Friends with benefits

[ScaryMissMary]

How many of you have one or several of those? Are any of them ex's? Have you gotten somewhat attatched even though you know your not supposed to or vice versa?

[partcleguy]

I had two fwb's at the end of last semester around May. It was the first time someone wanted me just for sex which worked out well cause thats all I wanted from one. The other one I might still be seeing this coming semester, but who knows?

Good stuff...

[Ganj]

I had a friend with benefits, then I used the whole attachment thing to get her over on a daily basis but that backfired. Love is not something to play with. If I hadn't been so selfish, she might still be interested too.

[Miss Ashley]

I had one. It might not have been such a good idea...since it was a friend's ex, but eh...it was nice while it lasted. Attachment did become an issue, which sucks, because then it leads to hurt :[

[partcleguy]

Damn I guess I'm lucky cause mine were nsa...

[budsmoker only]

i had one at the begining of this summer....
she lives down the street from me and a lot of times i would be skating/smoking/doing somethin outside and she would drive by, stop, and end up in my room like an hour later....

we would also call each other just to "hang out"....

i started getting attached to her and she was too.....
we both decided that it wasnt what we wanted and shit tho...
so now we are just friends..

[Ganj]

I had one. It might not have been such a good idea...since it was a friend's ex, but eh...it was nice while it lasted. Attachment did become an issue, which sucks, because then it leads to hurt :[

It's crazy how attachment puts a damper on things like recreational sex. I became attached because I wanted it all the time and somehow that ruined things. You're all like, "I thought you wanted to make love?"

I guess that's the guys point of view though?

[ganjzilla]

ive had a few in the recent history, i like to becuz you get some of the benefits of relationship without the relationship, but in most instances u or they catch feelings and once someone catches those and get attached it gets hard to deal with

[ScaryMissMary]

ive had a few in the recent history, i like to becuz you get some of the benefits of relationship without the relationship, but in most instances u or they catch feelings and once someone catches those and get attached it gets hard to deal with

especially if it's with an ex, someone always gets hurt with those. :sadcrying

[Ganj]

I was lucky enough to get a friend's ex! I don't get laid enough...

[Coolstoner]

I got some friends with benefits. We all understood that we don't let our emotion take over. We treat each other like good friends. Been going on for awhile. Never had to worry about getting into serious relationship since we all don't want that. Now, If one is in a new relationship.. then we just hang out as a friends till that person no longer in the picture. We human have needs.

[Hilder420]

I have an ex whos now a fuck buddy. but were not friends. we call, hook up, and move on. he's attached to me but he wouldn't dare give it up.

[PdoubleOTY]

ive had a handful..the majority of my sexual life has been involved with non dating situations. heh, more fun that way

[Markass]

with a couple ex's I have...and with friends I have...I don't really ever have any problems with attachment, but I do sometimes find myself getting somewhat jealous if that person is around other guys or something...friends with benefits is the best way to do it though..

I can relate it to a cingular gophone...it can be like having a real girl, only there's no contracts or annual fees..:D :thumbsup:

[DarkHairedSativa]

I have had them in the past....usually it doesn't work cuz someone will get attached and hurt in the process. I don't engage in that anymore,as I'm in a monogamous relationship now.However,I would not have that with an ex...once I'm done,I'm done.I do still have some friends from then and they are still acquaintences and it's just not discussed.So it doesn't upset who they happen to be with now.:)

[BrilloHeadBen]

As much as I like the idea, it seems to never work out to well in practice for me. Somebody always gets hurt, and I lose a friend one way or the other.

[HighTillIDie]

always a bad choice... humans aren't actually designed that way despite what you are told... lol


that being said, i do the FWB thing often... but i am jaded, so i haven't been attatched to a woman in over 7 years... so i just play the game to get mine, they always say they can handle the situation, but if you make love good enough, and are cool, they always get attatched... i love it when they find someone else, and then they feel like they have to get rid of me... lol

[Blitzed]

Ive had 2 situations like that, 1 was a girl Id known since 5th grade and she always had a crush on me, we messsed around for 2 weeks, and then went of to mess around with abou 8 other guys in about 2 monthes. The other of mine is an ex, but I guess its more than friends with benefits. We arent offically boyfriend and girlfriend, but I still care for her, we just moved our seperate ways after highschool. I still see her pretty regularly though.

