How important is a firm handshake?

[ValkyrieAg]

When I was 5 years old, eye contact was the first thing my dad taught me along with a firm handshake.

"you look a man in the eye, whether he is bigger or smaller than you. Stick out your hand into their space before they do. When you grab each others hand, make sure you are the one with the dominant hold. Look him in the eye and introduce yourself loud and clear."

I can't remember how many times people complimented my dad and I when I was young. Noone expects a five year old to shake your hand better than some 40 year old men.

I'll go to a party (coming from TEXAS, yall) and shake someones hand and I can tell.....with just a handshake what you are all about. I have met guys at parties for the first time and shook their hand and felt like I was holding an 80 year old womans hand.

If its especially weak, I'll even call someone I don't even know out. "Cmon, my grandmother is 80 and has a better handshake than that."

I have great respect for someone who can get the dominant hold in a handshake against me. Thats immediate respect where I come from. I'll buy you a fuckin beer if you can do that.

Also, I don't give a damn if I am with my south texas small town white folks or smokin a blunt with my FUBU friends. Black/White/Hispanic/Whatever.....I shake your hand just the same. Like a man. Theres only one way to do it.

[ValkyrieAg]

1-10 its an 11.

I have snagged jobs with my handshake alone.

[stinkyattic]

Very important IMO, for chicks too. It makes me think someone has substance. I hate spaghetti handshakes.

On the other hand, guys who grab your hand TOO hard make me think they are overcompensating for something else... wonder what THAT might be..,.

[station]

A firm handshake is something my old man always taught me when i was a wee' young 1. obviously eye contact to but it was more of the handshake. i hate it when i shake some ppls hands and they got the limp wrist going and not even trying to shake ur hand, then u feel bad for crushing there hand. dam pussies.

[smokeblunts3]

10

My dad taught me from a young age also that a firm handshake and for you to be the one to put your hand out first was key. But you can't always tell that much from a handshake. What if they have a bad hand? I recently cut 2 tendens in my pinky on glass:( its all healed but for a short time after my handshake was alittle weak not to menchin(sp?) because when i would shake someones hand there fingers where right where my cut is and that shit still hurts if you push on it to hard. I usually only give handshakes to ppl i don't know tho, so i'm sure they judge me from it because i judge them from theirs.

[higher4hockey]

a frim handshake is important, and you can tell a lot about someone by it. but in my opinion trying to outsqueeze the other guy gives off the wrong impression.

and you're right, there is only ONE way to shake hands, all that other shit drives me bonkers. whenever im at a party or something and someone tries to give me some bullshit handshake i'll tell them right then and there to shake my hand like a man.

[bong_man]

i think mines abit to rough! a good few people thought i was bout to break there hand when i was shaking it lol dunno i picked up a very tight handshake from switzerland

[ValkyrieAg]

Oh well there is a difference between having the dominant position and squeezing too hard. Squeezing hard is only acceptable when beer is involved.

Hey blunts. One time I met my buddys great uncle. He was about 80 years old and used to bullride and bronc-ride. I went to shake his hand and grabbed his wrist. I looked down and he was missing his thumb. hehe. Very cool guy, says it happens all the time.

Though blunts, where I come from....lets say you go to a friend house and there are 4 people there you don't know. In my book you should immediately shake their hand and introduce yourself. I feel disrespected when I don't get a handshake sometimes. Don't jump over couches and whatnot, meet everyone in your immediate area. Even if it is 20 minutes later, it can be fixed by saying "hey, I didn't get your name. Im xxxxx" stick out your hand and all is forgiven.

[Greenport]

IF U DONT GIVE A FIRM HANDSHAKE THEY WILL HATE U!

[MOBABN]

Oh well there is a difference between having the dominant position and squeezing too hard. Squeezing hard is only acceptable when beer is involved.

Hey blunts. One time I met my buddys great uncle. He was about 80 years old and used to bullride and bronc-ride. I went to shake his hand and grabbed his wrist. I looked down and he was missing his thumb. hehe. Very cool guy, says it happens all the time.

Though blunts, where I come from....lets say you go to a friend house and there are 4 people there you don't know. In my book you should immediately shake their hand and introduce yourself. I feel disrespected when I don't get a handshake sometimes. Don't jump over couches and whatnot, meet everyone in your immediate area. Even if it is 20 minutes later, it can be fixed by saying "hey, I didn't get your name. Im xxxxx" stick out your hand and all is forgiven.

hah man i think its a Texas thing bc everytime i walk into a party i gotta introduce myself and give em a handshake. I was in florida partying last year and tried to do the same thing, they looked at me like i had no head or something...oh well. Also i was a used car salesman for a year and a half, i could tell wether or not i was gonna sell you a car that day by your handshake.

[LIP]

I've always had a firm handshake - Got that from me old man. My cousin Geoff who is 13 years older than me has been hurt a few times by it - but he's hurt me back.

