Apathetic towards the idea of a relationship

[cannabis=freedom]

Now, I know what everyone's going to say...

"You're young. It's normal. Things will change."

The simple fact is, I've never truly liked a girl in my entire life; not beyond a physical attraction at any rate. Not to sound immodest, but I'm generally considered good-looking, likable and charming, and a number of girls have fancied me over the years, but I've never had or desired to have anything to do with them beyond just fooling around.

I feel bad, because I do like and respect girls, and I would never purposefully hurt their feelings, and I just don't understand it. These girls do not have anything wrong with them: they are beautiful, intelligent and very kind-hearted, and I just feel nothing towards them even though I have the chance.

And no, I'm not gay; I am attracted to them physically, after all.

Now, I know this isn't normal. Any thoughts?

[beachguy in thongs]

Don't get into a relationship. If you think you're going to hurt someone, then maybe she's your next girlfriend. I don't know.

[crudemood]

Yes, I'm curious what the answer is for this.

[teenageslackingqueen]

your gay

no just playing :-p

but im gunna have to say "give love a chance"

<3

[birdgirl73]

I'm guessing either you haven't met someone yet who inspires you to feel those feelings of affection--or else perhaps on some level you have some discomfort and unfamiliarity with people of the female persuasion. I'm not saying you're gay by any means. You may just be in unfamiliar waters. Have you ever had any close female friends?

There's no law that says you have to like girls. There are a heck of a lot of straight guys out walking the planet who don't. Give it time--and work on getting to know some girls as people, not just as objects of attraction. If that doesn't help the situation, it might be time to look at the relationships with, and attitudes toward, the women in your family of origin, the ones who have been the models (mothers, sisters, etc.) for how you feel about the other women out there.

[mesoto]

Let me guess, you also seem a little detached otherwise, and have a low energy level? you're low on serotonin, bud. If you're still young, then don't worry, your entire body chemistry might still change. If not, you'll have to find an understanding partner who connects with you on a different level.

[Fugitive]

Your in the closet gay !
seriously I would fuck anything that is female moves right now too horny, but NO I'm too ahh... just consider yourself lucky and go for girls that are interested in you and see if it works.

[Coelho]

The simple fact is, I've never truly liked a girl in my entire life; not beyond a physical attraction at any rate.

im much like this too... but i was not always like this... i had a girlfriend, whom i loved with all my body and all my soul, but after she leaved me it seemed she had taken all my feelings with her, so now im a heartless being. Its almost 4 years since she left, and after it i hadnt any relationship.


Let me guess, you also seem a little detached otherwise, and have a low energy level? you're low on serotonin, bud.

i dont know about him, but i think it is true for me. i think the only time in my life i had 'normal' levels of serotonin was while i had my girlfriend. and let me warn you... this serotonin is a very addicting substance... i would say almost like heroin, crack, or shit like this... the withdraw from it is hellish... thats why i prefer weed! :jointsmile:

[cannabis=freedom]

I'm guessing either you haven't met someone yet who inspires you to feel those feelings of affection--or else perhaps on some level you have some discomfort and unfamiliarity with people of the female persuasion. I'm not saying you're gay by any means. You may just be in unfamiliar waters. Have you ever had any close female friends?

There's no law that says you have to like girls. There are a heck of a lot of straight guys out walking the planet who don't. Give it time--and work on getting to know some girls as people, not just as objects of attraction. If that doesn't help the situation, it might be time to look at the relationships with, and attitudes toward, the women in your family of origin, the ones who have been the models (mothers, sisters, etc.) for how you feel about the other women out there.

That's really good advice; thanks a lot. I still don't get it, though, because I'm really close to both my mother and my two sisters (both of whom are older than me), and I also have a number of female friends, including a couple really close ones.

I do think you're right, though, that I just haven't happened to meet someone who invokes those feelings yet.

[Hardcore Newbie]

Yeah, I'm not sure how old you are, but I never found a girl I was interested until I was 21. I got a lot of the "are you gay" shit from my mom, which is infuriating as hell when you say "no" and they won't listen, telling you that it's ok to come out of the closet and such.

But yeah, I never had many close friends anyways, I have a few very close friends that I hold very dear to me, and the rest of the people are just cool people that I hang out with. So it's kind of natural for me not to get into many relationships because I have a really high standard for friendship in the first place. if you have somewhat the same personality type as myself, maybe that's the reason.

[cannabis=freedom]

Yeah, I'm not sure how old you are, but I never found a girl I was interested until I was 21. I got a lot of the "are you gay" shit from my mom, which is infuriating as hell when you say "no" and they won't listen, telling you that it's ok to come out of the closet and such.

But yeah, I never had many close friends anyways, I have a few very close friends that I hold very dear to me, and the rest of the people are just cool people that I hang out with. So it's kind of natural for me not to get into many relationships because I have a really high standard for friendship in the first place. if you have somewhat the same personality type as myself, maybe that's the reason.

Wow, I'm exactly like that. ....Oh god, I hope I don't have to wait another 5 years until I meet someone.

Shit.

[Hardcore Newbie]

Haha, well if anything, it was really worth the wait for me. 2 years of sex at least twice a day. I had to make up for lost time suppose. But yeah, find the right girl and fuck like rabbits.

[cannabis=freedom]

Haha, well if anything, it was really worth the wait for me. 2 years of sex at least twice a day. I had to make up for lost time suppose. But yeah, find the right girl and fuck like rabbits.

Haha thanks, man. Rep for you.

[crudemood]

I've had feelings for someone before but I've never been able to act on it because of fear of commitment so I really haven't got anywhere with anyone. So some people think I'm cold hearted and don't have feelings when on the contrary I do except I can't seem to show that one person my everything because I'm scared of something.
I'm retarded, anyone else feel like this?

[LuckyG]

If you don't want a relationship, don't bother. I personally don't see the point in getting involved with a girl if I'm not seriously interested in her. Everyone thinks I'm wierd, but fuck 'em.

[cannabis campbell]

In other words you can get good looking girls get them into bed and fuck them but emotionally you dont get anywhere.

Maybe your not ready for an emotional relationship maybe you just want a fuck buddy?