BabyFacedAbortion
05-14-2007, 09:54 PM
I'm going to rant right now, because I'm uber pissed.
Here's some background.
On my main family: My mom and dad divorced when I was 10. I'm 17 and my brother is 20. My dad currently pays child support for both of us weekly, 200 dollars total. He still pays child support for my brother because he goes to college and will until my brother gets out. My dad was great before he left for the most part. My mom's never told me this straight up but she's always hinted drastically about steroid abuse. He became a gym fanatic, completely obsessed. He was also cheating on my mom two years prior to the seperation (which led to divorce). When I was 13, he remarried (don't get me started on that one..). For a few years after the divorce he was a good divorce dad, he saw me a few times a week and bought me endless amounts of crap. That soon tapered off to once a week, then a few times a month, then once a month until I was 14-15 when it became never. He ended all contact with me, not even holiday cards, phone calls, emails..nothing.
On my brother: My brother has always had symptoms of asperger's, which is basically a form of autism. He has problems in social situations and in keeping himself bathed, teeth brushed, clothes clean, ect. He is very picky with his eating, he literally eats maybe 5 foods even though my mom and I have always pushed him to try new things. He's a quiet kid, very intelligent but there's always been something..off about him. He was never diagnosed though, I think because of my mother's fear. He's very vulnerable, even at 20 years old.
All the while, my brother kept in contact with him, desperately trying to keep in touch with my father. Bad idea.
My dad is now suing my mother for basically, neglect. My brother lives at home 4 months out of the year during his summer and for about 10 days during winter break. He lives in Arizona for school the rest of the months. My dad is saying my mom doesn't provide him with adequate food and living environments. He's saying my mom hardly cooks and will only feed him boxed mac and cheese and when my brother eats something else it's from fast food resturaunts which he (my brother) pays for. After he complains that my mother should pay for the food, he then says that my mom's moral resposibility is to teach him how to pay for his own things by including him in the grocery bill. He also says that my brother's room is, in short, a shithole. With broken furniture and dirty beds. Which is true, but only because my brother CHOSES to live that way. My mom has offered him new beds, chairs, desks, ect. He turned them down. Among other things he basically is saying my mom is a bad parent, funny, coming from a man who hasn't seen his OTHER child (me) in 2-3 years. Yeah, he doesn't even mention the fact that he has TWO kids either. My mom has been nothing but amazing to both me and my brother and to see her on the verge of tears today has put me over the edge.
If I could have TWO minutes alone with that worthless piece of shit, I honestly think I'd strangle him. After many years of having no desire to even speak to him, I would LOVE to give him my two cents right now.
But I can't do that...why? Because he changes his number so much that I couldn't keep up with him.
Sorry everyone, I needed to rant to someone. Can anyone give me some advice or relate?
Here's some background.
On my main family: My mom and dad divorced when I was 10. I'm 17 and my brother is 20. My dad currently pays child support for both of us weekly, 200 dollars total. He still pays child support for my brother because he goes to college and will until my brother gets out. My dad was great before he left for the most part. My mom's never told me this straight up but she's always hinted drastically about steroid abuse. He became a gym fanatic, completely obsessed. He was also cheating on my mom two years prior to the seperation (which led to divorce). When I was 13, he remarried (don't get me started on that one..). For a few years after the divorce he was a good divorce dad, he saw me a few times a week and bought me endless amounts of crap. That soon tapered off to once a week, then a few times a month, then once a month until I was 14-15 when it became never. He ended all contact with me, not even holiday cards, phone calls, emails..nothing.
On my brother: My brother has always had symptoms of asperger's, which is basically a form of autism. He has problems in social situations and in keeping himself bathed, teeth brushed, clothes clean, ect. He is very picky with his eating, he literally eats maybe 5 foods even though my mom and I have always pushed him to try new things. He's a quiet kid, very intelligent but there's always been something..off about him. He was never diagnosed though, I think because of my mother's fear. He's very vulnerable, even at 20 years old.
All the while, my brother kept in contact with him, desperately trying to keep in touch with my father. Bad idea.
My dad is now suing my mother for basically, neglect. My brother lives at home 4 months out of the year during his summer and for about 10 days during winter break. He lives in Arizona for school the rest of the months. My dad is saying my mom doesn't provide him with adequate food and living environments. He's saying my mom hardly cooks and will only feed him boxed mac and cheese and when my brother eats something else it's from fast food resturaunts which he (my brother) pays for. After he complains that my mother should pay for the food, he then says that my mom's moral resposibility is to teach him how to pay for his own things by including him in the grocery bill. He also says that my brother's room is, in short, a shithole. With broken furniture and dirty beds. Which is true, but only because my brother CHOSES to live that way. My mom has offered him new beds, chairs, desks, ect. He turned them down. Among other things he basically is saying my mom is a bad parent, funny, coming from a man who hasn't seen his OTHER child (me) in 2-3 years. Yeah, he doesn't even mention the fact that he has TWO kids either. My mom has been nothing but amazing to both me and my brother and to see her on the verge of tears today has put me over the edge.
If I could have TWO minutes alone with that worthless piece of shit, I honestly think I'd strangle him. After many years of having no desire to even speak to him, I would LOVE to give him my two cents right now.
But I can't do that...why? Because he changes his number so much that I couldn't keep up with him.
Sorry everyone, I needed to rant to someone. Can anyone give me some advice or relate?