"First" Date

[BabyFacedAbortion]

I'm going on a date tomorrow night, he told me I get to pick where to go.

We don't have a huge selection of restaurants in my town so I'm thinking of this little hole-in-the-wall Italian food place that we used to go to a lot. But we also have places like Chilli's, Friday's and Applebee's. Where would you guys pick? He's paying and has a lot of cash to blow, so that's not an issue.

I also have no idea what to wear. He said he's dressing up but won't tell me specifically what he's wearing. I was thinking of (little shorter then) knee length black, strapless, pleated, dress. With a blue polka-dotted cover-up thing. Does that seem too casual or too dressy?

I'm nervous. Can you tell?

Gimme some advice, my lovely cannabanauts. I mean, who else can I trust with my love life? :D

xoxoxoxo

-BFA

[stinkyattic]

BFA I'm gonna kick both your ass if it's that dude again...
Otherwise, the Italian hole in the wall.

[cannabis campbell]

Aww nervous :p haha Well i dont know really go whereever you like and dress how you like but make sure its appropiate for where you are going

ps. Orangeman wont be happy :eek:

[birdgirl73]

Is this a new guy? Someone who's going to treat you better than the last one???

The dress sounds fine. And Italian sounds great. My only concern is whether your date is deserving of you. . . .

[jdub61]

something the two of you are comfortable with is perfect for the first date. :)

my girlfriend likes for the two of us to go back to the restaurant that we went on our first date to, it holds sentimental value for her i think (aside from being very good! :D) so keep that in mind, maybe you'll be coming back to this restaurant so pick something you definitely like.

i might be a little out of line with this suggestion because you seem to be either going on a more formal/dressy date than i usually do with my girlfriend or older than i am (19), but i saw "knocked up" with my girl last weekend and it was hilarious and she loved it, i recommend it.

[thcbongman]

You know what would impress the guy? Taking him somewhere when he doesn't have to pay, you don't have to pay, you are just both having a good time together, talking.

Seriously, you'll blow him away.

[MagicalHerb]

You know what would impress the guy? Taking him somewhere when he doesn't have to pay, you don't have to pay, you are just both having a good time together, talking.

Seriously, you'll blow him away.

haha yeah man right on, i wish there were more girls like that that i knew. most of them are kind of boring.

[Skink]

Wear anything nice,,, and don't worry about the place,,, if you hit it off the place doesn't matter...

[Skink]

http://boards.cannabis.com/1463652-post235.html

didn't see that before,,,your nutz,,,no your stupid...

[jdub61]

ugh, after reading that, i agree with skink. i wouldn't stick around, i'm sure you wouldn't have a difficult time finding another man

[slipknotpsycho]

I'm going on a date tomorrow night, he told me I get to pick where to go.

We don't have a huge selection of restaurants in my town so I'm thinking of this little hole-in-the-wall Italian food place that we used to go to a lot. But we also have places like Chilli's, Friday's and Applebee's. Where would you guys pick? He's paying and has a lot of cash to blow, so that's not an issue.

I also have no idea what to wear. He said he's dressing up but won't tell me specifically what he's wearing. I was thinking of (little shorter then) knee length black, strapless, pleated, dress. With a blue polka-dotted cover-up thing. Does that seem too casual or too dressy?

I'm nervous. Can you tell?

Gimme some advice, my lovely cannabanauts. I mean, who else can I trust with my love life? :D

xoxoxoxo

-BFA

outback.

[anomalousirrelivance]

have a nice quiet picnic outside the sewage treatment plant.


or you could share a romantic time touring a slaughterhouse.


if you really wanna blow his socks off take him downtown during rush hour to protest something off the wall in the nude.


all i know is some girl from my work got naked and protested KFC animal cruelty and now i just wanna bang the shit outta that cute little girl.

[420MissHighTimes420]

http://boards.cannabis.com/1463652-post235.html

didn't see that before,,,your nutz,,,no your stupid...

