Young Girls, Older men. Keeping it in the family.

[Spoken Word]

What the fuck. I just heard the latest gossip from the Family Grapevine and it's a sick little peice of info. Well, sick to me anyway.
The same girl i grew up with. she was always around in my childhood and we were and are very close. but she's not blood. she's 2 years younger than me. She's one of those girls that think they're the coolest thing since sliced bread so I don't let my attraction show, at all. She already told me of her sleeping with a very distant cousin(almost a friend of the family) of mine after they hung out with her sister at a bar. Which was a whole big thing when it happend. Now, she turned 18 and she tells me she's been going out with a very close cousin of ours. for three months. I don't blame her. They are both very good-looking guys and have A LOT of money. And she is not blood-related with anyone of us. I blame the fuckin guys. this is the same girl they saw as a child and now are having sex with her???? that's nasty to me. If I was 35 and I had lots of money, I would not even think about having sexual relationships with girls.

sorry for the rant, I just had to let it out.
have a nice day.

[420_24/7]

dude u wouldnt think of having sex with any girls, that would suck

[Professor Dan K.]

when you say you didnt let your attraction show.. does that mean you like her?

if so talk to her and ask her whats up, whys she foolin around with those guys when theres people around her age who might actually care for her (you possibly) and not just want a young piece of ass.

i find that communication is the best way to share others thoughts.. yet it can be at times the hardest thing for someone to initiate.

[Spoken Word]

No, just a physical attraction. She has the body and face. VERY pretty. But it ends there, she's too "fake" for me to be attracted to her.
And I've said that plenty of times to her, she shouldn't waste her time with older guys and she should focus on a real relationship but it goes in one ear and out the other.
She says that she's young and she's having fun.
She tells me uses protection.

she doesn't love him, he doesn't love her. there's no love. if there was love, i'd be all for it but to me it's just nasty that this very mature male is having sex with someone he remembers as a child....and still is a child compared to his 35 years. *shutters*

[rebgirl420]

i dont think age has anything to do with alot of relationships. My fiance is 7 years older than me actually and its wonderful.

[Psycho4Bud]

i dont think age has anything to do with alot of relationships. My fiance is 7 years older than me actually and its wonderful.

I'm 45 and my lady is 24......we got the same interests and it's all good. Age shouldn't matter........

Have a good one!:jointsmile:

[slipknotpsycho]

well.. i was 15 when i got with my wife, at the time she was 20....

i don' think age should dictate 'love' exclusively....

it's really more about maturity then age anyways.... i've seen some 30 year olds who act/think like they're 15... and i've seen 16 year olds who show more maturity then a 40 year old.....

[Chronisseur]

My last girlfriend was 5 yrs older chronologically...10 years YOUNGER emotionally

. is, #'s dont matter. and I do kinda hear what you're saying (except for being 35 w lots o $ and not thinking about having sex w GIRLS? :wtf:)

.....anyways, good luck!:D

[Ganj]

No, just a physical attraction. She has the body and face. VERY pretty. But it ends there, she's too "fake" for me to be attracted to her.
And I've said that plenty of times to her, she shouldn't waste her time with older guys and she should focus on a real relationship but it goes in one ear and out the other.
She says that she's young and she's having fun.
She tells me uses protection.

she doesn't love him, he doesn't love her. there's no love. if there was love, i'd be all for it but to me it's just nasty that this very mature male is having sex with someone he remembers as a child....and still is a child compared to his 35 years. *shutters*

I know what you mean. She already has a big head. You're doing the right thing by choosing not to inflate it anymore.

[cannabis campbell]

Well 18 and 34 is a pretty big age gap but i mean as long as their not blood related and shes 18 (some people might think its sick) but that really just comes down to opinion no one is breaking the law but i think the main thing is that as long as they love each other then there is nothing wrong with that at all.

However if she is simply just going out with him because of his money and hes simply with her for the sex and that is pretty sick but if thats the case i bet they both know what they are doing, you might aswell let them get on with it, theyre not breaking the law and shes doing what she wants.