Yeah, i belive a strong handshake is important.

Matter of fact i saw a mate today that i haddnt seen since septemer 04, shook his hand and it was weaker than i expected, and hes just come back from a tour of duty with the paras - good to see him again though, i nearly didnt regonise him.

[BizzleLuvin]

great post. remember to be firm, not Darth Vader death grip. i like to say 'how do you do' or 'pleased to meet you' when i shake hands. i was always taught to say 'pleased to meet you' and 'yes sir/ma'am'. people are always impressed when i break out the 'pleased to meet you, sir'.

[napolitana869]

I remember when my parents taught my brother and me how to shake hands "the right way". Now its a huge turn off for me when I meet someone with a weak grip. It bothers me more when women/girls have weak hand shakes because I feel like they're furthering the notion that girls are weak and dont stand up for themselves. I've hurt a few guys with my hand shake. Oh man the worst kind is when the person just kind of gives you their fingers and you dont really know what to do with them.

[ValkyrieAg]

haha yeah the fingers. I forgot about that since i usually get up high on the hand, but I have been left with just fingers in the past. Pitiful. Like if I gave you a pipe wrench, your hand would break.

[SonicBloom]

Whenever someone reaches out to shake my hand, I start taking of my pants.

[Its a Plant]

Firm handshakes are fine and all, but to me it can be a little too uptight and formal in some settings. If I meet someone at a party or something, haha I'm not gonna shake their hand like I would at a job interview. Just a nice little waddup slap some skin or pound it whatever and move on.

Call me crazy, but I always kind of look twice at the people that give me a regular ole' handshake. It just doesn't look natural, or it looks funny, I'm not sure. ~

[Reefer Rogue]

While i find a handshake respectful, i find the strength of the handshake trivial.

[Skink]

My dad taught me too but,,,it was always in a bar and i had to embarrassingly shake all these lushes hand with their beer breath...

They say using your second hand shows acceptance and makes the other person more comfortable...

[Ganj]

I believe if you can approach someone and grasp their hand firmly, like you're convicted to them, then it is not what you learn from them, but what they learn of you that makes a good handshake. Impressions, if you will. A weak handshake would indicate unwillingness to grip another's hand, however, to show that you are not afraid to clench someone's hand as firmly as possible. A handshake like that demands respect and obedience; trust.

[DaZeDShAdOw]

i believe a good handshake is important as well just because I have always done that and people take it more seriously....It can tell more about maturity and character in my opinion but thats just me

[slipknotpsycho]

to me it doesn't matter, but i know it matters to other people (lol seems kinda ridiculous to care about to me.) so i always make sure it's firm.

[Pipe Dreams]

I dont know if I could "hold a dominant handshake" with you, but my old man also taught me that eye contact and a firm handshake make a good first impression. Naturally, thats stuck with me my whole life and I also think that both are important.

[originalblu]

dont really care,, the only time i shake somones hands is if im gettin a job or meetin somones fokes,, if its a friends then hand shakes feel too formal, no need for a "dominant hold", sounds like a weird sex position

[Abattoir Dream]

some fuckin american i know did that to me... shook my hand like he was on steroids or somethin... i dont shake hands... im not the hand shaking type.. so when he shook my hand he nearly wrenched my arm off...

i didnt think any bigger of him, in fact it annoyed me alot... now if someone goes to shake my hand i'd rather shrug it off than have some little 'subconcious competition' with them...

[MacWQ33]

Firm handshakes are fine and all, but to me it can be a little too uptight and formal in some settings. If I meet someone at a party or something, haha I'm not gonna shake their hand like I would at a job interview. Just a nice little waddup slap some skin or pound it whatever and move on.

Call me crazy, but I always kind of look twice at the people that give me a regular ole' handshake. It just doesn't look natural, or it looks funny, I'm not sure. ~

LOL, was waiting to see this response. I've been to hundreds of parties with hundreds of different people from when I was in high school to college, and it's more like slapping hands and locking fingers (still FIRMLY, but not very formal)...this is basically with people my age or younger. And of course with close friends..you're not going to give them a firm handshake to say 'Whaddup' lol. But, yeah...with anyone older, a nice firm handshake is in order.

And I agree, a firm handshake does look funny if done at an informal event with young adults.

[thcbongman]

I only shake hands for business.

Otherwise, it's some skin and a fist.

[Ganj]

some fuckin american i know did that to me... shook my hand like he was on steroids or somethin... i dont shake hands... im not the hand shaking type.. so when he shook my hand he nearly wrenched my arm off...

i didnt think any bigger of him, in fact it annoyed me alot... now if someone goes to shake my hand i'd rather shrug it off than have some little 'subconcious competition' with them...

There's a big difference between firm and overbearing.