[GraziLovesMary]

My exes are exes for a reason. No second chances. And seeing as how I absolutely love the idea of giving a woman the most pleasurably intense and orgasmic time of her life, I havent found a woman that I think would be able to do the FTF thing. I dont want to hurt anybody. Its been like 5 months though, so wouldnt it be nice if I found the perfect friend with benefits? I know that its not a reality, though. People seem to get attached to me easily with just a conversation :(

[HighTillIDie]

My exes are exes for a reason. No second chances. And seeing as how I absolutely love the idea of giving a woman the most pleasurably intense and orgasmic time of her life, I havent found a woman that I think would be able to do the FTF thing. I dont want to hurt anybody. Its been like 5 months though, so wouldnt it be nice if I found the perfect friend with benefits? I know that its not a reality, though. People seem to get attached to me easily with just a conversation :(

it's the honest ass thing... i get the same

[Spoken Word]

Yea, I've had some. One turned into a long relationship.

As long as both parties respect each other and don't brag about the "benefits", I think it's fine.

[GraziLovesMary]

it's the honest ass thing... i get the same

Its a self-perpetuated curse lol.

[twoguysupnorth]

yes we have some friends that we play with too. if there wasnt some sort of attraction then it wouldnt happen. if you are not my friend then you cant have the bennifits either, lol. we have made a rule for ourselves though, we only play together and being just friends with them is how it will have to be. we deffinately dont want a 3rd partner or anything. i have seen several of those and they never make it. generally speaking though after the initial having sex gets out of the way then it usually just turns to friendship. deffinately no exes involved, ever.

[La Terraza]

friends with benefits.
Wonderful in theory right?

Friends with benefits is one of those things that you want, so bad, but it never turns out right. It's too hard for two people to share so intametly and not expect for at least one of them to feel something more.
I myself, have had a few here and there, but It's not my thing, im more into relationships than flings or "just-for-funs"

None of mine have ever turned into exes though.

[420budtoker420]

ive had 1 and only one, when i was 17, i had liked her b4 and she had lied me but we didnt want to ruin the great friendship we had so we decide to stay friend, but have sex here and there it lasted about a month then we both decided it was to hard, now we are still good friend and evrythink is fine.

[MadSativa]

How many of you have one or several of those? Are any of them ex's? Have you gotten somewhat attatched even though you know your not supposed to or vice versa?

Its so freakin confusing right now.............. I just know I have to put out when they ask cause they have done the same. The other day I was with an ex and she started talking about her husband. I was like what the fuk when did you get married, she said like 2 years ago and you were invited. I gotta keep track of this shit cause that wasnt kool I just thought she started coming around again cause she need lovin too. And we have seen eachother about 3 times this month and its only the middle of the month..............Im going to hell..............and I broke my own rule and dindt even know it, I need a vaction another couple weeks and hopefully

[Mississippi Steve]

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[420MissHighTimes420]

I have had some bad and great experiences as being a friend with benifits. sometimes one person gets hurt because the one wants a relationship and the other isnt ready for it yet.
i do however have one guy who i can have sex with, no strings attached purely physicall fun, and then joke about it the next day. we are good friends bc we can be honest and open with each other. too bad hes going back to rehab for 3 months he left last night :( such a shame.

[BlAzInIt4:20]

I have one... and only have had one.

We have this strange connection when were alone togeather it feels as if theirs nothing else in the world and we can talk about our relaitonship problems, or any kind of problems. We also have this lust for each other that is un real...

But when it times to go on with our day we just kinda pull out of it and do our own thing. We both see other people and we both have no jealous feelings we actually help each other... I love it..

I have a feeling we will be friends for along time..