. You're going to lie and pretend to be someone's friend until you can get a hook-up then just desert them... I know he has just put a strain on the "friendship* (or whatever you want to call your lie) by admitting his sexual feelings for you, but you need to either be his friend or tell him otherwise. Don't use people. We aren't vending machines that you can just get what you want and walk off.

[Hilder420]

I'm not takin advantage of anyone. I have honestly been tryin to be his friend for the past month and a half. the potential connection didnt come up until a week ago. I don't believe in using people. i Believe in karma, and i go out of my way to be nice to people. well, some people. This guy is broke like ALL the time. I've been smoking him out for the better part of a month, let him borrow one of my pieces cuz he cant roll joints, and given him weed to take home when im not able to smoke him out. if thats me not tryin..... you misunderstood the fact, that i will keep bein friendly to him, as long as he isnt an ass about me rejecting him. Also i never intended to lie or lead him on thinking he was gonna get some from me, but when i told him no the first time around he wasnt happy with that answer, so i told him id think about it. THAT, is why the thread is called Suggestions on how to let someone down easy, not, how can i string him along till i get my weed... get it right. my dilemma was gettin opinions on how to let him down easy,so we could still be tokin buds AND still get my weed. peace- hilder

[IThinkIamFeelingit]

I'm not takin advantage of anyone. I have honestly been tryin to be his friend for the past month and a half. the potential connection didnt come up until a week ago. I don't believe in using people. i Believe in karma, and i go out of my way to be nice to people. well, some people. This guy is broke like ALL the time. I've been smoking him out for the better part of a month, let him borrow one of my pieces cuz he cant roll joints, and given him weed to take home when im not able to smoke him out. if thats me not tryin..... you misunderstood the fact, that i will keep bein friendly to him, as long as he isnt an ass about me rejecting him. Also i never intended to lie or lead him on thinking he was gonna get some from me, but when i told him no the first time around he wasnt happy with that answer, so i told him id think about it. THAT, is why the thread is called Suggestions on how to let someone down easy, not, how can i string him along till i get my weed... get it right. my dilemma was gettin opinions on how to let him down easy,so we could still be tokin buds AND still get my weed. peace- hilder


you have done your best..just bide your time, get your bud and then be honest with him..you should be cool after that.

[stinkyattic]

This situation sounds a bit scary. If I were you I'd RUN.

[spliffstar22]

just get the bud, and after, tell him straight up, if he cant except it, than its over.....

[Hilder420]

k that was easier than i thought.... he came over, i smoked him out and when he was nice and baked i told him that i wasnt intrested, but i hoped he understood and that it was something that i wouldnt change my mind about, but i hoped we would still remain buddies. i didnt leave any gaps for him to believe he has any chance whatsoever. he was cool about it. he just said "awww you suck." - but, got his guys number first though.... and im gettin my Shit sunday... yay!!!

[GHoSToKeR]

Don't do this (http://boards.cannabis.com/sexuality-relationships/131662-would-like-some-advice-please.html).

[Bubbleman]

Now he is out of the picture, we can be together. Hahahahaha. :rasta: :-P

[Hilder420]

Holy Shit, Bubbleman! hahaha u sexy sonofabitch... how u gon put my bidness out there... lol

so anyway update... We Still hang and talk, and smoke... he seems a little more distant i guess now that he knows he has no chance. Fine by me... But hes hinted that he still likes me and tells me im cute all the time.. The first time he saw me with make up on his eyes went wide and wouldnt stop looking at my lips...and commenting on my hair.. hey as long as he doesnt get handsy i wont have to kick his ass.. besides it feels good to get compliments. LOL Peace- Hilder

[hero3279]

You need to slow the hell down, I for one won't believe your yap, there are always 2 sides to every story.

[Hilder420]

what are u on about? WTF? how do i need to slow down?