[happiestmferoutthere]

My husband is 15 years older than me. When we got together I was 20 and he was 35.(We have been together very happily 22 years). People said all kinds of things about him being a dirty old man,etc. Everybody and their brother tried to break us up.( A few almost succeeded.) When I met him I was soooo tired of boys. I wanted to date a man. A man that new how to treat a lady. A man that knew what real sex was( I was so done with the "rapid rabbit" sessions! )And , yeah, a man with a few bucks so maybe we could have a real date instead of taco bell or mcdonalds.
We stayed together in spite of it all, and I've been blessed with a great man.
Bottom line : She is a big girl and should be able to live her life as she sees fit. Support her. Don't judge. And dont get in the middle. She will resent you for it. Its her life.

[Spoken Word]

Happiest m fer..
You are absolutely right. But this isn't a relationship that will last. And both parties know it. I know her "boyfriend" better than she does, I've lived with him. Honestly, she can care less about him.

and to rebgirl and p4b...
Age does not matter....if it is a real relationship that both take serious.
None of the relationships I have mentioned are the slightest bit "real".
The girl just doesn't like guys her age and the guys like the "hot" young chick.
It's purley sexual and of course they treat her to whatever she wants.

but the thing that troubles me the most is that the males have known this girl since she was a baby. I was raised better than to see the good in these fuck-buddy type relationships.


I do kinda hear what you're saying (except for being 35 w lots o $ and not thinking about having sex w GIRLS? :wtf:)
lol yea.. if im 35, i'll look for mature women. and if i find a mature enough girl.....even if she's 18.....as long as there "love" and something real there, i'll stay...
but i dont see me, at 35, going to the spots where the college kids hang out and "looking for a young peice of ass". that's nasty... i have more respect for myself than to have sex with someone because they are younger than me.

either way, thanks for everyone replies.. it really wasn't all that serious, i just heard the news while i was logged on and i decided to share.. i hope i didn't offend anyone.

[DarkHairedSativa]

I want a goodlooking 35 yr old with lots of money!!that would be cool! lol just kidding ...I love my broke 36 year old too much! ;)

Anyway,I don't date guys more than 5 yrs older than me,but at 18,she's a consenting adult...as long as she's protecting herself,there's not much more you can ask her to do....sounds to me like you have a little bit of a crush and it's hurting your feelings.only time will make that go away,but if you want to hear something worse,my best friend slept with my DAD after she turned 18:wtf:.Talk about gross!she's a year younger than me....it could be worse! :smokin:

[Spoken Word]

I want a goodlooking 35 yr old with lots of money!!that would be cool! lol just kidding ...I love my broke 36 year old too much! ;)

Anyway,I don't date guys more than 5 yrs older than me,but at 18,she's a consenting adult...as long as she's protecting herself,there's not much more you can ask her to do....sounds to me like you have a little bit of a crush and it's hurting your feelings.only time will make that go away,but if you want to hear something worse,my best friend slept with my DAD after she turned 18:wtf:.Talk about gross!she's a year younger than me....it could be worse! :smokin:

i see how people would think that but honestly, i just think it's nasty. like i said before, i've known her since childhood.
it's strictly, a very strong friendship.

she's told me of even OLDER boyfriends of hers but they were guys that I knew nothing of.. now that she is dealing with my cousins? i know what kind of men they are. that's the key thing here.. lol.. these men have known her for YEARS.

but like most have said, it's her life... it's her body.. she JUST turned 18 but i guess she's an adult now so she should know better, right?

i just hope my little cousins(and maybe daughters) respect themselves rather than to have sexual relationships with guys because of their money. that's it.

[Spoken Word]

Now, she turned 18 and she tells me she's been going out with a very close cousin of ours. for three months. I don't blame her. They are both very good-looking guys and have A LOT of money. And she is not blood-related with anyone of us. I blame the fuckin guys.

this wasn't about her.. it's about the men. personally, i think it's disgusting. but live and let live.. all i can do is talk about it.

[LuckyG]

My turn to rant.

