21-Year-Old Virgin - Normal?

[Profane Motherfucker]

Poor social skills.

[tha del sound]

fuck normal.

[TallCoolOne]

as long as you dont have mother issues. none of that "a boy's best friend is his mother" stuff...as long as its not that...its normal.

[invoke]

You'll find her one day. :) Save it for her, you'll know her when you meet her.

[snowblind]

maybe you should consider his online name

[Profane Motherfucker]

maybe you should consider his online name

Indeed.

[S.W.I.M. 504]

3 words



hookerz

[slipknotpsycho]

we hav ea 22 year old virgin here...

don't let other guys or movies or shows pressure you dude.... maybe it's just cuz i'm not wired like the typical male, but sex is not everything.... in fact, it's far from it.... i always wanted to do it... but when i did, it wasn't that much better then just jerking it... which lead me to the belief alot of sex in young people, is not cuz of hormones, just simply trying ot keep up with/match others...

and if you ask me... being a virgin that long is an admirable trait... it means you're not a horndog, it also means you have control of yourself....

having sex just cuz some chick's ass looks good in those certain pair of jeans is a bad trait....

do it when you're ready or it comes naturally...

i'ts not just girls who constantly remember 'their first'.... you can be 70 yerasold and married for 50.... you're still gonna remember that first person and it will effect you...

the ONLY reason i think sex might be best only when you're married/serious to the person is becuase that person will be on your mind for ever.... literally... it should really be someone special.... not some chick you hooked up with at the bar..

[snowblind]

im not saying there aint nothing wrong with being a virgin, its just u know sex is realatively easy to find. its the rest that takes a little while. it depends wether you are looking to fall in love or just get laid. if u wanna get laid, go to a club and hit on a chunky girl whose drunk.

the latter well that takes time and a decent connection, but u dont wanna force it.

there are hookers i guess. not really my cup of tea

if u got the cash theres a virign school in amsterdam, which is like an escort service with motherly benefits. it was on telly in the uk a while ago. the guy basically paid to fuck his mum. he was erm 25 26. but he lived in his room and watched too much star trek and buffy. i aint stereotyping, but he didnt really live in reality

peace and progress

snowblind

[rebgirl420]

Dont assume whats normal and whats not. Do whats right for you. You'll now when its time. Dont rush it.

[LuckyG]

Also currently a twenty-one year old virgin. Also used to have poor social skills. I think the wait was probably good for me - I know who I am, and I know what I want, which means I'm not going to waste a lot of time bouncing from girl to girl trying to find the one that's "right for me". I don't think there's really a limitation on one single girl who'll be "right" though - people change, chances are after a few years we'll move on to other people. Who knows, I haven't even held hands with a girl so I'm basically talking out of my ass on this.


the ONLY reason i think sex might be best only when you're married/serious to the person is becuase that person will be on your mind for ever.... literally... it should really be someone special.... not some chick you hooked up with at the bar..

A few people I know who screwed around a lot have said that it's good that I'm waiting for someone special. Of course, when I asked if they'd change their past if they could, they said no. Mixed messages and double standards don't do much for me.

Hm, I'm cynical tonight.

:(

[User Name Here]

Who cares lol? Gonna die and be forgotten anyways.

[whoreable]

I was 20 when I lost mine. Im 22 now and have had 4 under the belt. It should be much higher, I have a very nice Physique.

I would say you are Abnormal for not having sex yet, so was I. I knew it. I was ashamed of it. But then again, take your own time.

[Candnloveweed420]

^

I completely disagree.

it should be with someone special, and that can only be determined through time
there's no need to rush into something like this

it'll make everything a lot better when its with that right person rather than having the memory of someone else

take your time

[vej33]

not to downplay the 'someone special' thing, b/c it definitely is important to have sex for the right reasons. but my advice would be don't get TOO caught up on finding that precisely right person. what i mean to say is... my first time was with a female, my girlfriend of 3 years (though i don't remember at what point in those 3 years when we first had sex...) and we had a good sex life.

