What do you guys think

[make it legal]

Ok, so I've been friends with this girl for 6 or 7 months now, but we weren't really good friends until recently. I realized I liked her maybe a month ago but haven't said anything because I'm a pussy. She told me the other day that I'm her best guy friend, and that she feels really comfortable with me and can talk to me about anything, and that she realized we don't know a whole lot about each other becuase we usually only talk in classes and out of classes it' usually about school stuff. She said we need to talk a lot more and learn about each other. Even though we don't know much about each other, we still feel so comfortable with each other. I have always felt something when I'm with her that, I dunno, we just click the right way or something, but I don't know if she feels that.

Anyway, from what she said does it sound like I'm in the "friend zone," or if I have a chance with this one? Any advice would be nice thanks.

[make it legal]

nothing?

[halfassedjediknight]

keep doing what youre doing, and if anything is going to progress, i think youll know it.

you cant force these things, usually they tend to fall into place if its really what you both want.

im with her on the fact that you should learn more about each other. theres absolutely no need to rush into relationships. you could be getting to date a real headcase. wait until youre both comfortable enough to accept a relationship with each other, and take the time to make sure its going to be a nice healthy one.

ive been out with some headcases just because i thought we knew each other. i went out with a girl for two years and about a year or so into the relationship, when i tried to dump her, she promisd me shed get back on her meds. i never knew she had any psychological problems but i started to assume so. and i was right.

needless to say, it didnt last long. its always better to just take it slow and be cautious.

[FakeBoobsRule]

Kiss her.

[Jderringer]

I would say you should feel it out a little bit... She wants to get to know you better, and thats always a good sign. As your learning more about her, find out what she likes in a potential guy... See if you guys are compatible. If your not her type, and shes not looking to you for that kind of relationship, you didn't lose anything, as you're still good friends. All my best friends have always been female. When I first met my current Best Friend, I would have sold my internal organs to get with her! Now, I can honestly say, I love her more than any girl I've ever known... Even more than a girl I was gonna marry, and she feels the same way about me, BUT... I don't think we would ever move into a romantic relationship, because love aside, we aren't each others type.
If things work out for you guys, and your both interested in pursuing a romantic relationship with the other, CONGRATS! You just "hit the lottery" so to speak, cause you guys are already friends, and you have nailed down the most difficult part of any relationship!

[make it legal]

Well, we know each other's personalities pretty well it's just like our lives we don't know much about.

[jawndoe]

Chris Rock did a piece about the "friend zone" once.

I say go for the homerun and run the bases. Getting laid is always nice. Does she smoke herb too?

[make it legal]

Yeah, she does. I smoke with her sometimes but not as much as I'd like. She's just such a cool, chill girl. Man, I hope it works out.

[halfassedjediknight]

so hang out with her more and ask her lots of questions. ask her what she was into when she was a kid, what her favorite tv shows were and stuff to do. i dunno haha!

youll figure it out im sure

[jawndoe]

Yeah, she does. I smoke with her sometimes but not as much as I'd like. She's just such a cool, chill girl.

Sounds like you have yourself a winner. Just smoke a real good indica with her and give her a massage then let her go from there. :lovestruck:


:thumbsup: :rasta: :thumbsup:

[make it legal]

I think you guys are missing the main question. I know what to do, I'm just wondering if you think I sound like just a friend or if she likes me more. Tips are nice too though. I just don't want to embarrass myself you know?

[higher4hockey]

whats that tommy boy saying : you can get a good look at a butchers ass . no wait you can get a good look at ....


go for it man! you'll only get 'friended' if you let yourself.

[halfassedjediknight]

theres no way to know for sure, you know that girls are mysterious.

i still say be patient and youll know for sure soon.

[make it legal]

Yeah, I was thinking of asking her out in the next few days I've just nver really asked a girl out before and have only had hookups so I don't really know what to do and I'm pretty nervous.

[halfassedjediknight]

in my own opinion..if she told you you need to learn more about each other, then shes showing interest, shes just not totally ready yet.

give it a month and report back to us.

[make it legal]

Well yeah we were hanging out once and she was just like, Holy shit< I just realized we know nothing about each other. We need to hang out more.

[halfassedjediknight]

sounds like theres definately some interest there and i would say pursue it, just dont get greedy with it.

she obviously is wanting something more. hang out more and see what happens. but if i heard something like that, i definately wouldnt ask her out yet. maybe shes sending a subliminal message and wants to go out too, just not yet. who knows?

[make it legal]

fuck so today she said she didn't remember saying that shit because she was al fucked up on painkillers after getting her appendix out. She said she vaugly remembers but not really. For some reason it seems like she only likes me as a friend which sucks. I don't know I really can't tell with her. I have no confidence either so that may be it but like I dunno I don't even know how to tell her even if I get the balls to.

[thcbongman]

Smack her ass in a caress motion to see how she reacts. Make sure she's in a fun mood tho.

If she doesn't react well, you can always say you were joking :)

But I think she likes you. When you get that "feeling", it's literally shared by both of you.

[make it legal]

But see that's another thing we're not all touchy feely like I can be with other chicks who are just friends...

[thcbongman]

All I can say is be the best person you can be.

You say you lack confidence? Why? What's missing in your life? Why aren't you comfortable with your direction?

Be a little ambitious and brave. You have few chances in this world and you have to take them. Do you seriously want to play it safe all your life?

I'm say you may get rejected and embarass yourself you say. I'll tell you this now: if you don't get the balls to do it now, you'll never do it with any other chick you have strong feelings for. What can't kill you only makes you stronger.

