I'm the Other Man, No one's rootin for me

[lagstronaut]

Okay here's the story:

I met a girl this weekend and I fell for her instantly.

Later that night I met her boyfriend and watched him hit her in the face and deny rubbing up on these 2 slutty girls despite everybody seeing it happen

This girl loves this guy more than anything else in the world and their 7 month anniversary just passed, with him waiting "only" until the last minute to make plans with her after saying he didn't know if he even was going to.

I want this girl badly. She knows how I feel about her boyfriend and I was the one by her side calming her down all night after that incident I mentioned. She says its unfortunate how strongly she feels towards him, and any ounce of affection he shows to her gets multiplied by 100 in her mind because he is such a dick.

I've been texting her a bit lately and talking to her on MSN (she's not on much) and she thinks I'm hilarious and wants to party with me and dye my hair too.

Finally my question: wtf do I do to get him out of the damn picture?

Badmouthing him barely works on her, she forgives him for all he does, even though I question his feelings for her I know he's the type of guy that would fight and fight and fight not to lose his girlfriend to another guy.

I am just afraid all I can do right now is play the part of the faithful friend, doing everything thats best for her and quietly waiting until they explode as a couple and seperate. I've been given advice already to just say fuck it and tell her how I feel but I'm afraid if I tell her on MSN/phone she won't wanna chill later and if I tell her in person I'm pretty sure her B/F would be there.

To be honest I don't expect miraculous advice here and I'm bracing myself for generic comments telling me to beat his ass in or sit her down and tell her how I feel. I guess 80% of this post is me venting and 20% is me reaching out for advice.

Got any? :(

You know he's not the one for you but that's no fault of mine.
He knows that I'm a friend of yours but doesn't know I've crossed the line.
I know you've got a man in the picture but it hasn't stopped me yet.
We've all been in one situation or another we regret.

Now I'm the other man, no one's rootin for me.

[Storm Crow]

Keep being her friend. Alway be there for her. She will dump him eventually. He hit her- start edging her over to the idea that this is "spousal abuse" in it's earliest form (it is!). His "rubbing up" to the slutty girls is an indication of his future faithfulness. Wait for a low point (after a bad argument, his cheating, etc.), then tell her how you feel, how she deserves a better man and that you want to be that man! If her BF is as you describe him, it won't be long until the relationship is in crisis. Good luck! And treat her like a queen! - Granny

[CUPNOODLES]

WUT U DO IS:

KEEP TALKIN 2 HER N GET HER 2 LIKE U....WEN U DO GET HER 2 LIKE U, U TELL HER THAT HER BF IS A PIECE OF SHIT AND SHE DESERVES BETTER BLAH BLAH BLAH. THEN MAKE HER THINK OF HOW HE TREATS HER LIKE SHIT AND STUFF AND TELL HER SHE SHOULDNT BE WITH HIM AND THENNN LET HER SLEEP ON IT(ITS BEST IF U TOLD HER THIS AT NITE) AND WEN UR DONE TELLIN HER THAT TELL HER UR GONNA GO TO SLEEP.....THE KEY OF THIS CONVO WITH HER IS 2 GET HER REALL EMOTIONAL LIKE CRYING EMOTIONAL....WAIT A DAY OR 2 THEN TELL HER HOW U FEEL AND TELL HER WUT U CULD GIVE HER THAT HER BF CANT AND SEE WUT HAPPENS

[Blindman0v0]

Wouldn't it be easier just to have the guy wacked?lol

[Chronisseur]

First things first, set your friendship in stone
(maybe a YELLOW rose to signify friendship?)

"If you've fallen, get up slow to avoid a "headrush"-me

I know these may sound like pretty lame words of wisdom, just trust me.

[BabyFacedAbortion]

Yanno, I know how she feels right now. I've been there, I know the feeling after you get hit, I know the feeling after seeing your man up on some other girl's shit and I know the feeling of loving them to death even though both of those things had just happened.

What I would have wanted ANYONE to do for me when that shit happened to me, would be to be a genuine person, honestly care, honestly want my well being and not just some ass. You gotta stay her friend, whether it be because you want her or because she needs you (she may not know this yet but she does). She's in an abusive relationship and she's in the abused mindset and right now, she's not gonna dump him YET but the femi-nazi will come out (every chick has it) and she'll realize that he's not worth her time but YOU are. Just do sweet little things that'll get a smile and some reassurance that she doesn't deserve that crap from her BOY.

you're not just the "other man", and we're rooting for you, hon!

[bluntblaze]

id grab that asshole by the throat and tell him to leave her or id break his kneecaps with a hammer.

i cant stand guys who treat women badly... and i especially cant stand guys who hit women.. it just gets me really pissed off.

so personally i think you should beat him. (obviously u shouldn't do that if u want the girl though) but i do think you need to warn him about hittin her at least.

[napolitana869]

maybe you could get her some information from a local domestic abuse center. Maybe try and get her to call the cops the next time he hits her. Good luck

[stinkyattic]

id grab that asshole by the throat and tell him to leave her or id break his kneecaps with a hammer.

As much as I'm not really into violence, this would be the perfect time to make sure you're ready for action, just in case. WTF. But watch yourself, ladies don't always appreciate their knight riding in on a white horse as much as said knight expects them to. Unless she has made it clear that it IS your business, stay the fuck out of it. You really need to sit her down and have a long talk with her and get some straight answers.

That fucking asshole probably got whupped on too much by his daddy and has to get all dominant on women to make him feel like a man.

What a tool. I bet he has a small dick too.

Doesn't this chick have any brothers who look out for her?

[lagstronaut]

thanks for teh advice everyone, it's tumbling around in my brain now like a washing machine and hopefully when the cycle stops nothing will be wrinkled hahaha


Yanno, I know how she feels right now. I've been there, I know the feeling after you get hit, I know the feeling after seeing your man up on some other girl's shit and I know the feeling of loving them to death even though both of those things had just happened.

What I would have wanted ANYONE to do for me when that shit happened to me, would be to be a genuine person, honestly care, honestly want my well being and not just some ass. You gotta stay her friend, whether it be because you want her or because she needs you (she may not know this yet but she does). She's in an abusive relationship and she's in the abused mindset and right now, she's not gonna dump him YET but the femi-nazi will come out (every chick has it) and she'll realize that he's not worth her time but YOU are. Just do sweet little things that'll get a smile and some reassurance that she doesn't deserve that crap from her BOY.

you're not just the "other man", and we're rooting for you, hon!

i was secretly hoping someone in the same situation would reply. when I took care of her it was genuine, honest, not about ass at all. so I passed that test. the thing though is that she is a sucker for him and I seriously doubt that she'll stop running back to his arms especially now since apparently they are "better than ever" *puke*.

What kind of sweet things should I do to make her smile? I'm pretty good at doing this since it's all I seem to do but maybe hearing some more suggestions from you would help me a bit further.

this is the closest thing i've ever had to "love at first sight"...i can't screw this up :\


EDIT: stinkyattic, that night it did sort of become my business because for a bit she had me spy on him for her to see what he was up to. the thing though is once that punch landed everyone went straight for him and nobody seemed to notice her crying on the curb so i sat next to her and brought her back to earth.

[stinkyattic]

Maybe try and get her to call the cops the next time he hits her. Good luck

A witness can call the cops too. She may not press charges, but it will be an eye-opener for him to be hassled by The Man. He needs to know that that sort of thing is unacceptable to society as a whole, even if his girlfriend IS currently too scared to do anything about it personally.

[stinkyattic]

this is the closest thing i've ever had to "love at first sight"...i can't screw this up

Sorry to burst your bubble, but I've been in that situation before too, and I actually LEFT the dude. Make sure she understands the escalation of violence in domestic situations, it started with name calling and took me right through to 2 black eyes and a deep gash through my eyebrow to leave him. When I finally DID leave, I was an emotional DISASTER, cold and hard, but inwardly questioning my own strength.

Don't try to be her boyfriend. It will not be good. If she thinks you wanted her to leave him for selfish reasons, (which she will if she has a brain), she's going to resent you. Try your best to be a purely supportive person who just wants her to be safe.

[Blitzed]

Ive been in your same position, not really much advice, just do what you think is right. But also rember you are setting yourself up to get hurt if you let your feelings keep growing. Its a dangerouse game but I hope you get the girl bro. No woman deserves to be mistreated like that.

[lagstronaut]

Ive been in your same position, not really much advice, just do what you think is right. But also rember you are setting yourself up to get hurt if you let your feelings keep growing. Its a dangerouse game but I hope you get the girl bro. No woman deserves to be mistreated like that.

if I wrote an autobiography, that would be the fuckin tagline man. my feelings only usually get involved in situations where I'm bound to get hurt. i wonder if i do it to my self?

[stinkyattic]

situations where I'm bound to get hurt. i wonder if i do it to my self?

Yup. It's not a terrible thing, and certianly nothing against you, but something that you need to deal with BEFORE you will ever be able to have a healthy relationship. It's akin to women who always seem to end up back in an abusive relationship- the problem is within. Gotta love yourself FIRST, man. I'll bet you feel for this chicklet as a kindred spirit.

[DaPolarBear]

First off, if you EVER see him hit her again slug him, then slug him again for me (I have serious issues with guys who hit girls, and girls who hit below the belt...)

Second off, keep being her friend, always be there for her. She should wise up and dump him, or he'll dump her, and maybe she'll realize that you've always been there for her and presue a relationship with you.

[kdspecial]

Well your in a good spot and this can also be the death spot... She seems like she really digs him... Chicks dig dicks somtimes. Its all they know or they just don't think they can do better. there are honestly 1 million reasons. Some people love what they can't control. Some love to be in control.

you could tell her how you feel and Magic will be in the air and she will dump him and fall in love with you and live happily ever after but I don't know...

You could tell her how you feel and make things akward for both of you, Or she might be like thats sweet then use it to her advantage. Its hard to say.

If I were you I would just keep being that faithful friend BUT TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF,,,, try not to get too attatched or even envolved in the relationship. Cuz what will happen is you will become her crutch. you will be what she is missing in her other relationship. So she will have no reason to leave the Jerk cuz she can bitch and moan about it to you. You'll think that your making some leeway in helping win her heart but really all your doing is prolonging the Hurt that is there..,.

thats my personal experience. I got all caught up then let down in the end. And funny enough when I said fuk it and stopped waiting and starting playing with other girllies. She got really jelious and said Quote "Girls want what they can't have" She knew I wasn't feeling her anymore cuz I was there so many times and she just kinda used it to fill the hole that she felt.

I'd be lying if I said I wans't a little hurt but in the end it was ultimatly better because I learned and became a stronger person for it. At first I felt like I was kinda letting her down, Not answering calls and trying to avoid her etc. But it was worth it in the end. I found somone else she found out she missed out on me and we both moved on.

Being friends is cool too... theres nothign wrong with lving your friends.

GO CANADIAN ROCK!!!!!! I can't rember the name of the BAND NOW.... but its an awsome song.

hope it helps some...
kd

[ghosty]

yeah man, just stay there and be a genuine friend... eventually she will leave this dude and realize your a better guy, dont be afraid to give her some hints though.

also, dont ever let a dude hit another chick though, even if they can defend themselves, it's just not right. one time a party we saw a guy hit his girlfreind who was freinds with a few of my freinds. My freind whose house it was walked up punched him in the jaw, my other freind in the eye, and we carried him to the doorway of the house tossed him outside and made his drunk ass walk home while she stayed the night....

[FakeBoobsRule]

Well you had your chance, when he hit her in the face you should have stepped up.

Next option, have some girl hit on him and give him her number. Then have her set up a fake date and tell his girlfriend. The decoy could go as far as to tell him to meet her somewhere at such and such time and tell the girlfriend, only to have her confront him with the camera crew from Cheaters.

Note option 2, not very mature but I hoped it made you laugh!

[lagstronaut]

Well you had your chance, when he hit her in the face you should have stepped up.

Next option, have some girl hit on him and give him her number. Then have her set up a fake date and tell his girlfriend. The decoy could go as far as to tell him to meet her somewhere at such and such time and tell the girlfriend, only to have her confront him with the camera crew from Cheaters.

Note option 2, not very mature but I hoped it made you laugh!

Option 1: I didn't get a chance to get to him before the crowd of other guys did. I was the furthest away who still saw it happen so by the time I ran down the street it was a crowd of people, me, and her, so i just sat next to her.

Option 2: lmao you don't wanna know how badly i'm considering it

[LuckyG]

I'm going to go against the grain and say that you shouldn't beat his ass down. Every girl I've ever known (which is not a whole bunch but draws from a large and diverse database :D) generally finds a violent guy to be a turn-off - even if it seems like a great idea in the books and movies, girls think that guys getting in fights are dumb. Play it cool and mellow - use your wits to bring him down, not your fists. I give mega props for outsmarting your foe. It's classy.

[lagstronaut]

How about this, can everyone agree that this would be a good thing to say to her:

I have to tell you up front right now I'm starting to get feelings for you. I do not want you to treat me differently if you don't feel the same because I'm still at the stage where it's not too difficult to try getting over you. But if you want someone in your life that you don't have to wonder what girl he's with or if he'll ever lay a finger on you again, without a question I'd treat you the way a poor lovestruck dummy should treat the girl he admires most. But say so right now and I'll never bring it up again and the conversation is over for good.

[thcbongman]

Kiss her.

Then say how you feel.

It's much more powerful this way than without a kiss.

[lagstronaut]

Kiss her.

Then say how you feel.

It's much more powerful this way than without a kiss.

word brotha

[Blitzed]

I would avoid the kiss, If she has been in a long relationship like that you cant rush it. Then again... She might like it.

[lagstronaut]

I think this Team America quote pretty much explains it:
"We're dicks(you)! We're reckless, arrogant, stupid dicks. And the Film Actors Guild(her) are pussies. And Kim Jong Il(him) is an asshole. Pussies don't like dicks, because pussies get fucked by dicks. But dicks also fuck assholes: assholes that just want to shit on everything. Pussies may think they can deal with assholes their way. But the only thing that can fuck an asshole is a dick, with some balls. The problem with dicks is: they fuck too much or fuck when it isn't appropriate - and it takes a pussy to show them that. But sometimes, pussies can be so full of shit that they become assholes themselves... because pussies are an inch and half away from ass holes. I don't know much about this crazy, crazy world, but I do know this: If you don't let us fuck this asshole, we're going to have our dicks and pussies all covered in shit!"

okay what i'm hearing is i should try to sleep with her boyfriend

[Pipe Dreams]

Just stay with her man. But next time you see him hit her, bust his nose open, if not for her, do it for yourself. But just stay with her, eventually your time will come brotha man.

[lagstronaut]

Okay so I told the girl simply that I was worried about her and I've seen shit escalate pretty quick so just try to be safe.

then her boyfriend emails me this:

"so i herd you've been running your mouth. and to my girlfriend of all people. you don't know me at all. so si suggest you keep your fucking mouth shut. your just some fucking kid no body knows and is trying to hit on my girlfriend.

go fuck yourself faggot."


so i emailed him this:

"what are you gonna do...HIT ME? sorry i'm not a girl i don't think you'd enjoy it

i'm a kid nobody knows? maybe in the Abusive Relationship Circles i'm not quite that well known. buy hey, only real losers measure their worth to how many people is around them.

i told your girlfriend that i've seen many dudes hit their girlfriends once, apologize, they accept the apology, and then shit gets out of hand at a later date. i told her to merely watch her self for her own safety. you want your girlfriend to not watch her own safety? what kind of a boyfriend doesn't want his girlfriend to be safe?

swear at me all you want tough guy, insults worked in grade 5 but not so much since then"


and next time i see him he's eating a curb

[CUPNOODLES]

YOU CAN DOOO ITT!!! FUCK HEEM UPP!!!! LOL BUT YEA KICK HIS ASS FUCK NEXT TIME U SEE HIM UPPERCUT HIZ ASS

[lagstronaut]

YOU CAN DOOO ITT!!! FUCK HEEM UPP!!!! LOL BUT YEA KICK HIS ASS FUCK NEXT TIME U SEE HIM UPPERCUT HIZ ASS

hahah im not much of a fighter so im gonna like box my buddy a few times, get the hang of some shit, then next time i see him i won't do shit unless he says one word to me, then without warning, FATALITY.

[CUPNOODLES]

LOL...THE TRICK IS TO GET PUMPED BUT 2 KEEP UR COOL....DONT START TWITCHING N STUFF LIKE THAT....BOB AND WEAVE ALOT THO THEN AIM 4 THE CHIN AND HOPE 4 THE BEST...REPEAT UNTIL HES KNOCKED OUT...ITS DEPENDS THO ON WHAT UR TRYING 2 DO IF UR A: TRYING TO KNOCK HIM OUT-AIM 4 THE CHIN AND SLIGHTLY ABOVE HIS EAR OR B: FUCK HIM UP (AS IN MAKE HIM BLEED ALOT AND BRUISE HIM ETC..) THEN GO NUTS AND AIM 4 HIZ MOUTH AND NOSE-THE USUAL...BUT YEA ID RECOMMEND KNOCKING HIM OUT CUZ ITLL MAKE HIM THINK AS APOSED 2 MAKING HIM FEEL BAD ABOUT PEOPLE SAYING U FUCKED HIM UP

[lagstronaut]

hahah yeah i learned from my buddy a long time ago to get pumped. he said recall all your most painful memories before the fight and turn that aggression into adrenaline. if it were up to me, i'd get him once in the nose so he gushes a bit, once in the eye so he wakes up and remembers who i am, and once in the chin so he goes to sleep and i can piss in his mouth. i think i'd probably be askin for it tho if i pissed on him lmao

any other tips would be greatly appreciated!

[imitator]

I liked the curb stomping idea, I think that any time someone is curb stomped, no matter how gruesome or horrible it is, no matter if they deserved it or not, that a little bit of awesome is released at the moment of impact.

Its a scientific theory of mine.

But seriously, I would watch it there. The fact that she told him what you told her, means that things might not be as tight as you might have thought. Doesnt mean she hates you, but even so... a good girlfriend can be a good girlfriend and not tell their bf what everyone says to them. Especially telling the person you warned them about being dangerous about it.

Gotta make sure to play it cool, or else you may find yourself having just fought some dick, and lost the girl you were after.

No amount of advice from any of us is going to be all that great once you are there in the moment. The only thing that matters then is you, and what you feel is best to do. Both with the girl, and with the dick. You never know what is going to happen with either, so just be prepared for anything.

[imitator]

i think i'd probably be askin for it tho if i pissed on him lmao



Yeah, asking for "Best 'degrading action towards a fallen enemy' of the year" award.

Thats just sheer brillance. I mean, how much worse can it get, when you have gotten your ass beat by someone, and you wake up with a mouthful of piss? Imagine if he swallows some of it before realizing what it is?

Or that he doesnt even realize, and you get the joy of telling him. That would be the best possible thing, because no matter how much he denies it, says you are lying or whatnot, he KNOWS in the back of his head, that he drank your piss. And thats what matters most. Thats something that he will live with and likely remember for the rest of his life. :thumbsup:

[lagstronaut]

that's all true. at this point i'm not so much interested in dating her anymore as much as i am making sure she's safe. and i've taken note that she is first and foremost his girlfriend and shit will make its way to him


and yeah lmao the only thing i'm worried about is if i did piss in him he'd probably want to fuck me over HUGE afterwards and if he managed too he'd probably 1-up me by shitting in my mouth or something...that'd be awesome

[CUPNOODLES]

LMAO GOOD 1 IMITATOR...BUT YEA NO DIRESPECT TOWARD YOU LAG BUT THERE RELATIONSHIP SOUNDS LIKE A PIMP/HOE RELATIONSHIP...SHE DOES WUT EVER HE TELLS HER 2 AND SHE HAS NO PROBLEM....O BTW SHE HAS LOW SELF ESTEEM AND SHE PROBABLY NEVER GOT MUCH FATHERLY LOVE WHEN SHE WAS LITTLE..EITHER THAT OR SHE LIKES BEING TREATED LIKE SHIT BUT HOW HES TREATING HER IS 2 MUCH OF WHAT SHE LIKES AND SHES HOPING HE'LL TONE IT DOWN OR SOME SHIT...O AND SHES LIVING IN A FAIRY TALE LAND WHERE SHES HOPING PRINCE CHARMING WILL RESCUE HER

[Nocturnal Stoner]

it's good to see there's decent people out there instead of gash catchers.

btw eat some really hot mexican food and then sneak through his window and take a shit in his mouth, thats what that guy deserves, put the shit that came from his mouth back where it belongs.

[lagstronaut]

LMAO GOOD 1 IMITATOR...BUT YEA NO DIRESPECT TOWARD YOU LAG BUT THERE RELATIONSHIP SOUNDS LIKE A PIMP/HOE RELATIONSHIP...SHE DOES WUT EVER HE TELLS HER 2 AND SHE HAS NO PROBLEM....O BTW SHE HAS LOW SELF ESTEEM AND SHE PROBABLY NEVER GOT MUCH FATHERLY LOVE WHEN SHE WAS LITTLE..EITHER THAT OR SHE LIKES BEING TREATED LIKE SHIT BUT HOW HES TREATING HER IS 2 MUCH OF WHAT SHE LIKES AND SHES HOPING HE'LL TONE IT DOWN OR SOME SHIT...O AND SHES LIVING IN A FAIRY TALE LAND WHERE SHES HOPING PRINCE CHARMING WILL RESCUE HER

I'm not astonished you say that because it's true, I'm astonished you say that because you descriptively broke down everything I learned about her after talking to her today.

She does do whatever he says
She has no problem doing it.
She does have low self-esteem.
She does like the way he treats her.
She does only want him to tone it down a tiny bit.


And that last Prince Charming line is intriguing because she constantly contradicts herself into saying that she knows she shouldn't be in that relationship. Whether I play the part of Prince Charming or not is remained to be seen I guess but I will tell you right now that if I am that Prince, it will be purely by chance because from now on I'm done trying to court her.

[CUPNOODLES]

OK IF THATS THE CASE MY FRIEND DONT EVEN TRY TO GO OUT WITH HER SERIOUSLY CUZ U DONT SEEM THE TYPE OF PERSON 2 BE AN ASSHOLE AND TREAT WOMEN BAD...EVEN IF U 2 DID GO OUT IT WOULDNT WORK OUT BECAUSE SHE'D STILL FEEL THE NEED 2 BE TREATED LIKE SHIT AND YOU CANT/COULDNT BRING YOUR SELF 2 TREAT A WOMAN LIKE THAT(I ASSSUME)AND HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH IT....I SAY GO LOOK FOR ANOTHER GIRL... YOU MIGHT LOVE HER AND SHE MIGHT LOVE YOU BUT SOMETIMES THATS NOT ENOUGH...U 2 ARENT COMPATIABLE...GOD I FEEL LIKE A GODDAMN SHRINK.....

[CUPNOODLES]

SHES THE TYPE OF GIRL 2 STAY WITH SOMEONE SHE LOVES NO MATTER WHAT(UNLESS IT GETS 2 AN EXTREME SITUATION LIKE HE SHOOTS HER)EVEN IF THEY DONT LOVE HER BACK...SHES LIKE AN ALCHOLIC TRYING 2 FILL A GAP IN THERE LIFE AND MEN AND LOVE IS HER BACARDI 151 I WOULD BE GLAD SHE ISNT TRYING 2 FILL THEM WITH DRUGS...SHE IS SUFFERING FROM CHRONIC DEPRESSION AND SHES LOOKING 4 ANYTHING THAT WILL MAKE HER HAPPY..IF YOU LIKE YOU CAN KEEP BEING HER FRIEND BUT I WOULDNT RECOMMEND IT....

[CUPNOODLES]

1: BECAUSE ITS HARD 2 GET OVER HER IF UR STILL HER FRIEND AND 2: AT THE SAME TIME SHE NEEDS A CRUTCH OR NOT SHE MIGHT FALL AND NEVER GET BACK UP..WELL MY FRIEND UR STUCK BETWEEN A ROCK AND A HARD PLACE...STAY HER FRIEND UNTIL SHE A: FINDS SOMEONE ELSE 2 B HER CRUTCH OR B: HER BF TONES IT DOWN AND SHES HAPPY

[CUPNOODLES]

BUT DONT REJECT HER CUZ THATS WHAT SHE LIKES....2 BE HURT

[lagstronaut]

damn you're wise. how old are you man? and are you speaking from experience or are you just good at seeing from other's point of views?

[CUPNOODLES]

ME IM 15

[CUPNOODLES]

:thumbsup:

[Pipe Dreams]

damn you're wise. how old are you man? and are you speaking from experience or are you just good at seeing from other's point of views?


How old you are? Bout 20? Takin advice from a 15 year old. hahahahaha:thumbsup::wtf::D

[CUPNOODLES]

IM JUST SAW WUT THE PROBLEM WUZ THATS ALL....ITZ AMAZING CUZ IM REALLY GOOD AT BEING A SHRINK EVEN THO I HATE THEM AND IM GETTING "FANTASTICS" IN SCHOOL:cool:

[CUPNOODLES]

OH N I JUST KNOW THE MIND STATE OF WHORES SO YEA ITS ALSO FROM EXPERIENCE

[lagstronaut]

How old you are? Bout 20? Takin advice from a 15 year old. hahahahaha:thumbsup::wtf::D

lmao well he's telling me straight up in capital letters with mad confidence a bunch of things that i haven't even told him yet, but he knows. so anything else he says i'm gonna think is pretty good too.

and shut up im 18 hahaha but fuck it my 22 year old buddy comes to me for advice so its like the circle of life...i guess haha

[CUPNOODLES]

O N NOT RELEVANT TO THE TOPIC WUT SO EVER....I JUST DOWNLOADED CIVILIZATION3 ON BITTORRENT AND I DOWNLOADED THEM AS MDF AND MDS FILES.....WUT DO I DO NOW TO PLAY THE GODDAMN GAME...

[CUPNOODLES]

IM LIKE THAT BLACK GUY IN THE MOVIE "WAITING..."

[lagstronaut]

this link might help ya man

BitComet Forums > MDF + MDS file burning (http://forums.bitcomet.com/lofiversion/index.php?t3710.html)

[CUPNOODLES]

I DONT GET IT.....WUT TYPE OF FILE AM I SUPPOSED 2 CONVERT IT 2?? OH AND I HOPE I HELPED YOU WITH YOUR PROBLEM....DO U NEED ANY MORE ADVICE OR QUESTIONS U DONT GET ABOUT HER?

[lagstronaut]

Sorry man I dunno how the fuck to work any of that shit. Try signing up to a Bittorrent message board or somethin

Uhh well I don't really wanna let her go as a friend cause even thru all this shit she's actually been pretty cool about it and I feel confident I could pull off just being friends with her. She's a good person, and you don't meet too many good people nowadays, so it's tough when you're faced with the proposition of having to just say peace out to them. I dunno really, I'd like to see how she reacts to a possible fight occurring before I pass judgement on her quite yet. She probably knows he has contacted me (might not though because he messaged me while she was at work), so I'm just gonna play this thing laissez faire. Whatever happens , happens. I'm not putting any effort into this shitmovie, but all of the shitactors are still on stage so it'll be interesting to see how the shitcurtain closes

[CUPNOODLES]

WELL I WOULD SUGGEST U TRY TO KEEP YOUR DISTANCE IF THATS THE CASE CUZ WUT WILL HAPPEN IF U GET UR ASS KICKED OR IF U 2 GET IN A FIGHT IS ULL BLAME HER AND THEN ULL HATE HER AND WELL HATE AND LOVE DONT MIX TOO GOOD AND ITLL B A BIG TWISTER FILLED WITH EMOTIONS AND TRUST ME IT AINT GONNA B PRETTY....BUT SERIOUSLY TRY 2 GET HER 2 FIND ANOTHER "CRUTCH" OR GET HER 2 C A SHRINK CUZ 1:UR NOT HER BOYFRIEND AND 2:THAT WAY U CULD STILL BE FRIENDS AND U WONT FEEL LIKE SHES RUNNING 2 U FOR PROBLEMS AND U WONT FIND ITS YOUR RESPONSIBLILTY 2 HELP HER ALL THE TIME AND EVENTUALLY SHE'LL REALIZE THAT SHE NEEDS SOME ALONE TIME 2 FIGURE OUT WHO SHE IS AND IF SHE REALLY DOES ENJOY BEING TREATED LIKE SHIT AND WHEN SHE DOES HEY MAYBE JUST MAYBE IF SHE HASNT MET ANOTHER GUY SHE'LL FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU BUT ITLL B 2 LATE BECUZ BY THE TIME SHE DOES REALIZE WUT SHE WANTS ULL B OVER HER AND THEN BACK 2 PHASE 1 WITH THE BOYFRIENDS BEATING HER UP...OR SHE COULD JUST BECOME THE BEST FRIEND UVE EVER HAD AND VICE VERSA..SO IN OTHER WORDS IF YOU TRULY TRULY TRULY WANT TO BE MORE THAN JUST FRIENDS STAY CLOSE BUT NOT 2 CLOSE 2 WERE ULL GET BADLY HURT IF SHE DOESNT FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU BUT JUST CLOSE ENOUGH 2 REKINDLE THE FIRE...DO U C WHAT IM TRYING 2 SAY??

[lagstronaut]

WELL I WOULD SUGGEST U TRY TO KEEP YOUR DISTANCE IF THATS THE CASE CUZ WUT WILL HAPPEN IF U GET UR ASS KICKED OR IF U 2 GET IN A FIGHT IS ULL BLAME HER AND THEN ULL HATE HER AND WELL HATE AND LOVE DONT MIX TOO GOOD AND ITLL B A BIG TWISTER FILLED WITH EMOTIONS AND TRUST ME IT AINT GONNA B PRETTY....BUT SERIOUSLY TRY 2 GET HER 2 FIND ANOTHER "CRUTCH" OR GET HER 2 C A SHRINK CUZ 1:UR NOT HER BOYFRIEND AND 2:THAT WAY U CULD STILL BE FRIENDS AND U WONT FEEL LIKE SHES RUNNING 2 U FOR PROBLEMS AND U WONT FIND ITS YOUR RESPONSIBLILTY 2 HELP HER ALL THE TIME AND EVENTUALLY SHE'LL REALIZE THAT SHE NEEDS SOME ALONE TIME 2 FIGURE OUT WHO SHE IS AND IF SHE REALLY DOES ENJOY BEING TREATED LIKE SHIT AND WHEN SHE DOES HEY MAYBE JUST MAYBE IF SHE HASNT MET ANOTHER GUY SHE'LL FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU BUT ITLL B 2 LATE BECUZ BY THE TIME SHE DOES REALIZE WUT SHE WANTS ULL B OVER HER AND THEN BACK 2 PHASE 1 WITH THE BOYFRIENDS BEATING HER UP...OR SHE COULD JUST BECOME THE BEST FRIEND UVE EVER HAD AND VICE VERSA..SO IN OTHER WORDS IF YOU TRULY TRULY TRULY WANT TO BE MORE THAN JUST FRIENDS STAY CLOSE BUT NOT 2 CLOSE 2 WERE ULL GET BADLY HURT IF SHE DOESNT FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU BUT JUST CLOSE ENOUGH 2 REKINDLE THE FIRE...DO U C WHAT IM TRYING 2 SAY??

hahah i do. we were just textin back and forth for a bit and she's tellin me he's all talk, wont do shit, blah blah. oh well, i see her more as a buddy now anyway, I don't want someone who could embrace such a douchebag like him

[CUPNOODLES]

RIGHT ON THATS WUT U GOTTA DO....BUT DID U ASK HER Y SHE HAD 2 B A BITCH AND TELL HIM

[lagstronaut]

she says that he read the convo when he came over and she was getting ready. apparently she left it open, so whatever, i believe her.

this is what he had to say to me after my reply to him a while ago:

"your a faggot end of story."

so i said:

"end of story? you tell me to shut my mouth, i refuse, and now the story is over? okay there nancy"



i told her what i said to him and she laughed so hard. she knows hes a pussy

[FreshNugz]

Bottom line is that she must realize for herself. If he does these things to her...but she still loves him...there is nobody in the world that will convince her but HER. Trust me.
When she does see it, then make your move. Until then, just be her friend.

[CUPNOODLES]

LOL YUP STOP BEING THE VICTIM THO IF U WANNA SHUT HIM UP...HES ALL TALK STEP UP 2 HIM...NEXT TIME HE SAYS SOMETHING BAD MAKE FUN OF HIM....DONT OUT SMART HIM...MAKE FUN OF HIM AND WHEN HES PISSED TELL HIM "WUT?? U MAD? WUT U GON DO BOUT? CRY? ***** FUCK U DO SOMETHING!!" MAKE SURE U SAY IT IN HIS FACE THO AND IF HE IS A BITCH THEN HELL BACK DOWN BUT IF HES NOT...THEN MY FRIEND UVE GOT A FIGHT ON UR HAND BUT IF SHE SAYS HES A BITCH THEN TAKE HER WORD HE PROBABLY IS

[lagstronaut]

heres her text to me today

"you comin tonite still? i am. dont say nuthin to beau and nuthin will happen"

so i'm guessing he IS a bit of a bitch, but if i push his buttons enough he'll snap. oh well, i'll be drunk and on shrooms, i say bring it :D

[Pipe Dreams]

heres her text to me today

"you comin tonite still? i am. dont say nuthin to beau and nuthin will happen"

so i'm guessing he IS a bit of a bitch, but if i push his buttons enough he'll snap. oh well, i'll be drunk and on shrooms, i say bring it :D

Throw down if the time comes around.

[CUPNOODLES]

OH YEA IF UR DRUNK UR BOUND 2 GET FUCKED UP....DONT DRINK 2 THE POINT WERE U ALMOST CANT WALK OR U CANT WALK IN A STRAIT LINE BUT DRINK TILL U R STARTING 2 LOSE UR SENSE OF PAIN BUT DONT OVER DO IT....BUT YEA GO 4 IT "U GOTTA TAKE LIFE BY THE BALLS" AND U DEF. GOTTA TAKE THIS LITTLE BITCH BY THE BALLS AND TEACH THE FUCKER WHO HEZ FUCKING WITH

[CUPNOODLES]

BTW HOW UR GAME ON THE FLOOR? LIKE CAN U FIGHT ON THE FLOOR?

[CUPNOODLES]

4 SOME REASON I FEEL LIKE IM LEADING U 2 AN ASSWHOOPING:D..... GOD I HOPE U CAN FIGHT IF UR GONA LISTEN 2 MY ADVICE....

[lagstronaut]

hahah i CAN'T fight...well i shouldn't say that...i HAVEN'T fought in the last 2 years.

but either way that bitch didn't even show. when she said he was coming all i replied with was ":)" so I think he's fuckin scared hahah

[idnav]

To be honest I don't expect miraculous advice here and I'm bracing myself for generic comments telling me to beat his ass in or sit her down and tell her how I feel. I guess 80% of this post is me venting and 20% is me reaching out for advice.

[/I]

You know whats right for you, do it.

[Breukelen advocaat]

This girl is bad news. She loves the idea that men are willing to fight for her, and is orchestrating a little tragic comedy for her own ego, amusement and erotic pleasure. She gets off on this shit, and don't think for one minute that she doesn't.

Forget her and find somebody that is mature, sane, and unattached.

[CUPNOODLES]

YEA I SAY U FUCK HER AND THATS IT...SERIOUSLY JUST FUCK HER AND FORGET HER CUZ ADVOCAAT DOES HAVE A POINT....SHE DOES SEEM 2 LOVE ATTENTION WETHER ITS GOOD ATTENTION OR BAD...

[CUPNOODLES]

LOL SHE WAS 1 HUG SHORT OF GROWING UP TO BE A GOOD PERSON:thumbsup:

[GraziLovesMary]

id grab that asshole by the throat and tell him to leave her or id break his kneecaps with a hammer.

i cant stand guys who treat women badly... and i especially cant stand guys who hit women.. it just gets me really pissed off.

so personally i think you should beat him. (obviously u shouldn't do that if u want the girl though) but i do think you need to warn him about hittin her at least.

I stopped reading the rest of the posts when I got here because this is pretty much what I was gonna say. I can hold my temper through almost anything.. but when I personally witness a dude hitting any female, my consciousness gets ripped outside of my body, and I think to myself "uh oh.." as I watch myself get up, walk over to the dude and proceed to mechanically and methodically destroy this persons entire body with the aim of keeping him alive as long as possible while breaking as many bones in his body as possible and just... well fortunately I pretty much always get pulled off before lethal damage is done but the girl he hit has pretty much gotta be the one to do it. A females touch is different from a dudes touch.. a dude touching me at that point is only going to bring him pain and sadness.. but a females touch brings my consciousness and control crashing back into my body and I can stop. Thank god for women or I would be one completely feral, animalistic motherfucker.

But yeah dude its ok, not everybody is like that. The important thing is that you sincerely care about her and are good for her in every way hes bad. Listen to exactly what Storm Crow said, shes always right. You dont have to beat is ass if you dont want to, or if you dont feel like you can, because like Granny said, she will understand eventually. However, if you are confident you could beat this dudes ass, and he still hits her... then you are obligated to beat his ass. Or at least do something.


EDIT:: Well... perhaps I should have continued reading into the story a bit more before giving advice, but that doesnt change the fact that I would still kill any dude I ever saw hit his woman or any woman.

[idnav]

This girl is bad news. She loves the idea that men are willing to fight for her, and is orchestrating a little tragic comedy for her own ego, amusement and erotic pleasure. She gets off on this shit, and don't think for one minute that she doesn't.

Forget her and find somebody that is mature, sane, and unattached.

yes

[5016169]

You're just asking for trouble if you go for this type of girl. Move along, plenty of chicks out there.

[Quincyboy]

death solves all problems; no man, no problem