Since her I've had several other girlfriends, and, to the surprise of many people around me, a boyfriend. And the thing about that FIRST person I slept with is that, even though it was a very nice memory, and even though it was a very good experience (i thiiiiiiiiink i lost it on Valentines Day?) i don't look back on that 1 first time and decide that it dominates my sex-life after that.

Perhaps my view is different because I don't tend to have one-night stands. I usually only screw around with people Im dating, but to be honest I remember the one-nighters as well.

So basically what I'm here to say is, don't fret over it. but don't make too big of a deal about it. Just let it happen when your body and mind are ready for it. In the meantime, maybe try finding yourself a girlfriend.

[TallCoolOne]

i would like to point out that most relationship books and magazines say that the first person you have sex with you aren't likely to end up with. this definately isn't true for everyone, but i took this advice and it served me well. I also recommend only losing your virginity to ONLY another virgin.

[snowblind]

the virgin thing is interesting, if you know the person well and have built up a good relationship with them then it is the best way, its how i lost mine (16) yet if its someone you are just with just because they are a virgin, then it might just double the erm awkwardness. i dont think the previous person sexual history should matter, cus we all have pasts. she might be a little dissapointed if she doesnt know before hand, but then if she knows then she can help and make sure you are at ease. plus then she gets the added bonus of moulding you into a decent lover. not just a wham bang theres you lot love, kinda kuy.
the only reason you give to being a virgin is your social skills. well thats probably where you want to start. get a hobby, join a club volunteree. meet some new people and improve them. social skills are just that, they take a bit of pratise for some people. but u will get better with time. but just dont feel like you have to get on with everyone or be a door mat if u feel indebted to people.
be yourself and enjoy yourself
the rest will come

peace and progress
snowblind

[whoreable]

^

I completely disagree.

it should be with someone special, and that can only be determined through time
there's no need to rush into something like this

it'll make everything a lot better when its with that right person rather than having the memory of someone else

take your time

lol now you sound like a Female. Trust me, fuck someone Insignificant so that when you have sex with a girl that you like not only physically or mentally, you can rock her socks off.

Theres nothing special about your first time, its not magical, Its sweaty, sticky and fun all at once, fuck the romance.

You have the rest of your life to be Romantic with your wife, just get er done :rastasmoke:

[LegalizeTheGreen]

I was a 21 year old virgin, but out of choice. I actually lost it about a month ago to my current g/f of 2 months. I have had other oppurtunities, but I really care about my gf, and thats what really matters. fuck people with their "It aint special", but also fuck people that make too big of a deal. Your first time will be fun, but not amazing. Dont hold out forever, but dont rush into it. pace yourself, and when you find a girl you care about, go for the gold.

[thcbongman]

There's alot of virgins at that age. Some of my friends are. It's nothing abnormal about it. You are just shy =)

I didn't lose my virginity until I was 19. Take your time, and find someone special to do it the first time.

[crudemood]

whoa says its abnormal to not have sex when you're 21, is it against some rule that you can't? i lost mine at 18, i never felt the pressure or need to lose it any earlier. it just happened when i knew it would. let it come to you, no need to rush anything, you're not going to be looked down upon becase you havent had sex, what a silly thing .

[FreshNugz]

There's nothing wrong with that at all. My boyfriend was that age, and in the same situation...and then we met and it changed. Sure, it's not going to be a marathon...but don't be nervous. A good girl will have no problem if you barely even get in there before you're done. She will wait, and be patient and you will learn and get better and better.

On a side note, I maintain that guys who are still virgins..no matter what their age...are the nicest guys you could find. They are still pure. Not looking for the hottest young ass to walk by.

[TheDefiler]

Don't feel bad....I'm 26 and still a virgin. Chalk that up to the fact that im a big guy and women don't like big guys.....and also my extreme shyness.