So my friend, follow your heart, and don't look back.

[jawndoe]

I guess you should find a steady supply of Vicodin... lol j/k seriously sounds like subconsciencely she likes ya... so take your time with this one.

[make it legal]

All I can say is be the best person you can be.

You say you lack confidence? Why? What's missing in your life? Why aren't you comfortable with your direction?

Be a little ambitious and brave. You have few chances in this world and you have to take them. Do you seriously want to play it safe all your life?

I'm say you may get rejected and embarass yourself you say. I'll tell you this now: if you don't get the balls to do it now, you'll never do it with any other chick you have strong feelings for. What can't kill you only makes you stronger.

So my friend, follow your heart, and don't look back.

Yeah, I dunno I've always had a pretty big lack of confidence in myself with just about everything, but most of all with chicks. Meeting people in general too. I usually have to wait to be approached... I dunno I wish I wasn't this way but I just am.

[Skink]

bring her in your room and leave a porn pic on the monitor... if she laughs your in,,,if she bitchs your still in,,,if she leaves tough luck...

[make it legal]

^^^

Hahahahahahaha. Lots of my chick friends would laugh though if they walked in and saw that...

[Skink]

power of suggestion... go in the bathroom and get half a hardon then walk out and see if she stares...

[thcbongman]

Yeah, I dunno I've always had a pretty big lack of confidence in myself with just about everything, but most of all with chicks. Meeting people in general too. I usually have to wait to be approached... I dunno I wish I wasn't this way but I just am.

At nature, I'm the same way. Why I said all that is partly not to repeat my mistakes. People can sense when one isn't confident in themselves. I use to think, man I wasn't good enough at this, therefore I'm no good at that. It's like a curse you have to surmount.

Just be yourself, but do things to build up your confidence. Lift some weights, discover hobbies, live for experiences, find the delicacies of life that you truly desire and indulge in the passion. Each bit helps you make feel better about yourself, after all, isn't it happiness that matters anyway?

Play it cool tho, I really do think she's falling for you, from friend, to more than that. And I think confidence will play a big role in that.

[make it legal]

So how did you manage to overcome that lack of confidence?

[Skink]

Bottom line is the worst she could say is,,,eeww get away... rejection is a part of life... it's second nature to me now,,,LoLzzz... if you think this is the right one don't wait for someone to walk in and wow her with confidence...

[Reefer Rogue]

Sounds to me like the oh so too familiar friends zone.

[thcbongman]

So how did you manage to overcome that lack of confidence?

Expanding your comfort zone bit by bit. Example, if you aren't comfortable hitting on hot girls, start with ones that are um, less than desireable. Build up from there.

But confidence comes from within you. Doings things that make you feel good, and feeling comfortable in your own skin and realizing it's okay to be weird and yourself. While strangers might be like "hey man he's weird, he isn't cool" the people who do care and you befriend will love you more.

[potsmokingnome]

Ok, so I've been friends with this girl for 6 or 7 months now, but we weren't really good friends until recently. I realized I liked her maybe a month ago but haven't said anything because I'm a pussy. She told me the other day that I'm her best guy friend, and that she feels really comfortable with me and can talk to me about anything, and that she realized we don't know a whole lot about each other becuase we usually only talk in classes and out of classes it' usually about school stuff. She said we need to talk a lot more and learn about each other. Even though we don't know much about each other, we still feel so comfortable with each other. I have always felt something when I'm with her that, I dunno, we just click the right way or something, but I don't know if she feels that.

Anyway, from what she said does it sound like I'm in the "friend zone," or if I have a chance with this one? Any advice would be nice thanks.

Keep doing what your doing, her saying that you should talk more is a good sign. She realizes you two click as well, just continue to do things with her, and if things develop into more then a friendship then thats how it will happen. Don't pressure anything just be yourself around her. :)

[potsmokingnome]

power of suggestion... go in the bathroom and get half a hardon then walk out and see if she stares...

LOL

[make it legal]

hm... so anyone else think I got a chance? Some people don't seem to think so others do...

BTW I don't have an incredible amount of time as she is off to college next year...

[jawndoe]

Dude if you want this chick you need to reach down between your legs and sieze your balls and realize you're a man and et some courage. Watch some movies about bravery and courage, read a few back issues of maxim, then take her out for some fun...

[make it legal]

So apparently she already knows I like her. I found out from a friend. She says that Becki (the girl I like) thinks it's cute that I like her....

Motherfucker.

[Skink]

cards on the table,,,invade her real estate and see what happens... don't listen to crap people talk about or you will def lose... peeps take shit at their own value and not yours,,,so don't count shit out yet!!!

[SonicBloom]

You're probably not in the friend's zone yet, but you can't wait too long, or you'll get there. Make a lot of eye contact with her, it's a really good way to judge how she's feelin about the situation. If she looks into your eyes when you do, you should be able to tell if it's making her happy, uncomfortable, or nothing. If you think she's feeling it, kiss her immediatly. If she wasn't sure if she liked you, that'll probably help her decide quickly, and being as she's a good friend, the worst reaction would probably be an easy let down. I doubt that though.

[thcbongman]

So apparently she already knows I like her. I found out from a friend. She says that Becki (the girl I like) thinks it's cute that I like her....

Motherfucker.

Just pull the damn trigger!!!!!!!

[MeGustaMota]

Now I have a very important question. Where are you on this dandy chart I have here?

[napolitana869]

hahaha I like the zone of pain

[make it legal]

Lol I'd say the awkwardness between friend and relationship on that chart.