Flirting

[Ganj]

I've checked online guides and downloaded dozens of e-books, and the art of flirting still remains much a mystery to me. So, if any of you all have pondered good flirting, please share your invaluable insights.

Do you guys remember that scene in 40-year Old Virgin, in which he goes into the bookstore and gets the blonde's phone number? Well, I think there is a lot to be learned about the mystery of flirting in that very scene. For example, he was very cool and cooperative. He didn't really do much other than play off her words.

"Can I help you?"
"I don't know. Can you help me?"

Of course, when you're watching you think, "that's lame" or at least I did...I'm a little sleepy folks, so my brain is thinking at full capacity. Am I missing something or that really all there is to it?

[Veratyr Star]

All I really know is to seem interesting cause who wants to be bored while trying to meet someone new.

And be mysterious cause who wants to know everything about someone right away.


How to do that? I dunno. Plus there has to be a ton more to it.

Alcohol usually helps though. Not saying that as a joke, it really does.

[redhotstoner]

it's always good to be yourself- if you aren't then the person will become attracted to someone you are not.

also- don't get nervous, people see right through that. Be confident, relaxed. And yes, a little mystery is always appreciated.

and remember, practice makes perfect so flirt with EVERYONE even the creepy gas station attendant- because then you won't screw it up when someone you are actually attracted to comes along.

[scottbrochill]

good call redhotstoner practice does make perfect, it never hurts to flirt, i find myself pushing game on girls that i would never even hang out with let along date, sometimes its just fun to flirt haha

[Ganj]

I didn't think it was that serious. Really. I thought harmless flirting was just means to earn a date. You know...show your interest, gain their attraction, give your attention and BAM! You got the digits.

THEN...
After a while, you call and arrange a date...isn't that how it works?Not all flirt initiations end with sex on the first encounter.

[DarkHairedSativa]

Al you have to do to flirt is be who you are....cheesy lines usually get a roll from eyes and a groan of "oh no....." :) A nice smile and a wink are good.Joking around and a "hey sweetheart' get my attention too.:thumbsup::thumbsup: You don't have to come up with lines....it makes you think too hard about when to use them and overthink if you do use 'em.

[not_the_kitty]

I was the type who never really attracted girls and I was kinda standoffish but as soon as I started to flirt and spit some game at girls all my girl troubles changed. I guess its not so much as flirting but more that you dont know if someone likes you unless you talk to them and show them a little attraction first. Cant really expect girls to just walk up and make the move on you....unless your like some sexy male model guy that walks in the room and the panties drop.

[DaPolarBear]

Flirting is something that gets easier if you know the person a little, even if you've only talked to them once or twice. But generally playing off what they say, or teasing them a little (this one works better and is alot easier if you know them a little, so you don't go to far) works fairly well.

I was the same as not_the_kitty when it came to attracting people, and it changed in the same way as it did for him.

[r0k]

I've actually found I'm really good at flirting, but I don't even know how.. I guess it's just something that some are good at, others not. Maybe with practice..

[Matt the Funk]

Confidence and smiling are key. Be funny and be yourself. Alcohol does help.

[Blitzed]

Confidence man, and being funny helps too, usually when I meet a girl for the first time I just slap 'er on the ass and say, come on baby... just kidding, thatd be a good way to get slapped across the face, though Im sure I know some girls who would be okay with it, lol!

[cannabis campbell]

What are you asking how to flirt or something I dont understand your question?

[funfubarman]

Hey man don't worry i would not know if a girl was flirting with me if she walked up and took my pants off.

[TallCoolOne]

If you wanna get laid, wear tight clothes and dispense alcohol, if you want a relationship, be yourself, be funny, and don't hug her mother and say "mmm...this feels right..."

[higher4hockey]

flirting? its fun. so have fun doing it.


also...do you think andy roddick got good at tennis by watching it on ESPN? or is dale earnhardt jr. a good racecar driver because he never drove a car? do you think the guy that always gets girls got that way by sitting in the corner with his buddies never approaching girls?

NO. practice makes perfect my friend.

[iNHALE.xHALE.]

flirtings not really an art mann, it should come natural to u. have something funny to say, be interesting, compliment her on her looks w/e but dont exaggerate it..like mostly everone else has said, be yourself, dont panic, and of course confidence is the key..

just watever u do dont try to play any thing off from the 40 Year Old Virgin..i dont think that movie was made as a way to gettin laid..

