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DarkHairedSativa
08-22-2007, 08:08 PM
Ok so i read on here about women enjoying anal and other courses and really getting off on it. I don't know if it's just me but i'd like some feedback from other women (men too if ya want).I have a really hard time orgasming from intercourse (of any kind) alone.I've tried all different sorts of positions.The only time I've been able to is with my current b/f about a year ago.It happened 4 different times,but hasn't happened since.It's not him and I've been with lotsa different partners,so I don't understand this.Am I just made wrong?Any insight would be nice,because it always makes the guy feel like they're doing something wrong and they're not....I know it's me.:(

stinkyattic
08-22-2007, 08:19 PM
Naw it isn't just you... pretty common to need some clitoral stimulation to get the job done... I'm not shy, I have no particular problem just reaching on down and lending myself a hand. haha. Drrtyhot. In fact my man gets all sorts of hot and bothered watching and it's a great way to reach that point where you and your partner can climax simultaneously- that rocks!
The only thing that sucks is if the dude rocks a beer gut. Makes things tricky. You've practically got to hold Da Belly aside with the other hand, or have him lean back pretty upright... and I like big dudes... :D

Bluntmasterbabe
08-22-2007, 08:24 PM
Alot of women aren't able to achieve an orgasm. I think it's a pretty normal thing. You have to feel completely comfortable with yourself and your partner. It wouldn't hurt if you "take some alone time" by yourself either. You can figure out what you like and then be able to tell or show him. I've found that it's easier for me if I'm on top and in control. Luckily I rarely have a problem getting one:)

Hope it works out for you;)

420MissHighTimes420
08-22-2007, 09:11 PM
I have only had an orgasim from penetration once! And that was after some harddddd fucking in the same spot for awhile -- we were trying our hardest so I could have one. -- But I get orgasims super easy from my loved clit, which is great because i love touching myself infront of my bf for some reason and i always cum from that also i love wen hes fucking me with a hand on it, its awsome.

also i've heard its pretty common to not be able to so dont feel abnormal. just keep trying!

Hardcore Newbie
08-22-2007, 09:23 PM
I think it's hot when a girl touches herself when we're bumping uglies haha. Some guys, I hear, have a problem with it tho, because it emasculates them... whatever!

420MissHighTimes420
08-22-2007, 09:29 PM
I think it's hot when a girl touches herself when we're bumping uglies haha. Some guys, I hear, have a problem with it tho, because it emasculates them... whatever!

never heard that one before but it makes sence. my man lovesss it. whats not hot about a girl getting horny as hell and reaching orgasim? idk hot to me. lol hmm possible thread question

Chronisseur
08-22-2007, 11:07 PM
I just wanna throw this out.

From personal experience, I've found many women are almost AFRAID to orgasm fully. I assure you this problem can be somewhat easily fixed, however you DO need to be fully comfortable and emotionally available when the time cums;)

PS: even TYPING about touching yourself is hot, so dont worry!:thumbsup:

Do any women her agree with my theory that alot of an orgasm for a woman is mental and emotional?

Storm Crow
08-23-2007, 03:43 AM
It's pretty common, sweetie. The fact that you can masturbate to orgasm is good! When the hubby and I "get it on", I frequently "prime the pump" before hand. I take a nice warm bath and masturbate to climax. (The hubby is going to be 66 this year, so he has slowed down a bit- me?, I'm the "Energizer Bunny".) I take a few minutes to settle down and then jump into bed with an ultra-sensitive clit. ( I hope I'm not grossing you gals out too much with my tales of "senior sex"! It does happen, ya know! Check out Yahoo Health News- had an article about it just today.) Climax is a habit- keep doing it and your body learns it. Keep trying, and may all your orgasms be multiple! - Granny:hippy:

MadSativa
08-23-2007, 03:49 AM
its not just you I know alot of girls who like to use toys or play with them selves durring sex, I like when a girl is like rub me here while you fuk me or stick you finger here while u fuk me or anything along those lines I like.but it not unusual at allin fact I buy all kinds of things to make girls confertable or give them pleasure.

blink_inc
08-23-2007, 11:12 AM
foreplay foreplay foreplay and more foreplay. 20 minutes or more of clitoral stimulation prior to intercourse.
Comfort and self confidence help as well.
My wife gets off best when on top as she can control what she needs to control.
Don't let it get you down. If the guy is patient he will work with you to achieve the big O.