[GHoSToKeR]

I think it's wrong to say that you can judge somebody by their handshake. In fact I'd go so far as to say that's bullshit, although I hope you're not too offended.. :p People are just too complex for that, dude..

Anyway nah I don't really think firm handshakes are that important, but I have a couple of friends who have the most weak-ass handshakes in the world, and it usually irritates me. :D

[xcrispi]

10 = a sign of substance / charecter .
Peace
Crispi :jointsmile:

[ValkyrieAg]

Well the complexity of a handshake really isn't complex at all. Its not so much I judge a person, heck they probably are pretty good people if I the are a friend of a friend of mine.

Don't get me wrong, I didn't walk up to people in high school when I was younger and shake the death out of people. That isn't really natural.

But to me, if you can't look me in the eye and shake my hand like you have a single muscle (i know you do, everyone does). To me, that means that you are nervous that you don't have your daddy to hide behind or your momma to run underneath her sundress.

I think it deals alot of with age too. When you meet new people, you have to give respect to get it. I've met *alot* of $$$ people. Used to clean dove with Tommy Lee Jones....cleaned Mick Jagger's deer....met Rick Perry....shook 50+ peoples hands during an internship my freshmen year.

If you walk up to someone with substance and bring that weaksauce handshake, might as well not shake hands at all.

[Abattoir Dream]

hahaha hide behind my dad... i dont even see my bastard dad...

if someone wants to test my strength, or if i wanted to test someone elses strength, i'd prefer to have a bare-knuckle boxing match with them than some dumb handshake, that way you really find out what someone is made of, if they are confident, they will smile, and accept, if not, they look shocked and decline.. thats like the handshake, then the actual match is like a further test, to see just how far you'll go...

bare knuckle boxin is the british way... handshakes are the american way hahaha...

[ValkyrieAg]

Well this thread had nothing to do with comparing balls, but don't ever compare balls with a Texan. You'll lose everytime. A handshake is by no means a test of physical strength, but rather character.

Stud, I have never backed down in my life and never will. Whipped some asses, broke some beer bottles over heads, cracked some skulls, seen alot of blood, gotten my ass whipped by people who with BRANDS on em. Been on both ends.

And yes, I would look you straight in the eye, smile, and tell you to bring whatever your daddy taught ya. From the looks of your avatar, i'd put my foot in your ass. Probably even a little firmer than I would have given a handshake.

Oddly enough, a man with a frim handshake 9/10 will give you a smile and say bring it. I wouldn't expect a man with a weak ass handshake to be able to maintain a solid fist anyhow.

[LIP]

hahaha hide behind my dad... i dont even see my bastard dad...

if someone wants to test my strength, or if i wanted to test someone elses strength, i'd prefer to have a bare-knuckle boxing match with them than some dumb handshake, that way you really find out what someone is made of, if they are confident, they will smile, and accept, if not, they look shocked and decline.. thats like the handshake, then the actual match is like a further test, to see just how far you'll go...

bare knuckle boxin is the british way... handshakes are the american way hahaha...

It's always good to have a fight and end it with a pint of larger and a joint in the car on the way home.

[Pipe Dreams]

[quote=ValkyrieAg]Well this thread had nothing to do with comparing balls, but don't ever compare balls with a Texan. You'll lose everytime. [QUOTE]

Yall hear the Texan in him talking?:wtf:

[GotWake88]

A good handshake is the establishment of respect.

[ValkyrieAg]

haha just reppin' my state.

[LIP]

I had something good to say about handshakes when i clicked this thread and now i cant remember for shit. :( damn,

[birdgirl73]

I think a firm handshake is a good thing, but it's a potentially tough issue for ladies, especially in business. Or at least it was for me. I worked with high-level corporate executives and so was often in circumstances where I was meeting, greeting, or making introductions. It just didn't feel right to me to reach over and do the strong-dominant grasp in the same way the men did. Yet I didn't want to appear a completely spineless, either. Just slightly gentler and more deferential, generally, because that was a large part of how I got things accomplished. The chairman and his various C-level cronies always thought I was deferential, but in truth I simply knew how to work the system and respond to their enormous corporate egos in ways that pleased them, got their attention without being threatening, and also got me what I wanted. I found a slightly firm, ladylike handshake worked well, ideally with well manicured hands.

[smoke it]

firm handshake is important, but too firm isnt good

[Skink]

I like a good old wiener shake now and then...

[Skink]

Yeah,,,hot dogs french fries and coffee ice cream,,,with strawberry syrup......

[Aristotle]

Firm handshakes are fine and all, but to me it can be a little too uptight and formal in some settings. If I meet someone at a party or something, haha I'm not gonna shake their hand like I would at a job interview. Just a nice little waddup slap some skin or pound it whatever and move on.

