Who do you love? Are you capable?

[geonagual]

Now, that is a simple question...people are so squirrelly when it comes to that word...for me, it is a word that has a lot of meaning, but I am not afraid to use it when I feel it..

I have many people that I love...there are some different types of love and different levels that I feel...

I have my told my daughters that I love them pretty much everyday of their lives....

oooops...I should of put this in sexuality and relationships...

[Blitzed]

I love my family, and my friends, and yes there are different levels of love, and some people that I love more than others. I Still dont have that special lady that I can truthfully say I love, yet anyway.

[GraziLovesMary]

I love all women, and for that matter, just about all living things. However, there are some people that I absolutely hate just as passionately. Not too many though. You have to really fuck me over for me to hate you. Except for Nelly. He never did anything to me personally, but I hate that motherfucker like no other.

[HighTillIDie]

yeah fuck nelly...

i don't think there are different levels of love at all... only one... the one where you view them the same as family (if you love your family)... and i mean truely, give your life for them, ect... you know it when you have it

that being said, i only love a few people... i could live without everyone else... and it sucks cuz i am about to lose my grandmother... but i have only truely loved one romantic partner... too bad she loved her husband too:smokin:

But i am pretty bitter now... it will take a really cool chick to open me back up

[crudemood]

I want to love someone on a deep level. When I love, I give everything I have heart and soul to be at their sides no matter what but I've never been there because I always feel that I am going to get the boot when I deeply care for someone - at any moment, and at any time. HAHA. I've never realized how insecure I am until now. Shhhh.

[Hilder420]

whoever said its better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all was obvioustly talkin out outta their ass. once u know what its like to love someone, really really love someone, then feel that void when theyre gone is one of the worst feelings in the world. i love my friends, my sister, my dogs and some dogs in my neigborhood, but i refuse to let myself love a man. never again. i know im pushing love away, but if u dont let ur self feel how can u have ur feelings hurt right? cynical i know.

[not_the_kitty]

Who I love: Family, girlfriend of almost 5 years, my cat, marijuana :thumbsup:

[Matt the Funk]

I love my family. My pets(almost closer than family haha). And a few really close friends, and former girlfriends.

[MadSativa]

I love all of you doesnt meen were gonna have long walks on the beach or take long showers togeather, but I love how alot of you smoke and question society because you know there is nothing wrong with cannabis. We are close to some form of legalization which will still leave us with problems but at least people will start to learn that herb is good for the most part and mostly once we get passed this dumb ass drug war all focus can get on the real issuses like global warming globlal hunger, the fact that Bush is some how still in office

[birdgirl73]

I love a lot of people. My husband, son, parents and sister. My friends. My pets. My extended family. I make it a habit to tell these folks regularly that I feel that way. It's important to let people know that, and I'm convinced that my animals understand it when I tell them, too.

[Tripn07]

My family, Are family dog, And of course maryjane the only women getting my heart.

[da dubs]

LOVE IS A WONDERFUL FEELING

MY BEST FRIEND AND WIFE >>JO
MY 3KIDS..
MY PARENTS
MY BROTHER AND SISTERS

thats enough lovin to be given out me thinks..:) :hippy:

[igot4cheep]

Except for Nelly. He never did anything to me personally, but I hate that motherfucker like no other.



yeah fuck nelly...



What, Waite a minuet Nelly did not do any thing to cause any that much anger and hate.
He is the man who gave us the Tipdrill video and thatâ??s love to me.

[13thirteen]

I love my husband, my mom, my stepson, my bearded dragon, but most of all I love myself.

[Spoken Word]

I recently learned how to love. I learned what it feels like to care for someone unconditionally and how it feels to put people before yourself.
I have "love" for and feel VERY strong about my father, my uncle, my best and only friend.

I love, with all my heart; my grandmother, my mother, and my uncles three daughters(my "nieces").
those five females have a special place in my heart.
i can look at them for hours and marvel at what i feel inside.
i am not "okay" if im not sure that they are healthy.
they could take advantage of such great love i have for them..

i love the feeling of living life full of love.
it's in us, and it's SOO powerful.

[GraziLovesMary]

What, Waite a minuet Nelly did not do any thing to cause any that much anger and hate.
He is the man who gave us the Tipdrill video and thatâ??s love to me.

Well Im happy for you, but I hate that video as well. All of Nellys music sucks. He has a whiny compaining voice, and is a bitch. If you want to find out why I hate him so much, see if you can go back a couple years and check out the interview Blender magazine(Maxims music mag) did with him. In it he claimed his life was harder than all them gangsta rappers like Tupac because his parents split up when he was young, and he was bounced around from relative to relative for a while, then his familys only source of income was his moms MANAGER job at McDonalds.

Give me a fuckin break..

