Cheating

[jacquelyne]

How can u tell if your getting cheated on ?
If its been done before will they do it again ?
Should i spy and if so how would i go about it ?
Ive got a bad feeling im getting fucked over and im usually right when it comes to that kinda thing....

[dog420]

Just be stright up and ask him,,,see what kind of reaction you get.

Peace

[Garden Knowm]

What's cheating?

[maryjanemama]

Just be stright up and ask him,,,see what kind of reaction you get.

Peace
I agree with dog, though, some guys will lie straight to your face anyway.:rolleyes: Don't spy, it makes you look bad and gives him more reason to tell everyone you're a "psycho". A bad feeling is usually right. :(

[Euphoric]

How can u tell if your getting cheated on ?
If its been done before will they do it again ?
Should i spy and if so how would i go about it ?
Ive got a bad feeling im getting fucked over and im usually right when it comes to that kinda thing....


ack im so sorry to hear about that...i know the feeling all too well. i suspected my ex gf of cheating for about a year. i tried keyloggers and shit but like mjm said it only made me look like a psycho possesive type...i never did catch her i just fired her! bwahahahahaha :D course i had other reasons to fire her too which will remain nameless ;)

[Belleza]

you should have trust man.......

[Garden Knowm]

Watch Chris Rock .. Bigger and Blacker..... it will explain everything you need to know about man and women relationships....

And if you wish to go further in a relationship than "Chris Rock" isms, you will have to transcend such words as "Cheating"...

sorry about the HURTS.... : )

[Ammie]

Ive got a bad feeling im getting fucked over and im usually right when it comes to that kinda thing....


In most cases ur gut is right, but sumtimes ur mind can mess with u so much that it makes u have mixed feeling. I also agree with dog but like mjm said some men can lie so stright faced. I would have to asy if he did it before he would prolly do it again. Atleast from my experiances and some of people i know its that way. Good luck sweets and i really hope ur wrong:(.

[NzPoThEaD]

usually they get paranoid that ur cheating on them! i no that happened 2 a few ppl. i no my ex best friend was real bad she wudnt even let mer man go 2 the drags with his m8s cuz she thort he wud play on her, but really it was her. then she sed that i was cheating on my bf...which i wasnt! nearly broke us. but yeah just ask him, he mite say no but make sure u think hes being true.

[Tech]

It could be paranoia espesialy when your smoking you tend to think very deep and put things together that point to this.
Even when your not stoned your thoughts will still be there but maybee not so intense.
you probably don,t want to ask coz you look stupid if your wrong and anyway you know what answer you,ll get if you ask, so there,s no point is there.

Use your head and see if your thoughts are just thoughts or not by doing your own bit of detective work.
;)
I can imagin how you feel , coz i bin there and got the tee shirt ........
It took me about 3 months to find it was paranoia.. :)

[Encatuse]

You aren't always right. I assure you. -laughs- I was positive my girlfriend went out at 10 pm with a boy named justin.. I smoked 1/8 oz of weed over the course of like 4 hours because I was so hurt. All my weed. The next day I found out her dad was arrested because he tried to kill someone. Turns out he has alzheimers. I'll tell you, me and my girlfriend really could have used that eighth..

[kraloth]

well all the girls here are gunna hate me but i can lie straight to a girl that im cheating ons face with out eny flickering of the eyes movement of the eyes nothing and me i mean unless i realy realy liked a girl if some nice girl was on offer id take it i wouldent go out and pull a girl but if some girl tats nice came on to me it would take a hell of a gf to keep me from hooking up

[jacquelyne]

thats what i mean
he can do that too
but i can always tell cause he gets certain looks about him almost nervousness.Cause if he cheats on me and i find out i will take a knife to his temple that fucking quick and i wont even think about it.It will be a bad reaction that i will regret but he knows im serious when i say that cause i am.
well all the girls here are gunna hate me but i can lie straight to a girl that im cheating ons face with out eny flickering of the eyes movement of the eyes nothing and me i mean unless i realy realy liked a girl if some nice girl was on offer id take it i wouldent go out and pull a girl but if some girl tats nice came on to me it would take a hell of a gf to keep me from hooking up

[Garden Knowm]

There is no such thing as cheating... if you understand and whole heartedly accept this... you will become very happy and overcome a huge hurdle that very few people can overcome..