Call me crazy, but I always kind of look twice at the people that give me a regular ole' handshake. It just doesn't look natural, or it looks funny, I'm not sure. ~

Exactly what I was thinking. Job interview, meeting your girlfriend/boyfriend's parents, and being introduced at family parties are the few times where I feel comfortable with a firm handshake.

If I see some kid at a party I knew from grade school.. I say "oh hey whatup man" and do the.. the.. I don't even know what to call it. For lack of a better term, I guess I'll call it the negro clasp.

Negro clasps are always fun.

[CheebaMan]

yea i guess a firm handshake shows how much "heart" u have as a man

[JohhnyPotSmoker]

i hate it when you get that limp hand shake from somene when they barely grap you hand, automatically makes you a punk bitch

[potsmokingnome]

10

I've allways been taught that a firm hand shake is very important. I hate when some one shakes your hand and its limp. A handshake truly tells a lot about that person. My Dad hated my sisters x-husband the moment they first shook hands, the guy hand a limp fish handshake.

The funniest thing is when you see a huge guy, then you goto shake his hand and its like shaking hands with a little boy...its sad really lol

[Its a Plant]

LOL...I didn't realize so many of you put that much into shaking hands.

I usually wait to at LEAST talk to them first ya know...

And yeah, if a person tries too hard and squeezes my hand like I'm some child, THAT would make me think less of them.

But then again, Hank Hill hates a weak handshake, so maybe I'm in the wrong here. :jointsmile:

[thcbongman]

uhuh, bobby! you bad boy!

[S.P.Q.R.]

I'd have to agree with a lot of people here and say 10. My father stressed the handshake quite a bit.

[Abattoir Dream]

It's always good to have a fight and end it with a pint of larger and a joint in the car on the way home.

yeh i heard that ;)

Which is why i dont understand people who go out pickin fights for no reason, havin a little punch-up with someone you know is fine, just as long as its friendly rivalry, when i have to fight people i dont know its different, usually if i am in that position i have the mentality to fight for real, then afterwards i look back and think 'why didnt i just walk away'.. i have two sides, one side of me wants to be an ideot, and wont let me walk away from a fight, and the other side of me is just a normal kid tryin to change...

its hard to know what im really thinkin, my brain will be tellin me to do somethin, but i wont be sure if thats what i REALLY want to do... maybe im crazy... mwahahaha...

[affasd]

personally i couldn't really give a shit about handshakes i rarely ever need to i mean like if its a job interview or somethign with my new boss i make sure to give the firm handshake and shit but personally to me i couldnt give a shit if someone had a weak handshake

[B.Basher]

Lol, umm, who cares? As long as you shake my hand at all i'm fine. I prefer a laid back shake as opposed to some stupid, defiant grip. Some guy did that to me once and I was just 'what the fuck are you doing? Let go!!' :D

[LIP]

yeh i heard that ;)

Which is why i dont understand people who go out pickin fights for no reason, havin a little punch-up with someone you know is fine, just as long as its friendly rivalry, when i have to fight people i dont know its different, usually if i am in that position i have the mentality to fight for real, then afterwards i look back and think 'why didnt i just walk away'.. i have two sides, one side of me wants to be an ideot, and wont let me walk away from a fight, and the other side of me is just a normal kid tryin to change...

its hard to know what im really thinkin, my brain will be tellin me to do somethin, but i wont be sure if thats what i REALLY want to do... maybe im crazy... mwahahaha...

I'm a bit like that. I dont really like fights, or arguments, but my pride is too much and i cant back down. When someone starts something with me i make sure i finish it. I think i got that from my dad though. The bastard. - I'm fucked - i dont like fighting yet i do it every time i get the chance.

But if it's just a muck around it's cool, it's just like going for a bike ride - just using a bit of energy up and then afterwards we can smoke a Jay. I wonder if it's a brit thing? LOL - beat up your friends for fun rofl.

[Diary of a Madman]

[QUOTE=] hah man i think its a Texas thing bc everytime i walk into a party i gotta introduce myself and give em a handshake. I was in florida partying last year and tried to do the same thing, they looked at me like i had no head or something...oh well. Also i was a used car salesman for a year and a half, i could tell wether or not i was gonna sell you a car that day by your handshake.

No, MY balls are bigger than YOURS.

In Florida, everyone crushes your fucking hand till it oozes blood and bone marrow. But in Texas, out of the entire state of 10 Million people , not one person knows what a hand shake even is. They sniff butts. Its true, I went to this party there.

[suhl]

if a person doesnt put anything into the handshake then i think less of them right off. it is a first impression, you dont crush their hand but you let them know youre there. like if you dont even grip my hand i assume you are a failure as a human being. but if you snap my bones then i think you are trying to hard. better too strong than too weak though thats for sure a limp handshake is a death sentence

[slipknotpsycho]

If I see some kid at a party I knew from grade school.. I say "oh hey whatup man" and do the.. the.. I don't even know what to call it. For lack of a better term, I guess I'll call it the negro clasp.