Tupac didnt know his dad.. his mom was a crack whore. Literally. His brother was a crack baby.. when he was 17.. all he had was a pair of jeans, a hoodie, shoes, and a matress. But yeah.. Nellys life was harder.

FUCK NELLY

That shit just pissed me off to no end, thats some cocky disrespect right there. I had hated his music, and his voice and personality already but that sealed the deal. And the band-aid? That was just pathetic. I swear upon my life if I ever came anywhere near that piece of shit I would end his and go down for it. It would be worth it.

Sorry for the rant but my feelings are very strong on this subject. I hate him more than I hate anything else in the world.. except for maybe the Maryland Motor Vehicle Administration.

EDIT: I just wanted to say to igot4cheep that none of this anger is directed at you!! All of it is as if i was talking to Nelly lol sorry if there was a misconception! :) :jointsmile:

[420MissHighTimes420]

My ex. he came back to town a week ago, and I wish he could have stayed because he looks at me like no one else ever has, you can just tell by looking at each other we are in love. its wierd. he hurt me so bad that I could never go back to him, but there will always be something there, its been 2 years and I still think about him everyday

[Tea Party]

whoever said its better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all was obvioustly talkin out outta their ass. once u know what its like to love someone, really really love someone, then feel that void when theyre gone is one of the worst feelings in the world. i love my friends, my sister, my dogs and some dogs in my neigborhood, but i refuse to let myself love a man. never again. i know im pushing love away, but if u dont let ur self feel how can u have ur feelings hurt right? cynical i know.
From a Buddhist perspective, which the vantage point I attempt to view things from when I can remember, what you are describing is not love; it is clinging and craving and desire. Love is equanimity. It is not to be reserved for friends and family members alone. I think we sometimes confuse the word love with the words want and desire. Love is something that is given rather than taken for oneself. Practicing this is what life is all about. Sure ain't easy though...but there is no love that will not be painful, so get over that illusion first. Birth, decay, death. If you can't love that, what can you love?

[Ganj]

whoever said its better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all was obvioustly talkin out outta their ass. once u know what its like to love someone, really really love someone, then feel that void when theyre gone is one of the worst feelings in the world. i love my friends, my sister, my dogs and some dogs in my neigborhood, but i refuse to let myself love a man. never again. i know im pushing love away, but if u dont let ur self feel how can u have ur feelings hurt right? cynical i know.

On any other dark, sullen day I'd agree with you, Hilder but you're building a wall that will take the same time to overcome as it did to construct. You don't want that, because no one wants that...I know I don't, and you know you don't either. You're giving cynicism and loathing a chance to corrupt your beautiful, thriving soul. Instead, why not give love another chance? Wouldn't that be something, uh?-To love wholesomely and have it returned to you. I want to hear your story, and I want to know your trauma...I want you to be in blissful love with someone who realizes what you deserve.

[40oz]

whoever said its better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all was obvioustly talkin out outta their ass. once u know what its like to love someone, really really love someone, then feel that void when theyre gone is one of the worst feelings in the world.


But the love you feel when they are there is one of the best feelings in the world. It makes everything seem ok. It can be very hard to get over lost loves, but I am very very grateful that I have been able to connect with someone on a level like that in my life. Not all people get to feel love.

[Ganj]

Just remember, Hilder. When one door closes shut, another will open for us. We can only hope to recognize opportunities to learn, and overcome our strife.

[Hilder420]

This wall u speak of, I know well. When you've been hurt as i have, all I have to protect my self and the only thing thats keeping me from clumbling like stone is that wall I place around my heart. I know thats life, but no one should have to go through what I did and I'm not talking abt "my high school boyfriend leaving me" situation. When ur innocence is taken away against ur will, and the person who's supposed to protect u doesnt give a shit and turns a blind eye will do that to u. I know I have to live with it for the rest of my life, and that it wasnt my fault, I watch Oprah, but nothing no one could ever say will make the past go away. Thankfully i found weed, otherwise i think id go insane. Thanks for ur concern guys and ur kind words but i think its too late for me and im only 23 ha. ima go cry and smoke a bowl. peace - Hilder

[40oz]

This wall u speak of, I know well. When you've been hurt as i have, all I have to protect my self and the only thing thats keeping me from clumbling like stone is that wall I place around my heart. I know thats life, but no one should have to go through what I did and I'm not talking abt "my high school boyfriend leaving me" situation. When ur innocence is taken away against ur will, and the person who's supposed to protect u doesnt give a shit and turns a blind eye will do that to u. I know I have to live with it for the rest of my life, and that it wasnt my fault, I watch Oprah, but nothing no one could ever say will make the past go away. Thankfully i found weed, otherwise i think id go insane. Thanks for ur concern guys and ur kind words but i think its too late for me and im only 23 ha. ima go cry and smoke a bowl. peace - Hilder


You will never feel better if you just go smoke a bowl to make the pain go away. It will cause you to have not only an unhealthy relationship with marijuana, but probably most people you meet in the course of the rest of your life. I don't know what happened to you and I'm sure it is something horrible I wouldn't be able to understand, but you can't give up on yourself so easily. It will probably take a good amount of time for the pain to fade but life is too beautiful to let it pass you by. Go out and live and find love.

