How do you cut it off?

[geonagual]

It is that time...

You know, not much in common, views on many things are way different...you know there is no future...
do you keep em around, and try and be friends? Do you slowly let them down?
Do you tell them you dont want to see them anymore because...blah...blah...blah?
or do you just ignore them and hope that they go away?

[HighTillIDie]

hmmm would have i done? all of the above... i used to take the cowards way out...

now i just let them know i still like them, but i can't pursue anything deeper with them... and i want see other people. i know it sucks, but what can ya do? i am still there for them if they need it... but i let them know... when you get to know me, you would understand... i communicate well and somtimes they end it before i do, just because they can see it too... i never set up a split out of the blue... that's harsh on her, and too be honest... isn't pimp, could make it messy, and you don't thrash the relationship (it may no longer be a mating relationship, but there is still a relationship)

this is of course if she is cool and all that, but it just isn't right for you...

[CUPNOODLES]

IF UR A NICE GUY LET THEM DOWN LIKE HIGHTILLIDIE SAID....BBBUUUTTT IF UR AN ASSHOLE:D KEEP EM AROUND, WHO KNOWS THEY MIGHT COME IN HANDY LATER

[HighTillIDie]

IF UR A NICE GUY LET THEM DOWN LIKE HIGHTILLIDIE SAID....BBBUUUTTT IF UR AN ASSHOLE:D KEEP EM AROUND, WHO KNOWS THEY MIGHT COME IN HANDY LATER

...i still keep them around... they just know it... :pimp:

[CUPNOODLES]

YEA SO DO I BUT I GET CALLED AN ASSHOLE 4 IT CUZ I DONT TELL THEM I JUS KEEP EM AROUND FOR PUSSY

[pass_the_dubbie]

If you dont like them then just dont hang out with them. I only have had one "friend" that I had to cut off because I realised how little we had in common and how easily he would try and steal my[or anybody elses] girlfriend. I just met up with him one day and told him straight out that I cant hang with you no more. He asked me why? I said some reasons but also told him that it's not my place to point out everything I dislike, you will find out your faults as your go through life...we all will.

Of course some of his friends shout at my randomly calling me a prick even though im sure he spun some bullshit story to them. Ohwell im much happier now!

[FakeBoobsRule]

It takes 2 strong, mature, secure people to remain friends after a break up. I am friends with some of my ex's, some we couldn't be put in the same room together alone.

It is best to be honest and do it quickly. Later on you can worry about whether you want to remain friends, after some time has passed.

[Spoken Word]

I prefer a respectful, clean cut. But no hard feelings. Like FBR^ said above, it's better to wait until the heart is healed to be friends again. I still can't speak to some ex's of mine.

[GraziLovesMary]

It is that time...

You know, not much in common, views on many things are way different...you know there is no future...
do you keep em around, and try and be friends? Do you slowly let them down?
Do you tell them you dont want to see them anymore because...blah...blah...blah?
or do you just ignore them and hope that they go away?

If its that time and you know it, tell her immediately. But tell her in a consoling way so she realizes you arent trying to hurt her, you just know that the two of you arent compatible as a couple. If you still care about her then tell her that, give her reassurance. Tell her you would love to still hang out with her if its not too hard for her, but you realize that you werent meant to be and you wanted to end it before bad blood formed between the two of you.

[slipknotpsycho]

i've never been big on breakign peoples hearts.... i rarely ever tell them flat out i want them outta my life.... i'm a big puss, i admit it.

[GraziLovesMary]

i've never been big on breakign peoples hearts.... i rarely ever tell them flat out i want them outta my life.... i'm a big puss, i admit it.

Nah nothin wrong with that, I hate breaking hearts myself. But to hold onto something that you know to be doomed guarantees even more heartbreak. You dont need them out of your life, just out of relationship status for it to be healthy again.

[geonagual]

"It's me, not you baby"

[slipknotpsycho]

Nah nothin wrong with that, I hate breaking hearts myself. But to hold onto something that you know to be doomed guarantees even more heartbreak. You dont need them out of your life, just out of relationship status for it to be healthy again.

yeah except the chicks i used to date, are very obsessive.... the girl i was with before i got back with my wife, was still calling me up like 2+ years later, like we were still dating

[geonagual]

I dont know how to start this, but I am going to Africa for 3 years...I am going with the Peace Corps to immunize infants in famished lands...if you dont want to wait for me I understand...Can we still write to each other?