Negro clasps are always fun.

^lmao.... negro clasp... that's classic :S2:


It's always good to have a fight and end it with a pint of larger and a joint in the car on the way home.

so that's where kraloth went.... LIP! you got some splainin to do!

[HippyGoneWild]

I agree , that a firm handshake is the best first impression that you give to someone.Limp wristed ,dishrag shakes are considered to be lame imho.
Yeah some dudes over do it and squeeze the hell outta your hand or grab you by the fingers and snap em like twigs.Generally these peeps are overbearing bullies.
Back in the day some guys shook by interlocking thumbs with facing palms with forearms at 45 degrees.This was considered a cool shake at the time.
But the old fashioned way is the best.

[Oneironaut]

Me, I don't give a shit how well somebody shakes my hand. There are waaaay more important things to judge somebody's character on. It seems important for other people, but I just don't see the point. If you're going to judge me based on how well I perform a medieval hand-oscillating tradition, then I couldn't really care less what you think of me.

You want to show me respect and get me to like you? Don't give me a firm handshake; give me a firm hug. Hugs > handshakes, any day of the week.

[ValkyrieAg]

haha Hugz.

"hello, my name is xxx and I am applying for a administrative position. Would you like to engage in a hug?"

[Breukelen advocaat]

Go administrate yourself.

[ValkyrieAg]

you aren't very nice, frenchmen.

[Oneironaut]

haha Hugz.

"hello, my name is xxx and I am applying for a administrative position. Would you like to engage in a hug?"
If that were an acceptable way to start an interview, I would like that a lot better than a dumb handshake. Especially if the interviewer was hot. :rastasmoke:

[Breukelen advocaat]

you aren't very nice, frenchmen.
Mr. Car Who Talks Big and has to compensate for his insecurity about his masculinity (or lack of it):

The drawing is not somebody "french" - the beats were the predecessors of the hippies, and still much cooler than the current generation. Not to mention smarter.

There's your lesson for today. Hope you learned yesterday's.

[ValkyrieAg]

Looks french. Its french.

[Breukelen advocaat]

Looks french. Its french.

Looks stupid. Stupid.

Lacks character, backbone and upbringing - car as an avatar and needs to identify with a machine purchased at a showroom.

[ValkyrieAg]

French and stupid?

If you say so. ;)

[thcbongman]

Looks french. Its french.

lmao. No one in France looks like a Beatnick.

[Breukelen advocaat]

lmao. No one in France looks like a Beatnick.

The Handshake Kid is now scrambling to understand what we already know. :thumbsup:

[ValkyrieAg]

not a car purchased at a showroom, my father and I built it.

But yes, its so clean one would assume showroom, as it is show quality.

Last time i met a hipster beatnick, I didn't ask him whether or not he was french.

EDIT: french or not, im labeling it french and thats what I plan on callin' it.

[MacWQ33]

The Handshake Kid is now scrambling to understand what we already know. :thumbsup:

Damn, all this guy/woman does is argue with people and bitch about their views. Never seen him/her make a positive comment, must be from all the blue-collar redneckin' on the ol' farmland, ya hear!

And please don't go a tattle-tailin' on me son...it's all in good fun!

[Breukelen advocaat]

not a car purchased at a showroom, my father and I built it.

But yes, its so clean one would assume showroom, as it is show quality.

Last time i met a hipster beatnick, I didn't ask him whether or not he was french.

EDIT: french or not, im labeling it french and thats what I plan on callin' it.

At least you're behaving yourself today, unlike yesterday - you know what I'm talking about.

[ValkyrieAg]

I was behaving yesterday, you just took it a little too personally.

If I remember correctly you even had to go tattle.

tsk tsk

[Breukelen advocaat]

I was behaving yesterday, you just took it a little too personally.

If I remember correctly you even had to go tattle.

tsk tsk
Surprised to see such an exceptional example of a "real man" go "tsk tsk". I guess that you're just expressing irony. Will wonders never cease?

[ValkyrieAg]

well thats what I've gotta do to keep you from tattling on me.

[Breukelen advocaat]

well thats what I've gotta do to keep you from tattling on me.

I would have named a place and time, but knew you wouldnâ??t have shown up. When push comes to shove, they (big talkers) never do. :cool:

[stinkyattic]

Another day... another string of utterly unimaginative and unamusing insults courtesy of BA.

*yawn*

Valkyrie, I like the car. Very nice work. I've always had a little summin' summin' for American muscle.

[ValkyrieAg]

Shoulda coulda woulda. Dangerous territory there, stud.

[Breukelen advocaat]

Another day... another string of utterly unimaginative and unamusing insults courtesy of BA.

*yawn*

Valkyrie, I like the car. Very nice work. I've always had a little summin' summin' for American muscle.