[Ganj]

How many tears have you cried in vain? It's like my dad always tells me, "You're in a gold mine and you don't even know it." The fact is, opportunity is all around. It's wealth in every sense of the word. Don't spend your whole life turning away from it.

[Hilder420]

my relationship with marijuana in my opinion is not un healthy. my relationship with all the other drugs ive done was unhealthy but i realized thankfully in time that i was not gonna destroy myself over the actions of someone else. i have love in my life, my sister,my friends, my former best friends mom, no romantic love but im now a commitmentphobe so even tho there is a man who loves me, and i might love if only i let myself. But i dont want to ruin his life with my drama. besides i dont know how to tell him. i know i dont want pity from anyone, and i probably need lots and lots of therapy but im not strong enough yet to deal with it all. i used to be so angry, about everything, i thought the world had it in for me. then i found marijuana and my goddess and i think im in the best place im gonna be considering.

[Ganj]

You're right. No one wants a relationship built on pity, because when the element for pity has gone, so does the need for it. It's obvious you're thoughts are still tender. At times like these, we can only ask God to give us the strength we need to overcome our problems. And if you don't believe in God, then just conceptualize the action of giving your problems to someone else. If you need someone to talk to, vent to, whatever...just reach out.

[Hilder420]

i live my life i dont let what happened hold me back but from one aspect of my life. im not afraid to love, i just wont let myself fall in love with a man. I'm not suicidal, i dont sit in my room in the dark cutting myself moaning why me? i live my life like anyone else, i laugh and enjoy my friends i have several little critters who cant get enough of me.

[Ganj]

Well, that's fuggin' terrific! My bad for getting like that on you, I should have known that there is only room for one morose loser on these boards, and that is me!

[Hilder420]

nothin to apologize for, you were doin it out of the goodness of ur heart, i think. and no i dont have anyone to talk to abt this b/c its such a downer. i was brought up to think that if u show weakness, u are weak, and that just doesnt fly. ive been called cold and heartless, b/c i hide my emotions under so many layers that it seems i am heartless uless u know me well enough to know that im just a hurt scared little girl. sigh but an extremely cool stoner and great friend

[Ganj]

The 'down' stuff is as much part of reality as the 'up' stuff is. I guess it depends on what you tend to focus on? However, I don't believe that thinking through your problems is weakness. It's like a snake giving birth. For the time she is giving birth, she is undoubtedly vulnerable. Of course, she could lose her life in this trance-like state but if she lives, her babies will grow to be successful parts of the ecosystem. You see, weakness is necessary, and there will always be predators in search for it. Just as there is someone to protect it.

[Hilder420]

too bad there was no one to protect me. on Oprah there was one of the talk show hosts i cant remember who was talking about how every father in this country should tell their child, i am here to protect you and ensure that they would give their life to protect the well being of their children. that made me bawl to no end because i guess if u grew up fatherless, ur out in the world with no protection other than the one u can provide for ur self. and if ur a kid how much can that be really. he forgot to put into the equation that sometimes its that same father or father figure who harms their own child. sorry to whoever started this thread, i totally bogarted it. peace Hilder

[BlAzInIt4:20]

I have a problem opening up to people to let them love me. But i am able to fall for them without them knowing.

Love to me is a big word and i only use it when i know its not going to hurt me.

Eveeryone i have ever loved has left me or treated me bad, so it's a touchy one for me

But i do have endless love for my sisters and brothers, and also my grandmothers.

[GraziLovesMary]

I have a problem opening up to people to let them love me. But i am able to fall for them without them knowing.

Love to me is a big word and i only use it when i know its not going to hurt me.

Eveeryone i have ever loved has left me or treated me bad, so it's a touchy one for me

But i do have endless love for my sisters and brothers, and also my grandmothers.

I know the feeling

[hippy lettuce]

Not sure if this is right or anything, but didn't the Ancient Greeks have different names for different kinds of love? like 1 word for the love for your family, your friends, your partner and for pets and that?...swear I read that sometime lol

Greek words for love - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Greek_words_for_love)
I knew it! :jointsmile:

[GraziLovesMary]

Hmmm it appears that my definition of Agape was slightly mistranslated.. and the true definition is much more specific. Yet at the same time, much broader in scope... how interesting.