That was a confession, you shouldn't use it against her. Dealing with a shitty boyfriend can be really hard, they can fuck with your head. :hippy:

[Skink]

That was a confession, you shouldn't use it against her. Dealing with a shitty boyfriend can be really hard, they can fuck with your head. :hippy:

Sorry,,, I am tired of walking the line on this one,,,I made known how I feel...
it's not a shitty boyfriend issue it's an being alone issue from what I see...

[rebgirl420]

Go to the park and just hang out! Or the lake, feed some ducks and just talk. Maybe go to burger king afterwards. And bad boyfriends and anyone who treats you like shit should be dropped like a rock. Cut them out of your life like the cancerous tumor they are. And if your ass puts up with it you deserve the heartache...but thats just my 2 cents

[BabyFacedAbortion]

For those who really need to know.
We aren't back together.

Here's some pics of how I look tonight :)

[rebgirl420]

Nice dress sexy lady

[Skink]

Where we going???

[BabyFacedAbortion]

Italian restaurant :D

I'm gonna throw white leggings on under my dress I think..I was gonna do jeans under it but I only have one pair and they smell like a bar. Mmm, that's hot. Really gotta do laundry.

[rebgirl420]

nooo that dress is hot the way it is! Omg I have the perfect shoes for it too...man id lon em' to ya if you lived by me!

[rebgirl420]

Oh and bronzer mixed with lotion looks great on legs, arms and everywhere else. And a little bronzer between your boobs makes em' look bigger!

[BabyFacedAbortion]

GAH! Those are fucking GORGEOUS!
I fuckin' LOVE shoes.
I was gonna wear my "fuck me" boots (from my punk rock days), but I don't think those are suiting.

[BabyFacedAbortion]

P.S

I'm gonna do that RIGHT NOW, Reb!

[rebgirl420]

haha no prob, and I got them at the playboy store online! Their stripper shoes but man they make your legs look great!

[BabyFacedAbortion]

Heals do wonders for the ass too! lol

Ahh I need to kill an hour.
Reb go into the chat!

[Skink]

Love the shoes Reb...

[rebgirl420]

okie dokie

[rebgirl420]

Okay something isnt allowing me to view the chat correctly

[BabyFacedAbortion]

Ah fuck it lol

[rebgirl420]

hang on maybe skink can fix it or something

[Skink]

does the Java thing load up???

[rebgirl420]

The beginning is normal then the chat comes up and the whole thing is a blurry mess, and i go to type and its invisible to me, I dunno if others can see it

[jdub61]

you look like sarah silverman (and that's a good thing) :)

[Skink]

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[BabyFacedAbortion]

thanks! i love sarah :)

[rebgirl420]

IT WORKS!! SKINK I LUV YA! hahaa

[Skink]

I love you too...

[BabyFacedAbortion]

The date went really well.

He took me to the Italian restaurant, then out to get ice cream. I got strawberry with gummy bears lol! We ate about 5 bites of that and chucked it (way too sweet). Then we went to borders and looked around..He bought me Happy Feet, because a while ago we went to go see it before xmas but had to leave half way thru because we had to do some xmas shopping so I never got to see the end. (I'm a DORK). We went back to my house and watched that..it was really cute. We cuddled all night and talked basically, it was sweet. We have another "date" sunday. I'm cooking for him (because I'm a broke bitch). When he got out of the car he literally did a double take. I usually wear sweat pants and zip-ups with my hair clipped up lol, I think he was surprised. I threw the heals off as soon as I got to the restaurant though and put on my flip-flops.

[jdub61]

happy feet is such a girlfriend movie, haha.
i'm glad the two of you enjoyed yourselves. :)

[slipknotpsycho]

just be careful and make us all a promise?

if everything goes to shit again, you'll just drop him? he doesn't deserve to get to treat you like a peice of shit and keep someone like you, he deserves much less and you deserve so much more....

[BabyFacedAbortion]

I promise.

We're going to keep doing these "dates" for a while,
I'm still single.

I just want to take him back, completely.
But I can't 'cause all my friends who were with me this weekend would literally kill me, and him.

I hate loving him so much.