Sorry, I'm not posting here for your amusement. :thumbsup:

[biohazard]

nice thread, a firm handshake is a very good thing to have. theres a major difference between squeezing and trying to prove to the other guy that you have a stronger grip and a firm handshake. by a firm handshake, you should get the point across that you are confident and have personal power. it's always a good thing to have a bit of muscle and grip strength though, but the idea is to not try and break the other guy's fingers. one thing i hate is when people wrap their pinky around the bottom of my hand like they're trying to fucking hang on to my hand to save themselves from the edge of a cliff. in the end, its all about how you carry yourself, and a firm/manly handshake is part of that.

[ValkyrieAg]

Thanks. Its a 67 mustang. 302, carbed, 3 on the floor. Black on black. 15mpg (not too bad) Even put A/C in it last year. Tinted windows, beautiful stereo. My dad taught me the basics of mechanics and I went from there. plan on keeping it my hobby rather than my work.

Its been driven in about 30 different states. Once broke down in the holland tunnel.

[Breukelen advocaat]

Shoulda coulda woulda. Dangerous territory there, stud.

I was shaking like a leaf. :D

[ValkyrieAg]

Thats fine.

[Bladerunner]

Firm handshakes are fine and all, but to me it can be a little too uptight and formal in some settings. If I meet someone at a party or something, haha I'm not gonna shake their hand like I would at a job interview. Just a nice little waddup slap some skin or pound it whatever and move on.

Call me crazy, but I always kind of look twice at the people that give me a regular ole' handshake. It just doesn't look natural, or it looks funny, I'm not sure. ~

I agree, if it's a formal situation I'll do it, but otherwise, it's not really my thing... I try to give a firm handshake but I don't really care in all honesty - and I could care less whether or not the other person's handshake is firm. It just doesn't matter to me.

Usually I don't give regular handshakes but I have no problem with it if the other person initiates it. Otherwise I usually just give some skin.

And I definitely don't think you learn anything about someone from their handshake.

[Breukelen advocaat]

I agree, if it's a formal situation I'll do it, but otherwise, it's not really my thing... I try to give a firm handshake but I don't really care in all honesty - and I could care less whether or not the other person's handshake is firm. It just doesn't matter to me.

Usually I don't give regular handshakes but I have no problem with it if the other person initiates it. Otherwise I usually just give some skin.

And I definitely don't think you learn anything about someone from their handshake.

I'd say that my opinion regarding this is about the same as yours.

As far as the way I do it, I guess it depends on my mood, and the circumstances - I really never stop to think about it. 99% of the time I'd say that I usually just do it about as firm enough as is necessary to complete the formality - which is all it really is.

When I was a teenager, my friend's uncle recovered from a stroke, and would grip your hand really hard, in a friendly way , like he was saying "See, I'm still very strong even though.....". For somebody of his age and medical history, it was impressive.

I think that when being congratulated, or under other special circumstances, people will usually shake hands with more strength and feeling. Most of the time, it's not important.

[LIP]

Why do you have to ALWAYS insult as many people as possible BA? Why? Just answer that, i dont want you get lemon with me, just a simple question.

[Plastic Jesus]

I must be slow to grasp because it seems a lot of times my hand gets stuck halfway and I end up getting my fingers squeezed... I suck at handshakes...

[Breukelen advocaat]

Why do you have to ALWAYS insult as many people as possible BA? Why? Just answer that, i dont want you get lemon with me, just a simple question.

I would answer your question if I knew what you are talking about, and agreed that I "ALWAYS insult as many people as possible.", which I do not think I do.

I'm not uptight about handshakes. This whole thing is for fun. Loosen up!

[LIP]

I would answer your question if I knew what you are talking about, and agreed that I "ALWAYS insult as many people as possible.", which I do not think I do.

This whole thing is for fun. Loosen up!

It's not just this though is it? It's almost every thread you post on, you end up having an argument. I just want to know why you feel the need to insult, and put down as many people as possible. It just seems you are insecure, and need to prove to people how smart you are, simply by telling them they are stupid, or treating them as ignorant children.

Even i was never that bad.

I dont want another argument with you, not only am i right and i would win, but i cant be bothered.

I would just like to know why? - Because you called me out on it before now, so im calling you out... And i'm sure most people on the board would like to know why too, concidering they have to put up with it.

[Breukelen advocaat]

It's not just this though is it? It's almost every thread you post on, you end up having an argument. I just want to know why you feel the need to insult, and put down as many people as possible. It just seems you are insecure, and need to prove to people how smart you are, simply by telling them they are stupid, or treating them as ignorant children.
Even i was never that bad.
I dont want another argument with you, not only am i right and i would win, but i cant be bothered.
I would just like to know why? - Because you called me out on it before now, so im calling you out... And i'm sure most people on the board would like to know why too, concidering they have to put up with it.

Relax! I don't have to answer to you for anything. You'll just get yourself banned again if this keeps up.