[LegalizeTheGreen]

You can always change the "big guy" part of you, all it takes is effort. Shyness is harder to change, and I personally suffer from that horrible affliction as well. However, there is no "right" age to lose it, it is whenever you feel comfortable losing it. good luck, and happy hunting.

[LuckyG]

Who cares lol? Gonna die and be forgotten anyways.

That's the spirit! Thanks for the laugh, even if it wasn't intentional. :D

[snowblind]

you could get a hooker
rape someone
become a hooker
rape a moose
become a pimp and have your hookers for free
groom people on the internet and bust em out
audition for a porn movie and just bang her
met someone you like tell them and take it from there
buy a flesh tunnel
become a preist
castrate yourself
go to a swingers party
masturbate for he rest of your life
get a blow up doll
remove a few ribs

theres loads of options in the rich tapestry of sexual satisfaction

[budsmoker]

lol now you sound like a Female. Trust me, fuck someone Insignificant so that when you have sex with a girl that you like not only physically or mentally, you can rock her socks off.

Theres nothing special about your first time, its not magical, Its sweaty, sticky and fun all at once, fuck the romance.

You have the rest of your life to be Romantic with your wife, just get er done :rastasmoke:

get eeeeeeeerrrrrrrrrrrr done:D

[spliffstar22]

it's whatever you want it to be, there are guys out there that lived 90 years and never had sex. just consider yourself lucky not to be them lol it'll come......

[Greenbud420]

it's ok.....there alot of virgins that are 21 or older
:thumbsup:

[TheDefiler]

I need to find one of those over 21 virgins so that when i do her she will have nothing to compare me with.....therefore i will be the best she's ever had! LMAO!

[420Cat]

Your not getting any younger.
Who's the right person? The one you like that says yes. That's the special someone.

[5016169]

normal

[OLDE ENGLISH '800]

everyone has a differnt opinion on whats norml

[GraziLovesMary]

no probs... look how many threads similar to this there are. It really doesnt matter how old you are when a virgin.. .if you find somebody that means alot to you they wont care. If you wanna lose your virginity before that, there are alot of people of either sex that would be GLAD to help you out (breaking a virgin). So... if you are proactive enough, you will achieve whatever ends you are searching for. Nuff said.

[5016169]

Now that you are older, some women think of it as a challenge to sleep with you. That is unless you don't take care of your body, then that's a totally different story and you should go to bunnyranch.com or something and get some

[Boo360]

This may not help with the main topic and all but I was 13 when I lost mine but I really do regret it but I think if I had the chance I would do it all over again because it got me ready when I got back with a girl who I had knew for 8 years and we decided to have sex. I ended up giving her the first orgasm she had ever been given (She had been with like 2 other guys) which I attribute to my first experience, I was taught plenty. Anyways it always got better.

Guess what I'm trying to say is that its always good to wait and don't ever be ashamed.

[JoeBear]

There isn't anything wrong with being a virgin. I was 30 when I married my husband and I was still a virgin. Thanks to my dad who was fantastic at discussing the pros of guns when ever guys came to see me.

[rollinhigh06]

lol now you sound like a Female. Trust me, fuck someone Insignificant so that when you have sex with a girl that you like not only physically or mentally, you can rock her socks off.

Theres nothing special about your first time, its not magical, Its sweaty, sticky and fun all at once, fuck the romance.

You have the rest of your life to be Romantic with your wife, just get er done :rastasmoke:

I agree man, get er done!

Life is too short, you're only going to be full of so much energy for so long. You're in your prime. In another 10 years you'll be tied down and more then likely you won't be able to have as much fun.

I'm 19 and I was a late starter, I lost my virginity a few months ago to my ex, she wasn't a virgin. I deff recommend banging a girl that isn't a virgin, because she will know what to do and will help you and you will feel more comfrontable.
The 1st time is nothing special, matter of fact the first couple of times kinda aren't all that special, its only gets better though.