Think that will work..LOL

[420MissHighTimes420]

DO NOT DO WHAT I DO
I keep them around until I have been sucked so dry that I dont have anything left. Then Im crushed. But then I find a new guy and the vicious cycle begins
be strong ladies (and men) if someone doesnt give you what you deserve (because everyone on here deserves a good relationship) cut them off! Dont stick around and let it get worse. Your all wonderful and only deserve the best.

[420MissHighTimes420]

It takes 2 strong, mature, secure people to remain friends after a break up. I am friends with some of my ex's, some we couldn't be put in the same room together alone.

It is best to be honest and do it quickly. Later on you can worry about whether you want to remain friends, after some time has passed.
:thumbsup:

[rebgirl420]

Im very honest and up front. I dont play games. And I dont use the "I wanna be friends" tired lines. Because frankly, I dont want to be friends and saying you want to still be friends is bull. Theres no nice way to do it without relying on the old cliches (It's not you its me, etc.), but guys hate to hear those. Soooo youve got to find a way to say the old cliches in new ways:

"I think your such a nice person and really good looking, but theres something about me that isnt ready to go there right now. Im just not ready to date you."

"Ive gotten to know you better and I think were too different- I dont think we'd have a good future together."

"Were at two different places in our lives, so I just cant date you."

Your a great guy, but im not interested in you for a relationship. If you want to be my friend, you can email me."

[rebgirl420]

oh and when you say "let's be friends" your leavong the door open in case you need him/her for something or so it wont be awkward if you run into each other later on. Most likely the person will never call to be your friend. But if you want to cut him/her off entirely avoid specifics. Bc if the person still really like you theyll find a way around your reasons. The simplest most generic sales talk proof breakup line is of course, "Im sorry we have no chemistry."

BTW dont do it over the phone or in an email or im. Thats the chicken shit way to do it. Be a real man or women and do it face to face.

[geonagual]

Do you cup your breasts at the same time your breaking up with them...LOL

[GraziLovesMary]

yeah except the chicks i used to date, are very obsessive.... the girl i was with before i got back with my wife, was still calling me up like 2+ years later, like we were still dating

Yeah I know the feeling man, ive had those types. Yeah those need to be cut off completely, thats where you may have erred.

[geonagual]

Yeah I know the feeling man, ive had those types. Yeah those need to be cut off completely, thats where you may have erred.


Shit, I know the feeling too...I got one on the hook right now....I cant get her off, even with pliers...GOD HELP ME!!!

[420MissHighTimes420]

^^ you poor guys having to fight the ladies off! how do u live like that!

[geonagual]

^^ you poor guys having to fight the ladies off! how do u live like that!


Very confused and happy. LOL

[GraziLovesMary]

^^ you poor guys having to fight the ladies off! how do u live like that!

meh... ya get used to it I guess lol.

[rebgirl420]

Do you cup your breasts at the same time your breaking up with them...LOL

Haha yes, yes I do. Somehow it makes the situation happier.:thumbsup:

[BlAzInIt4:20]

You can't ignore them.. that only make's things worse for the other person. You need to be forward, but in a gentle way. Just tell her the truth on how you feel. Hopefully she's mature enough to understand. And if not well... that's not your fault you did your part. Their's no point in hanging on.. When their's no future. And if you still want to remain friends, make sure shes okay with it. And if not let her be... When she get's over the fact she's been dumped for all the right reasons.. Then she might want to be your friend..

Good Luck Geo..

[inbud]

cupping the breasts is of course nice..and the proverbial last fuk..is sometimes fun, but speaking for myself...(if they, the one being told, are not heading to a mental breakdown or institution, if so this does not apply, run, i say run and change your phone number and residence also if warrented, maybe move out of state.) a clean, it aint gonna work out..nice knowing you, is still my favorite, either to say or to hear. Hopefully the "L" word does not enter in, as finding that it aint gonna work out should happen way before the L word is used. And if they were just a physical attraction or distraction........grown ups should know......it is a wide world out there.....more where that came from. lol
good luck:D

[spliffstar22]

you can maintain a friendship, some girls are cool but some are bat shit crazy, and those ones you just gotta cut off, make them go cold turkey........the rest, you can give them the hot turkey.........