GraziLovesMary
08-24-2007, 08:44 PM
Ok so i read on here about women enjoying anal and other courses and really getting off on it. I don't know if it's just me but i'd like some feedback from other women (men too if ya want).I have a really hard time orgasming from intercourse (of any kind) alone.I've tried all different sorts of positions.The only time I've been able to is with my current b/f about a year ago.It happened 4 different times,but hasn't happened since.It's not him and I've been with lotsa different partners,so I don't understand this.Am I just made wrong?Any insight would be nice,because it always makes the guy feel like they're doing something wrong and they're not....I know it's me.:(

How long do you spend with your knees by your ears? Thats a GREAT position for orgasm through intercourse alone. Brings all those wonderful sensitive organs to a more accessible locale to be frictionized :D And like everybody else said, double click your own mouse while youre doin it. You arent tryin TOO hard are ya? Thatll throw off ANYbody, guys or girls.

DarkHairedSativa
08-26-2007, 07:15 PM
Thanks for your input everyone!!! I really appreciate it!! However Granny you're not old enough to be my Grandma.... only maybe my Mom...lol Not gross out by lovin at any age!!

Also I've found if I orgasm once then go for it again....it takes a long time for the second to happen....I dunno.;)

DarkHairedSativa
08-26-2007, 07:20 PM
How long do you spend with your knees by your ears? Thats a GREAT position for orgasm through intercourse alone. Brings all those wonderful sensitive organs to a more accessible locale to be frictionized :D And like everybody else said, double click your own mouse while youre doin it. You arent tryin TOO hard are ya? Thatll throw off ANYbody, guys or girls.

Well.....wouldn't YOU like to know....? lol....
Actually alot.I stay that way as long as I can breathe.Sometimes I get too scrunched or my hips start to hurt,but that's the position quite often.AND I probably AM trying too hard cuz if it takes a little while and he starts sighing....it's gone instantly even if I was almost there.I guess I'll just keep trying though.... all I can do! ;)

OLDE ENGLISH '800
08-26-2007, 07:23 PM
"Here's the breakdown - about 60% of women can't orgasm from intercourse alone. 20% can orgasm from intercourse occasionally, but need other stimulation, while a final 20% can almost always orgasm from intercourse. And of those women, 5-10% are capable of multiple orgasms. Those women actually don't like oral sex - it's too much for them. Too much stimulus."
Dr. Drew Pinsky -loveline

Hardcore Newbie
08-26-2007, 08:32 PM
"Here's the breakdown - about 60% of women can't orgasm from intercourse alone. 20% can orgasm from intercourse occasionally, but need other stimulation, while a final 20% can almost always orgasm from intercourse. And of those women, 5-10% are capable of multiple orgasms. Those women actually don't like oral sex - it's too much for them. Too much stimulus."
Dr. Drew Pinsky -lovelineI find it hard to believe because every girl I've been with would orgasm multiple times from intercourse except one (who orgasmed occasionally during intercourse), and all of them loved oral.

OLDE ENGLISH '800
08-26-2007, 09:42 PM
I find it hard to believe because every girl I've been with would orgasm multiple times from intercourse except one (who orgasmed occasionally during intercourse), and all of them loved oral.

i dont know if its true or not but a sex doctor says it so makes it believable..or maybe your just lucky and got the 5-10% :thumbsup:

Hardcore Newbie
08-26-2007, 09:46 PM
i dont know if its true or not but a sex doctor says it so makes it believable..or maybe your just lucky and got the 5-10% :thumbsup:I'd like to think it's because I'm good, but you're probably right in that I'm lucky hahaha.

420MissHighTimes420
08-27-2007, 01:31 PM
It's pretty common, sweetie. The fact that you can masturbate to orgasm is good! When the hubby and I "get it on", I frequently "prime the pump" before hand. I take a nice warm bath and masturbate to climax. (The hubby is going to be 66 this year, so he has slowed down a bit- me?, I'm the "Energizer Bunny".) I take a few minutes to settle down and then jump into bed with an ultra-sensitive clit. ( I hope I'm not grossing you gals out too much with my tales of "senior sex"! It does happen, ya know! Check out Yahoo Health News- had an article about it just today.) Climax is a habit- keep doing it and your body learns it. Keep trying, and may all your orgasms be multiple! - Granny:hippy:

LOL if anything that makes me happy, I hoe after I find 'the one' I'll be getting it on with him for many many years, and I hope I can still enjoy it and reach orgasim after that long. So keep it up! hahaha or rather have him keep it up lol grannys :pimp::hippy:
:thumbsup:

420MissHighTimes420
08-27-2007, 01:36 PM
I just wanna throw this out.