Find a girl thats a whore, but not a real whore! lol
Certain girls will be easier to get in bed and thats what you want, because you don't want to be pressured and feel stressed when you're with a girl that you really love and wanna impress.
My ex told me that she only had one orgasm before she was with me and in the two months we were together we had sex a couple of times a day and I gave her many orgasms. So as a newb, I wasn't too bad.
So what I'm saying is sex isn't hard, and its definitely not rocket science.

Just do your thing bro and go to it when you feel like you're ready :jointsmile:

[ganjzilla]

yeah ive heard of ppl past 21 that are still virgins, didnt happen to me, but just hang in there and like in 40 yr old virgin, get ya bout 30-40 "hood rats" then when u get with someone you care about ull be grand

[Spoken Word]

as long as you dont have mother issues. none of that "a boy's best friend is his mother" stuff...as long as its not that...its normal.
Hmm.. i dunno about all that. My mother is my best friend. always was and always will be. and that has never affected my relationships. infact, all my girlfriends have had a STRONG relationship with her. it's kind of annoying actually.

towards the OP.
man, certain girls love that shit. they cream for virgins because to them, you are clean and you can be "trained" sexually.
I don't think they would believe you, honestly.

all you have to do, if you want, is start socializing. please don't think your looks or your style of dress has ANYTHING to do with your social skills.
it seems hard now but once you realize that females are just as nervous, if not MORE....it's easy.


read around this forum.. there is plenty of good advice.. im sure someone else has given you great advice in this thread.

but in my opinion... your virginity can be useful. to honest girls.

of course if you are going after a sexually talented female, she wants a man that knows what he's doing. but i'd steer away from those types of girls, they are trouble. lol

[Oneironaut]

I'm a 22-year-old virgin, and I can definitely feel where you're coming from. It can be extremely frustrating to know that most of your peers aren't virgins, to hear them go on and on about their sexual encounters, and to have this intense bodily urge to lose your virginity. I've been there, done that, way too many times than I care for.

But lately I've been seriously thinking about the real reasons why I've been a virgin so long. I certainly want to have sex very badly, but two things stand in my way.

The first is that I too have historically had poor social skills. I have had very few friends, and the friends I do have I don't interact with that much. As for women, I've never had a girlfriend. I just have no idea how to flirt with or hit on a woman. I wouldn't know how to act, what to say, or even where to go to meet one I would like.

The second thing is that I would feel like a dick hitting on a woman just because I want to get laid. I am a huge feminist, and I just don't have it in me to treat a woman like a sex object. I know that's what my peers do. They go out to the bars, hit on the girl with the nicest rack and try to take her home. But I couldn't do that. I don't want women to think I'm just another dude who wants to get in their pants, and I don't want to be just another dude who wants to get in their pants. Even though I am, I don't want to act that way.

I want a woman who is reasonably attractive, reasonably smart and who likes me for who I am. I don't want some slut who will spread her legs for somebody who flirts with her just to get her into bed.

I have had two opportunities to have sex, but I declined them both. Both were kind of chunky, rather unattractive alcoholics in their 30s whom I had only known for very short periods of time. On both occasions, they were flirting with me while intoxicated and were obviously interested in sex, but I didn't want that to be my first.

I may be desperate, but that doesn't mean I can't have standards, I guess. I'm going to wait until I'm at a point in my life where I can have a serious relationship (I'm going to be moving shortly, then moving again maybe a year or so after that, so it'll be a while). And I'm going to wait for someone I can really relate with on an emotional and intellectual level, not a drunk lady who just wants some random young cock.

I'm trying to look at the positive side of things. First of all, when I do get around to it it should be a lot more fulfilling. Secondly, I know for a fact I don't have any STDs. That blister between my nutsack and my leg, I know that was just a blister. And thirdly, women are a lot less likely to think I'm some perverted sex fiend when I tell future women that I was a virgin into my early 20s, or when I tell that first woman that I'm still a virgin.