We can only work on ourselves and can only control ourselves.. and to put our happiness in the hands of another is ridiculous..

blah blah blah/....... we all know this, yet we get pissed/devestated when the person we love and are suppose to accept is enjoying their life fucking our best friend.

[maryjanemama]

There is no such thing as cheating... if you understand and whole heartedly accept this... you will become very happy and overcome a huge hurdle that very few people can overcome..

We can only work on ourselves and can only control ourselves.. and to put our happiness in the hands of another is ridiculous..

blah blah blah/....... we all know this, yet we get pissed/devestated when the person we love and are suppose to accept is enjoying their life fucking our best friend.
I absolutely agree. Monogamy is overrated. Somehow "commitment" controls us...you can love someone and have sex with someone else. It does not mean your relationship is in trouble, it means you've moved on to a higher level. The hard part is finding a partner who agrees. :rolleyes:

[slipnslide087]

i know thats probably true mjm......but its just hard not to feel pissed when i think about my gf fucking someone else

[Garden Knowm]

Does it bother you to think of her fucking MJ : )

[altwnyguy73]

first hand knowledge from bolth sides of the fence... ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER!!!
You can speak of cheating...reaching higher levels in your relationship..whatever

-cheating is real...it hurts...alot...if they care...they wont...or they will repeatedly especially if they think they can get away with.
My best advice as far as reaching a higher level...let the other person know first...then its swinging , swapping...what ever...when someone goes behind their partners back and TRIES to hide it ....not only arent they worth it...they do not respect you for the person you are.....

[XTC]

Jacq A buddy of mine has had three serious realtionships. All is which is was unfaithful. He keeps telling me the next 'love' he finds he will be steady and what does he do? Cheats. The MAJORITY of guys who do cheat will do it over again and again expecially if you keep accepting them back.

[maryjanemama]

first hand knowledge from bolth sides of the fence... ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER!!!
You can speak of cheating...reaching higher levels in your relationship..whatever

-cheating is real...it hurts...alot...if they care...they wont...or they will repeatedly especially if they think they can get away with.
My best advice as far as reaching a higher level...let the other person know first...then its swinging , swapping...what ever...when someone goes behind their partners back and TRIES to hide it ....not only arent they worth it...they do not respect you for the person you are.....You're right, both ppl have to have an understanding first. That's why I put the part about both partners agreeing at the end. Doesn't anyone read the whole post before they comment? :)

Truth and honesty are the 2 biggies here. Cheating and lying are totally different than experimenting within a relationship.

Once a cheater always a cheater?!! Have you been talking to my mother? Kidding, altwnyguy73...I know what you're saying. ;)

[maryjanemama]

Jacq A buddy of mine has had three serious realtionships. All is which is was unfaithful. He keeps telling me the next 'love' he finds he will be steady and what does he do? Cheats. The MAJORITY of guys who do cheat will do it over again and again expecially if you keep accepting them back.Ok, I'm going to throw my 2 cents in here....again. :rolleyes: I think the reason a lot of men lie in the first place is because they know their girl cannot handle the truth. Women ask questions and say they that they want to know the truth, but guess what? That's complete BS! They don't really, they want to be told everything is OK and they are the love of your life, blah, blah, blah. Case and point, have you ever told a chick what you really did last night? What happened? Did she get pissed off and cry or yell? Of course she did. Men lie to cover their asses, they figure it's better to lie and maybe get away with whatever they did then tell the truth and put up with their woman's complete spastic breakdown.

I can only speak for myself here. I've learned that if you truly do not want to know what's going on, don't fucking ask. If you want to know what's really up, make sure you can take the truth or at least won't turn into a complete psycho when you learn it.

Guys who lie and cheat and repeat in a relationship where it is not tolerated are usually losers without balls in the first place. These guys should not try to maintain "committed" relationships if that is not what they're about. Some guys love lots of chicks as often as possible, there's no secret there. But they shouldn't try to con a girl into thinking that they are something that they are not unless she's willing to jump in the sack with him the next time he brings one of the strippers home.

