Can't finish....wtf?

[Nailhead]

I've had this problem for a while, and the wait it out method isn't fixing it. I don't know if I have some form of ED or I just need to work out more, or maybe I masterbate too much and that makes condoms impossible to use, but I can't finish when having sex. It's pretty embarrassing for a guy to not finish when he's with a chick, sometimes I've thought about faking it just to avoid that embarrassment.

I'm not fat but I don't work out, I do get some exercise from my work, but maybe it's not enough. Could this be a form of ED? I don't think it is because I took a bit long on my first time, so I'm wondering if maybe it's just something as simple as an issue with using condoms. I'm also paranoid about getting an std so maybe that has something to do with it, but wtf am I supposed to do? It's really affecting my life because I'm at the point where I don't even want to date because I don't want to be in this uncomfortable situation. The last girl I was with thought I just wasn't hot for her, but that wasn't the problem and I've been with girls twice as hot as her and still the same problem so I have no clue.

I'd rather not see a doctor so I'm asking here first to see if anybody knows what's going on

[Spoken Word]

Only happends to me when I drink a lot of liquor... A LOT

[Nailhead]

but I'm not drunk....maybe I should be so I have an excuse lol

[Spoken Word]

haha at least they finish:thumbsup:then they tell their friends how good you are
this is of course if your just dating, if you're in a relationship it's serious

i'd get that checked out anyway..seems very important lol

[Nailhead]

not always....sometimes things go south before the fireworks set off. This is why I think maybe I need to work out more, I dunno....I also feel like I'm the only one that just can't use a condom. I don't like not using one, but when I haven't I don't remember much of a problem

[Hardcore Newbie]

Don't worry, same shit happens with me. The condom is a necessary evil, and yeah it's no where near as good as bareback. Have you had a long relationship with unprotected sex? If so, that's probably one of the reasons.

Another could just be the fact that you need to get comfortable with the idea. I remember with my exes it took a while to get to that point, probably like 15 times each at the beginning of the relationship where I couldn't come.

So more details bro!

[birdgirl73]

ED is erectile dysfunction, Nailhead. Means people have trouble getting or maintaining an erection. That isn't the problem you're having. They used to term the condition you're experiencing "ejaculatory incompetence," but now they more commonly refer to it as "delayed ejaculation." Here are two links. It's fairly common.
MedlinePlus Medical Encyclopedia: Delayed ejaculation (http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/001954.htm)
Delayed ejaculation (retarded ejaculation) (http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex_relationships/facts/ejaculatoryincompetence.htm)

Are you by any chance taking any sort of medications such as SSRI antidepressants? They're famous for causing that side-effect.

[VaporDaddy]

I had that problem as a side effect of an anti-depressant. Are you taking any meds?

[Budman1970]

ED is erectile dysfunction, Nailhead. Means people have trouble getting or maintaining an erection. That isn't the problem you're having. They used to term the condition you're experiencing "ejaculatory incompetence," but now they more commonly refer to it as "delayed ejaculation." Here are two links. It's fairly common.
MedlinePlus Medical Encyclopedia: Delayed ejaculation (http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/001954.htm)
Delayed ejaculation (retarded ejaculation) (http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex_relationships/facts/ejaculatoryincompetence.htm)

Are you by any chance taking any sort of medications such as SSRI antidepressants? They're famous for causing that side-effect.


I agree.


Quit whacking it and learn to enjoy your partner. And even though its probably not ED, you could still use some Cialis to increase sensitivity since you have to use a condom.

Condoms suck!

[Nightcrewman]

It's a lot more common than you think unfortunately its a tricky one to sort as it very quickly becomes psychological i.e. the more you try the less likely it is to happen. Visit the links that Birdgirl posted and try not to think too much about it it will happen eventually.

Cheers
NCM

PS It's hard to fake it using a condom :)

[420MissHighTimes420]

Be glad that you have this problem over the cumming to fast problem. I like a guy who can last for hours. Embrace it?

[jdub61]

my honest opinion is that you're having bad sex and that's why you can't "finish it." i don't mean any offense by this, i just don't think you're doing it right.

but maybe you have too much on your mind while you're doing it. maybe you're distracted. forget all that shit and just think about how turned on she is and how you're bangin this totally hot chick and just let it come.

[ProblemCHild420]

do you think that maybe your a just a little gay?

[Spoken Word]

^Are you?:wtf:

[spliffstar22]

what's wrong with that, if you can go a few hours without bustin a nut, girls will worship you man lol You'll just have to bust a nut another way, like get your girl to suck you off or something.........

[beachguy in thongs]

Start pushing from your ass and squeeze your hips and ass-cheeks together. Kind of like the feeling you get when you cup your hands, grab your genitals, lay down on the floor, then do push-ups.

[jdub61]

^oh yeah, if i'm ever getting a quickie or something i can "force" an orgasm by tensing all the muscles in my lower half real tight, legs and ass and even abs

[Hardcore Newbie]

^oh yeah, if i'm ever getting a quickie or something i can "force" an orgasm by tensing all the muscles in my lower half real tight, legs and ass and even abs
I don't think that's an orgasm at all. I can force myself to ejaculate if need be (rarely hhahaa) but it doesn't feel anything like and orgasm, it's not something I'd repeat over and over.

[alienhed420]

If you take perscription drugs it can happen. With zoloft which i take for anxiety it can take a while for me to orgasm, or i wont have one at all. those side effects suck

[Gandalf_The_Grey]

Opioid analgesics can cause it too, as I've discovered from personal experience. Tell us ALL the meds you're on. Also do you feel self conscious during sex, maybe that you don't look attractive or you feel pressure to orgasm for your partner? Alcohol really doesn't help either.

[Nailhead]

do you think that maybe your a just a little gay?

lol, na I'm pretty sure I like chicks. Hope you didn't have your hopes up ;)


Gandolf...I'm on Pentasa, that's it, but I've had this problem before I started using that. It might just mostly be mental, the more and more it happens, the more and more I think about it the next time.

[Gandalf_The_Grey]

lol, na I'm pretty sure I like chicks. Hope you didn't have your hopes up ;)


Gandolf...I'm on Pentasa, that's it, but I've had this problem before I started using that. It might just mostly be mental, the more and more it happens, the more and more I think about it the next time.

Perhapse you should try meditation, it's a very good means of "resetting" the brain, whiping the slate clean that is, and starting fresh. Once you've somewhat mastered the basics, you can try meditating on particular concepts, in this case perhpase total exceptance and relaxation or your physical state during intercourse.

[spliffstar22]

just get very drunk, i remember a couple yrs ago, i went to this girls house, she had a 2O dollar bottle of Bacardi Superior(white cap, white label) And she took like maybe 1 and 1/2 shots, and i drank the rest(blended wit coke) so we're watchin beauty and the beast, and we just get into everything about half way through, so i just started beatin her on the couch, and i didnt nut for like 3 hours, i remember i wasnt even paying no attention to nothing, just a blank mind, fucking this girls brains in.... So my advice would be, buy a 2O of bacardi get smashed and keep a clear mind when fucking..........Like think of space, or the clouds, or anything that doesnt require you to overthink, that way all your body effort is going to your dick.........lol im so high right now hopefully u understand cause im done explainin lol