[BlAzInIt4:20]

I naturaly flirt.. im smooth to. But i don't sit here and ponder wondering what to say next i just go with the flow...

[Chronisseur]

so flirt with EVERYONE even the creepy gas station attendant- because then you won't screw it up when someone you are actually attracted to comes along.

Oh, O.K I see how it is:(

[MidnightToker2007]

Yeah I would agree with most of the others and try to think of something funny to say and of course you can comment on her looks. Saying something like well you really look nice today while looking into her eyes smiling. Or that is a nice dress or whatever it might be. I think if you can look at her from a distance and if she looks at you and then smile. A lot depends on the situation where you are going to be together.

[420MissHighTimes420]

Al you have to do to flirt is be who you are....cheesy lines usually get a roll from eyes and a groan of "oh no....." :) A nice smile and a wink are good.Joking around and a "hey sweetheart' get my attention too.:thumbsup::thumbsup: You don't have to come up with lines....it makes you think too hard about when to use them and overthink if you do use 'em.

Listen to her :thumbsup:

[Spoken Word]

People always tell me that I flirt all the time. I don't even notice it. If I knew what I was doing, it would help but I'm just being myself.

So I guess the key thing is to be yourself....

But to try answer your question....
It all depends really. On what kind if people you two are.

There's different types of flirting, different types of people, different types of enviroments. there's too many variables to just explain flirting perfectly.

If it's the first time meeting her, don't flirt too much. she might think you are a "player". And I think it's better to hold back on all the foward stuff because she might think you are too "intense".
if it is the first time then just make her remember you. You have to realize that you might not be the first or the last to give her that kind of attention, that day.
so when she goes to sleep, if she thinks about any of the guys that "flirted" with her, make sure it's you.
so the next time you contact her, she knows who you are.
If you are a funny person, go for it. Try to make her laugh... that helps a WHOLE lot. Infact, it's really important but some guys aren't naturally funny and you might sound cheesy if you aren't.
One thing is for sure, flirting shouldn't be disrespectful and it should make her smile...
at least i think so.

try to sound smooth and confidant BUT NOT TOO MUCH!!!!!!!
just don't sound nervous.

flirting on the phone is different... you have to speak up and be clear. her asking "what?" all the time can't be smooth, imo.
a little sexual flirting i think is okay on the phone. just a little... save it for the........

FIRST
DATE
this will make you or break you. she will start an interest in you, if she hasnt already or she will lose ALL interest and will start acting very shady afterwards.
think of it like this.......
a night for both of you to show WHO you are and see if ANYTHING can happen between you.

then again, it all depends because you two might want something strictly sexual.. which would make things a lot easier.
or you two are persuing a relationship. which will make her analyze the living shit out of you. lol
so in any case, don't say or do anything foolish.

[Demeter]

It's very simple, really. Just maintain steady eye contact, and smile. That's all I ever did and it always worked perfectly. ;)
The opposite is true too- if you want people to leave you alone, scowl and don't make eye contact.:wtf:
I went out with a guy once solely because he kept appearing wherever I was and staring at me with a besotted look- now of course they would call such behavior Stalking!

[GraziLovesMary]

For me, flirting is more than just a way to earn a date with a girl that catches your eye.. its a way to make women smile.. if I see a lady thats obviously having a bad day, I love giving them a little flirty attention to pick their day up. The smile they reward you with is the most beautiful thing on the face of this earth, regardless of what she looks like.

Flirting is all about being confident, being curious, and being interesting. The key to it all? Body language. Facial expressions, gestures.. subtlety is what I aim for, but if the conversation makes me laugh, Ill let it out for a minute, no holds barred, why not?

I have spent a bit of time in front of a mirror, analyzing my different facial expressions, trying to figure out which ones were more appealing, but that can all go out the window when you are confronted by a woman that turns your world upside down. If you can maintain a cool, calm, and smooth demeanor in front of even the most gorgeous of women, and you meet a girl that, for some reason turns you into a blubbering idiot... GRAB her, lol. Just a piece of advice :p

[LuckyG]

"You seem to have lost your pogo, want to jump on my stick?"

There you go. :jointsmile: