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baisez le monde.
07-24-2007, 10:46 PM
I just don't understand why I can't find a man who will actually treat me right. When I'm in a relationship, I'm so goddamn ridiculously gracious and considerate and loving and caring and selfless and what the fuck do I get in return??? Zero appreciation, cheating, abuse, TYPICAL GUY BULL-FUCKING-SHIT. Ohh and don't get me started on all the damn double standards you motherfuckers have. You want to keep our asses on a leash but when we call YOU out on something, we're being controlling, we're not letting you have friends, we're not trusting you like we supposedly should be. Fuck men, I swear. I give all I have and I just end up getting fucked in the fucking ass. All a woman wants is respect, recognition, and honesty. IS THAT SO MUCH TO ASK FOR?

Obviously it is.

cannabis=freedom
07-24-2007, 10:50 PM
Fuck women.

Now watch me get labeled a sexist.

Speaking of double standards....

Sorry: in all seriousness, yeah I know that sucks, and I feel for you. You must not be meeting the right kind of guy, and I know they can be hard to find....a lot of them can be absolute asses. Keep looking, love.

Spoken Word
07-24-2007, 10:56 PM
General statements are a little shakey cause not everyone is the same, but I know what you mean..i could rant about the female way but we need each other anyway so what the heck....it's always going to be a love, hate relationship.

but don't worry...You'll be fine. There are plenty of men out there and most of us were raised right, we just need to grow up. We are a lot simpler than you females. But it takes some time for us to get right. lol
you all are far from perfect.. and you strive for equality when, in my opinion, you are waaay more superior. generally speaking.

Its a Plant
07-24-2007, 10:58 PM
I'm so goddamn ridiculously gracious and considerate and loving and caring and selfless and what the fuck do I get in return??? Zero appreciation, cheating, abuse, TYPICAL GUY BULL-FUCKING-SHIT.
Hmmm..well any dude that fucks a bull needs some serious help...

Na but really, just keep yer head up and move on with whatever your dealing with. Maybe don't put yourself out there too far until you HONESTLY know you can trust him, OR if you're having troubles trusting yourself, take some time to get to know yourself...I dunno I'm trying to help lol but that's all I gots.

Cast your line out again, I swear not every fish is a piranha. ;)

baisez le monde.
07-24-2007, 10:58 PM
Go ahead and say 'fuck women'.. shit I agree with that too, some women can be just as vindictive and scandalous as any man out there. But it's nearly impossible to find a man out there who doesn't think solely with his fucking dick.

baisez le monde.
07-24-2007, 11:00 PM
Hmmm..well any dude that fucks a bull needs some serious help...

Na but really, just keep yer head up and move on with whatever your dealing with. Maybe don't put yourself out there too far until you HONESTLY know you can trust him, OR if you're having troubles trusting yourself, take some time to get to know yourself...I dunno I'm trying to help lol but that's all I gots.

Cast your line out again, I swear not every fish is a piranha. ;)

Ahh I'm better now, you always cheer me up.

Now to completely numb the pain... :bong:

BabyFacedAbortion
07-24-2007, 11:11 PM
babydoll, I know what you mean..trust me! I've been through it all and back and still sorta am. It gets easier, but then it gets tougher..but then it gets easier. Lol, see the cycle? That's how it'll be until you find "that guy"..you know? Guys suck, for the most part..but eventually you'll find that rare specimen that doesn't completely suck and who will treat you with the respect and love you deserve..and you DO deserve it. You're young, and so are the guys you're dating (whether they be mentally immature or just immature due to age)..as you get older these boys will turn into men and realize they can't live life without a good women..and you'll be that women for some very lucky dude. am i making sense? just keep your chin up and don't give up completely but don't put up with their shit either 'cause you deserve a good MAN.

friendowl
07-24-2007, 11:13 PM
i think with my lungs not my dick anymore
lets go hiking
fuck everything else

baisez le monde.
07-24-2007, 11:20 PM
You're a sweetheart BabyFace, thank you. Reassurance really helps. It just really feels like I'm never gonna find a mature man, they seem so non-existent. But I know it's not time to give up hope just yet.


I could use a good hike right now... there's nothing like invigorating exercise to get some stress out. Damn it someone take me hiking!

Blindman0v0
07-24-2007, 11:33 PM
Just do like I did.Get a dog!!

cannabis campbell
07-24-2007, 11:44 PM
Well not all men are the same (how you described) but most are well especially at the age of 16 - 20 ish then most of them start to mature, I think that maybe it might be because you show all the men you have been with that your basically soft, remember to play hard to get to make your man want you more, if you simply just give him all the love and affection and sex as soon as you get with him then hes just gonna think, ok mission over.

But obviously i could be wrong it could be the sort of guys you go for, think about it what type of guys do you go for do they all act or dress the same way? How old are the guys you normally go for? because it could have something to do with that

Well apart from that all i can say is theres definately someone out there for everybody, and you will find mr. right out there one day everyone always does, You have to go through some bastards, people you dont like to get to the one you love, plenty more fish in the sea, Dont give up searching Baisez x :).

Justinrg
07-24-2007, 11:51 PM
impossible to find a man out there who doesn't think solely with his fucking dick.

At least you get it, no man in the world wants women for love its all about how fast you can get them into bed. Any man that says that's a lie, is a fucking lair. And the sooner you find this out the sooner you will be happy. Stop spending all this time to find the perfect guy because in the end your going to get fucked over because hell all I want is pussy and I get laid and girls have to understand relationships are not desired and men are only after one thing. Life is about fun, and living life to the fullest not crying over some dick.

Learn to play the game and get some dick. :thumbsup:

cannabis campbell
07-24-2007, 11:53 PM
Haha grow up.

Breukelen advocaat
07-25-2007, 12:10 AM
There's two sides to this.


Today's women want equal pay, and also want guys that make more than they do.

They want guys that treat them nice, but who are extremely aggressive in their careers and dealings in other areas.

They want "sensitivity", but not too much or they won't respect him.

I could go on.



Despite what the feminist leaders say, you can't "have it all". Women, and men, have to make compromises. No exceptions.


I was single in the 60's, 70's, 80's and half of the nineties. I took very little bullshit, and would not settle for anyone that was wrong. I'm glad I waited.

Guys who put up with too much are contributing to the raw deal most American men are getting. ARE YOU ONE OF THEM?

birdgirl73
07-25-2007, 12:36 AM
Baissez, I'm sorry you're feeling like you're getting a raw deal, but it's true that this goes two ways--that women and men both can give others the shaft. It ain't a one-way street and it's important to me that we don't do man-bashing here just like we don't do women-bashing, either.

The last thing in the world that women or men alike often want to hear who're hooking up with partners who treat them badly--and it's the first question anyone who works with spouses/partners for whom this is a chronic, oingoing problem is compelled to ask, too--is "Who's making the choices to hook up with these folks?"

Sorry, I've worked for too many years in a crisis center not to know that's a dysfunctional tango that takes one person on one end to treat the other badly and, before that, a person who makes the choice to hook up with someone who'll treat him/her badly in the first place. When you can start looking at the initial choices you yourself make in that dance, that's when you'll be at the first step of being able to change the way that plays out in future relationships.

Oh My High
07-25-2007, 12:37 AM
I just don't understand why I can't find a man who will actually treat me right. When I'm in a relationship, I'm so goddamn ridiculously gracious and considerate and loving and caring and selfless and what the fuck do I get in return??? Zero appreciation, cheating, abuse, TYPICAL GUY BULL-FUCKING-SHIT.
Allow me to quote from the infinite wisdom of my favorite comedian, Adam Carolla, who is a genius (and saves me from typing):

ADAM: Not all guys are dogs. About 30% of guys are dogs; you just happen to hook up with those guys. A lot of you ladies--as a matter of fact, coincidentally, the ones who claim all guys are dogs--are NOT interested in the non-dog guys. I mean, letâ??s face it: guys are horny. I'm not saying they're not. But, just sort of picture the guys at your work, the guys you know, the guys you're friends with. The majority of them are sort of normal guys, good guys who would be happy to meet somebody that they were attracted to and commit to a relationship, treat women right. Women--not so interested in that dude. And, until you get interested in that dude, there's gonna be trouble.

higher4hockey
07-25-2007, 12:38 AM
all im gonna say about that is "if you act like a doormat, don't be surprised when people walk all over you."

Blindman0v0
07-25-2007, 12:43 AM
I can't believe that you think all men are interested in is sex!!lol
Grow some weed and then men will like you for your bud too.

TallCoolOne
07-25-2007, 01:16 AM
Maybe you should switch teams. Wink wink, nudge nudge, say no more!

ProGroWannabe
07-25-2007, 01:19 AM
We could debate this forever, but the fact is "piece of shit syndrome" knows no gender. The world is a wonderful place, its the people in it, that often suck!

MadSativa
07-25-2007, 01:23 AM
I just don't understand why I can't find a man who will actually treat me right. When I'm in a relationship, I'm so goddamn ridiculously gracious and considerate and loving and caring and selfless and what the fuck do I get in return??? Zero appreciation, cheating, abuse, TYPICAL GUY BULL-FUCKING-SHIT. Ohh and don't get me started on all the damn double standards you motherfuckers have. You want to keep our asses on a leash but when we call YOU out on something, we're being controlling, we're not letting you have friends, we're not trusting you like we supposedly should be. Fuck men, I swear. I give all I have and I just end up getting fucked in the fucking ass. All a woman wants is respect, recognition, and honesty. IS THAT SO MUCH TO ASK FOR?

Obviously it is.

Damn sorry your havin such a good time hope it works out but now that I got you on your thread I wanted to ask. Are you a porn star cause some one was sayin you were and Id like to catch that flick. I realy do hope your boy troubles work out a girl like you should not have the asshole problems, you seem nice, hot, and sweet.

pwnydanzasmokesdank
07-25-2007, 01:30 AM
are you really from el salvador?

TallCoolOne
07-25-2007, 01:34 AM
are you really from el salvador?

I wondered that as well, cause i saw Salvador, the James Wood movie that Oliver Stone helmed, and i was scared shitless by South America for years.

Raskolnikov
07-25-2007, 01:38 AM
The opposite sex.

Can't live with 'em, can't shoot 'em.

crudemood
07-25-2007, 03:17 AM
I can't say a lot of guys are like that, though I have found alot of them are asswipes in everything they do and say. If something turns rotten for me, I toss them out and thats that.

happiestmferoutthere
07-25-2007, 04:43 AM
Just remember what makes great guys so wonderful is they are few and far between. If all guys were like that the great ones wouldn't be so special. Does that make sense?
There are really great guys out there. The jackholes are just practice for the real thing! They make you stronger by realizing what actions you wont tolerate in future relationships.
Reminds me of the saying " You've got to kiss a lot of toads before you find your handsome prince!" It is very true.
Sorry its not a lot of help,just my 2 cents. Hang in there girl! It does get better!

baisez le monde.
07-25-2007, 09:55 AM
are you really from el salvador?



No vivo en El Salvador pero soy Salvadorena. Half at least.


And sorry for the assholey rant everyone. I've met a few truly good guys, for sure, but right now it just feels like I'm stuck in a damn doghouse. And whoever said something about accepting the "thinking with their dicks" fact and just getting some dick myself, that's what I've been doing. I must say sex is rather comforting. :D

420MissHighTimes420
07-25-2007, 02:55 PM
I can't believe that you think all men are interested in is sex!!lol
Grow some weed and then men will like you for your bud too.

sometimes i worry thats the only reason my bf is w. me ... i will have sex everyday and i also always have the best bud to smoke him up on. does he ever buy weed anymore? noooo
bastard

LuckyG
07-25-2007, 10:52 PM
Just do like I did.Get a dog!!

Blindman0v0 speaks the truth. Dogs are great - they live to please you. Just don't make a mistake and get a cat, thinking it's the same thing. It's not. :mad:

The problem I have is that I meet great girls that I'm actually attracted to (and that means I like their personality - I'm rarely into a girl because of physical attraction) and they end up being already in an okay-or-better long-term relationship. It's like a god-damned carrot-on-a-stick relay race - I always want what I can't have.

And please, no smartasses saying "If they're not married it's open season!" I don't roll that way.

JD1stTimer
07-26-2007, 09:21 AM
Lucky G, I have the same problem, and they are the ones who usually act as though they wouldn't mind a piece of me if they weren't already committed. The other women I like are the ones who either go for the same asshole in different bodies (Yeah, that's actually what turns them on even though they gripe about it), or to the actual same guy over and over again.
That Corrolla quote describes me pretty well... women just aren't attracted to me unless they have come to the self-realization of what that pattern really is, which most often means that they already met the right one or they are older than me... for some reason that's a cultural barrier I have trouble getting past.. I'm not into the whole cougar thing. :(

O. G. ganja smoker
07-26-2007, 09:39 AM
girls = viciousness

GraziLovesMary
07-26-2007, 02:45 PM
Yeah.. finding the right relationship can be a bitch. I met a girl that I REALLY liked, which surprised me because I wasnt even looking after my last girlfriend cheated on me. Anyways we started hanging out and talking.. I had never met anybody so perfect for me. Then she went back to her ex boyfriend and stopped calling me right before I moved halfway across the U.S. to live near her. Fuggit.. thats how shit rolls. I know god damn well that Im a good man, and an excellent catch relationship-wise. The only problem is.. Im not sure how many more times I can put myself on the line and trust another human being. The only person I am ever vulnerable to in any way is any female who is my significant other. As long as I dont have one, I am invulnerable. Might as well keep it like that. Maybe Ill get lucky and get drafted to Iraq :D that'll take the decision right the fuck out my hands!

Jizzle Blizzle420
07-26-2007, 06:23 PM
sometimes i worry thats the only reason my bf is w. me ... i will have sex everyday and i also always have the best bud to smoke him up on. does he ever buy weed anymore? noooo
bastard

From what Ive just read it seems to me that you are perfect lol. Just kidding. Tell him to start buying the bud or no more hanky panky.

Justinrg
07-26-2007, 07:15 PM
You sound like me ranting about my ex xP
Trust me, you will find a guy who appreciates you, and it'll be the best feeling ever =]

Just what I am saying.

slipknotpsycho
07-26-2007, 07:21 PM
i just have to ask... have you ever turned down a guy because he isn't 'hot'?

i've seen so many great men who know how to treat a woman right, but they get turned down simply because they don't fall into 'omg he's hot' catagorey...

also how long do you know said guys before dating them? alot of guys will act one way just to get with you, then they change to their real selves.... unless the guys pathetic if you've known them for years and he seems nice, he probably is.... the only real rememdy to the guys just trying to get in your pants is the waiting game... most fo the time if you wait long enough, they'll give up and move on to someone else...

palerider7777
07-26-2007, 08:11 PM
well most of the time the (good guy that will love and take care of his woman)is right there in front of them. and they always seem to look past him on to the model looking (hot guy).u know the one that is the way she speaks above^^. or the jock or what ever but the one that is the best friend the one that help the girl out all the time the one that sees the girl for who she is the one thats mad about the girls. are the ones that get pushed to the side cause there not cool enough or hot enough for the girl..at the moment.

so the girl gets with the hot jock sweet talking guys the ones that are the lazy bum wife beatin type. and then the girl wonders why?why is it not working? and by the time the girl understands life and has grown up it's most of the time to late. well not to late but shes not pure anymore thats for sure. not that anyone is these days. but if two people really fell in love would u not want the other to be as pure as they should be.

u know what i mean then she goes looking for the guy she passed by long ago. for safety and all the things she needs well more or less settling for the guy.and when a guy gets his heart broken really good then he's never really the same as he once was. and the way he looks at love.and 9 time outta 10 the guy starts out good faithful loving honest and when that happens sum of that goes out the window.so bottom line girls quit picking losers and then bitchin about it and most of the time u know when a guy is a big douche bag. and yet u still try to be with him in hopes u can (change him).well that never is the case now is it.and u can't change anybody they have to want it themselfs so...

Gandalf_The_Grey
07-26-2007, 09:28 PM
At least you get it, no man in the world wants women for love its all about how fast you can get them into bed. Any man that says that's a lie, is a fucking lair.

In that case I must not live in this world. Maybe that's how men act in your area, maybe that's how most guys act in general, but I'm 22 years old and a virgin because the only opportunities I've had for sex were shallow girls looking for a quick fuck. And right now I've found the girl of my dreams, going to ask her out this weekend, and after knowing her for 2 years I never tried to get into her pants, nor do I want to be with her because I'm craving a good boffing. I want her, quite simply, because she has the most wonderful personality in the world and understands me.

slipknotpsycho
07-26-2007, 10:28 PM
In that case I must not live in this world. Maybe that's how men act in your area, maybe that's how most guys act in general, but I'm 22 years old and a virgin because the only opportunities I've had for sex were shallow girls looking for a quick fuck. And right now I've found the girl of my dreams, going to ask her out this weekend, and after knowing her for 2 years I never tried to get into her pants, nor do I want to be with her because I'm craving a good boffing. I want her, quite simply, because she has the most wonderful personality in the world and understands me.

yeah i married my wife and have stayed with her for nearly 4 years now because i wanted to get her in bed and not cuz i loved her.... :p

JD1stTimer
07-27-2007, 03:03 AM
Slipknot, Palerider, Gandalf, props to you guys I'm in the same boat. Come on ladies, look at who you pick for relationship material. Guys like us are getting shafted, but our shaft isn't getting anything. lol. Sorry I'm smashed out of my mind. But seriously, COME ON (BTW, there are plenty of girls that I would be interested in even if they're not hot or whatever, but even they are looking for rich models that ride bikes or whatever who are assholes... just look for that guy who you think "Yeah, but he's just a good friend and romance would kill the friendship." There's the pot of gold hon. Seriously.

Justinrg
07-27-2007, 03:16 AM
In that case I must not live in this world. Maybe that's how men act in your area, maybe that's how most guys act in general, but I'm 22 years old and a virgin because the only opportunities I've had for sex were shallow girls looking for a quick fuck. And right now I've found the girl of my dreams, going to ask her out this weekend, and after knowing her for 2 years I never tried to get into her pants, nor do I want to be with her because I'm craving a good boffing. I want her, quite simply, because she has the most wonderful personality in the world and understands me.

Glad it works for you, just wait until you realize your with her for the rest of your life, or what if your not sexually compatible? Props on it working for you but for about 95% of males it doesn't. Call it shallow, childish, and living in high school but it is embedded in the male brain to reproduce and have many sexual partners for the growth of the species. Learn human nature buddy.

palerider7777
07-27-2007, 03:33 AM
i used to think like gandalf, and it got me no where and with no pussy and fast. lol i met this girl that lived close to my cuz and i fell in love with here. and i was 12 and i did everything i could think of to get her attention. and she would'nt even respond. i mean i didn't do crazy shit or nothin but i'd write her love letters and slip them into her locker.. and mail her cards and stuff like
that.

and she hung out with people like me not like she was some great thing but she was to me. and i kept that up ti'll i was 20. i never dated anyone and yes i was a virgin. and never had a girl friend i mean i had girls askin me out alot of them. cause i did hang around sum fine girls but i was (in my mind anyways lol)saving myself for this girl.

so when i was around 16 i had saved my money and my dad and i went to colorado and i bought sum land up in the mountains. and was gonna stay there but i fucked up and moved back to where i was cause i thought i'd have a chance with her. and when i got back she was with this loser of a guy. and she looked rough lmao and i was like fuck i wasted my whole life waiting on this girl for nothing....then i went out and found sum pussy....it was good...i like...lmao

Pipe Dreams
07-27-2007, 06:52 AM
I just wanna say, most of you girls are alike. You all go for the total low life asshole guys, but the good guys, the ones who will treat you right are usually sitting there with you listening to you vent about this type of shit in real life, listening to everything you say. Look around.

KingsBlend420
07-27-2007, 10:27 AM
Not all guys are like that obviously, but that sucks. You'll find the right guy soon enough, just keep looking.

baisez le monde.
07-27-2007, 10:32 AM
Another problem is I keep giving the same ones chance after chance... I'm a sucker for a sweettalker/asshole.

KingsBlend420
07-27-2007, 10:41 AM
You should just ignore them completely after you break up with them, with time you'll forget all about them, especially if they're huge assholes which is what it sounds like.

Ganj
07-27-2007, 02:29 PM
Another problem is I keep giving the same ones chance after chance... I'm a sucker for a sweettalker/asshole.


A man who treats you nicely, while also being an asshole? That's me alright. Some of that stuff is funny though, and just all in good humor. You should have known what you were getting into with me. Perhaps I am a typical guy? I could accept that, because only when I do so can I begin to learn and grow from it. Not only do I want another chance, Kayla, but I need another chance. I'm throwing myself at you and all you do is doubt me. Let me show you that I can love unconditionally. The weather wont always be sunshine, but at least we can be for eachother's sake.

Ganj
07-27-2007, 02:41 PM
Another problem is I keep giving the same ones chance after chance... I'm a sucker for a sweettalker/asshole.

It's me she's talking about! Someone around here is bound to know of a few good qualities I possess, along with a few unwelcome ones that I don't.

GraziLovesMary
07-27-2007, 02:47 PM
Glad it works for you, just wait until you realize your with her for the rest of your life, or what if your not sexually compatible? Props on it working for you but for about 95% of males it doesn't. Call it shallow, childish, and living in high school but it is embedded in the male brain to reproduce and have many sexual partners for the growth of the species. Learn human nature buddy.

I dont really know how old you are, but I would guess youre still in High School. If youre gonna be so bold as to speak for 95% of the male population, go ahead and add some references to back your statistical data up.

Learn human nature? From what Ive gathered of Gandalf after reading many of his posts, he has quite the dynamic and intuitive grasp on the nature of the human being.. its habits, thought processes, and psychological traits. While you on the other hand seem to think that 95% of the male population on this planet think exactly like you.

Now who needs to learn what?

GraziLovesMary
07-27-2007, 02:49 PM
It's me she's talking about! Someone around here is bound to know of a few good qualities I possess, along with a few unwelcome ones that I don't.

I know you want to be built like a ninja lol :p but nah from what Ive read of your posts and all, I think youre a good dude. All men can be assholes, in the same way that all women have quite the ability to be a bitch from time to time (or more often, depending..).

That being said, I really dont know much at all about the relationship, but I dont think you fall into the asshole/jock/mindless POS category at all.

Hilder420
07-27-2007, 05:33 PM
girl ALL u need is a fuck buddy, a good dog and a fat bag o weed. has worked for me for years.

mseerob
07-27-2007, 05:35 PM
I am nice a nice guy but Im telling the truth as it is and expressing how I feel. If you wish to call me an asshole then go ahead. I'd rather be an asshole and not be taking advantage of then to be a really nice guy and having them walking all over me. And truthfully I am kinda getting sick of being a nice person. Sometimes I wish I was an asshole.

Some girls are great!!! Fun to talk too and being around, respectful and always helping you out with any problems that you have BUT those are the rarest girls I ever see. I run into more bitches than the kind hearted and I believe thats not cool.

NOW.... with the topic that baisez le monde posted, yes some men are assholes too. I know of many that would hurt there gf's feelings by cheating on them. Fucking them and saying bye bye while that girl is willing to be in a serious relationship. Thats what gets me so angry because the ones that are assholes get the girls and the ones that are really nice and careful end up getting rejected and feeling hurt.

LuckyG
07-27-2007, 09:55 PM
I'm still sticking to my tried-and-true method of being a nice guy and having a clean conscience so I can sleep at night, even if it doesn't get me any sack action.

blackbarbie
07-28-2007, 01:04 AM
it's funny to me how most of the guys are saying that most girls choose assholes. like we do it on purpose LOL.

i can only speak for myself, but i've never purposefully gone after a guy who treated me like shit. but some guys are like wolves in sheep's clothing. they'll make you think he's the most perfect guy on earth and then turn around and fuck you over like it's nothing.

like what happened to me: the last guy i made the mistake of dealing with was honestly, let's just say...not very attractive and people would always be like, "why are you with him you could do better..." but i didn't care b/c i thought he was one of the good ones and i became attracted to him through his personality. little did i know that he was faking the whole nice guy act b/c he thought it would get me in bed. it didn't (i play the waiting game too!) so he ended up doing a complete 180 and turned into this asshole and talking shit about me all the time just because he didn't get what he wanted.

all i'm saying is, if half these dudes showed their true colors from the beginning, they wouldnt be getting anywhere. they do the old bait-and-switch and by that time the girl is probably already madly in love with him when he shows her what he's really like.

so because of that bad experience should i change my whole personality and become a "bad girl" so i'll never experience that again or chalk it up to another life lesson and move on, knowing that people get what they deserve in the end?

Ganj
07-28-2007, 01:12 AM
it's funny to me how most of the guys are saying that most girls choose assholes. like we do it on purpose LOL.

i can only speak for myself, but i've never purposefully gone after a guy who treated me like shit. but some guys are like wolves in sheep's clothing. they'll make you think he's the most perfect guy on earth and then turn around and fuck you over like it's nothing.

like what happened to me: the last guy i made the mistake of dealing with was honestly, let's just say...not very attractive and people would always be like, "why are you with him you could do better..." but i didn't care b/c i thought he was one of the good ones and i became attracted to him through his personality. little did i know that he was faking the whole nice guy act b/c he thought it would get me in bed. it didn't (i play the waiting game too!) so he ended up doing a complete 180 and turned into this asshole and talking shit about me all the time just because he didn't get what he wanted.

all i'm saying is, if half these dudes showed their true colors from the beginning, they wouldnt be getting anywhere. they do the old bait-and-switch and by that time the girl is probably already madly in love with him when he shows her what he's really like.

so because of that bad experience should i change my whole personality and become a "bad girl" so i'll never experience that again or chalk it up to another life lesson and move on, knowing that people get what they deserve in the end?

Why do men pull that whole "bait and switch?" Could it be that women rely on sex so much that they sort of drop out of the entire relationship, and think to themselves, "he only wants sex?" It's probable. You ladies say it all the time, maybe you all just started believing it? I'm not going to keep a woman around just for sex. You fall in love with a guy by what he does, either for you or general behavior (personality). I make an effort to be as sweet, caring, and nurturing, because my love deserves that. I couldn't see my love turning sour. I wouldn't let my thoughts take hold of my passion to impress with forever love.

Ganj
07-30-2007, 09:38 AM
Douchebagness - noun - 1. someone who cheats and expects no consequences; an asshole or liar

birdgirl73
07-30-2007, 04:29 PM
Folks, I had to do some cleanup up above. We had a post that communicated some expressions of violence, and that won't fly no matter who those expressions are directed at, men or women.

Easy on the sweeping generalizations, those of you who've made those or had those in your posts that were deleted. Anyone with sense knows that one gender or another isn't all bad or all good. Individual people come in all types. Please make sure you acknowledge that fact and avoid posting "screw all XXs/YYs" type of sentiment.

I will now let this thread proceed, although I confess I'm beginning to have reservations about doing that. Don't make me sorry I'm leaving it open.

stinkyattic
07-30-2007, 04:35 PM
Individual people come in all types. Please make sure you acknowledge that fact and avoid posting "screw all XXs/YYs" type of sentiment..

Uh oh!!!! YY? The genetic offspring that would result 25% of the time if you crossed 2 MALES? :D hee hee hee

geonagual
07-30-2007, 04:39 PM
Hello Birdgirl..thanks for cleaning up that mess...all i got to say about all of this is...I dont know...hopefully one day I will..I just want a cool, down to earth lady that I can be open and communicate about anything, one that I desire and want and one that wants to go places and do cool shit with me...
Who knows where the hell I was going with this...

birdgirl73
07-30-2007, 04:52 PM
Uh oh!!!! YY? The genetic offspring that would result 25% of the time if you crossed 2 MALES? :D hee hee hee
That was a bad genetic slip of the keyboard, wasn't it?? Unconsciously made. But funny! My apologies to the genetic accidents of the world and to haploid and diploid chromosomes everywhere. . . .

Psycho4Bud
07-30-2007, 04:54 PM
That was a bad genetic slip of the keyboard, wasn't it?? Unconsciously made. But funny! My apologies to the genetic accidents of the world

No problem, I forgive ya....:D

Have a good one!:jointsmile:

birdgirl73
07-30-2007, 04:55 PM
Hello Birdgirl..thanks for cleaning up that mess...all i got to say about all of this is...I dont know...hopefully one day I will..I just want a cool, down to earth lady that I can be open and communicate about anything, one that I desire and want and one that wants to go places and do cool shit with me...
Who knows where the hell I was going with this...
You're going to meet her, Geonagual. She's out there, and she will be totally blown away by you when you find her. I'm certain of it. I can think of few people I know who're more deserving of such easy communcation, affection, and common interests.

Weedhound
07-30-2007, 05:32 PM
The opposite sex.

Can't live with 'em, can't shoot 'em.

Sure you can......shoot 'em that is. :D

geonagual
07-30-2007, 05:40 PM
You're going to meet her, Geonagual. She's out there, and she will be totally blown away by you when you find her. I'm certain of it. I can think of few people I know who're more deserving of such easy communcation, affection, and common interests.


Birdgirl, I love you:)

I swear, what would we do without her

stinkyattic
07-30-2007, 05:44 PM
I just want a cool, down to earth lady that I can be open and communicate about anything, one that I desire and want and one that wants to go places and do cool shit with me...
Hey, just keep on doin' what yer doin'. Cool down to earth people will always find others like them. It's simply a matter of time and circumstance.

geonagual
07-30-2007, 05:48 PM
Hey, just keep on doin' what yer doin'. Cool down to earth people will always find others like them. It's simply a matter of time and circumstance.


I can't wait till I find her, cause I miss her already..but I am not settling for shit this time..I will definitly not be a loveless marriage again..life is way to short..

I love you too stinky....thanks for everything..
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