advice please!

[adahars37]

thanks in advance for any advice. so i've grown in the past and stopped after my g/f and i moved in together. she does not smoke but isn't against my use. so i want to do a small grow but i know she"ll say something like "pick me or the plants" i love her and we've been together a long while. any advice on how i can have both?

[birdgirl73]

Just talk to her about it and ask her. If she doesn't object to your smoking, she might surprise you. If she does object, however, I don't know what to tell you to do.

[iNHALE.xHALE.]

yeah talk to her , i doubt sumone who really loves you will just go all out and say pick me or the plants..but then again thats xactly what my parents told me

:wtf:

[lagstronaut]

I'm going to guess that the overwhelming opinion here will be "if she wants you to change your habits then fuck her you dont need her anyway"...but honestly man, tell me which one of these would you most agree with:

Love = Pot, or
Love > Pot


personally i'd drop any habit for the girl of my dreams

[LegalizeTheGreen]

I think if she truely cares for you, she would be willing to listen. you can always tell her to pick "no plants" or "you" and make it her decission. this might sound bad, but try to make it seem like she is unreasonable for getting upset at some stupid plants or somthing, put her on the spot. manipulative, i know, but it might help.

[cannabisis4for20]

Do you live in a medical state?

[locomark]

Well adahars37,

She doesn't love you. She wants to control you like most women do. Aren't they sweet, kind and loving? Your about to find out how understanding first hand aren't you. Dump her now then she'll bend or start stepping. What do I know? Just another fucking idiot.

Loco

[stinkyattic]

the member KDSpecial went through this with his girl and they really worked it out like adults- he has a small grow and also a bunch of veggies, adn the lil' woman grumbles only occasionally, but they are pretty darn happy!

[Blitzed]

Conversation is a key part of any relationship. If you two cant sit down and have a rational conversation, then I think you got some more problems then her not going to let you grow some plants. If she doesnt want you too grow, try to make a compromise. But, if you do have some real feelings for this girl, dont ruin it over some plants. If she is okay with you toking, you still have that. Just remember to take the good with the bad.

[adahars37]

thanks to all , no med state, if it was i'd qualify in an instant. she agrees that if we move to a med state i can grow to my hearts content. unfortunatly it will be 2 years before we are able to move back to say, colorado. so i want to grow for all the same reasons as before but i think shes paranoid about all the negative that can potentialy happen when growing.

[GraziLovesMary]

build a shed in the backyard and grow in there. Put up a sign that says "He-man wuman haterz club.. no women allowed" If she goes in after that, tell her you are very dissappointed in her and you set the whole thing up just to test her willpower. If she cant even respect your privacy, how can you trust each other? Then turn it around on her and start crying like a little girl. Then get angry, then make love in the kitchen. Make sure to use kitchen utensils and film it. Send the film to......

oh wait.. sorry. Nah I dunno what to tell you. If a girl every gave me an ultimatum like that, then she clearly isnt the girl of my dreams and I would pick the plant without blinking or hesitating, staring her in the eyes the whole time. The girl of my dreams would either be fine with any marijuana-related ventures I might undertake, or be right along side me with em.

[Greenbud420]

you could maybe ask her if you grow them at a budddy house? or something like that? hope it works for you :)

[420Cat]

Don't change who you are for anybody. If she really loves you, it shouldn't matter what you do.

[fuzzybeaner]

she lives with u so u have to respect her wishes. some ppl just dont want a grow op in there house. i would jsut start them out and say u will put them outside once they get a bit bigger. if she stills want u to by then then go plant them outside.

[sharingscaring]

Confirming it is Your House or Hers?

[adahars37]

apt in both our names, i think i'll just keep bringing it up to her