From personal experience, I've found many women are almost AFRAID to orgasm fully. I assure you this problem can be somewhat easily fixed, however you DO need to be fully comfortable and emotionally available when the time cums;)

PS: even TYPING about touching yourself is hot, so dont worry!:thumbsup:

Do any women her agree with my theory that alot of an orgasm for a woman is mental and emotional?

it is DEFFINALTLY a mental thing.
I can't cum if Im not totally comfortable with the guy, and feeling good about myself. To have an orgasim (clitoral Im talking about because unfortunatly I cant speak on the other kind) I have to really want one, and If Im not 100% feelin the guy Im not going to want to have one with him. If that makes sence? Which is why I never get with random guys anymore. Just doesnt feel right I like to be with aguy Im comforatble with and a guy who makes me feel good about myself. It's great to be able to let loose with someone you can be yourself with, and a guy Im comforatablt enough to show how I like it, because I do need very spicific things sometimes to get me to cum. Good damn being single sucksss!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :mad:

GraziLovesMary
08-27-2007, 08:34 PM
Well.....wouldn't YOU like to know....? lol....
Actually alot.I stay that way as long as I can breathe.Sometimes I get too scrunched or my hips start to hurt,but that's the position quite often.AND I probably AM trying too hard cuz if it takes a little while and he starts sighing....it's gone instantly even if I was almost there.I guess I'll just keep trying though.... all I can do! ;)

Ahhhhhhh it all seems to make sense to me now... I went through that little slump for a while.. its basically like overstimulation of a good position.. kinda like thats the norm and youre numb to the rest. Or at least thats my psychological take on it. Anyway, in that case switch it up and only move to that when its closer towards the end on your part. He will be probably finish up at the same time... it can get pretty intense lol.

GraziLovesMary
08-27-2007, 08:37 PM
LOL if anything that makes me happy, I hoe after I find 'the one' I'll be getting it on with him for many many years, and I hope I can still enjoy it and reach orgasim after that long. So keep it up! hahaha or rather have him keep it up lol grannys :pimp::hippy:
:thumbsup:

Yeah I was gonna say, I think its a beautiful thing.. I know damn well Im gonna have sex til the day I die. Well... I mean.. if Im with somebody I guess. Or maybe Ill move to Bakalakadaka street and get a harem. lmao

WildFire.ca
08-27-2007, 09:09 PM
I have yet to see a woman not cum from playing with the g-spot and clit at the same time. I have even made some timed bets before and won.

420MissHighTimes420
08-27-2007, 09:54 PM
^^they might have faked it, not to bust ur balls or antying im just sayin

inbud
08-28-2007, 12:22 AM
speaking for the over 50 (and i barely hit that mark, tho the "old man" is 55) i think orgasm is something that needs to be done over and over and over. i remember when just a teen, someone told me that practice makes perfect, and they were right. orgasm varies in intensity, and they are all good, me.....i have three distinct types. One is the regular clit stimulated, one is from riding hard on top (this one is more comming from the inside stimulation and clitoral) and one where i actually cum hard from the g spot...stimulated by the man only. i feel i have been truely blessed, tho the old man is not as active as he was at one time, i am still out there getting mine either alone or with him.
it is all good....some orgasms are sometimes better than others.

WildFire.ca
08-28-2007, 03:49 PM
^^they might have faked it, not to bust ur balls or antying im just sayin


Thanks I was feeling good about my self until you showed up. JK
Hard to fake a dripping wet couch or bed
;)

420MissHighTimes420
08-29-2007, 02:42 PM
Thanks I was feeling good about my self until you showed up. JK
Hard to fake a dripping wet couch or bed
;)

well everytime i have sex i incerpt a small balloon filled with water and after the guy pounds on it long enough it breaks and thats how i fake it , and i know like 800 other girls who do that too
hahahahaha just keddddinggg if u dint get that already

and your right those kind of orgsims u cant fak:hippy:

GraziLovesMary
09-05-2007, 10:32 PM
well everytime i have sex i incerpt a small balloon filled with water and after the guy pounds on it long enough it breaks and thats how i fake it , and i know like 800 other girls who do that too
hahahahaha just keddddinggg if u dint get that already

and your right those kind of orgsims u cant fak:hippy:

Awwwwww you got banned!???!? .... :( that sucks...

I was just gonna say....

you had me goin too, I really thought you went through all that trouble :p