A month ago, my sister broke up with her boyfriend of two years. She was sixteen when they met, and fell for him hard. He was over 40, and had a criminal record of exposure to minors. The charge was made in B.C. - he moved halfway across the country and changed his name, and didn't tell my sister about the charge until they had sex, and for whatever reason she didn't care, because she thought she was in love.

His wife divorced him because he was caught making out with a teenage girl when he was a counsellor at bible camp. Because he was trained as a counsellor, he convinced my sister that she had all sorts of mental illnesses, and that he was the only one that could help her. She spent every hour after school locked in her room texting him. Her schoolwork suffered, and she had no friends at school and no extra-curricular activities.

He has two daughters my sister's age, and he paid more attention to her than his daughters. In the two years he dated her, the only reason my parents met him was because my mum went to check on my sister while she was at my dad's (parents are separated) and found him there, and because my dad followed my sister when she left "to go to a friends' place" and saw her get picked up in his van. Yeah, a van - it's stereotypically creepy pedo. Not once did he ever try to meet or even call my parents. She'd always get picked up and dropped off away from home, and she'd leave without asking and never say where she was going or leave a phone number - hell, my mum only found out her cell phone number by accident.

I still don't know what he looks like, and that's my choice - because I know that if I ever met him I'd probably kill him for fucking around with her, mentally and physically. And it might make me a bad person, but I'm finding it extremely hard to forgive her for giving my mother two years of stress and mental anguish.


The part that I really don't like is that now that she's apparently broken up with him, she's the prodigal daughter. I put my own life aside so that my mother could focus on dealing with my sister, and now my sister still gets all the attention because my mum's so glad she's behaving again. She gets the love, while I got to start off most meals for two years with something similar to "I've been reading your sister's journal. She thinks about his penis a lot." Absolute bullshit. As selfish as it might sound, I'm glad I'm leaving this house.

[420marijuana420]

I see it all the the time. Girls at my school are screwing guys that are like 25 when they're like 15-18. The thing is they think they're so cool/mature because they're older but if the guys were really that cool you'd think they'd be able to pull girls there own age. But w/e I don't care either way. It's not my life it theirs.

[napolitana869]

I think the close family like relationship thing is gross too.

[Jim Morrison]

that is pretty sick but i have a sicker story i know this girl shes 16 now but when she was 14 she gave her moms best friend who was 27-28 at the time a handjob in the living room of her mothers house on her mothers couch while her mom was sleeping in the other room.

the sickest part about it though is this guys been around this girl all her life ever since her mom had her at 15 hes been there as she was growing up he even baby sat her when she was a toddler and then he takes advantage of the her and her weak mind and he took advantage of his friends trust and this girls trust aswell.

when she told me this i was dating her at the time and it had happened like 2 weeks before we started dating i was grossed out and thought about telling her mom cause the dude is obviously a pedophile and is breaking the law and deserves to get his ass raped in jail but i know the girl would never press charges against him and would deny it ever happened cause she was so embarrassed by it

[Spoken Word]

^that's the stuff I'm talking about.
I wonder if these men respect themselves.

[Non]

I see it all the the time. Girls at my school are screwing guys that are like 25 when they're like 15-18. The thing is they think they're so cool/mature because they're older but if the guys were really that cool you'd think they'd be able to pull girls there own age. But w/e I don't care either way. It's not my life it theirs.

hahaha.

you know I would care cuz that means all the girls your age are selfishly looking towards the older guys. and the older guys selfishly looking towards the younger girls. and are leaving no younger ones to date with those the same age. so then its a stupid vicious cycle that ensures we never get to date those that are the same age. because the opposite sex does not want to deal with those that are the same age, who knows it might be a learning experience but it can be selfish.. and all the older men are taking the younger women away and the younger women taking the older men away!

i think its a result of repressed love romantic and sexual desires when we are young and should be experiencing some things, and as we get older well we get older

[Non]

we all have to be careful not to fall into the trap of being purely superficial/materialistic/physical when its not right to be.

[Non]

yeah whats important is love we all know that.