[LIP]

Relax! I don't have to answer to you for anything. You'll just get yourself banned again if this keeps up.

See what i mean, you just proved my poiny nicely. Thankyou very much. Oh, and get banned for what? See, i'm not like you, i dont post that kind of crap - especially not to respected mods like BirdGirl. If anyones going to get themselves banned, it'll be you. Run along and get back to your insults.

[thcbongman]

Man you both attract arguments like flies do to shit!

[LIP]

Man you both attract arguments like flies do to shit!

I havnt been in an argument since i got back - so no i dont.

[thcbongman]

Yea, but before, even though you PWNED them, you attract people out of the woodwork to get a piece of you!

[LIP]

Used to - not anymore. I was merely asking a question, and BA answered it with a perfect example. Cant ask fairer than that.

To be honest, i cant be bothered to argue with the people on a cannabis site. - I'm trying to be more layed back - of course if they want one they are entitled to it, and i'll give it, otherwise, im just going to stay a nice chap.

[ValkyrieAg]

Don't worry lip, its cool. Anyone who agrues with him is just tapping on the glass to watch him get all flustered. At least thats what I do.

Hes got something to prove in everything he says, which is fine I suppose. But I respond to him for entertainment purposes only. That is, until he runs to the mods and tattles on people. He can have nifty quotes in his sig and a cute avatar, it just makes it easier to spot him out when I scroll through threads.

But I did think it was a little ironic when, in post 65, he began again when his last thread ended up the way it did...something about post #65s
http://boards.cannabis.com/feedback-suggestions/110398-threats.html

And then after that, 'threatened' me post #80. And I use the term threatened very loosely, as it was more a post-tattle sneer.

So yes, it is obvious (even to ignorant characterless folk like myself) after he tattled that he wanted to continue it....but I have no desire to be play in the band, as I like it here.

Im gonna go buy a new ZONG in an hour and I have some NL dried and ready to go....so I just prefer to stick around here ;)

[Breukelen advocaat]

Don't worry lip, its cool. Anyone who agrues with him is just tapping on the glass to watch him get all flustered. At least thats what I do.
Hes got something to prove in everything he says, which is fine I suppose. But I respond to him for entertainment purposes only. That is, until he runs to the mods and tattles on people. He can have nifty quotes in his sig and a cute avatar, it just makes it easier to spot him out when I scroll through threads.
But I did think it was a little ironic when, in post 65, he began again when his last thread ended up the way it did...something about post #65s
http://boards.cannabis.com/feedback-suggestions/110398-threats.html
And then after that, 'threatened' me post #80. And I use the term threatened very loosely, as it was more a post-tattle sneer.
So yes, it is obvious (even to ignorant characterless folk like myself) after he tattled that he wanted to continue it....but I have no desire to be play in the band, as I like it here.
Im gonna go buy a new ZONG in an hour and I have some NL dried and ready to go....so I just prefer to stick around here ;)

I'm the one that's "amused", because I don't threaten people. And if I am wrong about something, I'll apologize. THAT is a big part of what being a man is about.

Other than amusement, there's little point to all this - besides trying to point the way of rational living to a largely clueless, less-than-honest generation, with bad role models and worse cultural inspiraton and values than we've ever seen before.

[PigSnout]

It just seems you are insecure, and need to prove to people how smart you are, simply by telling them they are stupid, or treating them as ignorant children.

How can you call him out and then say?


I dont want another argument with you, not only am i right and i would win, but i cant be bothered.

LMAO

[ValkyrieAg]

Yeah, its cool dude.

I am alot of more conservative than most of the folks on here, but the tie that binds us is the green leaf. I can smoke with *anyone* on this website, and have a great time. Hell, anyone can come on over to my place and smoke as much as they please for FREE.

However, I couldn't be in the same room listening to your pathetic "the sky is falling" whining.

You are the type of a person who can *ruin* a high. I would imagine you spend alot of time smoking by your lonesome.

[Breukelen advocaat]

I haven't smoked since '06 - had too many responsibilities. Now, I've got other interests, I've already smoked enough for 10 lifetimes, and I'm doing fine without it. Don't even know if I want to anymore, since I don't like most of what is available here anyway.

You will see, when you're older, that life goes by very fast - and you must take responsibility for your actions, and words, because you don't get a second chance.

[ValkyrieAg]

You will see, when you're older, that life goes by very fast - and you must take responsibility for your actions, and words, because you don't get a second chance.


Are you hosting a telethon I don't know about?:D


Wow. You say alot of shit that is off the wall....off the ceiling.....just plain OFF.

Its like you reserve the last 1/2 of your posts for some off the wall; out of left field bull. I think you are doing some other kind of drugs...or maybe 10 lifetimes of pot has fried your brain into some kind of anti-social leper that plagues a cannabis smokers board. You are ruining highs as you type.