And last but not least, I'm learning humility and self-discipline. Most men desperately want sex, need sex, and think women owe them sex. I know better. I can do without it, and when I do get it, it will be because I honestly earned it. I'm not going to pressure women to have sex with me. I'm not going to lie to get women to have sex with me. I'm going to just live my life until I meet someone who's interested in me for who I am, and we'll see where things go from there.

[Non]

You'll find her one day. :) Save it for her, you'll know her when you meet her.

whats the purpose of saving it if girls these days don't save it? not even some of the 'physically unattractive' girls can save it. and its better for the girls to save it for the guys cuz once they find the real good guy he'll want to 'unite' with a girl whose still beautiful and not worn out and whatever rather than the opposite..

sex should always be saved for the best.. and not be superficial about it. sex is union and like you don't want to unite with some sick sh*t. unless you wanna be all superficial about it and just pay attention to looks and nothing else

haha you wanna know another thing circumcision sucks.

[Storm Crow]

Short and sweet! I'm not sure what the average age for losing virginity is at the moment, but let's call it 17. Now remember those bell curves in math? Same deal! For every kid how lost his or her virginity at 13, there will be a 21 year old virgin to match and keep the average at 17! Don't hassle so much! You're just the balance for those "early bloomers". - Granny

[water]

dude dont pressure ur self i lost mine at 13 and wasnt that great

only been with a couple of ppl since


sex is not the be all and end all

respect urself and dont just have sex with the first girl possible

[someuser]

Well, I personally love sex. I'm 29 and lost my virginity at 15 or 16. Dont get me wrong, sex isnt the end to all things for me but if you're doing it 'right' then one cannot deny sex can be a very fun and pleasurable experience.

I've been with girls I liked as well as girls I didnt like... I never been with an 'ugly' woman but I've slept with girls as skinny and small as 5'0" 105lbs size 00 to women as big and tall as 5'10" 225lbs size I dunno fucking know LoL

Bottom line is sex gets BETTER the more you know what you're doing. The best way to know what you're doing isnt just frequency but also variety... There is pretty much nothing I havent done and no kind of girl I couldnt handle.

I dont agree with this whole 'save yourself for someone special' BS cause the first time you fuck, whether you're in love or not, isnt going to be as mind blowing awesome as it will be when you got some experience under your belt (no pun intended).

Dont get me wrong, I'm not trying to hate on anyone here, just giving my two-cents.

[angry nomad]

Poor social skills.

Who cares if you are a virgin now? Don't let it matter, and you will get laid. Just whackit an hour before you hit it, to make yourself last longer. If you spend too much time waiting for the right one, you are just going to psych yourself out. If I was you, I would ask one of my females friends if they wanted to fuck, and then laugh. But you have to be prepared to fuck her. Ya gotta be ready for her to say, "yes." But, laugh, like you are joking.

Maybe I a just talking out my ass. I don't think sex is a big fucking deal. You are probably going to get HPV.

I hope not but, well sex rocks. I say just get laid. Go ahead and have standards if you want to, but your tendency is probably too set them too high. Also, the first girl you fuck will have already been fucked by 5, 10, or even 30 or forty guys. But, who cares. fuck it. I love my wife, and we have great sex, but we both fucked a lot of other people before we got married; and sewed our wild oats. I don't care.


Yeah, just get laid dude. If you make a big deal about it, the first girl you fuck will break your heart. Just because sex becomes this big deal, you put the pussy on the pedestal, and it sucks, but only because it was the first girl who sucked your dick. And then, some other girls will suck your dick, (Maybe even two at once!) and you will think to yourself, "My bitchass first girlfriend, that slut, didn't even know how to suck a fat cock."

YOU'RE A PIMP.

Think it, believe it, do it. And wear contacts, cologne, button down shirts, and pants that fit a little better.
:pimp: