condom worries

[harley3344]

im a virgin to start out with. Im 16, and have a gf, we started to have sex today and i put on the condom and everything went away, EVERYTHING, I was rdy to go untill I pulled out the condom and put it on. lol im kinda glad it happend now cuz my mom came home 10 mins later.. we were just getting dressed as she walked threw the door so that went well. but It worries the shit out of me, the other day I was fingering her and she orgasmed, we started to have sex then and i put the condom on and same thing. I lost the erection twice now and I have no idea how to fix it, anyone have any ideas? i feel like a loser posting this...

[wannabehippiegirl]

female condom
i have no idea

[cannabis campbell]

Viagra, should be a few dealers who sell it, its not just for old people lol makes your sex life a whole lot better!!.

Well another option for you could be to keep playing with it or maybe as soon as you get an erection to just use is straight away instead of wait while you finger her etc..

[birdgirl73]

You're not a loser. You're just having performance anxiety. Applying a condom has a way of bringing that on.

Maybe try and proceed to manual stimulation of both you and her before you try intercourse again or stop to put a condom on. Applying a condom breaks the spontaneity, it's true. You're too young for Viagra.

Also if you're young and this is your first time and you're worried about being walked in on, try and find someplace private where you're going to have plenty of time and no interruptions. That won't be easy, but if you can relax and not have to worry about rushing and have plenty of time for foreplay, you'll have a more stable erection.

[harley3344]

damn fast response. I think bird girl got it.... no way in hell im taking viagra... lol that would cause more probs then anything. thanks for the replys tho. ill post something within the next few days...

[birdgirl73]

Let us know. And try and take your time. Rushing is the worst thing in the world for sex!

[couch-potato]

Hell yeah son! Get a lil' piece! :thumbsup:

[harley3344]

lol excellent comment cp, We've been wanting to have sex for a few months now... we never have any alone time more then a few hours, and we dont want to do it in the truck... damn it gets hot fast in the truck lol

[Psycho4Bud]

Unwrap it so it's easy to get to.......less down time. Try the extra thins also.....more sensation once it's on.:thumbsup:

Have a good one!:jointsmile:

[slipknotpsycho]

first, what she said, anxiety issues... i had the same problem (although alot of it was me drinking too, but i hadn't had much... just a few drinks out of a 20 year old bottle of wine... i wasn't drunk or anything... but i'm sure that also contributed..)

still tho, i know it caused alot of problems.......

next condoms suck =/ damn good idea but they just suck lol... i don't think anyon'es ever going to be able to invent a condom that's suitable to a man...

"you ever looked at your dick after taking a condom off?" "he just looks at you like... IT WAS HORRIBLE IN THERE! I COULDN'T BREATHE!!!" "and everyone knows there's two sides to a condom... that wonderful, lubed side that feels so good... that's for the ladies then there's that dry, sand paper side...." (not an exact quote but pretty much lol... it's from dave attel's insomniac tour)

[beachguy in thongs]

Get the condom on quicker.

[LIP]

Dude, dont worry about it man.

Condoms are great protection, but they ruin the mood. There's nothing fun about putting on a love glove LOL.

Some blokes just dont like them so much it puts them off.

You aint a loser.

[Mississippi Steve]

Have it opened up and ready to go, then have her to put it on as part of the fore play.
OTOH, vasectomy means never having to say your sorry.

[napolitana869]

If you're uncomfortable putting the condom on maybe you could practice when you're by yourself so it will be easer when you're with her.

[MagicalHerb]

condems are fucking shit man, i never want to see one again. your not alone, somethign about sliding a sheath of rubber over my dick absolutely blows. kills ANY sensation. honestly. girls get lucky i guess.

[deadfan420]

If you don't wear a condom just make sure you pull that shit out before you cum. That takes a lot of self-discipline. But hey, whatever works, right?

And don't worry, we all suffer from performance anxiety at one time or another. Nothing to be ashamed of. Take it slowly and give her what she wants.

[Zoltan]

performance anxiety sucks, makes u feel like shit.

I had the same problem when me and my GF first started having sex but i got over it pretty quickly

I'm lucky to not really have to deal w/ condoms, girlfriend is on the pill thank god. See if she can get the pill maybe?

[napolitana869]

If you don't wear a condom just make sure you pull that shit out before you cum. That takes a lot of self-discipline. But hey, whatever works, right?

And don't worry, we all suffer from performance anxiety at one time or another. Nothing to be ashamed of. Take it slowly and give her what she wants.

That doesnt work. DO NOT relay on a pull out method for birth control. You need to be worried about STDs and stuff too

[Straight Illin]

Pre-cum can get her preggoz too.

[blazed_babe]

Pre-cum can get her preggoz too.

yes it can, so dont rely on the pull out method all the time. after you're a bit more experience, the pull out method is what you gotta do sometimes if you find yourself without a condom. but DON'T do it until you've had more experience!!! or else you could find yourself in a very undesirable situation. pregnancy scares are not fun, i had several scares with my ex fiance, and have taken the morning after pill twice i think, once when the condom broke, and once when we both got so into it that we both completely forgot he didnt have a condom on.

if you have sex with multiple partners in the future, condoms are a necessity against std's. no one wants one. so always be a responsible guy and have one on you!! :)

just relax and have fun, a bit part of the problem is probably that you're worried that you'll potentially be walked in on and therefore you're having performance anxiety. things will get better :)

[GraziLovesMary]

No worries bro its common. Like previously mentioned, just practice tearing that thing out and putting it on when youre alone, then masturbate with it on so when the time comes it doesnt feel so new. Hey then you dont have to worry about cleanup either.

But yeah its just a mental block, dont sweat it. Practice and get some of that confidence up so when the time comes... you will too :p

[jdub61]

if we're talking about alternate birth control methods, i find that using her cycle is pretty good. like, the first 5 days after her period finishes before she ovulates there shouldn't be any way you can impregnate her, even if the sperm stays inside her for a few days. cycle lengths vary from girl to girl, but typically it's like 13-14 days between the first day in the period and the day she ovulates.

[Hardcore Newbie]

Make her put it on with her mouth.

Or use this thing
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oGE3UrJBNCs

[Straight Illin]

Jesus Hitler Christ, that is an amazing invention!

[GraziLovesMary]

hahahaha hell yeah!

[Its a Plant]

Make her put it on with her mouth.

Or use this thing

Wow...I need to get one of those...pronto...:cool:

[harley3344]

thanks for all the support. i feel better now, i talked to her about it and she said the same thing... lol and i need one of those.

[superhighkite]

well ive my share of all this and its not fun. Neither usin a condom or havn anxiety probs, i used to be like that but i found the girl that i am meant to be with and i have no problems wut so ever, im not at all shy about myself around here. The smart way is to wear a condom, if u dont u better fukin be responsible enough to take care of that kid, if not ill kik ur fukin ass.lol theres to many peice of shit dads in this world today. People wanna pull that dick out and use it but not take care of what they created. Its bullshit that goes on in this world today. And Pregnancy scares are crazy, i found i just quit worryn bout it. makes time go faster and easier.

[khronik]

Yeah, I have the exact same problem. I think part of it might have to do with how constrictive they are. I mean, they're pretty tight, and it's essentially squeezing all the blood out of my dick. Maybe I should try slightly bigger ones, but they only seem to come in one size. Plus, by the time we get around to the point where I need to put on a condom, I've been standing at attention so long it's harder for me to stay there. My girlfriend is going to be going on birth control pills in a few weeks, but not solely because of my problem. Sex without accessories is just a whole lot sexier, for both of us.

[jdub61]

my girlfriend is also getting on birth control in 1 week... but don't forget that those take like a month to start working, or something like that. there's about a month delay, i believe.

they told us in health class that the pill is only 92% effective, meaning that after one year of sex 8% of people who only used the pill as a contraceptive resulted in pregnancy... does this sound right or is this health class propaganda?

[khronik]

Birth control pills are significantly more effective than condoms at preventing pregnancy, believe it or not. Condoms can break or slip off.

The rate that you're thinking of, jdub, counts people who use birth control pills, but use them wrong. And even then, that number is actually more like 95%, not 92%. And the guy in your health class probably failed to mention that that number for condoms is more like 85%. Used correctly, birth control pills are 99.9% effective, and condoms are 97% effective.

Pregnancy Rates for Birth Control Methods (http://www.fda.gov/fdac/features/1997/conceptbl.html)

Also, the delay after starting taking birth control pills before they start working is more like a week. They actually start working right away, if she starts taking them during her period.

The reason why your health instructor was probably telling you not to use birth control pills is because they don't prevent STDs, whereas condoms and abstinence do. Plus, you high school kids tend to use them wrong. ;)

[jdub61]

i'm a sophomore in college -_-

[khronik]

Well... you mentioned "health class" so I kind of assumed high school. My bad.

In my mind "health class" is one of those things you don't take in college, like "social studies". Anyway, I just meant that high school health teachers probably don't trust you to use birth control methods right. :)

[Blitzed]

Tell her when you were born a wizard put magic on your willy, and that if you put rubber on your penis the whole world will die


http://youtube.com/watch?v=hVO3fC20cMU

[George W Bush]

Tell her when you were born a wizard put magic on your willy, and that if you put rubber on your penis the whole world will die


http://youtube.com/watch?v=hVO3fC20cMU

OMFG haha

you got one?

yeeaaaaaaaa....