girl who doesnt like orgasms??

[clever421]

i have a question about this girl im sorta with, well we dated for a year and i lost my V to her and then we broke up didnt talk to a year etc etc but she ahs never had a orgasm with any guy shes been with 4 i think and she says "its not that kind of feel good" now i thinking shes lying but she says everytime she is about to she makes me stop wtf is up with that???

[Gurtej15]

i dont know probably u should fuck her harder:jointsmile:

[clever421]

i try but it hurts her >.<

[GraziLovesMary]

It depends on what type of orgasm. Are you playin with her clit? Or are you just fuckin her and shes about to cum? If its the second option, she may be approaching a vaginal orgasm which is (from what Ive heard lol) MUUUCH different.

The G-spot is known in the medical world as the Urethral Sponge. It is composed of erectile tissue and surrounds the womans urethra, swelling with stimulation to prevent vacation of the bladder during sex. There are a large number of nerve endings that the sponge surrounds, including the clitoral nerve, so it is a very pleasurable spot to stimulate during sex for most women. However, this does not mean that all women find it pleasurable, some dont.

Also, it is important to note that a majority of women say that when this g-spot is stimulated and they come closer to orgasm through its stimulation, they feel a stronger and stronger urge to pee. She may be confused by it.. thinking that shes about to piss the bed or something and is stopping you. Maybe she had an orgasm like that and she came everywhere and thought she was pissing. Ask her about it and if she admits to that being the reason explain that its not pee... shes not pissing, shes cumming lol. And tell her its the hottest thing you ever could have imagined.

[clever421]

damn bro thanks i think ill just write down what you wrote and read it to her :thumbsup:

[oldsanclem]

90 % between the ears and 10 % between the toes.
gozil is right , but taken with a grain of salt as the old saying goes.
Done right once they come up the ramp to a climemax , it does not take long for them to have more.

[birdgirl73]

I wish guys would listen more to women on this subject than other guys who pretend to be great experts.

How old is your ladyfriend, Clever? Are y'all teenagers, by any chance? Because orgasmic ability is often much slower to arrive for young women than you'd think. It's not uncommon for some ladies not to have their first orgasm until they're in their twenties or later, especially if they're shy about self-exploration or have had any sex-is-dirty conditioning. The classic teaching in sex therapy is that a girl first needs to know her own sexual response and know how to elicit that on her own. In other words, masturbate to orgasm. Then once she knows how her own response works, she can teach a parther what works for her. This is yet another reason why not to listen to the online male experts. What works for one woman doesn't necessarily work for another.

Some other things that get in the way are self-consciousness about their bodies or unease with the sexual situation. If you're not in a quiet, private place where there aren't any distractions and she's not comfortable and relaxed with her partner, that makes things a lot more difficult if not impossible. In a recent study in the Netherlands in which they looked at how the female brain worked during real orgasm, they were able to clearly prove that women needed to be anxiety- and fear-free in order to have an orgasm. The parts of the brain that govern fear and anxiety are literally switched off when a woman has an orgasm, which is essentially a total loss of control (another thing that holds some women back--that feeling that they're going to lose control). That switch-off needs to happen for her to reach her peak, and so if she's even mildly fearful or anxious, she's not going to hit the high note. This confirms what most people have always believed and what women have reported in study after study over the years. And I'm convinced this is why women who're in steady, monogamous relationships with partners they love and trust have much more satisfying sex lives than those who jump from partner to partner.

[clever421]

im 17 and she is 18 and i know she has masturbated and has had an orgasm (at least thats what she told me) but she said she hasnt had an orgasm since she was 13 (Which i dont believe

[birdgirl73]

Well, keep in mind that teenaged girls aren't the same wank-machines that young men are by any means. Sounds like something's up.

Has she ever been a victim of assault or sexual abuse by any chance?

[clever421]

well actualy she is scared to "touch" a guy like with her hands she only does it if you ask her too because she told me her ex b/f forced her too one time but then after we broke up she had sex with him... (its really messed up) so i cant say if its true for sure

[GraziLovesMary]

I wish guys would listen more to women on this subject than other guys who pretend to be great experts.

How old is your ladyfriend, Clever? Are y'all teenagers, by any chance? Because orgasmic ability is often much slower to arrive for young women than you'd think. It's not uncommon for some ladies not to have their first orgasm until they're in their twenties or later, especially if they're shy about self-exploration or have had any sex-is-dirty conditioning. The classic teaching in sex therapy is that a girl first needs to know her own sexual response and know how to elicit that on her own. In other words, masturbate to orgasm. Then once she knows how her own response works, she can teach a parther what works for her. This is yet another reason why not to listen to the online male experts. What works for one woman doesn't necessarily work for another.

Some other things that get in the way are self-consciousness about their bodies or unease with the sexual situation. If you're not in a quiet, private place where there aren't any distractions and she's not comfortable and relaxed with her partner, that makes things a lot more difficult if not impossible. In a recent study in the Netherlands in which they looked at how the female brain worked during real orgasm, they were able to clearly prove that women needed to be anxiety- and fear-free in order to have an orgasm. The parts of the brain that govern fear and anxiety are literally switched off when a woman has an orgasm, which is essentially a total loss of control (another thing that holds some women back--that feeling that they're going to lose control). That switch-off needs to happen for her to reach her peak, and so if she's even mildly fearful or anxious, she's not going to hit the high note. This confirms what most people have always believed and what women have reported in study after study over the years. And I'm convinced this is why women who're in steady, monogamous relationships with partners they love and trust have much more satisfying sex lives than those who jump from partner to partner.

Sheesh I need to follow my posts with a disclaimer now, eh?! Lol maybe Ill make it my new signature.. :D

No women had posted anything as of the time of my post, so I decided to throw one possible scenario out there for him. I knew you would come along and enlighten us on the aspects of the feminine mind that only another female could explain, which is why I listen so keenly every time women ever tell me anything about themselves. Thats why I stayed away from any realm of the psychological and stuck with the physiological because I had a feeling you would come correct and chastise me!:stoned: Its ok though, I aint mad atcha!! :p :D

[420MissHighTimes420]

:thumbsup:
It depends on what type of orgasm. Are you playin with her clit? Or are you just fuckin her and shes about to cum? If its the second option, she may be approaching a vaginal orgasm which is (from what Ive heard lol) MUUUCH different.

The G-spot is known in the medical world as the Urethral Sponge. It is composed of erectile tissue and surrounds the womans urethra, swelling with stimulation to prevent vacation of the bladder during sex. There are a large number of nerve endings that the sponge surrounds, including the clitoral nerve, so it is a very pleasurable spot to stimulate during sex for most women. However, this does not mean that all women find it pleasurable, some dont.

Also, it is important to note that a majority of women say that when this g-spot is stimulated and they come closer to orgasm through its stimulation, they feel a stronger and stronger urge to pee. She may be confused by it.. thinking that shes about to piss the bed or something and is stopping you. Maybe she had an orgasm like that and she came everywhere and thought she was pissing. Ask her about it and if she admits to that being the reason explain that its not pee... shes not pissing, shes cumming lol. And tell her its the hottest thing you ever could have imagined.

Your amazingly helpful. I feel like I could right a sex book with your posts. I am too afraid of having an orgasim because I think I'm going to pee. I'm looking forward to having my first gspot orgasim now! Thanks!

[420MissHighTimes420]

Oh and Cleaver, I like your avatar I have the same bong.

[cannabis campbell]

Maybe its because the orgasms are just shit, no offence mate but thats probably what it is.

Just spend more time giving her oral.

[sharingscaring]

i try but it hurts her >.<
You stud, some women dont have orgasms, some happen later in life, and some cant stop once you get them started


Sally Albright: Most women at one time or another have faked it.
Harry Burns: Well, they haven't faked it with me.
Sally Albright: How do you know?
Harry Burns: Because I know.
Sally Albright: Oh. Right. Thats right. I forgot. Youre a man.
Harry Burns: What was that supposed to mean?
Sally Albright: Nothing. Its just that all men are sure it never happened to them and all women at one time or other have done it so you do the math.

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[clever421]

o really misshightime how much did you buys yours for? i got that one for 40$

[GraziLovesMary]

:thumbsup:

Your amazingly helpful. I feel like I could right a sex book with your posts. I am too afraid of having an orgasim because I think I'm going to pee. I'm looking forward to having my first gspot orgasim now! Thanks!

Is that sarcasm??? Sorry if I seem skeptical, I dont mean to be, its just that sarcasm has a difficult time translating over the internet, and I can never be too sure. My two cents seem to have mixed responses on here...

[fatsackville]

I wish guys would listen more to women on this subject than other guys who pretend to be great experts.

How old is your ladyfriend, Clever? Are y'all teenagers, by any chance? Because orgasmic ability is often much slower to arrive for young women than you'd think. It's not uncommon for some ladies not to have their first orgasm until they're in their twenties or later, especially if they're shy about self-exploration or have had any sex-is-dirty conditioning. The classic teaching in sex therapy is that a girl first needs to know her own sexual response and know how to elicit that on her own. In other words, masturbate to orgasm. Then once she knows how her own response works, she can teach a parther what works for her. This is yet another reason why not to listen to the online male experts. What works for one woman doesn't necessarily work for another.

Some other things that get in the way are self-consciousness about their bodies or unease with the sexual situation. If you're not in a quiet, private place where there aren't any distractions and she's not comfortable and relaxed with her partner, that makes things a lot more difficult if not impossible. In a recent study in the Netherlands in which they looked at how the female brain worked during real orgasm, they were able to clearly prove that women needed to be anxiety- and fear-free in order to have an orgasm. The parts of the brain that govern fear and anxiety are literally switched off when a woman has an orgasm, which is essentially a total loss of control (another thing that holds some women back--that feeling that they're going to lose control). That switch-off needs to happen for her to reach her peak, and so if she's even mildly fearful or anxious, she's not going to hit the high note. This confirms what most people have always believed and what women have reported in study after study over the years. And I'm convinced this is why women who're in steady, monogamous relationships with partners they love and trust have much more satisfying sex lives than those who jump from partner to partner.



ok so i made myself read all 30 lines of what you said but all i got out was \/

u should fuck her harder:jointsmile:

:thumbsup:

[rastaman79]

maybe she`s like linda lovelace,and her g spot is in the back of her throat? lol

[Boo360]

o really misshightime how much did you buys yours for? i got that one for 40$

Tell her you wanna get kinky and tie her up. When she tries to stop you from giving her an orgasm then just keep going. Give her tons of them if you want then kick that bitch out on her ass just for running off to her ex and fucking him if he was such a horrible person (actually has happened to me, girls are all the same :( ) and then go on with life. lol

[GraziLovesMary]

Is that sarcasm??? Sorry if I seem skeptical, I dont mean to be, its just that sarcasm has a difficult time translating over the internet, and I can never be too sure. My two cents seem to have mixed responses on here...

Thinking about it more, I think I made a false assumption.. Im sorry! :(