[slowlickitysplit]

BFA...Everyone here knows I'm an ass so I'm gonna say what everyone else is too polite to say.....
Go to a bar, park or boys locker room and show your breast to the first semi upright male you see. He will definately call you and he has [U]got[U] to be better then this jerk you're with. I know its hard to let go but for the love of god...Have some self respect. We all here love you and it is killing us to see you hurting yourself this way.

- Slow -

[rebgirl420]

Happy feet made me cry....it was sad....when he was in the zoo....but thats awsome your date went well! Its nice to have a bf thats a sugar daddy...John showered me with gifts and still does. At first it was awkward but you get used to it :thumbsup:

[slipknotpsycho]

BFA...Everyone here knows I'm an ass so I'm gonna say what everyone else is too polite to say.....
Go to a bar, park or boys locker room and show your breast to the first semi upright male you see. He will definately call you and he has [U]got[U] to be better then this jerk you're with. I know its hard to let go but for the love of god...Have some self respect. We all here love you and it is killing us to see you hurting yourself this way.

- Slow -

i wouldn't go that far <.<

i semi agree, i've seen the pain this dude has already caused you but i'm not here to rain on your parade, personally i DO believe people can change, i just don't think they shoudl get 10 chances to do so...

which is why i want you to promise and hold to that promise that if things go sour this time, you'll stay away, for your own good.... you're a beautiful person, and i don't mean by looks (although that way you are too <.<) but you deserve much mor ethen this guy has put you through already.. i hate to see people, even ones i've never actually met, put themselves through the same pain cuz they're afraid to be alone..

i was afraid to be alone too... all it does in the end is hurt worse... but ok, i'll stop again, if things are going good, then great :thumbsup: maybe this time h'es changed and i hope so, cuz he's about to lose a special girl.... <.<

[BabyFacedAbortion]

To be honest, I think once school is out (10 school days)..things will change.

I'll be at beach houses all summer and partying a lot. He doesn't approve of my partying, I can tell you that already.

He also goes back to court July 16th for the final verdict.

But I'm on the edge with him. We actually got into another fight last night because I told him I was scared of him sometimes, and that my friends don't want me to be with him. He flipped and was asking which friends, he was scared HIS friends weren't backing him up. The sad thing is that the only people on my side were my best friend and some dude I just met on Saturday, and HIS friends (who have been my friends since 6th grade) were the ones watching everything and not saying a damn thing.

Oops. I'm ranting.

Only time will tell I guess.

Thanks everyone, you know I <3 you all!

[GraziLovesMary]

Next time he pushes you, punch him in the face. Right in the nose. If he hits you after that, kick him in the balls mercilessly and possibly try to rip them off. If he still doesnt stop, kill him. If you are afraid to do that, call me and Ill hook it up quick fast and in a hurry. Ive put close personal friends of mine in the hospital because they hit girls I didnt even like. In fact, I hated the one bitch but when she came runnin up lookin scared and bruised like that I went and almost killed my friend.. it was close.

And when its all over.... then Ill show you what good lovin is all about ;)

[napolitana869]

You should do your hair like that more often because its really cute.

and seriously, dont take his shit. He sounds like big trouble and I think you know that . Sometimes love really isnt enough. I'm afraid this guy is going to start hitting you. All of this sounds like the cycle of an abusive relationship.

[BabyFacedAbortion]

Thank you both :) I wish I had naturally curly hair! Gahhh, sadly it's PIN straight!

I swear to god, if he ever touches me like that again I will slit his throat and if I don't, my best friend will.

I refuse to drink around him, and I refuse to bring him places with me. He can't handle me having friends..he even told me that. So I'll keep him away from the problem and NOT include him in my social life.

Not only that, but he embarrassed the shit out of me.

I'd really like to see him try to hit me. Oh the things I'd do.

[BobMarley91]

BFA-Honestly I just think that you have to let him know his place and that he can't control you because he's not your father.Just try to sit him down and let him know how you feel, but honestly you dont deserve being treated like that.

[napolitana869]

My hair is pin straight too. I can't even get it to hold curls. They just fall right out. It sucks because I think curly hair is so pretty

[GraziLovesMary]

Dont feel bad, I adore straight hair. Its alot easier to keep your hands from getting tangled when you are running your fingers up the back of her neck and head during sex.