[Abattoir Dream]

I'm a bit like that. I dont really like fights, or arguments, but my pride is too much and i cant back down. When someone starts something with me i make sure i finish it. I think i got that from my dad though. The bastard. - I'm fucked - i dont like fighting yet i do it every time i get the chance.

But if it's just a muck around it's cool, it's just like going for a bike ride - just using a bit of energy up and then afterwards we can smoke a Jay. I wonder if it's a brit thing? LOL - beat up your friends for fun rofl.


hahaha yeh, i guess it is, i mean.. in england, you can take a lighter to someones hand or arm, or smiley them, and get away with it, in america it would be diferent im sure...

[Breukelen advocaat]

hahaha yeh, i guess it is, i mean.. in england, you can take a lighter to someones hand or arm, or smiley them, and get away with it, in america it would be diferent im sure...

That depends on where you are here. America's a big place, with many different people and customs. New York streets were rough, when I was growing up, but not as bad it later became in the 70's and 80's. It started to get much better in the 1990's. These things go in cycles.

[originalblu]

You are the type of a person who can *ruin* a high. I would imagine you spend alot of time smoking by your lonesome.

cant we all just get along:jointsmile:

[GHoSToKeR]

*GHoSToKeR walks in, gives everybody a firm handshake and slaps 'em with his other hand, then walks away*

Chill folks, we're all cool here.

:)

[slipknotpsycho]

before this piss-fest gets closed, i'd also like to ask why? i mean, you always seemed like a cool cat.. i've known you longer then most anyone has.... well not known you, but i've been reading your posts more than most have... and you were never like this...

you are like just stirring up shit... for the last week or two... at first i just attributed it to ignorant people getting on your nerves, but now it's like you're just looking for places to fling shit....

so what's going on man? is there something youw anna talk about or what? cuz you have seemed really out of character lately... almost like someone's hacked the BA account and is a completely diffrent person now, just here to stir up shit....

i dunno what happened to start this, but you really need to chill man.. if you don't believe what we're telling you, get a friend over to read your posts... tell them to spare no feelings for you cuz they're your friend and to read the posts biased friendly.... i can almost 100% garuntee they're going to tell you the same things i just did, and members before me have.

you're clearly flinging shit, there's no denying, hiding or covering it up....

[Purple Banana]

This thread reminds me of 'Dogs'

'Like the club tie, and the firm handshake
A certain look in the eye, and an easy smile'

I think it's awkward when you stick your hand out, and they look at it, and you're just hanging there. Waiting.

I shake hands with anyone over 30. Otherwise, I give 'em a hug if it's an informal setting.

[Breukelen advocaat]

before this piss-fest gets closed, i'd also like to ask why? i mean, you always seemed like a cool cat.. i've known you longer then most anyone has.... well not known you, but i've been reading your posts more than most have... and you were never like this...

you are like just stirring up shit... for the last week or two... at first i just attributed it to ignorant people getting on your nerves, but now it's like you're just looking for places to fling shit....

so what's going on man? is there something youw anna talk about or what? cuz you have seemed really out of character lately... almost like someone's hacked the BA account and is a completely diffrent person now, just here to stir up shit....

i dunno what happened to start this, but you really need to chill man.. if you don't believe what we're telling you, get a friend over to read your posts... tell them to spare no feelings for you cuz they're your friend and to read the posts biased friendly.... i can almost 100% garuntee they're going to tell you the same things i just did, and members before me have.

you're clearly flinging shit, there's no denying, hiding or covering it up....

Everything's OK - it's nothing to worry about. I guess I was in a shit-stirrer mood. I had a near-volatile incident with somebody on the subway a couple of weeks ago. That probably started it. It takes time to "uncrazy" yourself sometimes.

I'll take a break for a while. Bye for now and thanks.

[Purple Banana]

That was weird...







:stoned:

[ipodguy]

i never had an old man, but i have learned a strong handshake

[LIP]

How can you call him out and then say?



LMAO

Quite easily. I asked him a question, and i got a reply. We didnt have an argument, and i put that i didnt want an argument. - So, whats your post all about?

Anyway, in the end he got banned just as i predicted - it was rather obvious.

[PigSnout]

Quite easily. I asked him a question, and i got a reply. We didnt have an argument, and i put that i didnt want an argument. - So, whats your post all about?

Anyway, in the end he got banned just as i predicted - it was rather obvious.

Amazing. You dont think it is two faced to accuse him of something and then you do the same thing? lol

[LIP]

Amazing. You dont think it is two faced to accuse him of something and then you do the same thing? lol

No, not in the slightest.

So, finsihed yet? Or are you going to carry on?

[birdgirl73]

No, no. This isn't carrying on any more. This thread has already spawned more trouble than it's worth. Let's end the trend that was so unfortunately started here, OK? I'm putting the lock on this one.