Advice on a girl....

[blazed620]

Ok so I've liked this girl for a little bit now, most of the school year I guess. We'll call her K. I've known K since we were little and this year she started going to my high school. I'm a senior and she's a sophmore. Well newayz..Over the year I've went out with 2 girls, at this same time I liked K. Well finally towards the end of the year, I wind up single and me and K hang out. At the end of the night I made out with her..nothing much, but just enuff to let her know I liked her. Well after that we never really hung out again, her dad is pretty strict and other shit started happening to where she couldn't. Well we still talked at school pretty much everyday and everything, and ppl thought we were going to hook up.

Then about a month later from when we hung out we are sitting at lunch and she tells me and a couple of other ppl that we sit with that she is going out with...lets call him D. I was shocked, and I felt really sick to my stomach upon hearing that, my heart crushed. Then she said that she didn't know why he was afraid to come sit by us. I wonder why??? prolly cuz D know's I like her. Now im kind of in a dilemma on what to do.

D is nasty so to speak. And I dont think K knows about his "rep" here because she's only been going here for most of this year. D has been with a LOT of girls, and a lot of girls I know that he's been with are nasty nasty skanky girls, that I wouldn't doubt had "something". I dont know if it would seem selfish If i told K that, and told her that I still really liked her. He's prolly already fucked her...prom was last night. I hope he didnt cuz i dont know if I want to touch that after he got through with her. I'm just really confused right now, and heart broken I guess. Should I tell her about him and how I really feel???? or just leave it alone till I get my chance?? Should I be mad at D??? Someone here has to be able to help me...

[passitplz]

bro, if u really like her than tell her that u still like her. dont worry about tellin her the bad things about d cuz if she still likes u(sounds like she does) then that shit wont matter anyways. shit'll probably work out for ya. but if she does keep goin out with him then go to him and tell him that he better not just fuck and duck her and he better treat her as nice as u treat his mom. lmao scratch the last part i couldnt resist. but yea tell him to treat her nice... hope shit works out

[Frivolous248]

Well, you dated while you still liked her, so she could be doing the same thing.

Maybe try 'n get someone else to tell her about D, so she doesn't think you are just bad mouthing him to get her to dump him for you. Or just straight out tell her you really like her and you think you would treat her better than D.

[likemclever]

If this guy is the dirt bag you say he is and she is as worthy an individual as you make her sound than she will find out on her own that he is a jerk.

Qusetion? Why didnâ??t you make your feelings known to her when you were making out with her?

If you decide to talk to her about it I suggest that you state your opinion very short and sweet and donâ??t sit down and have a heart to heart with her. The last thing you want to become in her eyes is a â??guy friendâ?� that she bounces her boy troubles off of. If the subject comes up just say something like â??I hope you know what youâ??re doing.â?� Wish her the best and drop her like a hot rock. Still be cool and friendly with her but stop waiting in the wings for her. Move on about your business. If she is a smart girl she will come to all the right conclusions on her own and be back knocking on your door. When and if she does knock on that door only let her do it once. If she wonders off again donâ??t let her come back.

[blazed620]

Im sure she knew when we were making out that I liked her. Then I was talking to her on the phone a couple of weeks ago, and prom came up. And she was going to another school's prom with a guy friend of hers. I wasn't worried about that cuz I knew she didn't like him like that. Then she asked if I was going to prom, and I said no, it's too expensive and I have nobody to go with. And she goes..well I'll go with you. I said it was too expensive and that it was too short of notice. I should have just fucking went with her, maybe she thought i didn't like her cuz i didnt go to prom with her... Then a week after that she says she's going with darrin cuz he had already bought tickets and had no one to go with. No big deal I thought, then a few days after that is when she says she is going out with him.

[BabyFacedAbortion]

You dumbass! You just rejected her.

If I offered to go to prom with someone and they said no, I'd automatically take that as a rejection and start moving on.

Step your game up and RE-let her know how you feel.

And get a girl to tell her about D, because while it might be flattering she probably won't take it seriously.

Confess your love, brother. =]

[Frivolous248]

Yeah man, sorry, but that shit makes total sense. She'd probably be going out with you if you had went to prom with her, she probably felt rejected so she decided to move on.

[blazed620]

damn im an idiot

[Samwhore]

It's not too late. Just call her up and tell her about D. Just say, I wouldn't want you to get something or get hurt if D has something. Tell her about D, then tell the truth about prom. Then just say, let's hang out sometime and you will kind-of have to start over with her, and support her if she chooses to continue to go out with D.

[likemclever]

You dumbass! You just rejected her.


lolâ?¦ dido



I should have just fucking went with her, maybe she thought i didn't like her cuz i didnt go to prom with her...

Thatâ??s exactly what she thoughtâ?¦

Dude what were you thinking?

And when she was telling her â??friendsâ?� that she was going out with whatâ??s his name she was really telling YOU.

The best way to try and recover is to tell her (in person) that youâ??re an idiot. Again make it short but sincere. Tell her that youâ??re sorry for sending her mixed signals and that you respect the fact that she moved on. Tell her that your punishment for being a dumb ass is seeing her with him (trust me sheâ??ll dig it.) And say that when she discovers that sheâ??d rather be with you that you would like to try and start over on the right footâ?¦.the end.

The whole conversation should take no longer than five minutes. Give her something powerful to think about than think on it no more. It will blow her doors off and she will think about it. Move on and act normalâ?¦friendly but not overly so.

After that let nature take its course.

[blazed620]

You ppl here are smart...I guess I was sending her mixed signals...poor girl didn't know what I wanted, wen all i wanted was her. I emailed her and told her how i felt, but she only gets on myspace like once a month, so i dont know how effective thats gonna be. So now im just gonna have to talk to her at school or call her and tell her everything. I guess i really fucked up this time..

[Samwhore]

LOSER DON'T MYSPACE.

[blazed620]

too late....it dont matter, i'll tell her everything before she ever reads that