Thats not to say I dont like curly hair on women too, but if my hair grew out it would be kinda curly so thats another reason why I like straight hair I guess.

[BabyFacedAbortion]

I used to have a perm back in grade school (HAHA!) it was horrible. I had short hair and it had spiral curls..I looked like a damn christmas tree. So while I really do love curly hair, I'd never do that again.

I like my straight hair most of the time, but my best friend can curl her hair (which is long and fucking gorgeous) and I'm uber jealous. It only takes her like 15 minutes too, while mine takes at least 30. Rawwr.

Most guys, like Grazi, like straight hair for some reason..but then I've met a shitload of who adore curls. Man, I just can't win! ;)

[GraziLovesMary]

Basically its like this... for ME anyway:

I just plain adore women. I would go so far as to say Im in love with women in general (with exceptions for the ones that fucked me over.... ). Whether their hair is straight or Shirley Templed, long, short, black, blonde, or red. Its not the hair that makes the woman beautiful, its the woman that makes the hair beautiful.

God damn you women are soooo my only weakness :(

But I love yall too much to give a fuck!

[BlAzInIt4:20]

^^^ I think you two (GraziLovesmary/BFA) are hitting it off.. id love to see were it goes lol

[BabyFacedAbortion]

I've had just about every style of hair in the book. From short and choppy with baby bangs, to long and straight. I've had pink hair, red hair, orange hair, blue hair, green hair, black hair, brown hair, blond hair, black with blond, brown with blond, blond with brown, pink and blond, pink and black, pink and brown, it doesn't end lol. I don't know...hair is just hair when it comes down to it, you're right Grazi..the girl is what's important.

We need more men like you!

[crudemood]

For those who really need to know.
We aren't back together.

Here's some pics of how I look tonight :)

That really doesn't look like your dps!

[BabyFacedAbortion]

dps?

[GraziLovesMary]

I've had just about every style of hair in the book. From short and choppy with baby bangs, to long and straight. I've had pink hair, red hair, orange hair, blue hair, green hair, black hair, brown hair, blond hair, black with blond, brown with blond, blond with brown, pink and blond, pink and black, pink and brown, it doesn't end lol. I don't know...hair is just hair when it comes down to it, you're right Grazi..the girl is what's important.

We need more men like you!

I know, and its so hard to find people like me :( I guess Im gonna have to resort to cloning, but for them to really be like me Im gonna have to raise them myself and teach them everything I know. Maybe then after I take over the world we can have more men out there that truly know how to treat a woman.

Oh and I like the wild hair styles! Keep doin your thing and stayin beautiful baby! Sexy isnt a look, its an attitude.

[geonagual]

Glad everything went well..

BFA, your as beautiful as ever

I cant wait till you find someone else to love...someone to take your mind off of him..someone that will treat you the way you need/deserve to be treated.

[BabyFacedAbortion]

Ahaha, I used to be a lil punk rocker..while I've out grown that, I still got that attitude ;)

I think the cloning idea is a good one...many women would benefit from a few hundred of you ;)

[BabyFacedAbortion]

Glad everything went well..

BFA, your as beautiful as ever

I cant wait till you find someone else to love...someone to take your mind off of him..someone that will treat you the way you need/deserve to be treated.

I can't wait until I can find someone else either. I wish I didn't need to have someone else though, and could just MOVE ON!

[geonagual]

I can't wait until I can find someone else either. I wish I didn't need to have someone else though, and could just MOVE ON!


You can:)
It will just take some time..erase all existence of him from your life...delete all of his numbers, emails, pictures..anything joint that you have had...anything that has anything to do with him and toss it...if you have things memorized, scramble your brain with an egg beater and move on. Start thinking in the way of possibility, not of change,,

Say to yourself this...I am creating the possibility for me and my life, that he will be no part of my life..It is now, it is fresh..

You dont need someone else and I shouldnt of said that..You need to be free to have a good time and enjoy..no reason to be tied down to one person,,mostly at your age..it is time to PARTY. LOL

[crudemood]

dps?

Sorry I meant avatars. dp is display pictures, i use 'dp' for msn usually.

[BabyFacedAbortion]

Oooh! Haha yes, my display pic is from the winter time..I also have a bandanna around my mouth and a fitted on (spray paint fumes are horrible). I can't find the display pic closeup but here's one that's pretty similar. You can actually see what's on my face here lol.

[BabyFacedAbortion]

Update:

So he basically told me he "doesn't feel like waiting" and I flipped out, I told him it's not my fucking fault he did all of this and I told him if he doesn't "FEEL" like waiting, then to leave. I wasn't gonna be the one to hold him back. Then he told me he was going to and I quote.."end his life". I told him to shut the fuck up.

-gag-

[geonagual]

Update:

So he basically told me he "doesn't feel like waiting" and I flipped out, I told him it's not my fucking fault he did all of this and I told him if he doesn't "FEEL" like waiting, then to leave. I wasn't gonna be the one to hold him back. Then he told me he was going to and I quote.."end his life". I told him to shut the fuck up.

-gag-
great reply on his threat of suicide..I would say exactly the same thing..:)

[BlAzInIt4:20]

heya geo, im thinking of getting to sleep Earlie tonite due to the whole WORK THROUGH THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT thing, so0o0... just wanted to say Hello..

[geonagual]

heya geo, im thinking of getting to sleep Earlie tonite due to the whole WORK THROUGH THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT thing, so0o0... just wanted to say Hello..

"You've got mail"

[GraziLovesMary]

Ahaha, I used to be a lil punk rocker..while I've out grown that, I still got that attitude ;)

I think the cloning idea is a good one...many women would benefit from a few hundred of you ;)

tee hee, well I guess we'll find out in a few years whether it worked or not :p

[napolitana869]

tell him to go ahead and do it. I doubt he has the balls to go through with it.

[slipknotpsycho]

I used to have a perm back in grade school (HAHA!) it was horrible. I had short hair and it had spiral curls..I looked like a damn christmas tree. So while I really do love curly hair, I'd never do that again.

I like my straight hair most of the time, but my best friend can curl her hair (which is long and fucking gorgeous) and I'm uber jealous. It only takes her like 15 minutes too, while mine takes at least 30. Rawwr.

Most guys, like Grazi, like straight hair for some reason..but then I've met a shitload of who adore curls. Man, I just can't win! ;)

as length (or longer, the longer the better) and straight is my favorite style... dunno why but long hair drives me crazy.

i also say find someone else now <.< before i'ts been 10-20 years and you're like "god, please kill my man, kill my man while i'm still young!!"

[Skink]

I'm gonna kill myself,,,Lame-O...

[slipknotpsycho]

skink, ban yourself for three days

it's only fair, when i said i was gonna kill myself i got three days ban <.<

[GraziLovesMary]

Skink Im curious.... do you always have pics of Paris as your avatar because you think shes hot? Or because you are making fun of her?

[Skink]

Skink Im curious.... do you always have pics of Paris as your avatar because you think shes hot? Or because you are making fun of her?

I just like being controversial,,,I love everyone...

[Skink]

skink, ban yourself for three days

it's only fair, when i said i was gonna kill myself i got three days ban <.<

if I did that no one wood ever unban me...

[GraziLovesMary]

I just like being controversial,,,I love everyone...

Oh nah man youre cool. Personally I think Paris Hilton is a bit of an embarrassment really. And not attractive at all. If you were bashing her (officially or unofficially) I was just gonna laugh thats all.

[slowlickitysplit]

BFA I think I get where you are. When I was younger I couldn't be alone so I always had a new girl on the hook before I let the old one go. If that's what you need to do then go for it. Yes, I know, it makes us terrible people but you can work on improving yourself later....right now, use the A-hole as needed but lock up your heart and keep your eyes open. Go out a lot with your friends without jerk-o and flirt like mad! Happy hunting and keep safe.

- Slow -

PS
Look at all the posts on here. So many people here like you because you are a nice person and you deserve a good and happy life.

- Slow -

[420MissHighTimes420]

BFA You look really nice! I hope you had a good time.