[NowhereMan]

How can u tell if your getting cheated on ?
If its been done before will they do it again ?
Should i spy and if so how would i go about it ?
Ive got a bad feeling im getting fucked over and im usually right when it comes to that kinda thing....

no sure way to tell
but that gut feeling you get says alot

without trust you have just
LUST
i hope it works out for you
if he cheats,,,drop his ass cuase he will always cheat on you
devotion is a sacred thing and hard to find
peace

[kraloth]

i say monogimy is bull if we were ment to mary one person and be with only that person why werent we born maried

[F L E S H]

i say monogimy is bull if we were ment to mary one person and be with only that person why werent we born maried
that's the stupidest logic I've seen in a long time. I'm not saying I'm all for monogamy and what not, but that's just plain dumb reasoning. There are plenty of species of animals that mate for life, they're not born married. :rolleyes:

[altwnyguy73]

You're right, both ppl have to have an understanding first. That's why I put the part about both partners agreeing at the end. Doesn't anyone read the whole post before they comment? :)

Truth and honesty are the 2 biggies here. Cheating and lying are totally different than experimenting within a relationship.

Once a cheater always a cheater?!! Have you been talking to my mother? Kidding, altwnyguy73...I know what you're saying. ;)

MJM...I am in complete agreement that there is nothing wrong with experimentation...variety is the spice of life as the say....I did read your whole post...just stating the fact swingers and cheaters are 2 very different situations...open sexuality...experimentation on a mutual basis is great in the right situation....but I still think people that cheat secretly are...well...bad people...nuf said!
PS- MJM ur avatars rock...............peace

[Garden Knowm]

Never dump them just because they cheated.... After all you will just end up with another cheater...
Can you imagine "loving" someone and then they go get the shit fucked out ofthem and have the time of their life.. and instead of being happy for them, you DUMP them..

doesn't sound like love to me..

now don't get me wrong.. I don't have this sht mastered.. and I know it can hurt like a motherfucker to know that your lady is fucking your best friend...

But LOVE.. LOVE is LOVE.. Love is NOT "I am dumping your ass because you had an orgasm with soemone else"

[Garden Knowm]

you find another reason to dump them like..

"you lazy, fat, non-inspiring, leacherous, smelly, no frisbee playing, no cock sucking, smelly ass pussy BIOTCH...

that's why I dump someone... : )

[Encatuse]

This weekend I found out my girlfriend cheated on me. I saw the guy in Econo-Foods parking lot. I shoved his face through his truck window. I then dumped my whore of a girlfriend, and chased the kid around with her car in the parking lot. Ha, talk aout fucking psycho. Anyway, 20 hours of community service and a two page essay... totally fucking worth it.

[jacquelyne]

ok well i know that i have been cheated on he admitted it to me.WTF do i do the circumstances are a bit awkward i dunno if i want to be with someone that hides something like that for over a year.If he told me right away when i asked him it would be much easier to forgive him.

[Encatuse]

Dump 'em. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Don't find it out the hard way. In another year he'll confess about something else.

[jacquelyne]

I thought that and i said that to him.Since hes told me that every day i look at him i feel sick about what he did to me.Before i found that out he proposed to me i said yes but maybe in a yr or 2 to get married.I gave him the ring back even tho i love it because i dont want it with deception.I just dont know why everyone wants to hurt me and thats why im a fucking nasty bitch or maybe i just dont deserve happiness.Anyways i feel like i wish i was never born and i even told him i think hes fucked my self esteem forever.I havent eaten hardly anything in about 2 weeks i just feel so angry and depressed and confused as to why he would do that to me when he is always going on about me cheating on him.I never have and never will.Im loosing about 2 kilos a day it seems im going down the same path as i went before i got locked up.I have so many things in my head that i cant even tell people about because i know i will have to get help if i tell someone.I wish that i had someone who didnt want to put me in the nut house because of the way i think and just understood me.I really dont want to do something i might regret because yesterday some really crazy things were running around in my head my whole body was shaking i got in the car and just fucking flew that fast screeching out of my street because i had the most abnormal thoughts that i might just kill anyone that knocks at the door.I had to get out because i would have destroyed everything.I went seen my beautiful nephew in hospital and that calmed me down strait away because every time i look at him my life seems so unimportant.Luckily my son was at pre school yesterday.Anyways i really try my hardest to be happy all the time when hes around as i dont want him to be a bad violent man.Im rambling now sorry im gonna go 4 a while i really feel like shit