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MagicalHerb
06-21-2007, 12:14 PM
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so, i was going out with this girl for about a year, it was a really good relationship and we lost our virginity to each other and then all of a sudden she bitched out and said i didnt care about her enough because i didnt call her enough. i think she was just being stupid or something, i dont really have a response to that situation. it completely caught me by suprise. anyways its been a few months, and a few nights ago she asked me if i was still down to hook up and stuff, and i said sure, but the more that i think about it does that kind of stuff work out? i mean i dont want to go for it and then have it be really awkward for both of us. but i would definately like to go for it. i guess im just a newb LOL. ???
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PlantBoxer
06-21-2007, 12:53 PM
Friends with bennies can work out, if both or all 3 or all 4 of you can work out all of the pit falls, like jelousy, or letting yourself feel leftout, apprehension, or showing favoritism one way or the other.

The open lifestyle is NOT for everyone. You must check your feelings, and your shallow thinking, because it's about all involved...not just yourself.

The only way anything like this works out is talk, talk, talk....and then talk some more about it.
And, NEVER EVER use what happens in playtime during an argument...you will completely destroy any firm ground made up to that point, and you show your not trustworthy of other persons feelings.

Just my $.02.

anangrymailman
06-21-2007, 01:37 PM
I think he was talking about just one friend.

napolitana869
06-21-2007, 01:48 PM
Someone always gets too attached and ends up getting hurt. I learned the hard way that its a bad idea.

Fugitive
06-21-2007, 01:57 PM
You've got nothing to lose, awkward moments aren't that bad. Just be careful if she starts asking for money and weed too much.

blazed_babe
06-21-2007, 05:44 PM
yeah, if you're gonna go for that, be careful. i have had one friend with benefits (and really dont think i ever want to again), we never dated, just hooked up all the time, and now he likes me. it's really hard because i would like for us to just be friends because he's a really chill dude, but it's practically damn near impossible now because he gets jealous when i hang out with other guys or even talk to other guys. and i'm not even dating him. he calls and texts me all the time, and he hardly ever mentions hooking up anymore (we haven't hooked up in awhile). to me, we're strictly friends now, but he's still really attached, and i can't shake him off. well, i'm not necessarily trying to get rid of him, but i would like to just have a friendship, but i doubt that's possible now.

bong_man
06-21-2007, 05:55 PM
naw you cant be a fuck buddy with your ex, does'nt work! be fuck buddys with your buddys!

stinkyattic
06-21-2007, 07:42 PM
It rarely works.
It's just not feasible... do you just toss aside all the emotion that comes out during sex next time you see each other, and ignore it? Is the person acting colder going to offend the person who is a little more attached? And are both of you REALLY that comfortable having sex for its own sake, rather than as an expression of love?
It's hard to have both a sexual and non-sexual relationship, with the same person, at the same time.
99% of the time, you aren't going to be dealing with that the same way.
And someone will get their feelings hurt.

MagicalHerb
06-21-2007, 08:11 PM
shit i dont know now. i feel like i should go for it, because i really dont think we were meant to have a relationship anyway and neither does she. were just so different that it never could have worked. there's girls id much rather spend my life with then her, anyways. there arent many conflicting emotions left between us, so fuck it im gonna give it a shot. i think the benifits outweigh the risks by alot. but if i do manage to fuck myself over at least ill know what to avoid down the road!
it would be really hard to find a girl who turns me just like like she does anyways. she has a special style. im not passing the oppurtunity up. :thumbsup:

Markass
06-21-2007, 08:29 PM
do it man...just don't expect to get a relationship out of it..it didn't work before, just keep it to only like fuck buddies...

and my experiences, you do get attached and you don't wanna spend tons of time with this person..

psteve
06-21-2007, 08:35 PM
I'd wonder who else she's hooking up with...

BabyFacedAbortion
06-21-2007, 10:31 PM
Don't.

I'm in the exact same situation as you are except I'm actually fucking my ex and have been for a few weeks. It sucks, he's very attached and acts like we're still dating, except he's less considerate.

I've had fuck buddies with just a friend before except we weren't really friends, kinda more of a booty call. That was alright except his junk was mad small, we didn't actually fuck either..just fooled around. It wasn't too bad until he wouldn't stop calling and shit. He was the head of the wrestling team or what ever, and not my type. Lol.

I don't suggest banging someone you've already had a relationship with.

crudemood
06-22-2007, 12:50 PM
I don' tthink this is the type of thing for those who tend to get jealous easily. I wouldn't be the type to do this, I find myself jealous alot but at the same time I'm afraid of comitment, so theres totally no action for crudemood unless you find me drunk.. lol

crudemood
06-22-2007, 12:52 PM
Well if you do start to get attached, start running!

MagicalHerb
06-22-2007, 01:15 PM
i dont even know if im going to be able to do it anyways. shes in myrtle beach for the next 9 days, and i think im in love, just the very early stages of it. im seeing that other girl today, and i feel like ive known her all my life! its so strange to find someone who is so much like me, ive never ever found someone like that ever. wow. today is a good day :thumbsup:

mesoto
06-23-2007, 12:47 AM
Good for you, man.
Friends w/ benefits is more for the type with a high sex drive and not much capacity for love or attachment. I've noticed that girls with a fine, well- defined jawline for some reason tend to be able to handle it, and others tend to get hurt. Just a rule of thumb.

hateyoul3itch
06-23-2007, 01:13 AM
try it dude and if you dont like it stop